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Men Who Love Fierce Women: The Power of Servant Leadership in Your Marriage
Voted the #1 Focus on the Family program for 2015, Kimberly and LeRoy Wagner’s interview onFierce Women evoked an incredible response. Requests poured in for a companion book geared directly to men, one that would help men who struggle with loving and leading a strong wife.
Men Who Love Fierce Women is that book. Paralleling the content and chapters of Fierce Women, but featuring LeRoy’s perspective and Kim’s insider insights, it equips men to better understand, love, and relate to their strong wife. Each chapter closes with a study section of diagnostic questions and Scripture to apply the content practically and personally.
“Five years into ‘wedded bliss,’ I confessed to Kim that I no longer loved her,” writes LeRoy. “We were stuck in a destructive relationship pattern that we now refer to as the ‘fierce woman/fearful man’ cycle, and I had lost all hope for a peaceful marriage. We’ve discovered that this is a common relationship dynamic, and we want to encourage and equip husbands and show them a promising way forward.”
Men Who Love Fierce Women is flexibly designed to stand alone, pair with Fierce Women, or facilitate for a group study.
Men Who Love Fierce Women is that book. Paralleling the content and chapters of Fierce Women, but featuring LeRoy’s perspective and Kim’s insider insights, it equips men to better understand, love, and relate to their strong wife. Each chapter closes with a study section of diagnostic questions and Scripture to apply the content practically and personally.
“Five years into ‘wedded bliss,’ I confessed to Kim that I no longer loved her,” writes LeRoy. “We were stuck in a destructive relationship pattern that we now refer to as the ‘fierce woman/fearful man’ cycle, and I had lost all hope for a peaceful marriage. We’ve discovered that this is a common relationship dynamic, and we want to encourage and equip husbands and show them a promising way forward.”
Men Who Love Fierce Women is flexibly designed to stand alone, pair with Fierce Women, or facilitate for a group study.
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Leroy Wagner
1 bookLEROY WAGNER has served as a pastor and speaker for more than thirty years. His greatest desire is to see God's glory fill the earth and he believes that begins with training individuals to live out the gospel in their homes and through their daily life experiences. The supreme love of his life is Jesus Christ, then his wife, Kimberly, their children, and grandchildren.
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February 3, 2018
Testosterone makes you holy I feel sick. I've just read Notorious RBG: The Life and Times of Ruth Bader Ginsburg where Ruth says that her husband Marty was the first man to care about her brain. They had an ideal marriage, each supported and encouraged the other in their careers and each raised their children equally. Now this book. We aren't talking Mormonism or Christian Fundamentalism or the various Christian sects none of whom believe in female equality. We are talking mainstream Christianity (but I have to say none of the many Christians I know would identify with this. Or perhaps not in front of me... I'm very fierce).
"The authors take on the "dominant wife", "weak husband" relationship, proving it to be unbiblical and showing how couples can reconcile. This is a brave venture in a liberal world where, even, mainstream Christians are embracing relational feminism that renders male leadership "old fashioned" and a "failed experiment".
"What if I’m laid-back and my wife is… not?
How can I lead when I feel emasculated?"
Why are women to be brainwashed from birth that their Deity of choice has decreed a life of servitude and inequality to males who must be worshipped, whose desires, needs and domestic chores must be taken care of? That their wishes, lives and aspirations just don't count and cannot be exercised unless the man in their life "allows" it? Surely this is just an enduring social setup to ensure that men don't have to do the chores, look after the children and generally be a support system while they do exactly as they please?
Why are men happy with this? Why don't they, like Marty Ginsburg, want an equal partner? As long as women are subordinate they are wont to use manipulation to get what they want. This inequality means that no true friendship is possible, you can never be sure that the subordinate isn't just saying things to maneuvre you into some position where they can get what they want. When I see sites like blue pill/red pill and the patriarchy and books like how to pick up women and have sex with them the first (and only) night, I think this attitude is quite commonplace. Luckily I don't think I know any men like this.
Submission ought to be a grown-up game played in bed just for fun. Not a lifestyle enforced by peer pressure of a Church, family and friends and the knell of eternal damnation by an unforgiving and very domineering male Deity held over them.
Read the reviews of this book. I hate them all and sometimes I do wish there was a down-vote button.
"The authors take on the "dominant wife", "weak husband" relationship, proving it to be unbiblical and showing how couples can reconcile. This is a brave venture in a liberal world where, even, mainstream Christians are embracing relational feminism that renders male leadership "old fashioned" and a "failed experiment".
"What if I’m laid-back and my wife is… not?
How can I lead when I feel emasculated?"
