这样跟孩子定规矩，孩子最不会抵触

by George M. Kapalka (Translator)

《这样跟孩子定规矩,孩子最不会抵触》内容简介：说好了不买零食，一进商店他就攥着糖果、玩具不松手；讲好了只玩10分钟就回家，到时间后他偏闹着再玩一会儿；定好了写作业的时间，可他总要拖到临睡时才哭着说作业还没做……跟孩子定的规矩，总被孩子轻易推翻！
其实，这是因为孩子对规矩有抵触情绪！聪明妈妈懂得用正确的方法跟孩子定规矩，让孩子快快乐乐照着做：
1，给孩子定的规矩要简单、具体，只需一个动作就可以完成，比如“把床铺好”“地面无垃圾”“衣服都放在衣柜里”等，而不是“把房间收拾好”。
2，和孩子说话时，不要用问句，而要以尊重的态度、坚定的口吻直接告诉他应该怎么做，如“请马上把玩具收起来”，而不是“可以把玩具收起来吗？”，否则孩子会从字面意思理解成“玩具可收可不收”，并用一个“不”字一口拒绝你。
3，在孩子面前，要注意控制自己的情绪：你越冷静，孩子就越服帖、越乐意遵守规矩。
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只要掌握跟孩子定规矩的法则，孩子就完全照着你说的去做！懂得听从他人的正确指导，是塑造孩子完美性格的重要基础，也是使孩子迈上成功之路的关键！

134 pages, Kindle Edition

First published March 1, 2007

Reviews

[madziar · Rating 3 out of 5]

"Niegrzeczne dzieci. 9 kroków do posłuszeństwa" to program przygotowany przez polskiego psychologa klinicznego, pracującego w Stanach, oparty na calożyciowej pracy z dzieckiem - od prostych poleceń dla kilkuletniego malucha aż po bardziej skomplikowane strategie, oparte na starannie wybranych składowych z psychologicznej metody zawierania kontraktu behawioralnego.

[Monett · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was very easy to read--not too much clinical "stuff" where you had to read between the lines to get what you need from the book. Divided up into short chapters with "checklists" at the end. Very simple strategies that are easy to implement.

[Missy · Rating 2 out of 5]

Nice approach to kids, out of control or not. Gives you a glimpse into how a child hears us and tells us parents to slow down, tone down and breathe. Steps work, but you have to do the steps in order, don't skip any or the kids will look at you like "eh?"

[Maria Serafini · Rating 2 out of 5]

la prima parte è interessante, ma poi si trasforma in un sistema di "promesse", punteggi, "ricompense" che a mio parere è poco attuabile nella vita reale, oltre che rischia di insegnare al bambino che ha senso fare le cose solo se c'è qualcosa in cambio...

[Travis]

Chapters I have looked at so far have been very informative.

[Andrea · Rating 3 out of 5]

Practical advice, easy to follow steps.