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Step-Ball-Change

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Caroline and Tom are looking forward to retirement. He's been practicing law, she's been running a dance studio, and together they've raised four great kids. It's time to enjoy the fruits of their labor...Suddenly, though, their empty nest is filling up. Caroline's sister arrives with a load of luggage, a bad-tempered terrier, and a broken heart. A contractor finds cracks in the foundation, and sets up camp indefinitely. And their daughter Kay brings home her fiance, the richest boy in Raleigh--and plans a high-society wedding that could wipe out their savings. Filled with the warmth and wit that delighted readers of Julie and Romeo, this tale of a family caught in a whirlwind of change reminds us that life is what happens while we're making other plans--and that having loved ones along for the ride is the greatest blessing of all.

293 pages, Paperback

First published May 7, 2002

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Jeanne Ray

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Jeanne Ray is the New York Times bestselling author of Julie and Romeo and four other novels. She worked as a registered nurse for forty years before she wrote her first novel at the age of sixty. She lives in Nashville, Tennessee with her husband and her dog, Red.

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782 reviews
August 2, 2017
Another good one from Jeanne Ray. She tells great stories about real families and real problems.
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Author 2 books160 followers
March 6, 2009
I had a particularly bad string of books, and had an icky taste in my brain. This book was recommended by EycLady who said "Step, Ball Change is one of those books that I hated finishing because I loved the characters so much. It was actually traumatic for me when I finished it, because I liked the characters so much! I want them to come alive and be my friends!" :)

I looked for a copy at all of my usual inexpensive to free sources and didn't find one, and so I broke down and bought a second hand copy. The next day, a copy arrived in the mail as a RABCK (random act of BookCrossing Kindness) from etherea. Go figure. Rains, pours and all that stuff.

I started reading this on Waltz Day (US only. In other parts of the world the date is written differently, so Waltz day would be 3 April elsewhere, not March 4 as it is here. You can march forth on March forth or you can waltz in 3/4 time. I prefer to dance.)

As for me, I loved the book, too. It's delightful. I always wanted to be part of one of those families that everyone dropped in to see, and where there were always people tumbling in and out of the house. In some senses we do, but it's never like I imagined it would be and Woodrow fix my house. I want to have Taffy cook me supper and Caroline teach me to dance (I'm a total clod.) Luckily, I have the good, solid love for and with my husband that Caroline and Tom seem to share. I look at him and just know that I am a better person for being with him, kinder, smarter and happier and that I do more good for the world (ie I pass Woodrow's test). Every single character in this book was real. So often there's an overblown good or bad guy. But every single one was real. And the story is real, as are the solutions to the problems. How absolutely refreshing.
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1,905 reviews327 followers
June 24, 2015
The title to this story intrigued me. Step Ball Change, for those of you that don't know it, refers to a part of tap-dancing. For the most part, this is a wonderfully written book about love, fear, coping and growing up. Each character is impressive in his or her own way. And age is not a factor when it comes to changing your life.

It is about family; when kids are always someone's children even when they become adults. And problems abound; those slices of life that we can all identify with. You may still be supporting one of them in one way or another, you are their sometime friend for a shoulder to cry on, and once in awhile they teach you a thing or two.

It is also about those older adults, not quite retirees, and how life is not perfect yet you still have a chance to grow. Relationships wither away, new ones develop, and constant ones get better. You learn, for better or worse, that permanent associations with others constantly evolve.

This contemporary romance is very different from what I normally read. I am going to be honest and say people 40 and older would probably most enjoy it. Caroline and Tom are parents of four adults with a son that still lives at home while he is finishing law school. Their house is a mess after they start to add on a Florida room. In addition, Caroline's sister comes to live with them after finding out her husband is seeing a younger woman. And lastly, their daughter becomes engaged which, in itself, is a story. Raleigh, North Carolina, is the setting and race factors into relationships. This story is a departure from what I normally read but I enjoyed 'visiting' the McSwain home.
67 reviews2 followers
October 11, 2010
So I asked the librarian for a light read. This one is one of the most mindless I've read. Positives--I did finish it. Negatives--I feel less comfortable about the following scenario: So I die. And my descendants want to know more about me. And they check my Goodreads page. And they found out that this is what I did with my spare time.
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52 reviews5 followers
November 25, 2023
It’s like reading a Hallmark movie. Feel good and fluffiy - easy breezy read . But sometimes that’s exactly what ur looking for
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1,951 reviews797 followers
December 4, 2009
This book was charming from beginning to end, never dull, never over-the-top. Having recently read two very lackluster "chick-lit" type books this story was a refreshing change of pace. There was no bitterness, no over the top shenanigans, no ridiculous situations and no 20 or 30-something nitwit heroine.

