Starting this book over two months ago, I could not have imagined how influential and time-consuming this tome would be. On many occasions I had the experience of looking up and noticing that I had been reading for an hour, only to see that I had progressed ten pages. Finishing this book felt strange, as through the months I spent drudging through the hundreds of direct, vitamin-filled, tightly-packed pages, I found it hard to imagine that there would ever be an end.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy believes that "human suffering predominantly involves the misapplication of otherwise positive psychological processes of problem solving to normal instances of psychological pain" (19). Despite the utility of our planning, rational, decision-making, problem-solving brain in almost all other fields, when it confronts our psychic pain it has a tendency to fail us. In short, when we experience our unwanted private content (anxiety, traumatic flashbacks, etc) our instinct is to avoid them, sometimes at the cost of our relationships, values, or freedom. We also have a tendency to hold our idiosyncratic thoughts as reality, and even build our identities with them (“I’m just a sad person”; “I’ll never be able to truly connect with someone”; “I can’t do that because of my trauma”). At a base level, if we maintain that it is unacceptable to have our anxieties, and we start to feel them, isn’t that something to be anxious about? To some extent, we need to be able to willfully experience our unwanted feelings and thoughts.
The benefit of acceptance is that it allows us to work toward the things we really value in life, and not just spend our energy in the tug of war against our feelings. Hayes frequently asks his patients: “What would you do if you didn’t deal with your anxiety all day?” Many say they could be better parents or boyfriends, or travel, or have peace at night. Some say they don’t know. A major part of ACT is helping humans find their values and give them the freedom to live passionate, dedicated lives. One of the most important first steps in this process is the realization that we don’t have to hold our thoughts as reality. There is always a choice in between our thoughts and our actions. ACT prioritizes functionality over everything. Frequent questions asked by ACT clinicians are: “Does that description of the past help you move ahead?”; “What is this story in service of?”; “If you could set this thought or feeling aside for a moment, what would you choose to do?"
The answer to these holdups in our lives is psychological flexibility, the most important term in the ACT cannon. The processes that underlie this are: Flexible Attention to the Present Moment, Values, Committed Action, Self-as-context, Defusion, and Acceptance.
On top of its theoretical strength, ACT has also performed incredibly in empirical research. Evidence from standalone studies and in meta-analyses has poured in, supporting ACT’s model. For example, there has not “yet been reported a case in which psychological flexibility processes moved differentially but outcomes were not differential” (371). Many ACT meta-analyses have not only been shown to provide consistently equivalent outcomes compared to CBT in symptom reduction, but also might do better for long-term well-being (e.g. Gloster et al. 2020, Bai et al. 2020). Another hallmark of ACT that its supporters love to bring up is its vast applicability to other problem areas, such as coping with diabetes, chronic pain, smoking cessation, and many more.
I loved reading this book. Any summary would be inadequate to convey how important this book is. One of the reasons why it took so long to get through, is that this book was compiled from literally decades of research. There is no fluff, no mediocre sort-of-useful parts. It has made the flame of clinical psychology inside me turn into a raging forest fire. Its processes and mechanisms have stuck with me, and I feel as if how I look at human suffering has changed forever.
“It is not possible to eliminate suffering by eliminating pain. Human existence contains inevitable challenges. People we love will be injured, and people close to us will die [...] Friends and lovers will betray us. Pain is unavoidable, and (owing to our symbolic inclinations) we readily remember this pain and can bring it into consciousness at any given moment. This progression means that human beings consciously expose themselves to inordinate amounts of pain—despite our considerable abilities to control its sources in the external environment. Even so, great pain is not in itself a sufficient cause for true human suffering. For that to occur, symbolic behavior needs to be taken a bit further.” (19)
“There is an inherent paradox in attempting to avoid, suppress, or eliminate unwanted private experiences in that often such attempts lead to an upsurge in the frequency and intensity of the experiences to be avoided (Wenzlaff & Wegner, 2000). Since most distressing content by definition is not subject to voluntary behavioral regulation, the client is left with only one main strategy: emotional and behavioral avoidance. The long-term result is that the person’s life space begins to shrink, avoided situations multiply and fester, avoided thoughts and feelings become more overwhelming, and the ability to get into the present moment and enjoy life gradually withers.” (22)