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It's Okay About It: Lessons from a Remarkable Five-Year-Old About Living Life Wide Open

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Popular blogger Lauren Casper shares poignantly simple yet profound wisdom about removing the barriers we construct around our hearts and doing life full-on, all from the least expected her five-year-old son, Mareto. Five-year-old Mareto finds color and light in the ordinary happenings of every day and delights in beauty just waiting to be found. Those are lessons he shares, often unknowingly, with his mom, Lauren Casper. For Lauren, living with Mareto is a lot like playing the telephone game. He blurts out little phrases that have their origin in something he saw or heard, but by the time they make their way through his mind and back out of his mouth, they’ve transformed—often into beautiful truths about living a simple, authentic, love- and joy-filled life. From “it’s okay about it,” a simple reminder that even when life is painful or difficult, things will be okay because God promises never to leave or forsake his children, to “you’re making me feelings,” which teaches the importance of leaning into one’s emotions and, in doing so, sharing a piece of oneself with loved ones—Mareto’s simple yet profound wisdom is a reminder to embrace the broken beauty of life, to believe in a God bigger than human comprehension, and to love others even when it doesn’t make sense. For all those looking to recapture the faith, simplicity, wonder, hope, courage, and joy of life, It’s Okay About It provides a guide to look inward and live outward, to discover the most wide open and beautiful life possible.

240 pages, Paperback

Published May 2, 2017

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Lauren Casper

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Lauren Casper is the author of Loving Well in a Broken World, and It's Okay About It. She lives nestled in the mountains with her family.

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2 reviews
April 11, 2017
Sometimes I get frustrated with my own thinking. It tends to be cyclical and harried, repetitive and disheartening. I often feel a pull within my own heart to slow down, reevaluate, and tame these discouraging and nonproductive thoughts. It's Okay About It offers this very thing.

Seeing the world through Mareto's eyes as told by Lauren has allowed me the freedom to step back and think about life differently. From challenging me to rethink my definition of success ("Christmas is Ruined!), to encouraging me to find laughter and joy in the everyday ("I Smell Jellyfish!"), and even inspiring me to live unafraid of what unexpected things the future might hold ("I Can. I Will. I Believe."), It's Okay About It has given me the gift of a refreshingly new perspective. And that, most certainly, is okay with me.
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April 10, 2017
I am a mama to 3 young kiddos, so I don't have a lot of time to read. But I am SO glad I made time to read this book. The writing is so tender, and real, and full of wisdom and encouragement. It is an easy read, and yet it really moved me. I found myself in tears through the chapter about anxiety. Actually, through several chapters. This book is so much more than the insights of a boy on the autism spectrum (although it is wonderfully that too!); it is also about the ways God has moved in Casper's heart through motherhood and life, and an encouragement in so many ways to the reader. I loved it!
10 reviews
April 5, 2017
I came to Lauren Casper’s remarkable new book It’s Okay About It having already read all of her blog posts and every article written by her that I could find. So, in many ways, I knew what to expect from her when I began reading it. With all of that prior knowledge, however, I was still surprised at how impressive her work is in full book-length form.

Casper skillfully weaves the details of her life story into the lessons of the different chapters. The structure seems simple at first, but the artfulness of her approach quickly becomes apparent. Every section is, in an important sense, about her son Mareto; equally, however, it is about Casper’s own development into the compassionate, open-hearted woman she is today. Much of the beauty of experiencing this book comes from watching the amazing ways in which difficult life circumstances have shaped Casper. She consistently shows the reader how “all things work together for good for those who love God” (Romans 8:28; cited on It’s Okay About It 90).

For me, one of the most poignant moments of the book was Casper’s description of God’s confirmation that she and her husband, John, were meant to adopt their daughter, Arsema, from Ethiopia. Casper, at her husband’s insistence, reluctantly agrees to delay saying “yes” to the potential adoption until they have had the weekend to pray about it. That Sunday morning, a little girl with no knowledge of the situation approaches the Caspers at church and presents them with two dolls: a blonde-haired one for Lauren, “‘because she looks like you,’” and a dark-skinned, dark-haired one, “‘for your little girl’” (131). As the Caspers look at each other in amazement, John declares, “‘Well, clearly she’s ours!’”