Instead the story is told from a happily married 60-ish heroine (Caroline) whose life is turned upside down when she receives two phone calls simultaneously from hysterical women. One is her daughter, Kay, who is crying tears of joy because she's become engaged to the catch of the century and the other is from her sister Taffy whose husband just ran off with a younger woman.

Taffy & her nasty little dog Stamp temporarily move in with Caroline and her husband while she decides what to do with the rest of her life. Caroline is less than thrilled with the fact that her daughter is marrying into such a wealthy family especially when she learns that they intend to invite 900 guests. Poor Caroline sees her retirement plans flying out the window.

This story is about life's little (and bigger) bumps and all of the intertwining relationships. I enjoyed the way the author incorporated dance into the story. It read like it was her true passion and added a lot of depth to the characters. There were many touching moments and wise observations about love, romance and marriage. The characters were all terrific and came alive for me and I hated to let them go when the book ended.

This book could have been longer as I felt it all ended too quickly but maybe that's just because I enjoyed it so much.
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47 reviews15 followers
November 30, 2019
"Un hombre puede parecerte adecuado, pero tal vez no te ayuda a que salga lo mejor de ti, en cuyo caso te recomiendo que no te quedes con él. En cambio, si encuentras un hombre que te haga mejor, o si eres mejor estando sola, tienes que tomar eso en cuenta."

(3.5)

Pazos cruzados cuenta la vida de Caroline McSwain, señora de 62 años, casada, con 4 hijos abogados y amante del tap. Cuando su hija Kay se compromete con Trey (hijo de multimillonarios), Caroline sabe que su hija no se encuentra del todo segura en cuanto al matrimonio respecta así que se propone a ayudarle pero todo cambiado de un día para otro, llega su hermana recién divorciada, problemas con la casa, su amor por el baile y miles de giros inesperados.

No puedo con lo encantada que estoy con este libro, nunca había leído un libro con una protagonista mayor y esto consiguió que mi visión se expandiera mucho más, pude conocer las preocupaciones de una persona mayor y todos los personajes son un amor.

Amé el personaje de Caroline McSwain, una mujer que ama el baile pero también a toda su familia, es fuerte, comprensiva y amorosa y siempre sabe exactamente qué decir, el tipo de madre que todos quisiéramos.
Tom es el esposo de Caroline y es abogado, un padre ejemplar, siempre disponible para su familia y muy cariñoso.
Taffy es la hermana menor de Caroline y aunque en un principio me caía mal, al final la quería muchísimo.
Kay, la hija de Tom y Caroline es igual a su madre y muy inteligente.
George es el hijo menor de los McSwain y me encantó, es el único que está apegado a su mamá y me encanta que le guste el baile.
Otro de los personajes que amé fue a Woodrow, amigo de la familia que logra ganarse el corazón de los lectores y de otro integrante de la familia McSwain, un hombre con mucha sabiduría y cariño.

Sinceramente, pude conocer perfectamente a todos los personajes, aprendí a quererlos porque sentí que eran como mis amigos, es una historia bastante bonita y bien fácil de leer 💕
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Author 1 book124 followers
January 5, 2023
Heartwarming, hilarious family dramedy

At age 62 and 65, respectively, Carolina and Tom have been happily married for 42 years. They are best friends, terrific parents, and still have a loving, sensual sex life. They have four grown children, three of which are public-defender attorneys like Tom, and their youngest, who is 25, is studying to be an attorney as well. Carolina has loved dance her whole life and has owned a dance studio for decades.

There is an ensemble cast of many delightful characters in this novel. Besides Carolina and Tom, two of their children have an important part to play, as well as the people their son and daughter fall in love with. Carolina's 60-year-old sister, Taffy, is in the midst of separating from an unfaithful husband and despairingly considering divorce. He is a wealthy businessman whom she has been married to for almost 40 years. In the midst of Taffy's angst over the breakup of her marriage, Carolina invites her sister to come and stay in her home indefinitely.

