Date Like a Man: What Men Know About Dating and Are Afraid You'll Find Out

by Myreah Moore, Jodie Gould

Do you get depressed every time a date turns out to be a dud?Are you devastated when you don't get "the call" from a guy you like? Do you constantly check your dates out for marriage potential? Chances are you're taking dating way too seriously. According to Myreah Moore -- "America's Dating Coach" -- women need to start dating to have fun, which is what men have been doing for ages! In fact, Moore says, dating is a lot like a science. And with any scientific experiment, it's trial and error. In Date Like a Man , she steals dating secrets from men (the masters of dating) and transforms them into a personal training program that will boost your dating prospects -- and increase your chances of finding a soul mate. Clear, candid, and empowering, Date Like a Man makes the manhunt fun -- the way it should be. Even if you think you're a dating expert, you'll devour this manual -- the new bible for surviving and thriving in today's world.

Genres: Relationships, Self Help

256 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2001

Reviews

[Sheree Tampus · Rating 4 out of 5]

I've read a few books on dating before, but so far only this book, "Act like a lady, think like a man", and "Why Men love Bitches" seem the most sensible.

I like this book's approach since it's so tongue-in-cheek. It provides a new perspective in dating that most women should consider. That is, men date to have fun, and women should date to have fun too. It touches on the fact that when women date, they have the prospect of relationship in mind. While that may be a good thing, dating with just that end-goal limits your dating options. Some women date to satisfy a need in themselves, when really, people should find themselves first and not rely on other people to complete them. When you date, and eventually get into a relationship, what you should be looking for is a partner who complements you, not who completes you.

I especially like the a "Pair and a spare" approach. Because truth be told, women get attached too easily when dating one guy. Men don't get too attached too easily (or too fast) because they know they have other options. The same should be true for women. That's why most become too clingy, because women start thinking they can't find someone else. When, really, if they'd been dating other guys too, a rejection from one wouldn't be so hard because you know there are still others who want you. And why would you want to date somebody who doesn't want you?

The book actually encourages women to face rejection, and still be confident, independent ladies afterwards. It also provides interesting suggestions to having a very exciting single, happy, independent lifestyle. Because, really, would you rather be the single woman crying yourself to sleep because you think you're lonely, or the single woman who's fulfilled, happy, and attracts men because of her positive attitude? Babe, you want men who want you. :)

[Tiffany Malcom · Rating 2 out of 5]

Well, the author's main idea is that you should always have "a pair and a spare" . . . meaning you should be dating three guys at once to keep your options open. I have trouble finding one good one to date, let alone three, so that could be a problem . . .

[McKay · Rating 2 out of 5]

I started reading this book as a joke and it’s definitely an interesting take on relationships. There are some typos and many contradictions, but if it helps you then it helps you. It is also somewhat outdated and sometimes strange. Why would I plan a trip to the Virgin Islands just to find a man? It also says you should never change yourself for a man and find confidence within yourself, and then says no man wants a woman with an apartment or house that is ‘too girly’ or has too many antiques. Overall 2 stars but even that is a stretch.. I kept reading because it was an easy and entertaining read though.

[Kathryn · Rating 1 out of 5]

Um. Where to begin. If I were not cynical already and if I were impressionable enough to believe every scrap of tripe I pick up at a garage sale, I might have joined a convent after reading this. That being said, Myreah Moore has outdone the infamous "Rules" as number one book which reinforces male (and female) stereotypes, trivializes women and their personal and societal power and perpetuates a vicious cycle of petty gender warfare. Yikes. My favorite is the "pair and a spare" rule which advises women to date at least three men at a time. If I could find three guys whom I wanted to pass an evening romantically, there might also be icicles on hells higher hills--no offense guys. And how distracting and exhausting to be spending that amount of time dating. I hated this book but it was so bad I couldn't put it down. I must go do ritualistic cleansing now and remind myself of the fabulous non-frivolous intellectual men out there whom I will meet and have fascinating non-strategic dates with in the future.

[Vicki Davis · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is the first book Ive read about dating since I came onto the dating scene after 20 years of marriage. It never occurred to me when I started dating that I might need a few pointers but I guess I should've realized I did considering the reason I was back in the dating pool was because my previous relationship had dissolved. This book was truly eye-opening. I took five pages of notes and came away with a new favorite quote you might want to check out on my home page. It is a must read for anyone starting out in the dating world and even anyone in a relationship who would like a better understanding of how men think. And ladies lets be honest. Isn't that all of us?! Ms. Moore gives wonderful insights into the different types of men women are drawn to and gives women the tools they need to discover which of these men are a match for them. One of the most important things I learned from this book is that " every man you break up with tells you something about the kind of man you want in your future."

[Marsha · Rating 3 out of 5]

There are books out there that teach you how to “get” men. This one shows the benefits of acting like them, at least in the dating scene. The writers know life’s not fair, especially to women. Changing laws, mores, attitudes in society, the workplace, the home, mean that women can manage equal footing. But there are certain areas where they’re still at a disadvantage. This book means to rectify that, even if it’s just a little.

The authors make compelling cases for acting in ways unorthodox to women. If you’ve tried the dating scene and are tired of batting your eyelashes and giggling like a brain-dead schoolgirl at a really unfunny joke, then perhaps a change in attitude is overdue. There are a lot of other books about getting and keeping a man; this lets you see how it looks from the other side.

[May Ling · Rating 2 out of 5]

Funny and witty, this book packs a punch. I love the movie reviews and the reasons why women need to be smart enough not to believe them. The advice is very much so no holds bars. Even if I can't agree with all the advice, I would still recommend it to my girl friends. It's just plain funny.

Some of my guy friends got a hold of it and found the parts on sports and the men they match to be both insightful and funny. A must read for single women who need a bit of humor to navigating single life.

[Cindy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very good advice that your mother should have taught you when you started dating. Or that should have been set as an example to you by your parents' relationship. Very direct, no excuses allowed and lot's of information on how a man should treat you. *Spoiler Alert* Part V is about how to have sex with a man. I do not personally agree with most of her points, it's up to you if you are ok with reading that type of stuff. *End Spoiler* The rest of the book is great, but I would be relaxed about some things if you find an amazing guy with just a few flaws! Everyone has a few flaws.

[Scputval · Rating 3 out of 5]

Interesting. Very sensible guide to dating. However, it's not what I see
among 20-somethings in my NY suburb. Here people either just
hook up, or become a couple after one or two dates. Seems more
relevant to older, urban people; however, good advice all around.

[suzy · Rating 3 out of 5]

Light summer pool book.

[Amy · Rating 1 out of 5]

So far, I'm bored. I thought this book would be funny, but it's a genuine self-help book. I'll prob stop reading it.

[Kathleen · Rating 4 out of 5]

A great little book for every singal gal to read! No more wasted time or energy.Get more in your head girls and save the heart for when and with whom it really will matter. ;-)

[Jillian Conley · Rating 3 out of 5]

offers sound advice, but i didn't end up reading the whole thing.

[Mallory · Rating 3 out of 5]

Not as good as Why Men Love Bitches, but a close second, and gives great insight into how to be a confident woman in today's odd dating world! A fun read, not to be taken too seriously

[Libertie · Rating 2 out of 5]

"Men don't settle down until the find themselves. Women don't settle down until they find a man. Find yourself, then settle."