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248 pages, Kindle Edition
First published June 14, 2016
Learning to be with suffering as an experience is part and parcel of what it means to live, and it radically alters our relationship to all of life and to the suffering of others. If you are invested in alleviating suffering, whether as an activist or change-maker or someone who’s committed to life because you hear the cries of the world, it’s important to understand that you can’t even recognize the suffering of others without fully acknowledging the despair of your own suffering. It turns out that far from dragging you down, one of the most liberating things you can do is to come to terms with the fact that some form of your suffering will always be there. To really be present with that unhooks us from the constant anxiety of trying to make it go away. Paradoxically, once we release the proposition that we are going to get rid of the suffering, then the potential to alleviate the suffering becomes possible.
[W]hite folks got the privilege of bringing the dharma into America, and they got to shape it, got to interpret it, and got to choose which aspects of the text would be highlighted, which aspects of the teachings, and which orientation of spaces would be brought to the forefront. Ultimately, I don’t think people are doing that because they need to oppress. I think they do it because they are engaged in their neurosis, to repress feeling their own experiences of disconnection, their own sense of being lonely. Rather than using the practice to go into it and connect, we’re furthering that neurosis.