Öka din sociala kompetens

by Henrik Fexeus

Förändra ditt liv – på en timme

I Öka din sociala kompetens ger beteendeexperten Henrik Fexeus dig verktygen du behöver för att bli ett socialt proffs. Hur blir man någon som andra tycker om, lyssnar uppmärksamt på och får förtroende för? Effektiva tekniker och tankesätt presenteras här på Henriks kunniga och humoristiska sätt.

Genres: Psychology, Self Help, Nonfiction, Communication, Relationships, Swedish Literature, Audiobook

Hardcover

First published March 1, 2012

About the author

Henrik Fexeus is a Swedish mentalist, author and TV-host. Since 2005 he is a frequent guest, as expert on body language and non-verbal communication, in television and newspapers including for Expressen at the Swedish Crown Princess Victoria's wedding and for Aftonbladet during the US SuperTuesday 2016.

Henrik has a BA in Philosophy from Stockholm University and has worked in communications and marketing.

Fexeus has written seven books on practical psychology and influence. His first book, The art of reading minds, was released in 2007 by Forum Bokförlag. In 2010, it received the Pocket Platinum sales award. His second book, When you do what I want, was released in 2008 and received in 2010 the Pocket Gold award.

As of 2019, his books have been translated into over 30 languages, including Chinese, Romanian, Russian, Japanese and Portuguese. Fexeus books have sold more than a million copies worldwide. Since 2019 he is published by St. Martin's Press in USA and by Hodder & Stoughton in the UK.

Reviews

[Kammy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Thank you to the publisher for an advance copy via netgalley!

I was skeptical of this book. It turned out to be a pleasant surprise! The author does a great job at giving the reader concrete examples to implement in your own social interactions. It also gives you examples of what not to do and explains why which makes the reader comprehend so much better. Great job! Great read of anyone who wants to improve their social intersections, from anxious introverts to outspoken extroverts.

[Julia T D · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very interesting, now let’s see if I can actually use these tips.

[Lisa Konet · Rating 2 out of 5]

A well researched self help book about nonverbal communication. There were some good tips and insights about common communication ques and more. However< I thought it was preachy especially when talking about the business side of the book. it sounded like he was catering to the business moguls and how they succeed while the blue color and other workers could learn from the higher ups and that the isn't as valued or appreciated. Sounded like he was talking people away from current jobs to be venture capitalists.

Some good information on communication and how you may be giving off the wrong message but not for me. Very opiniated author. There are better self help books on the topic of nonverbal communication that doesn't make the reader feel insignificant and unsuccessful.

Thanks to Netgalley, the author and St Martin's Press Essentials for an ARC in exchange for a honest review.

Available: 11/3/20

[David · Rating 5 out of 5]

Items of Note:
* If you concentrate on avoiding obstacles instead of concentrating on your goals, you will run straight into the obstacles.
* The best way to get people to change a behavior is to let them feel that they are in control of the decision.
* Giving someone the opportunity to say no actually increases the chance of them saying yes.

[marian · Rating 4 out of 5]

gained so many tips and different ways of thinking and approaching situations. the way this book flows is also something i really liked, made it easy to read. overall it was a pretty good reading experience.

[Sara · Rating 1 out of 5]

Inte min typ av bok direkt :-)

[Vanja Delki]

vet inte om jag blev mer socialt kompetent men spännande läsning.

[Lydia · Rating 3 out of 5]

Läste denna för ett tag sen. Finns några bra tips men den inriktar sig mer på jobbsituationer, vilket inte är något problem men inte det jag förväntade mig.

[Pilar · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very interesting!! Needs to be read little by little…. And then, apply the knowledge which is the most difficult part

[Alva · Rating 3 out of 5]

Okej bok lyssnade, sa vissa bra saker


Föreställ dig ett skylt ovanför huvudet på alla du träffar som läser "Få mig att känna mig viktig."

[Deni Murillo · Rating 3 out of 5]

I left this book in the car for 2 whole months and would read it whenever I had a road trip, making me feel like the Gilmore Girls scene when Rory was explaining to her mom how she has a “bus book” and a “lunch book” and they are strictly for those occasions hahaha

This for me was the book you just leave there and sort of forget about for a couple of weeks and then randomly come back to it, and the cycle repeats itself until the end of the book. (Or until you DNF it 😬)

It didn’t strike me as revolutionary or life-changing, but it was entertaining and, on a few occasions, I found myself highlighting and making notes like crazy! Which is not the most suitable for doing in a car since you’ll most likely end up with scribbles that look like a 3-year-old made them! (Please don’t do this if you don’t want to experience first-hand embarrassment when lending it to a friend)

All in all, I think this just adds up to the list of self-improvement books that helped me a bit but I’m already forgetting about. But that doesn’t mean it has to be like that for you! Maybe you’ll love it! Who knows?

