Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts

by Vicki Tidwell Palmer, Victoria Priya

A go-to guide on how to confront, heal from, and ultimately thrive after the devastation of betrayal by a partner's compulsive sexual or other addictive behavior

The first book specifically for partners affected by addictive behavior that addresses, in detail, how to identify, create, and maintain boundaries as a vital component of self-care and an indispensable tool for healing and growth. Through working the 5-Step Boundary Solution partners will



gain clarity;reduce the chaos inherent in relationships impacted by sex addiction;feel more empowered and in control of their lives;discover whether or not their relationship with the addict is salvageable.

Vicki Tidwell Palmer is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP) in private practice in Houston, Texas. She is the author of the blog for partners Survival Strategies for Partners of Sex Addicts.

Genres: Nonfiction

229 pages, Kindle Edition

First published May 10, 2016

About the author

This author is also published under Victoria Priya.

Victoria Priya (formerly Vicki Tidwell Palmer) is the author of Personal Boundaries for Dummies®, Moving Beyond Betrayal, and host of the highly popular Beyond B*tchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries (2018-2021) podcast. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and a Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner (SEP).

Reviews

[Dolkar · Rating 4 out of 5]

Helpful in the insights, worksheets and perspectives it provides, but the solutions offered are too narrowly focused, too few and too simplistic. Definitely worth the read but not nearly as in-depth or as helpful as I had hoped.

[Sierra · Rating 5 out of 5]

Sound guidelines for forming and sticking to boundaries, as well as recognizing when a boundary is needed. Would highly recommend for partners that have experienced intimate betrayal, but also for people who have a difficult time recognizing and setting boundaries.

[cypher · Rating 4 out of 5]

hm, it's interesting...but i'm not sure i get when one should bother staying with the addict in question. i understand it's the patient's choice, but is that really the best option for them? my opinion is that it's not, it's better to try to move on without the sex addict, and keep trying, until it works.
self care, work on being independent, these are important...someone co-dependant will want to stick around to have the crutch (be it financial, being used to having a sounding board, not feeling bad going somewhere alone, other people's opinion, something which is held up for ransom somehow, etc). cutting co-dependant ties is important to have patients pick the healthier option in the end.

[Shari · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent resource for spouses whose partner is a sex addict. Talks about setting boundaries and working through the emotional torment.

[Jaylynn Gold · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really helps one break down what your choices are, and how to make choices and build a life as you recover. It’s all about setting and keeping boundaries.

[Rena · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is the best book on boundaries I have ever read. It addresses the heart of Sexual Addiction and she tells so much of what I experience. This made such a difference with my current situation and setting healthy boundaries. So thankful I read it even though it is secular.

[Amy S]

I'm not rating this one because it's geared towards couples where the addict is actively in recovery. Probably a great resource for them.

Adult themes but no adult content.

[Diana Eul · Rating 5 out of 5]

A book for anyone hurting from betrayal.

[Anne Jennen · Rating 3 out of 5]

Recovery resource book on setting boundaries for betrayed partners.

[Alice · Rating 3 out of 5]

Had some really helpful things and some unhelpful things. Leans heavily on addiction model.

[Shauna · Rating 3 out of 5]

Self-help book. Was helpful for my situation. Tools and resources to take away for everyday life.

[Jennifer Weeks Ph.D · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is currently my favorite book for partners of sex addicts. It provides clear direction for working through boundary issues inherent in living with an addict.

[Kelly · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this to prep for the new therapy group I am running for partners who have been betrayed by their spouses. I really do not like the sex addiction model but despite my misgivings, the author did an excellent job writing very clearly about boundaries, a topic which can be widely applied and will be very useful for many people.