Hot Sex: How to Do It

by Tracey Cox, Anita G. Dente

The ultimate bedside companion--packed with erotic yet practical tips for men and women

Practical, down-to-earth, explicit and fun, Hot Sex is the must-have sex and relationships book for every man and woman.

It's perfect bedtime reading for two, an easy-to-follow handbook that cuts straight to the nitty-gritty to deliver candid advice with a healthy dose of humor. Packed with tips and techniques that work, Hot Sex includes everything from a blow-by-blow, step-by-step guide to oral sex to finding (and figuring out) your  G-spot.

Whether you're a beginner or an old hand, get into Hot Sex --the only how-to that really tells you how to do it!

Inside, there are tips

Not just the appetizer, it can be the main course (and dessert) as well!
The 30 (if you're lucky) seconds we go to so-o-o-o much effort for
Performance Some of the reasons sex goes wrong and how to get it lustily back on track
Everyday Couples, Exceptional I'm sorry, did you say monogamy or monotony?

Genres: Nonfiction, Sexuality, Self Help, Reference, Relationships, Audiobook, How To

400 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1998

About the author

Tracey Cox (born 1961, Exeter, Devon, England) is a non fiction author who specializes in books on dating, sex and relationships. She is the author of many best selling titles.

Reviews

[Manda Seats · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a good book if you need some pointers in the bedroom, as well as if you have sexual related questions that you're too embarrassed to ask your peers or a doctor about.

With discussions ranging from masturbation, fetishes, STDs, homosexual issues, and sexual abuse, this book has a little bit of everything.

A good introduction into many sexual related issues.

[Paisley · Rating 4 out of 5]

Still reading

[Danina · Rating 3 out of 5]

Part how-to guide, part self-help guide. It will definitely give you a pick-me-up when you're feeling like you dont have "it" anymore.

[HeavyReader · Rating 3 out of 5]

I think it's really awesome that masturbation is the topic of this book's first chapter. Really, how can anyone be a good lover if they don't know anything about masturbation?

I also like that the book is written in accessible, easy to understand, down-to-earth language. The author comes across as a savvy and fun big sister or older cousin ready to demystify sex.

I also really like the words from real people scattered throughout the book. These snippets allow many voices to be heard.

This book is lacking illustrations, which I think is a huge oversight in a sex guide. There aren't even diagrams of male and female sexual anatomy. Strange! I thought those diagrams were required in anything shelved in the sex guide section.

I still give my highest sex guide recommendation to the Good Vibrations Guide to Sex (in whatever the latest version is), but this is a fine book to pick up at a used book store or at a library book sale (like I did) or off Bookmooch.

[Jus · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is not what you think it is. It’s more a relationship psychology analysis book. The title doesn’t really help with the title. It’s not a manual instruction book LOL. It’s just another book about relationships, breakups, understanding one another and self. Self respect, wear condoms, take precautions. It’s a good read.

[Jennifer · Rating 3 out of 5]

I got this book WAAY back when I was still figuring out how the birds and the bees did their business. I remember sitting in my room reading it out loud with my boyfiend. Haha. Practical but really not exciting for the non-virgin.

[Milly · Rating 4 out of 5]

A good book - some of the information is a little out of date now, but overall it presents a level headed way to improve your intimate life, with advice which goes beyond just the "hot sex" part. Definitely helps to foster a better understanding of the biological responses of men and women.

[Sue · Rating 3 out of 5]

The first third of the book deals with technique. The middle section discusses STIs. The final third deals with relationships, which I found to be the most interesting.

[David Chittenden · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is full of good, practical advice which is easy to read. I regularly assign it to my sex therapy clients.

[Angela · Rating 4 out of 5]

Haha...look what I found.

[Evan Micheals · Rating 2 out of 5]

I read this on a whim and found this incredibly flawed, but incredibly interesting. It is now more that 25 years old and dated, but a window and reminder into how we thought about sex when I was young. I read this at the same time as Jean Twenge’s ‘Generations’ which gave a contemporary view of what young people think about sex. Twenge talks about how avoidant young people today are about the physical experience of sex and describe this as the “meat”. This book has a strong focus on the meat of sex, and is oblivious to the coming effects of the digital and Cyber spheres with the closest reference being watching a saucy VCR together.

