A true story written by a BBC reporter trying - in any way possible - to draw attention to something the lucky only care about if it inconveniences them: huge numbers of our fellow humans currently* dying in desperate, dangerous, flailing attempts to reach livable situations, habitable countries.
This Normal Italian Optician goes for a sail with his wife and 6 others at the end of the summer. Sweet.
Not when the gulls crying aren’t gulls but hundreds of drowning Eritreans - less than a km off the coast of his home. They manage to save 47 people, all but one of them males. The remaining almost 300 people died.
For this man, his wife and 6 friends, what had been an abstraction - perhaps even a bother - suddenly became the most intense human moments of their lives.
He lived acute human misery in the eyes, held it in his hands, felt the desperation of life lost and barely saved against his chest, the burning tears that never stop. And because his heart was open, he was changed.
What would the world be like if folks could “get it” without developing PTSD (which of course he and his wife and friends did)?
Prior to this day:
“He had always been a man who had been confident about where he was going, a man sure of himself and his decisions.”
I have always thought of this as the Invictus conceit of the Euro/US white man. My father (who I adore/d) had a severe case of this.
“I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul”
Yeah, maybe, a little, if you are rich and powerful, you can pretend that.
But it is a delusion only allowed those cis white men, womb lottery winners, who believe that they are in control, in direct contradistinction to the fact that the earth is a speck of random matter crashing through space only held in tenuous orbit by the physical pull of a star that will die as assuredly as we will.
News flash Big Guys: whether taken down by the shift of a tectonic plate or the change in a viral nucleoid, you will be outta here: Zuck, Bezos, Bloomberg - Trump, Boris J - you could stop the pain. See below.
The Optician “...he’d...had his own moments of pain, but he had had no idea that such profound depths of sorrow existed. He could never imagine feeling such an acute sadness again.”
Later (that day?) the police diver found the body of a young woman wedged into the prow of the ship, clutching a bundle of rags. When the rags were pulled from her, the cloth had fallen away to reveal a tiny baby boy, still attached to his mother by the umbilical cord.
And the Optician, realizing his naiveté, thought “there would always be greater sorrow, deeper and more unfathomable than any of us could ever imagine.”
Beautifully written. And true. But that sorrow does not need to be so inevitably wide and huge and deep and endlessly long and spread across continents and peoples who were never to blame.
There are those who have the power and the resources to make it so much better, or in some cases even make it stop. No cages for children on the southern border of the USA? Easy peasy!
“The myopic world was a softer one”
What a ripping line for an optician!
Selective Myopia.
Isn’t that why so many people in wealthy countries, imagining themselves (ourselves) worthy of comfortable lives, choose to ignore the majority of the world who live and die in struggle and discomfort?
But, really, who wants to look farther than they need to? I mean beyond the closest Dunkin Donuts? Perhaps that’s why MediCare & MediCaid don’t provide vision coverage.
(I am particularly snarky today. If Bernie doesn't win, i may snark myself into oblivion.)
A misanthropically myopic character the Optician must serve in his clinic / shop is an Italian pissed about the “migrants” effect on business: Not our problem. What’s it got to do with us?
“What have any of these people got to do with us?”
It becomes so much harder to tolerate the hateful once you know. Once the Optician knows. Once he had held "these people" to his chest. After he has cried without end with "these people" about all of our lost babies.
“It was just that sometimes he wished that his head could be still again, the way it had been before they took the boat trip.”
Before he knew.
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*(Today, 2 March 2020, Greek soldiers killed two migrants and wounded a third, to prevent their entry - and a child died when an overstuffed boat overturned trying to reach a Greek island.)