If We're Together, Why Do I Feel So Alone?: How to Build Intimacy With an Emotionally Unavailable Partner

by Laurence Bouvard (Narrator)

Living with an emotionally absent partner can be overwhelming. Constantly overcoming the silent distance can leave you with the sense that the give-and-take in your relationship has disappeared. But even the most broken relationship can be reinvigorated. In helping real-world couples achieve a fulfilling future, Harvard University clinical psychologist Dr. Holly Parker has developed a program filled with practical exercises and powerful advice for individuals on both sides of an emotionally damaged relationship. With patience, empathy, and willpower, Dr. Parker's program can help you restore balance and peace of mind, and turn your damaged partnership back into a rewarding and joyful bond.

Genres: Relationships, Nonfiction, Self Help

Audio CD

First published March 3, 2015

About the author

Laurence Bouvard (born in Wellesley, Massachusetts, United States) is an American voice actress.
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A Phi Beta Kappa graduate of Harvard University, Laurence Bouvard trained at LAMDA and made her professional debut creating the role of Maria Elena Holly in the original cast of the West End musical, Buddy. Since then she has appeared in a variety of leading roles in Britain, including Cathy in Wuthering Heights, Persephone in Stravinsky's Persephone with BBC Symphony Orchestra, and Roxane in the French version of Cyrano de Bergerac. Her film and television credits include The Flying Camel, The Tomorrow People (Nickelodeon), and Eastenders (BBC). An experienced voice artist, Laurence has recorded over fifty audiobooks to date, with other recent audio work including Jo in Little Women (BBC R4), Joanna Dark in Perfect Dark Zero (Microsoft Xbox360), and the voice of Nico in the Dolmio ad campaign. Laurence voices both Lola and the title role of Robotboy in the international hit cartoon series Robotboy for Cartoon Network.

Laurence has been selected for 2016 BAFTA Crew, a program that recognizes rising talent in the Film/TV/Games industry.
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Reviews

[Anne-Marie · Rating 3 out of 5]

I understand the premise bc emotionally limited people are dysfunctional-but I am sooo tired of it being the more emotionally available partner who has to do all the work. If I had a daughter, I would make her read this.

[Lynda · Rating 4 out of 5]

An interesting book that goes beyond putting people in "boxes" to finding new ways of communication, identifying possible triggers and issues and caring for yourself while experiencing relationship problems.

[Marlene Major · Rating 5 out of 5]

“If We’re Together, Why Do I Feel So Alone,” by Holly Parker, Ph.D., provides a beautiful description of how unconscious motivations, historical influences and real time relational dynamics play out in your current relationship. While this book is geared toward women, as a clinical psychologist I also recommend it to individuals who do not identify as female since the types of distancing is universal to all genders. Parker’s humor, insight and warmth accompany the reader in sometimes uncomfortable self-discovery as well as a deeper understanding of your partner. The great strength of this book is how Parker systematically lays the groundwork for the reader to see their relationship more clearly and gently walks the reader through a series of metaphorical decision trees, allowing the reader to weigh the pros and cons of their relationship with more insight, compassion for self and other, and tools to help with decision making around the relationship.

This book is a must read for anyone in a relationship. For the reader in a well connected, loving relationship, the evidence based insights will only improve communication and connection, paving the way for a richer, more joyful union.

[Kathy Heare Watts · Rating 5 out of 5]

I won a copy of this book during a Goodreads giveaway. I am under no obligation to leave a review or rating and do so voluntarily. So that others may also enjoy this book, I am paying it forward by donating it a local library.

[Christine · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is great and has provided me a lot of useful information. Holly's great and her book is beyond worthwhile if you need some guidance if you are in a strained relationship.

[Michelle]

Parker's grasp of unequal partnerships offers readers a program as well as advise, for a one-sided load.