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The Education of Will: A Mutual Memoir of a Woman and Her Dog
In this powerful, soul-searching memoir, beautifully written in the vein of A Pack of Two and Wild , animal behaviorist Dr. Patricia McConnell recounts for the first time the compelling story of her dark past, memories of which are triggered by a troubled dog named Will.
World-renowned as a source of science and soul, Patricia McConnell combines brilliant insights into canine behavior—gained from her work with aggressive and fearful dogs—with heartwarming stories of her own dogs and their life on the farm. Now, she reveals that it wasn’t just the dogs who had serious problems. For decades Dr. McConnell secretly grappled with her own guilt and fear, which were rooted in the harrowing traumas of her youth.
Patricia is forced to face her past by her love for a young Border Collie named Will, whose frequent, unpredictable outbreaks of fear and fury shake Patricia to her core. In order to save Will from this dangerous behavior, she must find her own will to heal, and along the way learn that will power by itself is not enough.
Interweaving enlightening stories of her clients’ dogs with tales of her deepening bond with Will, Patricia recounts her fight to reclaim her life. Hopeful and inspiring, the redemptive message of her journey is that, while trauma changes our brains and the past casts a long shadow, healing, for both people and dogs, is possible through hard work, compassion, and mutual devotion.
World-renowned as a source of science and soul, Patricia McConnell combines brilliant insights into canine behavior—gained from her work with aggressive and fearful dogs—with heartwarming stories of her own dogs and their life on the farm. Now, she reveals that it wasn’t just the dogs who had serious problems. For decades Dr. McConnell secretly grappled with her own guilt and fear, which were rooted in the harrowing traumas of her youth.
Patricia is forced to face her past by her love for a young Border Collie named Will, whose frequent, unpredictable outbreaks of fear and fury shake Patricia to her core. In order to save Will from this dangerous behavior, she must find her own will to heal, and along the way learn that will power by itself is not enough.
Interweaving enlightening stories of her clients’ dogs with tales of her deepening bond with Will, Patricia recounts her fight to reclaim her life. Hopeful and inspiring, the redemptive message of her journey is that, while trauma changes our brains and the past casts a long shadow, healing, for both people and dogs, is possible through hard work, compassion, and mutual devotion.
288 pages, Hardcover
First published January 1, 2017
About the author
Patricia B. McConnell
28 books542 followersPatricia McConnell, Ph.D., a Certified Applied Animal Behaviorist, (CAAB) has made a lifelong commitment to improving the relationship between people and animals. She is known worldwide as an expert on canine and feline behavior and dog training, and for her engaging and knowledgeable dog training books, DVDs and seminars. Patricia has seen clients for serious behavioral problems since 1988, and is an Adjunct Associate Professor in Zoology at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, teaching "The Biology and Philosophy of Human/Animal Relationships." For fourteen years she dispensed advice about behavior problems, and information about animal behavior research, on Wisconsin Public Radio's Calling All Pets, which was heard in over 90 cities around the country.
Patricia received her Ph.D. in Zoology in 1988 from the University of Wisconsin-Madison researching dog behavior and communication between professional trainers and working domestic animals.
Patricia received her Ph.D. in Zoology in 1988 from the University of Wisconsin-Madison researching dog behavior and communication between professional trainers and working domestic animals.
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July 5, 2017
3.5 Stars
This book was recommended to me by one of the aides in my Veterinarian’s office, she’d just finished reading it and suggested it as a memoir of an animal behaviorist whose own dog had developed some behavioral issues, and how moving this was. How their journey as animal behaviorist / dog owner and beloved / troubled dog, working together had brought them even closer together.
Having owned many dogs throughout my life, most have been very well behaved, some have been purebred, some have not, some have been rescued, and some have not. I wasn’t looking for behavior modification tips, but she made this sound interesting, so I got on the wait list at my library and waited.
This is well written, but it’s really less about dogs, raising them, loving them or any variation on that theme as it is about a basic understanding that problems, emotionally based troubling behaviors don’t just appear out of nowhere, absent of internal or external problems. This is true of people as well as dogs.
”That was when it hit me. Willie like I knew myself. I knew what it was like to fight the demons inside and still want so badly to be good. To be so fearful that the slightest noise blows you off the ground as if a bomb has gone off under your feet. I know what it was like to be happy and friendly on the outside and yet spend much of your life in fear.”
While this book is a memoir, it is less about her dog Will, than it is about the events that affected much of her adult life. Molestation as a child, repeatedly. Rape as an adult. Both of these are relayed somewhat in detail. It bears mentioning since this might be a trigger for some readers.
”As I worried, it occurred to me that Willie was acting like a dog with PTSD. Given my own symptoms, you’d think I would have figured it out sooner.”