Meanwhile, Carolina and Tom have become close friends with Woodrow, a 60-something, African-American widower and father of four grown daughters, who is the contractor building a sun porch and repairing the foundation of their home. He is at their home so often, it's almost as if he is living with them. There is also a small, feisty terrier dog who is a significant part of the story. All of the interactions between this quirky combo of individuals makes for an endlessly entertaining read.

It is difficult for me to choose a favorite from among JR's novels, all of which I have read many times and love them all. But this particular novel is an especially delicious treat, because I adore every one of the main characters, and their witty repartee is hilarious.
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12 reviews1 follower
June 19, 2014
As a dancer and dance obsessed person, I loved the book. As an avid Jeanne Ray fan, I loved this book. As writer I can tell you how hard it is to be funny without making your story sound inane. I fail at all it all the time. Jeanne Ray doesn't. So if you're looking for a laugh out loud sibling, matrimony, children, life purpose story featuring non-pathetic (for the most part) older adults this laugh out loud novel may be just the ticket.
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Author 1 book197 followers
July 9, 2017
This one seemed promising. The story was based on a family who lived in Raleigh. Love my NC stories. This one was a "meh" rating. It dragged on. It was mostly tedious conversation and not as funny as promised. It felt like a waste of time. After the first 50 pages, I skimmed through the rest and it was just as slow. It's one I've chosen not to finish.
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169 reviews1 follower
April 4, 2018
This was a sweet book; a funny and wise book about family, married life, parenting, second chances, and love. It made me laugh at times and sigh at times. The characters were all so different and the author describes them so well that you feel like you know them. It was a pleasure to read this book!
182 reviews
September 16, 2020
This is my new favorite book! Only book I've read in awhile that does NOT have any disasters or traumatic experiences in it. A feel good book with great characters and lovely relationships. HIGLY recommend, especially for those blue days.
48 reviews
January 20, 2025
A well written family drama. I was able to connect with all the characters and there were a few surprises throughout the novel.
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177 reviews
September 8, 2025
I liked this. Pleasant read with characters liked. I had to try another book by Jeanne Ray because the first I read by her, Calling Invisible Women, was not good. Haha.
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3,491 reviews51 followers
November 27, 2013
Audiobook.

When I picked up this audiobook I didn't notice the little circle that said "Read by the Author" until it was too late and so started this audiobook figuring I wasn't going to like it. I loved it! Jeanne Ray doesn't do different voices for each character but with the way the book is written and through I don't know what, I was able to tell who was who.

It's about a middle aged, middle income family whose daughter is marrying into a wealthy family and are supposed to come up with half of the reception for 1000 people. I couldn't handle that if it was just cake and punch for that many people, so I totally could sympathize with them. In the midst of this the wife's sister husband has left her and their house's foundation is falling apart.

This book is really a feel good book and I ended the audiobook with a smile on my face. Just lovely. I would recommend this book/audiobook.
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180 reviews
July 30, 2010
After a spate of dreary and depressing novels, this is a refreshing relief. Clever and good-spirited, it's a perfect summer read. What's not to like about a book that blends tap dancing, dog training, wedding planning and home renovations?
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998 reviews
December 29, 2014
Enjoyable enough - 3.5 to 4 stars. I would definitely pick up another of the author's books. There were a few minor gaps, but the story held me, and it was a quick getaway read. Southern chic-lit has always been a fave.
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987 reviews17 followers
August 22, 2025
My Original Thoughts (2002):

A nice "fluff" read. Good for a gloomy weekend or an airplane flight. A couple of nice passages about love and marriage.

I leaned over and kissed him. I tried to make it count. A person had to be diligent about kissing. Kissing was the affirmation of the union, the secret handshake that identified its members. And even knowing how important it was, it was easy to let it slide altogether, and suddenly one day you wake up and realize that it has been weeks since you've kissed your husband while you've had your clothes on. Worse still were the kisses that became mere gestures of kissing, those hard little pecks like the kind you got from a great-aunt when you were five, kisses that weren't kisses at all but said instead, I used to kiss you and this is the symbol that now stands in its place. It was the difference between eating a great meal and looking at a picture of food in a magazine: One made you feel full and the other only reminded you that you were hungry.

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Was I sure about love, that this was the person I would be eating my meals with and raising children with and making love to for so many years. I had no idea. I wanted to tell my daughter that I had been absolutely certain, but I think what I had been is absolutely lucky. I don't think that I knew Tom's middle name when I married him. It didn't matter. We had been full of a dreamy sort of romance then. Maybe we had excellent intuition about each other, but the real love came later. I think, probably, the real love always comes later.

