The Modern Lover: A Playbook for Suitors, Spouses & Ringless Carousers

by Phineas Mollod, Jason Tesauro

Having presented the definitive portrait of the enlightened male in THE MODERN GENTLEMAN, Phineas Mollod and Jason Tesauro explore affairs of the heart (and temptations of the loins) in this rollicking sequel. The authors begin by charting the life of the evolved bachelor, offering sage advice on such topics as “One-Night Stands,” “Demystifying the Flogger,” and “Webslinging” (dating online). Mollod and Tesauro next contemplate the transitional man's path from the “Me Cycle” to the “We Cycle.” Whether you are trying to convince close friends of the charms of your new love or testing the long arm of puritanical parents by “Living in Sin,” Mollod and Tesauro have a stiff drink and cool counsel at the ready. And for those modern bachelors who are getting hitched, the authors have copious advice on staging an unorthodox wedding with class, managing the financial merger, stoking the bedroom coals, and embarking on “Daddy Detox.” Packed with sharp wit and insightful commentary, THE MODERN LOVER is the definitive guide for guys negotiating the road from bachelor pad to bedroom fads to brand-new dad.This sequel to THE MODERN GENTLEMAN (40,000 copies sold) offers essential advice and instills savoir faire for avowed bachelors (rounding out the sexual resume; test-driving toys and tolerances), serial monogamists (balancing provocative friendships with at-home loyalties; avoiding the dreaded state of “P-Whipped”), and husbands-to-be (managing in-laws and outlaws; minding “Lights & Darks”).Mollod and Tesauro are monthly manners columnists for Men's Health magazine. Authors Mollod and Tesauro have championed manners “makeovers” on CNN and The Montel Williams Show.

Genres: Reference

320 pages, Paperback

First published October 1, 2004

About the author

Phineas Mollod uses his Vanderbilt law degree to counsel his wayward pals in divorces and landlord-tenant imbroglios and write about technology law in New York City.

Reviews

[Douglas Lord · Rating 5 out of 5]

Gentlemen, uncap your highlighters! With The Modern Lover, lawyer Mollod and marketing director Tesauro offer helpful advice for navigating basic romantic issues and beyond. Here you will find delightful mini-treatises on any conceivable topic that may pop up in a single or a married man's lifetime, from conjugal prison visits to scoring points by tidying up at home. As in their prior The Modern Gentleman, the authors discuss best practices in language both refined and outrageous. Though some advice (e.g., regarding creating a decent wine collection) is a bit too complex for all but the most dedicated adherent, this book recommends a reasoned approach to most everything and is a pleasure to read. Mollod and Tesauro together write a monthly column for Men's Health magazine.

Find reviews of books for men at Books for Dudes, Books for Dudes, the online reader's advisory column for men from Library Journal. Copyright Library Journal.

[Miss Lily · Rating 3 out of 5]

Catchy, quippable, clever. Trying too hard to be too clever? Possibly. Book written for men; purchased and read by me, who is not a man. Always good to know what the opponent's being counseled to do, think, and say. Drink recipies included, no measurements or proportions in the recipes-- very annoying!

[Sylvia]

i'd like to see what they tell you guys...

[Jennifer]

I knew Jason way back when... quite curious to hear how he's become an expert and what he'll espouse.