As the years pass, she sees how the lessons she’s learned over the years in dealing with her own traumas have helped her perception and treatment of her dog’s problems, and perhaps, in turn, how owning a dog with problems has helped her to see her own issues, how they may have affected her relationship with her dogs, how her working on her issues helped her understand how to work with her dog, how to see her dog’s thoughts and feelings through his behavior.
”’Take one dog and call me in the morning’ is not a prescription you will ever hear from your doctor, but it would be a reasonable one. Healthy, happy dogs can be good for us. The research is clear: The mere presence of a dog can elevate your levels of oxytocin, the hormone that makes you feel all warm and melty toward someone you love. Oxytocin can also decrease feelings of fear and anxiety. Shock and trauma are not just theoretical concepts; they affect your entire body, and they not only compromise brain function, they actually change the size of the areas of your brain that mediate emotion. Stroking a dog, or even just looking at one, can increase your levels of oxytocin and can be as therapeutic as taking a drug.”
The writing remained a bit detached for a memoir, but given the trauma involved I can understand that it would be difficult to write out, but it is worth noting. I didn’t love this, but I can’t say it is without merit for someone else.
This book was recommended to me by one of the aides in my Veterinarian’s office, she’d just finished reading it and suggested it as a memoir of an animal behaviorist whose own dog had developed some behavioral issues, and how moving this was. How their journey as animal behaviorist / dog owner and beloved / troubled dog, working together had brought them even closer together.
Having owned many dogs throughout my life, most have been very well behaved, some have been purebred, some have not, some have been rescued, and some have not. I wasn’t looking for behavior modification tips, but she made this sound interesting, so I got on the wait list at my library and waited.
This is well written, but it’s really less about dogs, raising them, loving them or any variation on that theme as it is about a basic understanding that problems, emotionally based troubling behaviors don’t just appear out of nowhere, absent of internal or external problems. This is true of people as well as dogs.
”That was when it hit me. Willie like I knew myself. I knew what it was like to fight the demons inside and still want so badly to be good. To be so fearful that the slightest noise blows you off the ground as if a bomb has gone off under your feet. I know what it was like to be happy and friendly on the outside and yet spend much of your life in fear.”
While this book is a memoir, it is less about her dog Will, than it is about the events that affected much of her adult life. Molestation as a child, repeatedly. Rape as an adult. Both of these are relayed somewhat in detail. It bears mentioning since this might be a trigger for some readers.
”As I worried, it occurred to me that Willie was acting like a dog with PTSD. Given my own symptoms, you’d think I would have figured it out sooner.”
As the years pass, she sees how the lessons she’s learned over the years in dealing with her own traumas have helped her perception and treatment of her dog’s problems, and perhaps, in turn, how owning a dog with problems has helped her to see her own issues, how they may have affected her relationship with her dogs, how her working on her issues helped her understand how to work with her dog, how to see her dog’s thoughts and feelings through his behavior.
”’Take one dog and call me in the morning’ is not a prescription you will ever hear from your doctor, but it would be a reasonable one. Healthy, happy dogs can be good for us. The research is clear: The mere presence of a dog can elevate your levels of oxytocin, the hormone that makes you feel all warm and melty toward someone you love. Oxytocin can also decrease feelings of fear and anxiety. Shock and trauma are not just theoretical concepts; they affect your entire body, and they not only compromise brain function, they actually change the size of the areas of your brain that mediate emotion. Stroking a dog, or even just looking at one, can increase your levels of oxytocin and can be as therapeutic as taking a drug.”
The writing remained a bit detached for a memoir, but given the trauma involved I can understand that it would be difficult to write out, but it is worth noting. I didn’t love this, but I can’t say it is without merit for someone else.
March 6, 2017
Patricia McConnell is a fantastic writer about troubled doggies and the relationships and practices that help them. Unfortunately this - a venture into a more literary memoir - falls flat on a number of fronts. Most seriously, her straightforward, scientifically-informed style, which works so well in a non-fiction dog training book, does not translate to material that is personal. McConnell's attempts to be literary result in too-frequent and hackneyed similes and endless descriptions of landscapes and birdsong. But what really matters is treated so matter-of-factly that the drama and power of it is lost. It's too bad because the nugget at the heart of the story is fascinating and important. The idea of equating and exploring the experience and influence of trauma in and on a dog and his human could have provided useful and riveting insights.
March 20, 2017
so so much of value here: recounts the author's practical steps to healing deeply buried wounds to her psyche and spirit. she is intelligent, candid, wise, sweet, human...and pretty funny.
couldn't stop thinking of the saying I read from Jon Katz (who was quoting someone else): "if you want a better dog, be a better human being."
couldn't stop thinking of the saying I read from Jon Katz (who was quoting someone else): "if you want a better dog, be a better human being."
March 2, 2017
I love Trisha McConnell and I know this must have been so difficult to write. But I didn't LOVE it. There was a lot of repetition and there was something missing; some depth she didn't dare go into. And I don't blame her.