I relate to this story because, when I want something to be the right decision for my husband and me, I feel compelled to say, “Yes!!!” immediately. Even though when I truly consider, I know that I want to have what God desires for my life, when emotions and impulses get in the way, I, too, don’t want to wait and listen for God’s confirmation. What a powerful reminder this anecdote is of God’s constant action in our lives, and of the benefits of waiting for Him even when the wait feels too difficult.

There are numerous encouraging, life-affirming lessons in Casper’s inaugural work. I foresee that I will return to it many times to be reminded of the beauty and power of embracing the joys that are hidden amid the challenges of life. I feel truly blessed to have come across her Godly approach to “living life wide open.”
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8 reviews2 followers
April 7, 2017
Upcoming book release from Thomas Nelson books entitled "It's Okay About It" Lessons from a Remarkable Five Year Old About Living Life Wide Open. The book's author, Lauren Casper, is the adoptive mom of "the remarkable five-year old", Mareto, from whom she received the name of the book as well as each of its chapter titles. She has used these sayings, giving direction and theme to each chapter. Some of my favorites are Watch Out for Diesel 10, My Batteries is All Gone and Christmas is Ruined. Just the title of the book has challenged me so much, ...living life wide open. It means living in a way that is unobstructed; not limited or restricted, clear, open to full extent - virtually no limits. I'll add to that the meaning - complete vulnerability. I want to live like that, and I want that for my children. As each chapter unfolds, Lauren shares poignant moments of Mareto's life, when each of these sayings either first appeared or how he uses it now. For me, the other remarkable thing about this book is how she has allowed the Lord to use theses sayings in her own life, bringing revelation, drawing her closer to the Lord and to those things most important in relationship to God and one another. At every page turn, I am challenged to to let these revelations wash over me, and allow the Lord to speak to me.
7 reviews
April 10, 2017
In "It's Okay About It", Lauren Casper shares poignant lessons she's learned from living life with her five-year-old son on the autism spectrum. With each new chapter, I was challenged to live my life more fully in Christ's love and grace. In You're Making Me Feelings, Casper challenges us to embrace each emotion, lament as much as joy. In It's Too Loud My Ears, she reminds us of the importance of unplugging from the constant noise. And It's A Job-A-Doo, Casper uses her son Mareto's excitement over every job he's given to challenge us to have the same excitement in everything we need to do. Her book is both affirming of things I've felt having me saying "yes me too" AND challenging me in new ways to become more like Christ. I encourage you to purchase it- you won't be disappointed!!
2 reviews
April 10, 2017
It's Okay About It is full of sweetness and hope while not shying away from honesty and vulnerability. If you are parenting a child on the autism spectrum, if you have walked the path of infertility, if you have added to your family through adoption, or if life simply looks different than you planned, you will connect with this book. Casper's intentional parenting is inspiring and the message of childlike joy is contagious!
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53 reviews
April 15, 2022
Maybe it’s because it’s Holy Week? Perhaps my heart was primed for more examples of God’s goodness on Gods Friday Eve. But in the 3 hours and 52 min it took me to devour this book, I felt God’s love flow from the pages and right into my soul.

Lauren shares her (and her son, Matteo’s) story in a way that felt like I was curled up on the couch with my best friend. Such emotion, candor, honesty and Truth. I can’t love this enough
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April 10, 2017
Such a refreshing read! I think as adults we tend to over-analyze, over-think, over-do...pretty much, we get it wrong a lot because we makes things more complicated than they really need to be. Sometimes it takes a change of perspective to realize these things, and that's just what 'It's Okay About It"does. Viewing life from the eyes of a toddler/child really makes you understand that life is more beautiful, and much less difficult than we tend to make it. I love how Lauren uses Mareto's little phrases, ties in a story, and then incorporates Bible into it all. This would be a wonderful read for any parent, Bible study, someone with an interest in learning about Autism...but honestly, I think it's a great read for anyone. I highly recommend this book!
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2,218 reviews40 followers
June 19, 2017
About the Book:

Popular blogger Lauren Casper shares poignantly simple yet profound wisdom about removing the barriers we construct around our hearts and doing life full-on, all from the least expected source: her five-year-old son, Mareto.


