Louise Hay was born to a poor mother who married Hay's violent stepfather. When she was about five, she was raped by a neighbor. At fifteen she dropped out of high school without a diploma, became pregnant, and on her sixteenth birthday gave up her newborn baby girl for adoption.
She moved to Chicago, where she worked in menial jobs, before moving in 1950 to New York. At this point she changed her name and began a career as a fashion model. She was successful at this, working for Bill Blass, Oleg Cassini, and Pauline Trigere.
In 1954, she married Andrew Hay, but after fourteen years of marriage Louise was devastated when Andrew left her for another woman.
Hay said that she found the First Church of Religious Science on 48th Street, which taught the transformative power of thought. Hay revealed that here she studied the metaphysical works of authors like Florence Scovel Shinn and the Religious Science founder Ernest Holmes.
In the early 1970's Hay became a Religious Science practitioner. In this role she led people in spoken affirmations meant to cure their illnesses. She also became popular as a workshop leader.
She studied transcendental meditation with the Maharishi Mahesh Yogi at his university in Fairfield, Iowa.
In 1977 or 1978 she found she had cervical cancer, and she concluded that its cause was her unwillingness to let go of resentment over her childhood abuse and rape. She refused medical treatment, and began a regimen of forgiveness, therapy, reflexology, nutrition, and occasional enemas, and claims she rid herself of the cancer. She declared that there is no doctor left who can confirm this story, but swore that it is true.
In 1976 Hay wrote a small pamphlet, which came to be called "Heal Your Body." This pamphlet was enlarged and extended into her book You Can Heal Your Life, which was published in 1984. As of February 2008, it is still on the New York Times best sellers list.
Around the same time she began leading support groups for people living with H.I.V. or AIDS that she called Hay Rides. These grew from a few people in her living room to hundreds in a large hall in West Hollywood. Her work with AIDS patients drew fame and she was invited to appear on "The Oprah Winfrey Show" and "Donahue" in the same week in March, 1988.
You Can Heal Your Life immediately landed on the New York Times Best Sellers List. More than 35 million copies are now in print around the world in more than 30 languages and has been made into a movie.
Louise Hay established Hay House Publishing. It is the primary publisher of books and audio books by Deepak Chopra and Doreen Virtue, as well as many books by Wayne Dyer.
In addition to running her publishing company, Hay runs a charitable organization called Hay Foundation that was established in 1985.
I watched Anomalisa again a few evenings ago, because Juan was still at work and I didn’t want to subject him to it :D I picked up new insights from a rewatch, as Kaufman generally intends, but I found this surprising because I’d watched it the first time so damn closely because I wanted to absorb all his cleverness the first time round. (The Japanese doll sings with Lisa’s voice at the end! What does that mean? Happiness is a foreign language to Michael? He wants what she has but has no hope of deciphering the language of her life? Probably it means nothing haha.) What was interesting was that the background characters seemed just as guilty of living in their own little stories as the protagonist. A taxi driver beeps angrily at another driver and swears at him, assuming malicious intent without enough information to do so. He tells Michael not to “knock” Cincinnati without Michael having said anything negative. When Michael asks about a toy store, to get something for his son (whose only apparent interest in his father is as toy provider), the taxi driver assumes he’s looking for sex toys. To the taxi driver, Michael’s just a blend of passengers, and he interacts with him as such, providing bland and safe recommendations of what to do in the city, which is thriving with people but only appears to have a zoo and chilli to offer, a place filled with life, but you could do it in a day.
When Michael comments that his bed is big, simply because he doesn’t know what to say about it at all, his wife assumes it’s a slight, that he’s irritated by not having enough space in bed with her. Everyone’s touchy in that same way they are in Curb Your Enthusiasm, but it’s not so funny this time. Later, though, Michael says to Lisa, ‘You’re extraordinary,’ without knowing why he thinks this, though it seems that it’s because he’s unfairly nominated her as the solution to all of his problems—which no one is.
On this “not enough information” point, Michael first invites an ex-girlfriend to the bar and tries to invite her to his room. He later goes back to the same bar with Lisa and her friend. He and the waitress have the earlier context of the ex-girlfriend, but Lisa and her friend don’t, and are excited that he’s spending this evening with them and them alone, at which point people in the same room are decidedly living different narratives.