February 28, 2017
This book was WONDERFUL. Patricia McConnell is one of my very favorite writers, but it has been a long time since I've read one of her books. I'd forgotten how enthralling her writing was, as I absolutely could not put this book down (I read it in less than 24 hours). Though most of her books are about dogs and the people who love them, this book is primarily about Patricia's own life in parallel with the life of one of her current dogs, Willie. I literally both laughed and cried throughout. There is some very heavy material in this book that I had NO idea about when I started. However, she never gets totally bogged down in the very traumatic and difficult topics she addresses. There is always a ray of hope in her words.
April 25, 2020
An imperfectly perfect memoir about a woman and her dog, The Education of Will is a testament to the 15,000 year old bond between humans and dogs. Patricia McConnell and Will give each other impetus and courage to face their traumas and fears. Together, they make mistakes, fail, try again, succeed, heal and thrive.
As an aside, a friend of mine knew Patricia McConnell.
I stayed at her farm a couple times and helped care for her dogs and sheep. I have some photos from our visits, including a shot of me with Luke, Will's uncle.
Luke was pure magic.
The dog is woman's best friend. Men can have diamonds.
As an aside, a friend of mine knew Patricia McConnell.
I stayed at her farm a couple times and helped care for her dogs and sheep. I have some photos from our visits, including a shot of me with Luke, Will's uncle.
Luke was pure magic.
The dog is woman's best friend. Men can have diamonds.
April 23, 2017
If you have an aggressive dog, you may have heard of Patricia McConnell. For decades, she has written and taught about animal behavior. She is known as a scientist writing about dog training and as a consultant on behavior problems. Her new memoir, The Education of Will: A Mutual Memoir of a Woman and Her Dog, reveals a more private story about her world and one special dog. She shares her wisdom gained from self-discovery and recovery from personal traumas that have haunted her since childhood. Even if you aren't a dog lover, you may find opportunity to grow as you read and listen with your heart. This is a great book about herding dogs—and hurt.
"Take one dog and call me in the morning.", Patricia McConnell writes, knowing the soothing effect that many feel in the company of dogs. Unfortunately, to heal some of the deepest wounds of self, the work is a little more difficult. I found myself "leaning into the sharp points" of this tale, right along with the author.
One of McConnell's main reasons for telling this story is that through talking about what happened, she faced deeply-rooted fears and learned to cope better. Through listening to other women's stories, she eventually developed self-compassion. "After I realized that part of my resistance was the need to hang on to a familiar narrative, I could feel a shift inside, subtle but discernible, like the soft change in light just before the sky begins to glow at dawn," she writes.
In dog training, the term "trigger stacking" refers to the effect of multiple factors building up and setting off a reaction. Facing the "demons within" was the first step in her recovery. For much too long, she says, "I willed myself to forget."
She pays homage to nature's gift to heal wounded human souls in the portrait that she paints of her beloved Wisconsin farm. She embraces the duality and acknowledges that farm life isn't always easy, but nature is a great teacher about life, death, transformations.
Patricia McConnell's artful intertwining of her story with Will's story allowed for plenty of juxtaposition of darkness and light, fear and love. She learns resilience from her dog. "Dogs have a silent voice that is easy to hear, but most people don't know how to listen."
Patricia McConnell offers a memoir as medicine, with the potential to help many women work through their own issues. As her contemporary, I related to the family dynamics she described of the 1950's and 60's and her relationship with her father. I found myself sharing wise quotes with friends young and old, who, also late in life, are unraveling a life of hidden traumatic events.
"Lesson learned: I will never finish dealing with trauma," McConnell writes. "But when I take the risks necessary to face it, I get better and better at it."
by Martha Meacham
for Story Circle Book Reviews
reviewing books by, for, and about women
"Take one dog and call me in the morning.", Patricia McConnell writes, knowing the soothing effect that many feel in the company of dogs. Unfortunately, to heal some of the deepest wounds of self, the work is a little more difficult. I found myself "leaning into the sharp points" of this tale, right along with the author.
One of McConnell's main reasons for telling this story is that through talking about what happened, she faced deeply-rooted fears and learned to cope better. Through listening to other women's stories, she eventually developed self-compassion. "After I realized that part of my resistance was the need to hang on to a familiar narrative, I could feel a shift inside, subtle but discernible, like the soft change in light just before the sky begins to glow at dawn," she writes.
In dog training, the term "trigger stacking" refers to the effect of multiple factors building up and setting off a reaction. Facing the "demons within" was the first step in her recovery. For much too long, she says, "I willed myself to forget."
She pays homage to nature's gift to heal wounded human souls in the portrait that she paints of her beloved Wisconsin farm. She embraces the duality and acknowledges that farm life isn't always easy, but nature is a great teacher about life, death, transformations.
