接受不完美的勇氣：阿德勒100句人生革命

by 小倉 広, 小倉廣, 楊明綺 (Translator)

●一切取決於自己

阿德勒說：認同、接受自己的不完美；認同、寬待對方的不完美。
他認為：不完美也沒什麼不好，這樣才有人味，也是可愛之處。

阿德勒心理學，是帶給人「勇氣」的心理學。
所謂「勇氣」，就是克服困難的活力，缺乏勇氣的人，一遇到困難，就會墜入人生的黑暗深淵。
人生有「工作的任務」、「交友的任務」與「愛的任務」，當我們在任務中陷入困難時，如果還擁有「關心對方，以對方為優先考量」的想法，就能生出勇氣。

「我只有在覺得自己對他人有貢獻時，才擁有勇氣。」阿德勒如此說。
有勇氣，就能面對一切困難；有勇氣，就能不受他人的評價左右，接受真正的自己，接受不完美的自己。

本書不同於一般學術書以及心理學入門書，用淺顯易懂的詞彙和說法「超譯」阿德勒與他的學生、後代門生說過的佳句100句，期待能帶給讀者一些突破的勇氣：

●一切取決於自己
●接受真正的自己
●隱藏在情感中的目的
●性格能在當下的瞬間被改變
●所有煩惱都是人際關係的根源
●家族就是世界
●不能斥責，也不能稱讚
●對他人有貢獻是讓自己幸福的唯一方法
●擁有克服困難的勇氣
●不必背負著他人的課題

從個人出發，談到人際關係、家庭、教育、直到世界。
「人生沒那麼困難，是你讓人生變得複雜了，其實，人生非常單純。」
阿德勒認為：人生不是取決於「命運」和「過去」的創傷，而是自己的思考方式。
也就是：「人生中，沒有你辦不到的事！」

Genres: Psychology

272 pages, Paperback

First published February 27, 2014

Reviews

[hayley · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.25 stars- my dad bought this book for me a few years ago when i was in high school as a joke and i finally got around to reading it now that my academic career is over lol (i am graduating from uni in a few weeks hehe). this is the first Chinese book i have read in seven years lmao. i understand the purpose of this book is to simplify life’s difficulties to make people deal with their mental issues and emotions and accept their imperfections in a simplistic way okay so to that extent adler succeeded. yes he got the key to success in life DOWN: everything in life - your education, employment, love, depends on your own determination and framing of mental state. in that respect, he pointed out the underlying secret to this phenomenon that we deal with in life. his stance on people’s inferiority complex as a whole is very valid and i felt called out (complimentary) when i was reading his quotes regarding those topics. his main focus on personal agency, encouragement, and community contribution is incredibly influential till this day. HOWEVER, I can’t see how his views on how children should not be “pampered” and his views on how people with trauma/ mental health issues only lack autonomy because they only crave attention are not problematic and outdated. to put it frankly, i was a bit disgusted with how dismissive he is to reduce all mental health issues as things that are merely within one’s self-control without any scientific backing lol. ofc this comes from a white cis man but i guess his views can be justified since his theories were published ages ago but it really pmo bc as someone who struggles with my mental health a lot the last thing i want is to burden others or broadcast my issues to the world when i find it very difficult to open up or even admit to myself i struggle in the first place. his generalised take is incredibly damaging in this day and age and rage baited me to finish the book quickly for the last few chapters even though I enjoyed the book at first um😭 whatever i guess we move

[Stiltzkin Vanserine · Rating 3 out of 5]

我起初對這本書不抱任何期待，因為我覺得坊間流行的「超譯某某人」等書籍都過於淺白、簡化，大大犧牲了原著的深度與內涵。沒想到實際讀了之後，內容還不錯。作者用許多生活中的例子來解釋阿德勒的心理學觀與思想，非常淺顯易懂，但也頗能引起共鳴，甚至給人一些反思生命的機會。雖然這本書帶給我的能量遠不如斯多葛學派（Stoicism）的著作，但我還是有不少收穫。

如果你正面臨人生的低谷，需要轉換心情一下，不妨給這本書一個機會吧。

[Thục Tú Thái · Rating 3 out of 5]

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[Rinna · Rating 5 out of 5]

標題蠻雞湯的，但內容很毒辣。

[Hoonie · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book makes me think much, this book is awesome

[Aaron Wang · Rating 5 out of 5]

看完之後，內心充滿了勇氣，對於自己與他人課題的劃分，有更進一步的認識。不需為了討好他人、在意他人目光，而喪失了勇氣，自我懷疑。