Five-year-old Mareto finds color and light in the ordinary happenings of every day and delights in beauty just waiting to be found. Those are lessons he shares, often unknowingly, with his mom, Lauren Casper.


For Lauren, living with Mareto is a lot like playing the telephone game. He blurts out little phrases that have their origin in something he saw or heard, but by the time they make their way through his mind and back out of his mouth, they’ve transformed—often into beautiful truths about living a simple, authentic, love- and joy-filled life.


From “it’s okay about it,” a simple reminder that even when life is painful or difficult, things will be okay because God promises never to leave or forsake his children, to “you’re making me feelings,” which teaches the importance of leaning into one’s emotions and, in doing so, sharing a piece of oneself with loved ones—Mareto’s simple yet profound wisdom is a reminder to embrace the broken beauty of life, to believe in a God bigger than human comprehension, and to love others even when it doesn’t make sense.


For all those looking to recapture the faith, simplicity, wonder, hope, courage, and joy of life, It’s Okay About It provides a guide to look inward and live outward, to discover the most wide open and beautiful life possible.



My Review:

They always say from the mouths of babes, you can learn so much truth. Popular blogger Lauren Casper can attest to this when she refers to her five year old source for this book, her son Mareto. Children have a way to get us to think. They get us back to our foundations. Mareto had a way of doing just that in this book. But the author takes a brave look at life through the eyes of her son and she writes about it. She dis so, so perfectly. This little guy will draw you in instantly because he looks at life through no lens at all.



The lesson that Mareto teaches through his simple yet profound words will cause you to give life in general a second glance and possible learn more about yourself as well as those around you. A great book that will teach you a lot!



**Disclosure** This book was sent to me free of charge for my honest review from the author. All opinions are my own.
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Author 5 books7 followers
June 11, 2017
I first heard Lauren Casper on The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey. As Lauren chatted about her life in Virginia my ears perked. That may have been what drew me into the podcast, but what kept me there was Lauren’s story.

It’s Okay About It is a compilation of essays highlighting the Casper’s first adopted child. Mareto has autism, but that is not who he is and Lauren’s book highlights that in beautiful memories and interactions.

As a mother myself, I have found God teaches me through my children often. That is Lauren Casper’s insights as well, explained in story form. Some stories take you on the journey of their adoption, others a day at the park with Mareto.

The suggestions offered on friendship, authenticity, adjusting expectations and other topics read to me as one girlfriend chatting to another. Her insights were sometimes questions I wonder to myself. Casper explains in one chapter of her passions for planning that are now adjusted with the addition of children to her life. Something easy to relate to for me, and my guess is for all mothers. There are more similarities between myself, and Lauren then it would appear on paper. But in many ways, that seems to be in part what this book is trying to reveal.

This is an easy read, yet deeper than the first paragraph of each essay might present. Still, Casper’s writing style left me feeling like I knew the author personally and had observed life experiences with her for years. Each essay was encouraging to me even as I was challenged to self-reflect or step up to take a brave step. But that’s what girlfriends do, isn’t it? They encourage and challenge at the same time.

Casper is an advocate for adoption and autism. This is her first book although there are several in the works. In exchange for an honest review, I received a free E-Book from Book Look Bloggers.
155 reviews
July 30, 2017
3.5 stars

It is so encouraging to see bloggers become published authors! I wasn't familiar with Lauren Casper but reading her book makes me want to binge-read her blog.

My fear with Christian authors recently is finding out what their political leanings are, especially their feelings about Donald Trump. It is so refreshing to see that Lauren calls out our President on the way he treats and talks about immigrants, people of color, and the disabled. Kudos to you!

Lauren's stories about her family will warm your heart. She is honest and vulnerable and just a great mama. I think mothers will especially appreciate reading about her struggles and triumphs as a parent.

And yet, I did not love this book. Don't get me wrong, I did enjoy it. Fast read, very accessible. But it reads like a string of blog posts put together, rather than a cohesive book. Every chapter wraps up a little too nicely. I appreciate her interpretations of how her's son's phrases are revelations of deeper Biblical truths but having every single chapter follow the same formula was too redundant for me.