Yet as brutal as living with the land can be, I wouldn't trade my connection to it for anything. Sometimes I think I owe my life to it. It might seem strange to talk about the healing force of nature, and how it has helped me specifically, by telling the sad story of the effects of a drought. But it is not just beautiful flowers and awe-inspiring vistas that do a body good.
Patricia McConnell's artful intertwining of her story with Will's story allowed for plenty of juxtaposition of darkness and light, fear and love. She learns resilience from her dog. "Dogs have a silent voice that is easy to hear, but most people don't know how to listen."
Whatever happens to you during and after a trauma doesn't disappear as if it never happened. It just gets easier to deal with, if you know how to face it. Stuff comes up—it will always come up—and you have to look it in the eye and back it down, like a dog standing nose to nose with a ram. But you can do that if you've done the work beforehand, if you have a good support system, and most importantly, if you have the faith that what you need is inside you. You just have to take the risk to find it.
Patricia McConnell offers a memoir as medicine, with the potential to help many women work through their own issues. As her contemporary, I related to the family dynamics she described of the 1950's and 60's and her relationship with her father. I found myself sharing wise quotes with friends young and old, who, also late in life, are unraveling a life of hidden traumatic events.
"Lesson learned: I will never finish dealing with trauma," McConnell writes. "But when I take the risks necessary to face it, I get better and better at it."
by Martha Meacham
for Story Circle Book Reviews
reviewing books by, for, and about women
June 5, 2018
3.5 stars Trigger warnings: Trauma . Also, if you are concerned about what happens to Will, the main dog in this memoir, open this spoiler: .
This is a hard book to review. McConnell revealed very personal stories, including ones which could negatively impact her professional career as a dog behaviorist. It is brave, honest, raw, and validating. We need more books like this where people honestly discuss their trauma and the process they took to recover.
On the other hand, there's a lot less details about her recovery than I expected. When McConnell first discusses it, it seemed like there would be as much detail about the process as she gives about working with dogs. There are some times where this is true. But there are other times, especially when she gets to dealing with her shame that she glosses over and generalizes.
The biggest problem I had with this book is that her story was not chronological in order to fit the chronological story of Will's recovery. It was hard at times to get straight what happened when and this is a problem because of the importance of understanding her story to better understand her recovery.
I found this to be a strong book that could have benefited from a few more drafts to get a better chonology and more details about her recovery. I think it is an important book and one I do recommend to all readers, but if you have a trauma history, do check out the trigger warnings first (you have to be on the website to open them). This book has the potential to be very triggering. I hope this book is one many people will read.
This is a hard book to review. McConnell revealed very personal stories, including ones which could negatively impact her professional career as a dog behaviorist. It is brave, honest, raw, and validating. We need more books like this where people honestly discuss their trauma and the process they took to recover.
On the other hand, there's a lot less details about her recovery than I expected. When McConnell first discusses it, it seemed like there would be as much detail about the process as she gives about working with dogs. There are some times where this is true. But there are other times, especially when she gets to dealing with her shame that she glosses over and generalizes.
The biggest problem I had with this book is that her story was not chronological in order to fit the chronological story of Will's recovery. It was hard at times to get straight what happened when and this is a problem because of the importance of understanding her story to better understand her recovery.
I found this to be a strong book that could have benefited from a few more drafts to get a better chonology and more details about her recovery. I think it is an important book and one I do recommend to all readers, but if you have a trauma history, do check out the trigger warnings first (you have to be on the website to open them). This book has the potential to be very triggering. I hope this book is one many people will read.
March 28, 2017
Patricia and Will helped each other find peace in an often scary world. Her efforts to help Will to cope with his scary version of the world felt super human. Just the number of recuperation would have worn me totally out. I see how the author tried to mesh their anxiety and recoveries, but it often didn't work for me. Her personal stories of trauma were often repetitive with no added depth. Her life as a pet therapist was often disjointed with no clear message. I loved learning about border collies as sheep herders and could clearly picture those sections. One of my pet peeves was the writer's attempt to add figurative language. The attempts were amateurish, inconsistent and jarring.
A dog friend suggested this book to me. I knew the author was going to be in the area at a dog training facility so I put it at the top of my list. In addition to promoting her book, she charged a $50 entrance fee. Unusual, in my experience with author visits.
A dog friend suggested this book to me. I knew the author was going to be in the area at a dog training facility so I put it at the top of my list. In addition to promoting her book, she charged a $50 entrance fee. Unusual, in my experience with author visits.
March 3, 2017
McConnell made me laugh and cry. what a powerful memoir and a perfect intertwining of two stories into one.
May 25, 2021
3.5 stars rounded up because of the vulnerability in this memoir.
Okay, future Magen, don't reread this. It's incredibly triggering and while it's validating, it's not as helpful as you want it to be in terms of learning skills to help Toru.