My Current Thoughts:

I don't read much in the way of romance or fluff these days, but I might re-read this one since I still own a copy.

Fun fact: Jeanne Ray is Anne Patchett's mother.
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1,494 reviews17 followers
January 23, 2019
A few weeks ago, I stumbled upon a letter from my co-in-law (aka the mother-in-law of my child), and being a librarian herself, she sent me a list of books she had recently read that she thought I would enjoy. Mind you, the letter was dated 2004, which was well before in-law status, but did I mention we were best friends back in college?
This was a delightful, read in one or a few sittings book, and I'd recommend it to the following type of readers:
1. Someone with a sister
2. Anyone who likes a good chic-flick now and then
3. Dancers, mothers-of-dancers, or grandmothers-of-dancers...Well, you get the gist.
I actually read this without a thought of it meeting a challenge prompt, but when I looked at my list, here was Week 40. A book you stumbled upon... 
1,629 reviews7 followers
May 10, 2019
I thought this was a really cute story about love and life. One sister is a dance instructor who invites her sister who is struggling w/a difficult marriage to help teach children dance in her studio. They dance their way through difficult problems in their lives while discovering that they are good friends who are able to support each other through thick and thin. I love that Taffy was able to realize herself as a strong confident woman who was able to love herself by getting rid of her lame husband and enjoying a great life w/o him. A good story worth reading and a reminder that we should dance through life.
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151 reviews14 followers
May 20, 2021
I enjoyed this book even though some of the plot was a little underdeveloped and was a little all over the place. Most of the characters were extremely good looking or successful and there was an awkward attempt to deal with interracial relationships, but not many books are perfect. I really enjoyed the story, but I find myself amazed that two sisters who didn't get along as children and didn't spend much time together as adults would fall so quickly together without issues. But that could be a good thing. Who wants to get bogged down with neurosis? I like this author, and I will read her other books.
411 reviews1 follower
January 6, 2024
I was really looking forward to this read (my third Jeanne Ray book - I'm binging). I can still remember the dance step I learned when I was 8 or 10 - hop-shuffle-step, hop-shuffle-step, hop-shuffle-step, shuFULL-ball-change. Again multiple story lines going on. I didn't really enjoy the fact that her 20 something daughter was engaged to a rich guy but kept flirting with a guy she's known her whole life, her brother's friend. The events in the story were convenient, for example, her son, who goes to law school, is also willing to teach dance classes, wearing a leotard. I struggled with this visual. Didn't enjoy this one as much as the others.
422 reviews4 followers
December 22, 2019
Short but lovely. Her world is full of people who make it all work. They aren't the glitzy sort you often find in romances, nor hard bodied handle anything badasses. No, Jeanne Ray's people are normal people getting by, finding happiness. They get a bit detailed by life - in this one, financial woes due first to a Florida room that has become a foundation rebuild, then by an upcoming wedding into a society family that's going to have about 1000 guests - and without a great deal of dues ex machina, things change, fall apart, come together and mend. And everyone is stronger for it.
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940 reviews3 followers
May 19, 2020
I really enjoyed this book! I think Jeanne Ray is an amazing author. She really just gets it.

Caroline - who owns her own dance studio and Tom - a public defender have 4 kids and have been married 42 years. Change comes. Kay must decide who to marry, her sister is getting a divorce, and George meets a new woman. Definitely Change.


Apparently, I really enjoy books about someone "stuck" in their lives - something happens to them - and the resulting change makes things better.
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2,087 reviews26 followers
November 6, 2017
This was a cute tale. Caroline received two phone calls one night - one from her daughter announcing her engagement. The other was from her sister announcing her husband had left her.

Against the backdrop of Caroline’s dance studio and house repairs while Caroline’s daughter and sister works out what they want,
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801 reviews4 followers
May 18, 2019
A delightful read about love and family. It’s a short book, 226 pages. Well, I guess not all that short but I plowed right through wanting to know what was going to happen! I loved LOVED Caroline and Tom. Their relationship was delicious. Holden grrrrr. Kay semi-grrrr. George and Eric and Woodrow-YAY. Taffy and Neddy-grrrrr. Jack-grrrr. Trey-meh.
22 reviews1 follower
June 13, 2023
fun, well written and well developed characters

I am the same age as the main character and working with a contractor on a house … so we had a lot in common to begin with. It was about relationships: the good the bad and the better now. It was funny and sweet and I couldn’t put it down.
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