LOVE IS THE TIE THAT BONDS But what is bonding? How does it look and act? Bonding means.... • accepting each other's individuality and separateness • letting your mate inside of your aloneness • committing to the dangers of intimacy • sharing your innermost secrets • committing to lifelong marriage • letting one another know what you need • pursuing the security of being for each other • being willing to rekindle love that has died Dr Truman Esau believes that within a Christian marriage, you can overturn the obstacles that a sinful heritage and latent mistrust have placed in your way, and that by God's grace you can draw closer to the ideal He intended for marriage in the first place.