Okay, future Magen, don't reread this. It's incredibly triggering and while it's validating, it's not as helpful as you want it to be in terms of learning skills to help Toru.
May 17, 2019
I didn't know much about this author, but a woman who was writing her memoir that included the journey of a dog, count me in! She had a lot of traumatic things happen to her in her lifetime, but at the end you take that and turn it into life experiences and become more relatable to humans and dogs alike. Being a dog person, and while not owning Border Collies, but having seen them work, and owning herding breeds my whole life, I loved that aspect. She stated she wasn't going to go too in depth of dog stuff, which I would have loved if she had, but I get it, you can't get it all in there. She has a PhD in animal behavior and worked for years with troublesome, fearful and aggressive dogs, and that is not easy. To work with an animal that can't tell you why it's doing that or what is wrong, is quite a career choice in itself, but to take her own experiences and learn years later that dogs suffer trauma and to learn to deal with it while teaching the dog to do the same is profound to me. I have one dog that can be reactive, and one dog that can be high strung, but when they are working they are so happy and focused, and to get to a state of my dog really gets it and I get it, we are a team, we move together, we trust each other, is great. Not all amazing dogs can walk around the neighborhood and ignore other dogs, they can't, if there was one thing I took away from this book, it was that. My one Aussie is almost 11, I take out treats and work on his ability to not bark at the hair dryer. He's good, he's got this, he is my partner. Kudos to the author for putting her traumatic experiences out there. Dogs are healers, and yes, they provide a companionship that you can't find anywhere else.
March 24, 2020
This is a book for animal lovers like myself, especially if you like dogs. Right from the start I connected with the gentle, intelligent way the narrator spoke about dogs. But the book is much more than simply a narration of different relationships between humans and dogs and how humans easily fail to understand the subtle signs of canine language, fascinating by itself though. This is a personal story about overcoming trauma, explained so convincing and well, that it made me understand a whole lot more of post traumatic stress syndrome and the way out of it, based on confronting the trauma and re-wiring the brain. The book has a hopeful message, it is possible to acquire peace of mind and feel happy and at ease again with the little things of life, even after horrendous experiences.
February 19, 2020
I give it five stars for the story she is willing to share. The writing is fair. What is beautiful to me is that a troubled dog triggered her memories of traumas and the buried emotions that manifested as irrational fears, fantasies, and reactions. That compelled her to see a therapist and begin her journey toward healing.
We don't get to know what made Will behave aggressively. He was lucky to meet someone who was willing to work with him. And she was lucky to have met a dog that goosed her into confronting some issues of her own.
We don't get to know what made Will behave aggressively. He was lucky to meet someone who was willing to work with him. And she was lucky to have met a dog that goosed her into confronting some issues of her own.
July 25, 2026
I was curious about McConnell's history after reading Away to Me, her novel that came out earlier this year. So much of what I knew about her from her nonfiction books was poured into her main character, it made me wonder what other aspects were from the author's life. I didn't even know she had a memoir until I started poking around. Turns out, her exes weren't anything like her character's ex (a good thing), but she did have a series of pretty horrible things happen to her, which I was sad to read.
This book tells two connected stories: the story of a beloved Border Collie who gave her one trial after another, who took years to train so he could safely meet other dogs and not jump out of his skin whenever there was a loud noise; and the story of her life, focusing on past trauma and how she recognized she needed to seek help to heal. The dog's fear and constant startling triggered the same reactions in McConnell, and she came to recognize what was happening was a result of PTSD from being molested as a teen, witnessing someone fall to his death, and being raped as an adult.
It's a tough read, but it was well worth it. She writes beautifully. Her love for animals and the Wisconsin countryside shines in every chapter, and it was interesting to read how she applied her knowledge of animal behavior to humans who are suffering. I wish I had read it on kindle. I would have highlighted a lot. I would have highlighted this:
A big takeaway for me was the reminder of how deep other humans' stories go, and how unknowable they are. It's easy to see someone like Patricia McConnell--a successful author, brilliant behaviorist, a voice on public radio--as someone who has it all together and not even imagine the insecurities and pain underneath. I know it in my head, but I forget to remember it--everyone has more going on than I know. It's a reminder to be gentle with my fellow humans.
This book tells two connected stories: the story of a beloved Border Collie who gave her one trial after another, who took years to train so he could safely meet other dogs and not jump out of his skin whenever there was a loud noise; and the story of her life, focusing on past trauma and how she recognized she needed to seek help to heal. The dog's fear and constant startling triggered the same reactions in McConnell, and she came to recognize what was happening was a result of PTSD from being molested as a teen, witnessing someone fall to his death, and being raped as an adult.