The mechanical advice it still useful as our biology have not changed, but this is covered in the opening 10% of the book. The rest covers sexual ethics, STI’s and Lesbian, Gay, and Bi people.

Cox is clearly a journalist, and not a clinician. Her expertise is drawn from her experience as an Agony Aunt for Cosmopolitan Magazine. She judges sex through her own moral lens, and draws from magazine surveys as ‘research’. An underlying theme is that stable marriage is ‘unsexy’ and that casual sex is great as long as you where a condom. Cox pushes: recovered memories in a way that has been discredited; the nurture assumption that women like bad boys because of the way the were treated by their parents. She engages in hyperbole around good vs bad behaviour suggesting a ratio of 20 good actions to make up for 1 bad action (John Gottman places this around 4:1).

I found her use of language strange in the diary ‘entries’. She used clinical language in the body of the book (fair enough), but when quoted others had them use the same clinical language to name parts of the body, but her verbs were all slang. All the diary entries were cliché and had a sub theme of extolling the virtues of promiscuity and extra marital affairs. They were the style of Penthouse Forum or Cosmopolitan as far as I can remember. They only focused on relatively young people (tip people over 50 have sex too). Sex for Cox always seemed to be a young and glamorous fuck fest. Cox promoted one opinion, her own, as only a journalist can do. Lots of sizzle, but the substance is lacking.

In finishing this book I was reminded how much sex and our attitudes towards it have changed in the last 25 years. How permissive young people were encouraged to be when I was young. Young people are having less sex than their parents. Their libidos have dropped and then turn to cyberspace to meet their needs. Young people do not seem to want, need, or desire each other as much as their parents did. Sex and relationships is a messy space where people play less and then more ‘safely’ by themselves. I have been saying for sometime that the biggest threat to our species is Porno and PlayStation. We have given our mojo to these private and alienated spaces, so we can do these messy things alone. It is a strange era and I do not know how it is going to turn out. Whilst a technically flawed book in many ways, I am glad I read this for the reflection and thinking it provoked. In many ways this is a time capsule. I wonder what people will think about a book written reflecting the sexual issues of the current in 25 years time. AI might be the demise of us as a social species.

[Ida Jentoft · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 stars

[Isabirye Taliki]

Reading

[Mark Anderson · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read this for research for my Erotic Fiction writing. I must confess though, I didn't learn much new! LOL

[Davis Haguma]

Informative.

[Romina · Rating 5 out of 5]

Lo leí para un taller de sexualidad que hice en el postgrado, pero no es un libro de texto, sino un manual de sexualidad en un lenguaje ameno y divertido, MUY GRAFICO Y SIMPLE. Ojalá lo hubiera tenido a mano cuando era adolescente, pero siempre viene bien. Se los recomiendo.

[Crystal · Rating 4 out of 5]

practical!

[sam kim · Rating 3 out of 5]

i won this book at a white elephant type christmas party. i must say, it makes excellent bathroom reading.

[Julie Leggett · Rating 1 out of 5]

eh, i got this book for free...i don't remember where. it was more like boring sex; i couldn't even reach the climax. needless to say, i didn't finish the book.

[Kathleen · Rating 4 out of 5]

My friends and I read this in high school. And no, I don't think it's a coincidence that her last name is "Cox"

[Ian · Rating 5 out of 5]

This books teach me the things about sex that i need to know.

[WIZE FOoL · Rating 3 out of 5]

Easy reading & fun!
It may contain basic information & logical things, but with her humour & afew golden nuggets of information, it is worth leaving around & picking up for a light read.

[Jamie · Rating 4 out of 5]

A fun, practical read. If you are looking to spice up your sex life (even if it's great already!), check this out.

[Aaakash · Rating 4 out of 5]

hmmmmmmmmm nice

[Jaime Boswell · Rating 2 out of 5]

Hot Sex: How to Do It.

Simple: Just do it.

[Mooorthy4ku]

it is the jok

[Nina Churchman]

Dunno