Had I watched this film alone at twenty-five, I would’ve thought, ‘Finally, someone spoke the truth, and what a shame that it’s so horrifying. Michael is everyone’s inevitable fate.’ See, I wasn’t doing as much thinking for myself as I thought I was at that age. This time, I thought, ‘I feel like Michael sometimes, other times like Lisa. They both have their reasons for responding to life in the way that they do. I feel bad for Michael that he can’t enjoy life more.’
Really, Michael and Lisa represent two ways to think about your life: accept who you are and rejoice in the new, or expect to understand and control everything and set yourself up for constant disappointment. One has dashed expectations, the other has none. What to say about that? I don’t know.
What is the truth of life is that since there’s too much information in any given day, most of which we don’t have access to, we compartmentalise, become the characters in our own narrative. I think there’s something about this in The Denial of Death, but I’d probably understand that one on a re-read! The voices in our head tell us whether we’re failing, succeeding, what other people want from us, what they want for themselves, what they need, what they’re trying to do.
What I might conclude from the above information is that people should assume people think about them less than they’ve estimated. I do think this. As DFW said, “You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.” Even last year I was scared about what people might say about me when I wasn’t in the room, which is how my manager defines “reputation.” But I challenged it, started asking people what they thought of my work performance, for example, and realised that they weren’t thinking about it as much as I was—but of course they weren’t! For one thing, if something is working properly, it gets taken for granted very quickly.
So really, we are all living our own delusions. It’s unavoidable. It has to be done because we have a thirst for understanding the world around us, but too much curiosity in any one direction would divert our interests away from where it’s otherwise needed. So we compartmentalise. Arguments with close friends, for example, can operate with very few words because of all the assumed knowledge, all the “exformation.” “Remember Paris?” for example, could mean anything, depending on who’s saying it. We make a lot of assumptions each day but rarely step back and reflect upon the fact that we never know everything about any situation, or any person, including ourselves. It’s all just a narrative.
So Louise Hay (I was getting there) says, ‘You can control the narrative. You can choose to think positively or negatively about any situation that you’re in in life, at all. But, if you think positively about it, the situation improves of its own accord.’ I think this is true, and I find it hard not to be resentful about it. If you smile more, people will like you more: well what the fuck is wrong with them? Why are they so bad at handling unpleasantness? It’s hard not to look at the world as a bunch of dumb people clamouring to get stuff they don’t deserve. Isn’t it mostly that? I don’t know. They say people aren’t against you, they’re for themselves. I say, true, but doesn’t mean you can’t get mad at them for that. But I think I could retrain myself to see the world in a different light, celebrate those around me more and invite more people worth celebrating.
So there are stories in our heads, and they are never the whole story, but we have a tendency to enhance the bad in them and discount the good (because, it worked, so there’s nothing to analyse?) Louise Hay has found a way to redirect the narrative to one that is more positive, which is more conducive to fixing all the things we were worried about when we were worried anyway!
I also seem to have paired positive thinking with setting oneself up for failure. You know, how it’s common to say, ‘Don’t say “Nothing bad can happen now!”’ Somehow we feel like it’s in poor taste to hope for something better. Or that if we’re doing work, it has to feel like work to be of any value. My dad proclaimed that 2017 was going to be the happiest year ever. Well, some of his friends didn’t like that, oh no: wasn’t 2017, they said, projected to be one of the worst years ever? Jesus, well how do you measure that? If you measure it by CO2 in the atmosphere, sure, it’s the worst year of the billions that have ever been or whatever. If you measure it in terms of chance of getting polio? It’s pretty damn great, no?
“Saying someone can't be sad because someone else may have it worse is like saying someone can't be happy because someone else may have it better.” When does it end? Today! With the practices outlined in this book, you will take the time to reflect upon just how much of your life is working, and invite more of what you want, what really matters, into your life.
