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184 pages, Hardcover
First published January 1, 1981
The insights of psychoanalysis are never taken for granted from one generation to the next. Each generation has to make the original discoveries afresh! You can’t just say that Freud discovered something and now it will be taught and transmitted as accepted knowledge, the way the findings of physics and biology and chemistry are transmitted. That doesn’t happen in psychoanalysis…And we have found out in psychoanalysis that in human development, too, there is a time that is uniquely formative—and the layman doesn’t know this. He can be told it a million times, he can read about it in so many books, he can even ‘believe’ it and he still doesn’t know it.
“Analysis isn’t intellectual. It isn’t moral. It isn’t educational. It’s an operation. It rearranges things inside the mind the way surgery rearranges things inside the body—even the way an automobile mechanic rearranges things under the hood of the car. It’s that impersonal and that radical. And the changes achieved are very small. We live our lives according to the repetition compulsion, and analysis can only go so far in freeing us from it. Analysis leaves the patient with more freedom of choice than he had before—but how much more? This much: Instead of going straight down the meridian, he will go five degrees, ten degrees—maybe fifteen degrees if you push very hard—to the left or right, but no more than that. I myself have changed less than some patients I’ve analyzed. Sometimes I get discouraged about myself. Sometimes I worry about myself.”
“I remember a seminar I once attended that was led by a brilliant and flamboyant Hungarian analyst named Robert Bak. The issue under debate was the nature of transference, and I raised my hand and asked rhetorically, ‘What would you call an interpersonal relationship where infantile wishes, and defenses against those wishes, get expressed in such a way that the persons within that relationship don’t see each other for what they objectively are but, rather, view each other in terms of their infantile needs and their infantile conflicts. What would you call that?’ And Bak looked over at me ironically and said ‘I’d call that life.’”