It's a tough read, but it was well worth it. She writes beautifully. Her love for animals and the Wisconsin countryside shines in every chapter, and it was interesting to read how she applied her knowledge of animal behavior to humans who are suffering. I wish I had read it on kindle. I would have highlighted a lot. I would have highlighted this:
But logic isn't always relevant when talking about a brain changed by trauma. What is logical is that once they learn to expect the worst, traumatized brains can be set off by a wide range of triggers. Part of healing is figuring out what they are.
A big takeaway for me was the reminder of how deep other humans' stories go, and how unknowable they are. It's easy to see someone like Patricia McConnell--a successful author, brilliant behaviorist, a voice on public radio--as someone who has it all together and not even imagine the insecurities and pain underneath. I know it in my head, but I forget to remember it--everyone has more going on than I know. It's a reminder to be gentle with my fellow humans.
April 20, 2024
This was a deeply personal memoir by McConnell that was as much about herself as it was about dogs. I’ve read several of her books by now and always value her insights on animal behavior. This book examined trauma and PTSD and her fearful reactive Border Collie Will. It felt less focused than some of her other work and that’s likely to do with the subject matter, this is the kind of stuff that brings up messy feelings
CWs: rape, sexual assault, disordered eating, sexism
CWs: rape, sexual assault, disordered eating, sexism
July 3, 2017
This book touches some difficult topics and I appreciate the author's vulnerability and honesty. I enjoy reading books about dogs and dog obedience and this book contains elements of that as well. But there is something - unenthusiastic? - about the writing style.
July 1, 2017
"No matter what the cause, he behaved as though he had been psychologically traumatized. My heart broke for him every time he exploded off the carpet, startling to the quietest of sounds. The only problem was, I did, too. No wonder we were soul mates."
June 25, 2017
Bio McConnell Patricia. The author has published many dog training books. This, however, is a personal memoir of her life, understanding how her effort to train her dog , freed as well. Her childhood abuse ..
May 28, 2017
So it took me a bit to get into this one. An older woman living on a Wisconsin farm and full lots of lots anxiety is not something I can relate to. The story is drawn out and repetitive so it seems like a long love letter to the author's country life and the sounds and smells of it. As the story went on though and you realize that her anxious new border collie is bringing up her many hidden traumas that are causing her own anxieties. She has witnessed a horrible accidental a teenager, been molested by her sister's old boyfriend as a teenager, and endured a very horrific date rape (which has particularly haunted me long after reading it--I hate that she and so many other women have had these experiences). The author has a PhD and is a trained dog behaviorist who works on problematic dog behaviors. Much like her consultation with pets, she starts looking into her own behaviors and what might be driving her own behavior. Through much personal work, nature, and the help of her dogs, she learns how to take better care of herself. As a side note, I was exhausted reading about all of her own dogs' issues and can't believe how much she has had to go through. I feel like most people would have given all her dogs away they sound like so much work even for an expert like her. I know no dog is perfect and sometimes a dog is not a good fit for a home and needs rehoming or unfortunately being put down of dangerous. I appreciated her look into the complex world of our pets that have both the pros and cons. Makes you look at your own pet with more understanding and compassion.
May 31, 2017
Patricia McConnell is one of my favorite dog writers, she's a brilliant behaviorist whose columns and books I've been reading since I first came into dogs as a teenager in the mid/late 90s. Her writing has always connected me to the heart of what I love about building family with, and working with dogs. To read her memoir of trama interlaced with her work with a special needs/ behaviorally challenged dog? pretty much everything I could want in a book like this.
As a fellow trauma survivor, and guardian of a reactive/trauma surviving dog whose healing alongside my own I felt a lot of kinship to this book and the intertwining of interspecies healing and growth. I am a better person for the work that I have done as a result of being brought together with a challenging dog. Our own natural trauma responses closely aligned, the joy that has come from working together to build new responses. this is such a great read. i checked this one out from the library but i probably should buy a copy.
As a fellow trauma survivor, and guardian of a reactive/trauma surviving dog whose healing alongside my own I felt a lot of kinship to this book and the intertwining of interspecies healing and growth. I am a better person for the work that I have done as a result of being brought together with a challenging dog. Our own natural trauma responses closely aligned, the joy that has come from working together to build new responses. this is such a great read. i checked this one out from the library but i probably should buy a copy.
March 13, 2017
I've known of Patricia McConnell for years, though haven't read as much of her books as I probably should, and bought this one when I went to see her on the book tour at Third Place Books. Her talk was inspiring and engaging, despite the difficult subject matters at hand, and I wish I could see her give more talks in person especially on some of the deeper behavioral subjects that are her expertise.
This book is a memoir, not a scientific or training discussion, and it is valuable in its own right for exactly that reason. Patricia's story of bringing home Will, a border collie boy who turned out to have severe behavioral problems, intertwines with her own history and brings her previous traumas back to the present where she has to deal with them and heal at last. These aren't pretty, and not everything is in the book, but they include rape and molestation, in clear detail that conveys the horror and trauma of living through those experiences and their aftermath for years or decades. As Patricia faces the trauma that she'd hidden for so long, she gains the tools and confidence to work through them and to talk about them, and starts applying what she's learning to helping young Will become the dog he's capable of becoming as well.