Louise Hay is exactly the kind of person I would’ve been cynical about in the past. But she’s like 90 years old now, gave this away to subscribers of her newsletter for free, and all of her practices highlight the fact that you have all the answers already inside of you and she’s helping you to find them. All that tells me she does this only because she really believes in it and wants to help, and when I last looked into it, the benefits of her practices were akin to cognitive behavioural therapy—so there is a tested logic behind them.
And I tell you what, if ever I’m feeling low, I think, well, there are exercises I could do to feel better about today, and I’m simply not doing them. Even knowing there’s a way to improve my mood and I’m not doing it is enough to improve my mood, because it suggests I’m not as unhappy with how I feel as I thought I was.
This book is designed to help us love ourselves, perhaps the most important/basic thing we need to learn.
Mirror work is looking into your eyes in a mirror and repeating affirmations.
The programme lasts 21 days. Louise says you may not be able to transform your life in just three weeks but you can plant the seeds.
There is a guided meditation for each of the 21 days and we can download these from Louise’s website.
For each day Louise gives us a mirror work exercise, a journalling exercise and a heart thought in addition to the short audio meditation.
On Day 2, for example, we look in the mirror and say to ourselves; (Name), I love you, I really, really love you”. And again two more times.
Mirror work should be practised first thing in the morning and whenever we pass a mirror or see our reflection in a window. (We don’t need to shout our affirmations out loud, particularly when there are others nearby!) At first, it may be difficult and seem strange or silly, but it will get easier.
Unfortunately, already from Day 2 we are asked to repeat our affirmations at least 100 times a day. (I never managed that.)
We can practise positive self-talk during our mirror work, making only positive statements about ourselves and repeating only positive affirmations.
During this series of exercises, we learn to let go of our past, build our self-esteem, release our inner critic, love our inner child, love our body, heal our pain, feel good, release our anger, overcome our fear, start our day with love, forgive ourselves and those who have hurt us, heal our relationships, live stress free, receive our prosperity, live our attitude of gratitude, teach mirror work to children, and love yourself now. You get the idea.
Louise has devoted her life to love and loving herself/teaching us to love ourselves. She has lived to a ripe old age and I recently saw on the net that she had found a new love in her life now at the age of about 90.
This wonderful, inspiring book is filled with positive, loving affirmations. I have to give it five stars. However, I didn’t find it easy to devote my time to this work and can only give myself two stars. This is my fault, not Louise’s.
Though I haven’t transformed my life with this book because my application to the work has been under par, I feel I have made a start.
Here are a few examples of the affirmations given to us by Louise:
“I am surrounded by love. All is well. There is no problem so big or so small that it cannot be solved with love. I forgive myself for not being perfect. I am living the very best way I know how. It is now safe for me to release all of my childhood traumas and move into love. I love you. I really, really love you (addressed to oneself). I love and approve of myself. I love being me. Life supports me in every possible way.”
Louise concludes the book with 12 ways you can love yourself now – and always.
1) Stop all criticism. 2) Forgive yourself. 3) Don’t scare yourself. 4) Be gentle and kind and patient. 5) Be kind to your mind. 6) Praise yourself. 7) Support yourself. 8) Be loving to your negatives. 9) Take care of your body. 10) Have fun! 11) Love yourself – do it now. 12) Do your mirror work.
“Love is the most powerful healing force there is. You can take this love out into the world and silently share it with everyone you meet. Love yourself. Love one another. Love the planet and know that we are all one. And so it is.”
This book contains: meditation, healing, hard work, and a ton of mirror work!
I absolutely loved this book! This is one heck of a book, my friends - you have to read it! You know when you start reading a random book without thinking too much, and you didn’t even know how much you needed it in your life? That’s what happened to me! In "Mirror Work", the author Louise Hay shows readers how we can heal ourselves by taking her 21-day journey of mirror work. The days are divided by chapters, so the goal is to read a chapter each day to complete the 21 days. Each day focuses on a specific topic, such as healing the inner child, letting go of anger, letting go of fear, etc. It is a very well–structured book, and the chapters are fairly short, so you can take 10 minutes of your day to read it! Another good thing is that each chapter always ends with exercises to do in front of the mirror and meditation, so you’ll be practicing what is preached every day! I enjoyed this book a lot and I took a lot from it - so that’s why I will always recommend it to other self-development readers. I know it sounds cliché, but I’m not the same person I was when I first started reading it. Now I feel more comfortable looking at the mirror, I talk to myself more and I appreciate myself more after reading this book. This ended up being a life-changing book for me, and I can't recommend it enough! I loved it so much that I still read a chapter once in a while to start my day the right way. If you're into self-development, this is a must!
