This was a thoroughly great book. It starts out light and leaves the reader unprepared for and shocked by the dark turns to come--isn't that just the way we get sucked deeper and deeper into sin, shame, and death? As I enter the twilight of my life, I have been exploring my own lifelong history of repeated hurts and failures and have come to the conclusion that the biggest mistakes occur when to myself and to my God I am untrue. Can one truly be a Christian if unwilling to lay all flaws open and allowing God to break you and remold you. There is only one who is perfect, because only He can handle the impossible burden of perfection. What He does expect from us is Truth and Grace. Yet the church bulldozes away Truth and Grace with superficial expectations that jam people into a false veneer of perfection and self-righteousness in the name of Him who asks us for authenticity, from the heart to the surface. I call these unfortunate perfectionistic church people, like Wendi's mother "Christians baptized in battery acid." It breaks my heart to see so many people who came to the church seeking God instead running into the self-righteousness of hypocrites to either conform or leave. It was great to find a book exploring the same things I have been exploring lately, doing such an incredible job of it, and essentially reaching the same conclusions. Those who aren't Christian and who aren't struggling with the hypocrisy that plagues the members, primarily the perfectionistic, control-freak females, of the modern church to fake on the outside what might be lacking in the heart will probably not grasp the excellence of this male Christian writer. How well he expresses the thoughts and feelings of a woman fighting the gravitational pull of the the black hole of as-if role-playing, of chafing under a phony preconceived "Christian" image that doesn't really conform to what Christ expects of us, of demands for perfectionistic conformism that had stopped her growth and was strangling the person whom God purposed her to be, until she was on the brink of self-destruction. It was like climbing into my heart and soul to read Wendi's struggles. I was tempted to downgrade the book one star because I hated the ending so much, but in truth there was no other way to end it. There had to be consequences and someone had to pay them.