Additionally, while Lauren touches on some great ideas in faith, they sometimes seemed a little surface level. I think most of these stories have been spun in a similar fashion at almost every conference/retreat that I've attended. For example, using A Walk to Remember's analogy of the wind being like God. It feels like every single female in the Christian community has used this quote. Let's get some fresh perspective!

Overall, an interesting debut but I am more curious to see how Casper will move forward as an author. In the meantime, she has gained another fan of her blog!

I received a free copy of this book from a Goodreads Giveaway. This review was written voluntarily and reflects my honest opinion.
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57 reviews
March 31, 2018
I borrowed this book from my public library with no prior knowledge of the author's(Lauren Casper) popular blog, laurencasper.com or any other publications. Honestly, I chose it because the book cover caught my attention and seemed to holler "read me". Yep, I choose a book by it's cover. I also thought this would be a quick read. Well, the cover didn't lie.I choose a fantastic book, however it wasn't a quick read.
I lingered over each chapter as I entered the home and daily lives of Lauren and her beautiful family. This book is full of love. From the eyes, words and heart of her 5 year old son, Mareto, you are reminded that each day is new and filled with joy and beauty. From Mareto's simple phrases he uses each day, we are guided back to the truth that Jesus loves us and has a plan of good for us.
It's a book of simplicity of childhood, of innocence that we allow the world to steal as adults, of a hope and strength to make it though the day but mostly it's a book of love.
Though I borrowed this book from my local library, I'm pretty sure that soon a copy will be on my bookshelf and would be a great addition to anyone's reading. I feel that each day you would be inspired by a chapter over and over again.
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395 reviews26 followers
May 4, 2017
I’m kind of gobsmacked about this book, and I don’t know where to even begin. I suppose I could start by saying that I’m not in the target demographic. This book is for mamas. But it’s a touching and sweet ode to the author’s adopted five-year-old son. Even though I couldn’t really relate, I could relate. I guess some concepts behind parenting are universal. So this is a book of collected sayings from the author’s son, who happens to have autism. My heart really goes out to Ms. Casper — not only is she infertile, but had the double-whammy of having a special needs child when she finally could adopt.

However, it turns out that her son, Mareto, has a habit of turning phrases inside and out. So instead of “You’re hurting my feelings” you get “You’re making me feelings”. Or “My batteries is all gone.” Or, pulling from his love of Thomas the Tank Engine, “Watch out for Diesel 10!” From these sayings, the author is able to weave a story that’s partially memoir, and uses them to buttress some life learnings.

Read more here: https://medium.com/@zachary_houle/a-r...
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438 reviews12 followers
September 20, 2022
While It's Okay About It by Lauren Casper is heavily religious based, it teaches many life lessons in a simple yet profound way. Using the statements made by her five year old autistic son, Casper relates the things he says to ways they can be used to approach life in a positive and loving manner. For example, the title statement It's Okay About It is a reminder that even when things seem at their worst, things will be okay if we trust in the promises of God and have faith in the basic goodness of people. Today's world is often filled with negative, hate-filled language and actions, but Casper offers hope that if we embrace the beauty of life, love others even when it is difficult, and find joy and happiness in the things that happen to us and that surround us, It Will Be Okay.
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505 reviews8 followers
June 29, 2017
I got this book from goodreads first reads. In the little blurb it said nothing about how heavily scripture would be quoted throughout the book. The good news is the content made up for it even if the frequent quotations drove me up a wall (I'm not the biggest fan of religion being in your face but I said I'd read it so I did). The better news is I know a number of people that absolutely need this book because they won't read the others like it that are lacking the religious bent. So very much kudos to the author. This was a good read with great little life lessons.
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257 reviews10 followers
March 21, 2019
I was provided with a free copy of this book so I could give an honest review.

I was recommending this book to someone within the first 3 chapters. "It's Okay About It" is truly a blessing to read. Mareto and Arsema have stolen my heart. It was a joy to read about the world through them and see it applied to the non-so-fun adult world.