So good that I will read it again and again and again. Simple, effective processes that you can apply daily to claim your worth and become one with yourself. Never again a need to look outside for what has always been available within. This book teaches you how to become your own best friend and provide for yourself everything you have been seeking outside of yourself. Louise is a shining example... bless her soul xx
A pesar de que me tomo tiempo terminarlo se me hace que es una guía práctica si ya tienes un poco en el camino de amor propio ya que con las meditaciones y ejeecicios te refuerza el amor, la conciencia, la presencia, el perdón, la restructuración de creencias limitantes, el perdón, la respobsabilidad afectiva, la manera en el q el miedo y el stress afectan tu vida.
El poder de la gratitud, la abundancia y prosperidad y una serie de afirmaciones que ayudan a reforzar el autoestima, seguridad y amor propio.
Este libro recoge un entrenamiento o terapia personal para realizar en 21 días. Me da que llevarlo a rajatabla es bastante complicado, yo ni lo he intentado. Pero me quedo con la esencia, bonita y eficaz: frente al espejo te dices lo mucho que te quieres.
¿Qué mejor ejercicio para la autoestima y el autoconocimiento?
I liked the way the book helped with my inner critic, but I don't agree with everything that was talked about. Still, it was helpful in guiding me to find joy in life again. An interesting read.
I love how this book is designed. I can feel Louise Hay's love for humankind through the genuine messages written in this book. I can feel this book wasn't written only for the sake of money, but it was written for the sake of love and passion. After reading this, she's now one of my favorites in the world of personal development. This book may not be the answer for everything, but it's close to that as she said "My wish for you is to always remember that there is one thing that heals every problem, and that is to love yourself."
After reading this book and doing the mirror work, I recommend you make your own affirmations that work for you. I've learned more facts about affirmations here: https://www.healthline.com/health/men...
Louise Hay's mirror work is a reminder that you can only truly love someone, people you care about, your career, and everything on the outside when you truly love from within first. And to do that, you need to know "how" to love yourself (at the end of the book, there are lists of ideas and ways you can love yourself).
This book may not be the "change" I'm looking for, but it's the start engine of that change.
احببت ان هناك علاقة تربطني كل يوم بالكتاب وكأنه صديق اقابله كل يوم عبر المرآة لأتعرف عليه، بمجرد ان اقتربت من النهايه شعرت بحزن ولكن بآخر صفحة تذكرت بأنني لن ارحل عن نفسي وان هذا الطريق كان البداية فقط من اجل التعرف على روحي الحقيقية وتعلم محبتها وتعلم كيف تحب وتغفر وتسامح لنفسها وان تتذكر دائما بانها تستحق كل الخير في الحياة
J’ai trouvé les astuces et les exercices pertinentes! Bien que certaines se répètent et d’autres me convenaient moins, je pense que c’est un livre qui peut réellement aider. Ce fut mon cas !
This book was a gift to me from a dear friend. I wasn’t exactly interested in mirror work but tried because I trust my friend. While I did not completed in the prescribed 21 days, I would incorporate a day into my morning self-care routine. Reading the theme and incorporating the exercises and journaling. It definitely took me 2 to 3 times longer, but I got a lot out of it.
For me this book synthesized a lot of other things that I am already doing and learning. A lot of Eastern philosophies, Ayurveda, yoga, mantras, power of positive thinking, etc., and my spiritual foundation from unity church. This is not religious, but touched on the spirituality that I am familiar with.
I’m a big believer in therapy and have attended for many many years. That said sometimes I make more progress with self study and books and this is an excellent one for that.
If you or somebody that doesn’t have the resources to go to therapy regularly or know of someone that’s in that situation this is an alternative if you are motivated and ready for change.
