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DEFENSIVENESS: 10 Ways to Deal With Difficult People, Stop Overreacting, And Feel Less Stress And Anxiety In Social Situations.: Rules To Be Broken
W A R N I N G ! ! ! Defensiveness Is A Relationship Killer!!! Could it be threatening YOUR relationships? That depends...
Do you sometimes personalize matters that aren't personal? Do you feel your own sense of self-esteem rising whenever you are praised, or diminishing whenever you are criticized? Are you good at spotting the offenses in other people's words? Do you commonly assume to know what others are thinking? Do you dodge blame whenever a finger gets pointed at you? Do you commonly think and act before speaking? Is it important for you to be right during an argument? Do you handle unfairness by being unfair back to those who have wronged you?
Of course, our goal in asking you these questions isn't to imply that your relationship problems are solely yours. They very well may be due to the defensiveness of other people. Perhaps there are certain people in your life who are defensive, and YOU would just like to know how to deal with them. Is that the case?
Do you sometimes find it difficult working with certain people? Do you find your blood pressure rising during your conversations with them? Do some people seem to continually step on a nerve? How do you deal with them? What changes can you alone make that will equip you to be a more steady collaborator? Welcome to 10 Ways To Make Sure You Never Stop Being Defensive. We will discuss many things about defensiveness and the ways we can overcome it. Get ready to delve into a subject that is interesting, beneficial and rarely talked about!
This book Descriptions of defensive behavior. Explanations of WHY people act defensively. How to spot defensiveness in yourself. Habits you may already have that KEEP YOU acting defensively. Tips and techniques to END your defensive behavior. Discussions on dealing with difficult/defensive people. - R E V I E W S -
"C Kruse has a lot of insight and does a great job of sharing that wisdom in a practical way that is easy to understand. This book is definitely worth the read!"
- Amazon Customer
"Brilliant write ! Hits home. Something one can go back and read and be reminded! It was very personal for me. Very relatable. The style in which he wrote captured my attention.
Do you sometimes personalize matters that aren't personal? Do you feel your own sense of self-esteem rising whenever you are praised, or diminishing whenever you are criticized? Are you good at spotting the offenses in other people's words? Do you commonly assume to know what others are thinking? Do you dodge blame whenever a finger gets pointed at you? Do you commonly think and act before speaking? Is it important for you to be right during an argument? Do you handle unfairness by being unfair back to those who have wronged you?
Of course, our goal in asking you these questions isn't to imply that your relationship problems are solely yours. They very well may be due to the defensiveness of other people. Perhaps there are certain people in your life who are defensive, and YOU would just like to know how to deal with them. Is that the case?
Do you sometimes find it difficult working with certain people? Do you find your blood pressure rising during your conversations with them? Do some people seem to continually step on a nerve? How do you deal with them? What changes can you alone make that will equip you to be a more steady collaborator? Welcome to 10 Ways To Make Sure You Never Stop Being Defensive. We will discuss many things about defensiveness and the ways we can overcome it. Get ready to delve into a subject that is interesting, beneficial and rarely talked about!
This book Descriptions of defensive behavior. Explanations of WHY people act defensively. How to spot defensiveness in yourself. Habits you may already have that KEEP YOU acting defensively. Tips and techniques to END your defensive behavior. Discussions on dealing with difficult/defensive people. - R E V I E W S -
"C Kruse has a lot of insight and does a great job of sharing that wisdom in a practical way that is easy to understand. This book is definitely worth the read!"
- Amazon Customer
"Brilliant write ! Hits home. Something one can go back and read and be reminded! It was very personal for me. Very relatable. The style in which he wrote captured my attention.
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Published April 8, 2016
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January 31, 2021
If you feel you have an issue with defensiveness, someone has told you you’re defensive, or you deal with someone who is defensive, this is the book for you. Simple, to the point, and written in the amusing opposite direction of WANTING to stay defensive, I would highly recommend this book to anyone.
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July 1, 2019Disclaimer: my own mother asked me to read it. Felt like reading an essay from a freshman in high school. Not impressed, but at least I did my daughterly duty I guess.
December 30, 2020
A witty self help book
I enjoyed the way the author presented his message, it was easy to read and the simple solutions to each "problem presented" were made crystal clear. I would highly recommend this book to others who are defensive or dealing with someone who is.
I enjoyed the way the author presented his message, it was easy to read and the simple solutions to each "problem presented" were made crystal clear. I would highly recommend this book to others who are defensive or dealing with someone who is.
September 1, 2025
I’ve read this book three times since 2021 because defensiveness is so engrained in my nature that I need constant reminders and practical tools to help me grow past this leadership roadblock. I’m an avid reader or I should better say, avid audio book summarizer. I think it takes me about 10x longer than the normal person to “get it” and apply it. So this title is my go to for this area of my life. I love the contrarian terms and the explanations are rudimentary enough for me to apply one salient point at a time.
I love the authors writing style and the examples resonate with me. Keep in my that I got a 10 out of 10 in the early test. One only needs 3 of 10 to fall in the realm of defensiveness. So I think this book was written just for me.
I love the authors writing style and the examples resonate with me. Keep in my that I got a 10 out of 10 in the early test. One only needs 3 of 10 to fall in the realm of defensiveness. So I think this book was written just for me.
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