Her writing is a joy to read, making me laugh out loud and surreptitiously cry at the lunch table at work, with eloquent turns of phrase and ways to get her point across clearly and memorably. There is still not enough discussion of rape, not enough help for survivors, and too much blame placed on the victims, and this book is a step towards improving that situation. There is also not enough discussion of trauma and brain issues in dogs, with most people blaming dog behavior on the owner or some nebulous "he was abused" comment about the dog's past, and this book lays out why that needs to change and some ideas for where to go from here.
This is a really important book for many people to read, especially women and dog trainers. I think pretty much everyone should read a book like this one at least once, just to see why rape is such a big deal and how it can traumatize a person for life. I'd keep this book in the hands of mature teenagers and above, because the specific topics might be too much for younger or more sensitive teens and children, but keep it for them when they are ready.
This book is a memoir, not a scientific or training discussion, and it is valuable in its own right for exactly that reason. Patricia's story of bringing home Will, a border collie boy who turned out to have severe behavioral problems, intertwines with her own history and brings her previous traumas back to the present where she has to deal with them and heal at last. These aren't pretty, and not everything is in the book, but they include rape and molestation, in clear detail that conveys the horror and trauma of living through those experiences and their aftermath for years or decades. As Patricia faces the trauma that she'd hidden for so long, she gains the tools and confidence to work through them and to talk about them, and starts applying what she's learning to helping young Will become the dog he's capable of becoming as well.
Her writing is a joy to read, making me laugh out loud and surreptitiously cry at the lunch table at work, with eloquent turns of phrase and ways to get her point across clearly and memorably. There is still not enough discussion of rape, not enough help for survivors, and too much blame placed on the victims, and this book is a step towards improving that situation. There is also not enough discussion of trauma and brain issues in dogs, with most people blaming dog behavior on the owner or some nebulous "he was abused" comment about the dog's past, and this book lays out why that needs to change and some ideas for where to go from here.
This is a really important book for many people to read, especially women and dog trainers. I think pretty much everyone should read a book like this one at least once, just to see why rape is such a big deal and how it can traumatize a person for life. I'd keep this book in the hands of mature teenagers and above, because the specific topics might be too much for younger or more sensitive teens and children, but keep it for them when they are ready.
March 19, 2018
I briefly met Dr McConnel at Third Place Books in Lake Forest Park, WA and had a book plate signed. Her book, The Other Side of The Leash, had been instrumental in my journey to understand our foster dog Zach who was fearful/reactive to strangers and other dogs. We never knew exactly why he is the way he is, and reading about her experience with Willie made me aware that sometimes all we may never will know why he is the way he is. Patience, training/conditioning and understanding is all we can do to help our dogs through life, hoping we are doing good by them.
Patricia intercalates her own aha moments as she realized Will's struggles reflected her own. Her fears and traumas resonated with me, as my own reactions to Zach opened old wounds. She opens up about very private and devastating aspects of her life in the hopes that other people can benefit from her healing process; topics like rape and PTSD come up throughout the story and are used in parallel with the storytelling to illustrate that we can all survive and overcome our shame, anger or fears with lots of self love and understanding. If you liked her previous books this one is not going to disappoint.
Disclaimer: It is not a "how to diagnose your dog and fix them" story. She is very candid and gets very personal about traumatic events in her life that may trigger self reflection or bad memories. Approach the book with an open mind.
Patricia intercalates her own aha moments as she realized Will's struggles reflected her own. Her fears and traumas resonated with me, as my own reactions to Zach opened old wounds. She opens up about very private and devastating aspects of her life in the hopes that other people can benefit from her healing process; topics like rape and PTSD come up throughout the story and are used in parallel with the storytelling to illustrate that we can all survive and overcome our shame, anger or fears with lots of self love and understanding. If you liked her previous books this one is not going to disappoint.
Disclaimer: It is not a "how to diagnose your dog and fix them" story. She is very candid and gets very personal about traumatic events in her life that may trigger self reflection or bad memories. Approach the book with an open mind.
April 2, 2017
This was a great book. Patricia McConnell is a great writer, pure and simple. I listened to it on Audible and had no complaints about the reader, either. I found Will's story pretty interesting. I never knew that obsessive sniffing in a place where other dogs had been was predictive of anything when done by a puppy, but now I know it is. I was a little shocked by the extent to which this dog messed up her life. All the trouble she went to trying to make as much improvement as she could with the little genetic potential she had to work with! And what a terrible effect it had on her! I have to wonder, though, if her over-the-top emotional reactions to his behaviors didn't somehow bring those behaviors out. (She wondered that too, which makes me like her more for daring to ask that question.) My dog is dog-reactive, has been since she was about 4 months old, but I would never dream of taking the time to organize my life around what would or would not risk making Frieda worse. We go where I need to go, and if she growls at some dog, oh well. She doesn't get to pick which puppy lives with us; I do. Good for Patricia McConnell, I guess?