I'd heard a lot about Louise Hay before I started this book; she is very prominent in the Personal Development and Self-Help arena, although as the founder/owner of Hay House Publishing which she started when she was 60 years old, she has a lot to teach. And I was keen to learn.
When I first began this book I thought I was going over things I had already learnt and knew, but as I got further in there were some new areas that were very revealing to me and helped me push forward and build more inner self worth. I found this book really helped me build a foundation within myself to work from, and feel more secure within myself.
People that are not familiar with self-help or personal development books might find the wording a little bit 'flowery' or 'esoterical' in its nature, maybe even convoluted, but it contain well thought out lessons and exercises which I found powerful and worth my time.
If you struggle with self-love, being nice to yourself or accepting yourself, Louise Hay's method is very straight forward and easy to follow.
A very inspiring book with an interesting approach to developing more self-love. I have been working with positive affirmations for a long time and trying Louise Hays Mirror work certainly adds momentum to their positive effects. However, I have a natural distrust to any system or healing path that claims it solves everything. That is the reason why I gave the book only three stars. The exercises in it are an excellent way to explore yourself and your attitudes towards yourself. Insofar it is a great tool to find more self-esteem and self-love. It is easy to understand and to follow and anybody who is interested in "New Thought" theories will love this book. Definitely, worth reading.
This book has made a huge impact in the way i live my life. It has transformed my lifestyle completely by altering the way i speak to myself. Some of the tasks outlined in this book is quiet time consuming and you really need to devote your time and effort into completing the activities if you want it to make an impact. The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself, and is something that doesn't happen overnight- but rather a work in progress. Thank you Louise Hay for helping me better myself and for teaching me how to love myself everyday and improving the relationship i have with myself.
This book changed my life, to say the least. I have not been living life to the fullest. This book helped me to realize that I am beautiful and I am worthy of love. I am worthy of the things that I want in life, the things that make me happy. I believe that everyone should read this book to understand that we are all important. This book left me with 12 ways to love yourself and I am going to share my top 3 favorites: forgive yourself, be kind to your mind, have fun! Thank you Louise Hay for giving me EXACTLY what I needed in this world.
I liked Louise Hay’s “You Can Heal Your Life”, however, “Mirror Work” is repetitive, shallow and lacks spirituality that should be addressed in a self-help book. Additionally, I found the writing more obnoxious this time around.
If you are looking for a self-help book to help you find /change yourself, I would recommed “You Can Heal Your Life” by the same author. Same content with much more depth.
So I read this book, without actually doing the actual mirror or writing exercises yet, but it did get me thinking about all of the ways we store emotions from the past, and how they can turn into bad habits or ways of thinking that are not in tour best interest. The first 7 days seemed a bit dry, which I suppose is necessary for people new to self-love practices, but it did get much better after that.
I intend on doing the exercises and seeing how it goes.
Simplemente maravilloso, su lectura no es solo lectura, exige un compromiso de trabajo para con uno mismo, pero el beneficio que aporta es genial. Es un trabajo de amor uno mismo, de reconocimiento, de darse espacio, de comprensión y compasión. Creo que un libro de obligada lectura para todos, pues nos ayudaría a tomar conciencia de muchas cosas y a querernos un poco más. Siempre me costo el trabajo con las afirmaciones pero, este frente al espejo me encanto y me ayudo muchísimo.
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I love Louise Hay. I owe a lot of my growth to her teachings and Mirror Work is near and dear to my heart for healing and overcoming my insecurities and fears. If you are looking to break free from the fear that is holding you back or you have self-esteem issues this book will definitely help you to move forward with more confidence.
I've been doing my mirror work for a few months now consistently and I've noticed a huge difference in my life. I intend to continue on this path to loving myself more thanks to Louise. I'm truly grateful.
Every morning when I woke up, I read one chapter throughout 21 days. I start my day better and it improved my life with the affirmations and meditation Louse created for each day.
Very simple and easy to read. Excellent for beginnings who want to work one themselves.
If you want to re-train your brain to make your internal dialogue more supportive and positive, this is the book for you! I found it incredibly helpful. Out of all Louise's books, in my opinion this is her best. One of the best books out there if you struggle with self-criticism and/or self-hatred.