Why are women to be brainwashed from birth that their Deity of choice has decreed a life of servitude and inequality to males who must be worshipped, whose desires, needs and domestic chores must be taken care of? That their wishes, lives and aspirations just don't count and cannot be exercised unless the man in their life "allows" it? Surely this is just an enduring social setup to ensure that men don't have to do the chores, look after the children and generally be a support system while they do exactly as they please?
Why are men happy with this? Why don't they, like Marty Ginsburg, want an equal partner? As long as women are subordinate they are wont to use manipulation to get what they want. This inequality means that no true friendship is possible, you can never be sure that the subordinate isn't just saying things to maneuvre you into some position where they can get what they want. When I see sites like blue pill/red pill and the patriarchy and books like how to pick up women and have sex with them the first (and only) night, I think this attitude is quite commonplace. Luckily I don't think I know any men like this.
Submission ought to be a grown-up game played in bed just for fun. Not a lifestyle enforced by peer pressure of a Church, family and friends and the knell of eternal damnation by an unforgiving and very domineering male Deity held over them.
Read the reviews of this book. I hate them all and sometimes I do wish there was a down-vote button.
January 24, 2021
I would rate this 3.5 stars. I believe there are some excellent concepts raised; however, the tone of the book in regards to fierce women is that these women are like lit firecrackers with a short fuse who need to be handled extremely carefully. That being said, there are a number of take away which are beneficial for marriage.
October 26, 2016
A worthy read, irregardless of your relationship status. The authors take on the "dominant wife", "weak husband" relationship, proving it to be unbiblical and showing how couples can reconcile. This is a brave venture in a liberal world where, even, mainstream Christians are embracing relational feminism that renders male leadership "old fashioned" and a "failed experiment".
These types of "relationship helpers", are never a "cure all" and aren't meant to be, but this does acknowledge the problem and gives it a biblical reference point. If nothing else, this book breaks the illusion that; there is only one type of Christian marriage and that is a happy one.
Anyone old enough to think about a serious relationship is old enough to read this book. I would not hesitate to give this to a young adult. Such a book would help young and old to think more relationally and understand the problems that come with living together.
An excellent entry in anyone's spiritual toolkit
These types of "relationship helpers", are never a "cure all" and aren't meant to be, but this does acknowledge the problem and gives it a biblical reference point. If nothing else, this book breaks the illusion that; there is only one type of Christian marriage and that is a happy one.
Anyone old enough to think about a serious relationship is old enough to read this book. I would not hesitate to give this to a young adult. Such a book would help young and old to think more relationally and understand the problems that come with living together.
An excellent entry in anyone's spiritual toolkit
April 12, 2019
I wish I had found this book 30 years ago
Many men struggle with wives that leave them feeling incapable of ever pleasing their spouse. This can result in a life spent walking on egg shells, a very unhealthy and unhappy existence. So what is a Christian man supposed to do in a marriage to a strong woman? This book helps answer that question!
I have seen this book, and the companion book, Fierce Woman, have a tremendous impact on the marriages of others. If you think that you may be married to a fierce woman, or if you think you are a fierce woman (and reading this review for your man), I strongly recommend that you read one or both of these books.
Many men struggle with wives that leave them feeling incapable of ever pleasing their spouse. This can result in a life spent walking on egg shells, a very unhealthy and unhappy existence. So what is a Christian man supposed to do in a marriage to a strong woman? This book helps answer that question!
I have seen this book, and the companion book, Fierce Woman, have a tremendous impact on the marriages of others. If you think that you may be married to a fierce woman, or if you think you are a fierce woman (and reading this review for your man), I strongly recommend that you read one or both of these books.
February 2, 2018
This book is incredibly helpful, and if you read it you'll see that having that opinion is not particularly complimentary of me. If you are looking for a book to tell you what your wife is doing wrong and how to fix her, move along, this is not for you. This book challenges you to own your own faults as a husband, and resolve to do better regardless of whether or not your wife makes any changes.
June 30, 2019
Helpful, challenging, encouraging. Not a perfect book, but a must read for anyone struggling with a Fierce Woman/Fearful Man dynamic. Helpful meditations at the end of each chapter. Doesn't sugar coat the troubles/evils of an unhealthy relationship.
January 15, 2018
Good words to hear from a man's perspective. I could read this again in a few months and learn more.
February 23, 2018
Good for men even if you don’t have a Fierce wife
Good for men even if you don’t have a Fierce wife since the Biblical principles transcend our personalities and circumstances.
Good for men even if you don’t have a Fierce wife since the Biblical principles transcend our personalities and circumstances.
January 28, 2019
Gave me a man’s perspective about living with a fierce woman
October 8, 2020
great book for married couples to read paired with the bool Fierce women. very helpful and insightful
November 10, 2021
Great book!