This is one of the books that makes me recall this quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson, meaning in the end, I’m happy to have read it.
“I cannot remember the books I’ve read any more than the meals I have eaten; even so, they have made me.”



Anyways folks, here's a cute puppy to brighten your day! Thanks for reading me :)

[Theo Milos · Rating 3 out of 5]

En del är repetitivt från andra liknande böcker. Innehåller dock en rad intressanta perspektiv, aspekter och fakta.

Världen är mycket mindre än vad man tror. Enligt en etablerad teori kan man kontakta precis vem som helst genom sex personer. Detta innebär att dina vänner liksom dina vänners vänners vänner påverkar dig med ditt mående och agerande. Med ett stort nätverk kan du därför komma oerhört långt. Det är dessutom bra eftersom man statistiskt blir gladare. Ensamhet är farligare än rökning och ingen bör vara ensam. Med många vänner blir du gladare, trots att vissa må ha negativ energi (eftersom det inte sprider sig lika väl).

När du träffar människor, oavsett om du känner de eller inte, titta dem i ögonen och finn stark ögonkontakt. Gå rakryggat med extraordinärt självförtroende och skaka med ett starkt handslag. Klä dig på ett sätt som människor ger dig respekt för. Få andra att prata om sig själva för att känna sig viktiga. Då kommer de associera detta med dig och se fram emot att träffa dig.

Anpassa dig efter situationen och människorna du träffar. Tala med liknande språk som de du träffar gör. Få dem att behandla dig som en av dem. Matcha energinivå, volym och hur mycket du pratar med den du pratar med. Mottagaren ska vara i fokus, precis som i reklam.

[Susan · Rating 4 out of 5]

THE ART OF SOCIAL EXCELLENCE is one of those books cursed by its release date. I am eager to put into practice so much of what author Henrik Fexeus recommends--just as soon as we are able to interact face-to-face with one another again.

Fexeus breaks down in an easy-to-read style, how to improve our social and conversational interactions. Unfortunately--for shy people like me--he doesn't offer much advice on overcoming shyness. He's more focused on improving social skills, not developing them.

He decries how isolated we all have become due to social media, texting, etc.--sadder still in 2020 than when he wrote those words.

Although I did read this book from cover to cover, it will be more valuable to go back and reread pertinent sections as needed. I, for one, will never again take for granted the opportunity to talk to a stranger in person. #TheArtOfSocialExcellence #NetGalley

[Juliana · Rating 3 out of 5]

Lättläst och grundläggande bok om social kompetens. Vid läsning märks genast att man använder, och har lagt märke till att andra använder, mycket av det som skrivs i boken, om inte allt - medvetet som omedvetet.

Om du är missnöjd med din krets eller vill utveckla en bättre relation med någon, så finns massor av tips i boken på hur man kan göra för att förbättra situationen.

Jag skulle rekommendera boken för någon som önskar detta (se stycke 2) eller för den som vill ha något lättläst eller lära sig om social kompetens.

[(a)lyss(a) · Rating 3 out of 5]

I received a copy of this book through the Amazon Vine program in exchange for an honest review.

This book was around 3.5 stars for me.

The author has a lot to say and provides a lot of research. Fexeus is opinionated and shares what he thinks is the best way to communicate with people. One of the strangest parts of the book to me is instead of being gender neutral with language Fexeus assigns he or she pronouns to various characters or roles and then uses them throughout the book. He could have used a simple they throughout the book that wouldn't have me rereading thinking I m

[Summer · Rating 2 out of 5]

I don't know why I put this on reserve. It must have been one of those things I read about somewhere, like "Top Non Fiction Titles next month!" or something.

So, I listened to the audiobook and it was fine. If you've never read a book like this before it's a perfectly fine book to listen to. If you have read a book like this before, there's nothing new. Fexeus drones on a bit sometimes.

Overall, a perfectly fine book.

[Alicia Robben · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a great book to hone one’s communication skills. These easy tips can be applied throughout home and work life. I enjoyed reading about the importance of nonverbal communication. I do wish the book had some visuals like charts or graphs to break up all the text.

Thanks to St. Martin’s Press and NetGalley for a copy in exchange for my honest review!

[Adelina · Rating 4 out of 5]

While I can’t say that this book has changed the way I interact with people, it is definitely an interesting read and I wrote down some ideas that I want to implement. I would recommend it to anyone. It’s easy to read and quite funny.

[Micke Sandlin · Rating 3 out of 5]

Lättläst om ett viktigt ämne. Typisk Fexeus-bok där det är mycket intressanta forskningsrön som staplas på varandra. Fullt godkänd!

[Erin Vasquez · Rating 3 out of 5]

Not what I was expecting but I felt for all that I got out of it, there were more time I felt lost.

[Liam · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a great read on the subject. A handy guide to the art of communication.

[Samuel Song · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very interesting read. Learned a few tidbits that I've tried to put into practice since reading this book.