Anyway, a great dog book that practically any dog lover would enjoy, and she even managed to make the personal, non-dog-related parts of her memoir interesting.
Anyway, a great dog book that practically any dog lover would enjoy, and she even managed to make the personal, non-dog-related parts of her memoir interesting.
March 15, 2017
Patricia McConnell has given her heart and soul to help owners travel hard journeys with their troubled dogs through the years and give them a chance for a good life. She, however, also taught puppy classes in which she made clear the owners were the ones she was training, not the dogs. And what wonderful training it was.
Now Tricia with the help of her dog, Will, has bared her heart and soul and delved into the difficult areas of her past life that she needed to take ownership of. She shares the very hard journey she took to arrive at a semblance of peace with the past. As Will was enabling, challenging and supporting her, Patricia was assisting him in his own journey to a better, more enjoyable and peaceful life.
Patricia then opened up and gave those who read her book the gift of sharing with, and indeed training, others who might need to take the same hard journey. I think we all should ask Tricia to give Will a scratch behind the ears for his role in presenting us with another life training tool.
Now Tricia with the help of her dog, Will, has bared her heart and soul and delved into the difficult areas of her past life that she needed to take ownership of. She shares the very hard journey she took to arrive at a semblance of peace with the past. As Will was enabling, challenging and supporting her, Patricia was assisting him in his own journey to a better, more enjoyable and peaceful life.
Patricia then opened up and gave those who read her book the gift of sharing with, and indeed training, others who might need to take the same hard journey. I think we all should ask Tricia to give Will a scratch behind the ears for his role in presenting us with another life training tool.
July 8, 2018
I would have liked to rate this book a 3.5 because I have enormous regard for memoir authors, a genre that requires both courage and skill. McConnell demonstrates both in a book that, though not for everyone, is important for those she was writing for.
This is a book about facing trauma and dealing with it. McConnell is able to share her experiences and discoveries of her abuse and terror through her expertise as a canine behavorist with a special dog of her own who suffers and demonstrates, as she observes, the effects of trauma that she identifies with.
For readers who have their own unaccounted weights to bear from personal trauma, this book is important as it draws a link to PTSD. We don't get over trauma, we learn to understand its effects and how to deal with it. For that insight alone, this book brings that all important help so often seemingly out of reach.
This is a book about facing trauma and dealing with it. McConnell is able to share her experiences and discoveries of her abuse and terror through her expertise as a canine behavorist with a special dog of her own who suffers and demonstrates, as she observes, the effects of trauma that she identifies with.
For readers who have their own unaccounted weights to bear from personal trauma, this book is important as it draws a link to PTSD. We don't get over trauma, we learn to understand its effects and how to deal with it. For that insight alone, this book brings that all important help so often seemingly out of reach.
March 8, 2019
I wish this book had been marketed with a clearer trigger warning, as I was looking forward to learning more about training dogs---a light, educational and well-written read similar to the author's earlier books. Instead it was a very personal journal addressing deeply painful wounds, with Willie being the catalyst who flipped the switch on a deeply traumatic past. This is not the author's fault: the cute little b.c. face on the cover and book description by the publishers gave almost no warning that this book deals with graphic violence and sexual abuse and PTSD information interspersed between lighter moments with the dogs. Well-written, but I felt I had been lured into something far more traumatic than I expected, and found it very painful to read.
March 6, 2017
I had asked Patricia McConnell to be the 20th annual Book Club Cafe author (in Madison, WI) before the publication of The Education of Will, and now that I have read the book I know I made the right decision. McConnell has written many books about dogs (she is a professional animal behaviorist), but this is a book that is as much about what it is to be human as it is about pet lovers' canine companions. Written with honesty and compassion, The Education of Will is a book that is hard to put down. And I'm now confident that those lucky enough to be at the May 10, 2017 Book Club Cafe are in for a real treat.
November 22, 2019
This is an amazing story of resilience and survival. A very personal memoir by a courageous woman (who I already admired as a PhD canine behaviorist) learns to face her traumas and heal as she helps her dog to do the same (and vice versa).
Putting this here so I will remember it:
"The resistance that was dragging me back from what was good for me was this: If I am no longer the woman whose life is scripted by a series of traumas, then who am I? What would be my story now?"
Putting this here so I will remember it:
"The resistance that was dragging me back from what was good for me was this: If I am no longer the woman whose life is scripted by a series of traumas, then who am I? What would be my story now?"
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