I will read this again, there is a lot to it for such a relatively short book. Great bible scriptures that relate to what the book is trying to convey about marriage and the love relationship Jesus has with us and how it mirrors what our marriages should be like.
I will read this again, there is a lot to it for such a relatively short book. Great bible scriptures that relate to what the book is trying to convey about marriage and the love relationship Jesus has with us and how it mirrors what our marriages should be like.
July 16, 2018
If this book applies to your marriage or someone you are trying to help, it is very useful. Lots of insight based on personal experience of the authors. Lots of practical application and advice.
September 29, 2016
It’s a marriage book unlike any other. It’s specifically for the scenario of a strong women, so strong they use the word “fierce”, and a more naturally easy-going guy. Written by a couple, Leroy and Kimberly Wagner, who fits this description perfectly, who made all the mistakes, learned from them, and by God’s grace triumphed in Christian marriage. It must resonate dramatically in our day as its impetus was their discussion of what they learned being the #1 segment of 2015 on Focus on the Family.
The book barely touches on how we may have such an increase in this type of marriage situation, things like the gender confusion of our day, and just focuses instead on what two people who love the Lord must understand. This book is geared toward the men, how they have failed even if she is too strong, and how Servant Leadership can be brought to bear to get the Christian marriage we sincerely want.
One of the biggest failures a man in this type marriage can do is be so passive he checks out. It actually leads to making her more fierce and he carries some blame. The key is fixing your part, taking your responsibilities and doing it for Jesus’ sake if you can’t push through to do it for her.
The book is amazing. I assure you it isn’t trite platitudes as some marriage books tend to be, but real substance that you can get your heart and mind around. I give it the highest possible rating.
I received this book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255.
The book barely touches on how we may have such an increase in this type of marriage situation, things like the gender confusion of our day, and just focuses instead on what two people who love the Lord must understand. This book is geared toward the men, how they have failed even if she is too strong, and how Servant Leadership can be brought to bear to get the Christian marriage we sincerely want.
One of the biggest failures a man in this type marriage can do is be so passive he checks out. It actually leads to making her more fierce and he carries some blame. The key is fixing your part, taking your responsibilities and doing it for Jesus’ sake if you can’t push through to do it for her.
The book is amazing. I assure you it isn’t trite platitudes as some marriage books tend to be, but real substance that you can get your heart and mind around. I give it the highest possible rating.
I received this book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255.
January 3, 2017
Men Who Love Fierce Women can find light at the end of the tunnel of marital disharmony here. Although the book is written for males, it speaks volumes, for a female like me. From laying the foundation of male and female roles as God-ordained, the book demonstrates how men and women have abandoned their God-given mission, forgotten their identities and allowed the sin of self-will to sabotage marriages.
If you are ready to man-up to your facades and tear down your defences, pick this book. Women will do well to learn how they can make or break their spouses.
The insights are bang on and cut straight to the heart. Nothing could be more truthful than those shared in the chapter on courage and passivity, emasculation and the controlling wife; life with a fierce woman and a fearful man.
While differences in personality traits, cultural experiences and upbringing can result in spousal conflicts, the authors Kim and LeRoy challenge you to battle the big three heart issues that cause the downfall of couples. However difficult or unbearable your relationship has become, there is one way to restore it and this book is spot-on with the solution. If you love Christ, you cannot but love your spouse. If you have not yet got there, it’s time to start. The action points, the Scriptural reflections and the guidelines are all the tools you need to winning over and cherishing your spouse.
I received this book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.
If you are ready to man-up to your facades and tear down your defences, pick this book. Women will do well to learn how they can make or break their spouses.
The insights are bang on and cut straight to the heart. Nothing could be more truthful than those shared in the chapter on courage and passivity, emasculation and the controlling wife; life with a fierce woman and a fearful man.
While differences in personality traits, cultural experiences and upbringing can result in spousal conflicts, the authors Kim and LeRoy challenge you to battle the big three heart issues that cause the downfall of couples. However difficult or unbearable your relationship has become, there is one way to restore it and this book is spot-on with the solution. If you love Christ, you cannot but love your spouse. If you have not yet got there, it’s time to start. The action points, the Scriptural reflections and the guidelines are all the tools you need to winning over and cherishing your spouse.
I received this book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.
April 2, 2025
WORTH THE READ
This book has some valuable things to say about the role of Christian husbands in their families and in their marriage. The digging deeper sections guide you to study scripture and mine the insights and treasures of God for the marriage relationship.
This book has some valuable things to say about the role of Christian husbands in their families and in their marriage. The digging deeper sections guide you to study scripture and mine the insights and treasures of God for the marriage relationship.
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