It's a quick, fun, but meaningful read. Relatable to life with or without kids, college-age or senior adult, etc. I recommend this book to anyone and everyone.

Mareto is a pure genius beyond his time. "It's Okay About It."
29 reviews1 follower
June 29, 2017
I don't normally read books with a Christian message, but I got this in a Goodreads Giveaway and I'm actually very glad I read it. This book read very quickly and was easy to pick up a read a short chapter during a busy day. It would always make me stop and think about things for a few minutes and I think it actually is helping me be a better friend during these intense years of parenting younger kids and working. The Jesus/God stuff wasn't too much for a sort of church-going person.
242 reviews2 followers
August 19, 2017
Received in a Goodreads giveaway. Although I never have had a miscarriage, adopted a child or had a child with special needs, this book provided a great deal of insight into life. Many of the lessons learned are through children. Would encourage everyone to read this book about the lessons we can also learn from a small, but wondrous child.
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24 reviews11 followers
June 22, 2017
I love life lessons in simple, memorable phrases. This book constantly comes to mind in different situations. So thankful Lauren shared her world with us. A great, encouraging read that you won't forget.
99 reviews2 followers
July 2, 2017
I received this book in a Goodreads giveaway. What a great story Lauren tells about life through the eyes of her 5 year old son! If we all treated people like he does, the world would be a kinder, gentler place.
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584 reviews
July 4, 2024
An interesting book about mothering an autistic son.
Lauren looks on the bright side.
She discovers wonderful phrases her son uses such as "I'm ok about", "I can I will I believe", "or yes or no", and "Look around I need to talk for you@.

lots of good nuggets to apply in my life
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2,473 reviews
May 17, 2017
Wisdom can be learned from all sources. I won this in a contest and it was a very good read.
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18 reviews1 follower
June 21, 2017
Touching, insightful, and delightful!
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388 reviews19 followers
July 6, 2017
This book was sweet, precious, heart-warming and adorable. It was like falling into a warm embrace. Such a great pick-me-up!
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Author 8 books4 followers
November 27, 2018
Mindblowing, self-healing and acceptance,,,,inspired from 5 years old kid
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2 reviews
December 19, 2018
This is the best book I have read in a while. Full of so much truth and simplicity that’s is so easily forgotten. A great reminder in a much needed time. Thank you Jesus. 10/10 would recommend.
9 reviews
May 11, 2021
Great lessons. I had trouble staying motivated to read this one, but enjoyed each chapter after reading it.
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1,275 reviews1,316 followers
August 1, 2017
I had heard Casper on a podcast recently, so when this one showed up at work, I grabbed it and read through it over a few lunch breaks. It's a sweet story perfect for moms (which I am not, haha!) and those who have a heart for adoption (or who have adopted) -- it's touching, endearing, and amusing.
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Author 8 books72 followers
November 9, 2017
Casper’s latest is told through the eyes of her five-year-old son Mareto. Using his phrases, the author hopes to help the reader “look inward and live outward.”

This is an encouraging book full of simple reminders designed to help the reader become more aware of the joys of life and to slow down and listen for God’s voice. Adults tend to overthink things, often leading to feelings of being overwhelmed, but that’s not the case with Mareto. He has a different, and refreshing, view of his world. His simple, yet profound, statements caused Casper to rethink situations, and it is likely they will have the same impact on the reader. Casper’s book could be helpful to families who’ve adopted a child or have a child on the autism spectrum. Christ’s examples and applicable Bible verses are woven throughout.

You can read the full review on my blog: https://lmckeeediting.blogspot.com/20...

Disclaimer: I received a complimentary copy as part of the BookLook Bloggers program, but I wasn’t required to leave a positive review.
35 reviews3 followers
April 10, 2017
Lauren takes what is offered to her and uses it for growth and extending understanding to her readers. Her journey of motherhood and finding internal strength isn't one she wants to bottle up. We're fortunate enough to get a sneak peek into the life and mind of a little wonder of a boy and the woman raising him. You'll walk away feeling blessed and touched after reading Lauren's new book and you might just share Mareto's opinion that "It's Okay About It" in your own world.
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