Successful Women Speak Differently: 9 Habits That Build Confidence, Courage, and Influence

by Valorie Burton

MP3 CD Format Stop Underestimating Yourself.You are capable of far more than you know.The most successful women are often not the most talented, the most gifted, or even the most experienced. What these women have is a knack for communicating that opens doors and gives them influence. Gleaning from powerful research, bestselling author and life strategist Valorie Burton unearths practical insights you can put to work in your life immediately. Scientific studies are proving what the ancient wisdom of Scripture has shown all The power of life and death lies in the very words you speak. Let Valorie teach you how to… ·recognize the nuances in speech that can mean the difference between success and failure ·increase your influence by changing what you think and say in critical moments ·speak accurately about yourself so you don’t sabotage your most meaningful goals ·boost your confidence by making simple tweaks to your everyday speechYour words are powerful tools. It’s time to use them to build the life you really want.

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Business, Leadership, Professional Development, Personal Development

Audio CD

Published November 1, 2016

About the author

I am a bestselling author, speaker, and life coach dedicated to helping people like you get unstuck and be unstoppable in every area of life.

I founded The Coaching and Positive Psychology (CaPP) Institute and have served as a Certified Personal and Executive Coach to hundreds of clients in over 40 states and ten countries.

For more than a decade, I have had the pleasure of writing, speaking, and coaching in order to help people like you:

- Make major life changes
- Be happier and have more fun
- Become strong leaders
- Achieve professional dreams
- Navigate setbacks
- Speak up with confidence
- Feel at peace with decisions
- Conquer emotions that can cause self-sabotage

Let me help you get unstuck and be unstoppable!

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Reviews

[Maureen · Rating 5 out of 5]

In 2014 and 2016, Valorie Burton spoke at the Jamberry National/International Conference and I thoroughly enjoyed her presentations. Since then, I had wanted to read one of her books and finally purchased this one on a whim at the grocery store not long ago. Sometimes, I sense that motivational speakers are trying to simply strike an emotional chord to get a reaction from their audience, but Valorie Burton is all real. She offers practical and solid advice with a healthy amount of hope and optimism in her presentations, and in her writing. The most prominent theme I picked up on in this book is that we do ourselves a favor when we address our fears and other intense emotions in the moment, rather than fighting and ignoring them. I appreciated that in addition to discussing the pragmatics of speaking, Burton addressed the mechanics of speaking. I will be saving this book and adding it to my speech-language pathology collection for that reason, because I could see myself using her work to, for example, help a higher grade level student who speech and/or language services prepare for a class presentation. This book is not simply about public speaking. It is about how we speak in ALL situations. Her writing addresses gossip and flattery, email and text communications, social media presence, as well as conversations with friends, bosses, and employees. One gem of wisdom Burton consistently offers, that I resonates strongly with me, is that it is good to guard our vision/goals, sharing them only with people we trust to support us. Burton offers the definition of success to be "a harmony of purpose, resilience, and joy," and I couldn't agree more.

[Debbie Bell · Rating 5 out of 5]

A Must Read

I gave this book a 5 Star because I honestly have never read a book, and it take as long as it did to read it (over 3 months), that transformed my life after reading every passage! I am not exaggerating. I would read a portion; forget what I have read; go on doing life; weeks later, I would remember the book; open it up to review where I left off; and find that exactly what was written took place in the weeks prior and I followed the advice to the T. The information was being planted directly into my subconscious!

I began to realize that there is something very special about this book. I began to read more often — looking forward to what I’d learned and lived out. And it remained so up until the very last word in the very last chapter.

I have to say it again: There is something very special about this book. I’m so glad I took a leap of faith and purchased it and remained faithful to read it to the end. Many chains were broken. Many barriers bulldozed. And the result was softened soil, allowing seeds to be planted (in the subconscious) which took root immediately. I thank God for his faithfulness, and choosing Ms. Burton for this divine favor. Well done, His faithful servant. Well done.

[LG Reska · Rating 2 out of 5]

Perhaps it's because I was a communications major, but A LOT in this book is obvious. Burton is long winded about basic concepts (like what body language is) yet also keeps content superficial. Too many stories of others or herself rather than deeper, useful strategies. I liked "Successful Women Think Differently" but this book was one I just wanted to hurry up and finish. And it didn't address at all many of the nuances women face when speaking simply because they are women. At the end of the book, Burton shares a personal, unfortunate story about a doctor's office visit, and she describes her female doctor, writing "She was attractive and appeared to be very knowledgeable." I'm sorry (not sorry), but what does it matter what her female doctor looked like? Given the topic of the book, I was a little offended at such an ignorant statement.

[Lindsay · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a book I will be recommending to women looking to get ahead in their career, and those who are early in their leadership journey. For some who've been in leadership for a while, you may not find anything new here, but there are good reminders and some tips. Additionally, there are clear and actionable steps for those who are not familiar with some of the presented concepts. For example, how to come across more confident, help with priorities, etc. I've read a lot of books to help enhance my skills, help me support my team, and mentor others. Some books come across as dry, or are too redundant, but this one is an easy read. I will add that there are a few references to bible scripture, so may not be well received for those who are turned off by that, or are not Christian.

[Naoko Ichiishi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Powerful!

I’m a woman with a career and this is a very powerful book. I work in a man-dominant work environment and once I had a fear of judgement and couldn’t speak my mind. Since I read this book, I’m inspired and be able to speak up during a meeting. When I’m authentic and sincere, there would be no judgement and there were even someone else further backed me up supportively. I tend to be a people pleaser and this book realized me that it’s okay not to be liked for becoming a successful woman...how? You can only find out by yourself. I would recommend it to anyone.

[Delores · Rating 4 out of 5]

Picked up this book while attending a conference for work and read it on the plane trip home. I appreciated the honest and authentic approach of the author. She offers valid strategies and encourages the reader with thought provoking questions at the end of each chapter. There are some references to scriptures but they do not overpower the main messages of the book. I will definitely look into other books by this author.

[Shelly · Rating 5 out of 5]

A great book, that should probably be on a list titled "Read Once a Year" as the information is so relevant that we should be reminded of it from time to time. I highly recommend ALL WOMEN read this book.

[Tiffany · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really enjoyed this. Great advice on ways to improve oneself not only in the business aspect but in life in general. I read this during a busy time in my life, I'd like to read it again when I have more time to really reflect and implement the things she spoke about.

[Barb Sager · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great book

I really enjoyed this book, some new ideas, some a good reminder. I am glad I read it. This is maybe one to read annually until you make improvements. The only reason I have it 4 stars was the religious aspect. Not over the top, but not necessary either.

[Ashley · Rating 5 out of 5]

Valorie breaks down these 9 Habits specifically and I love how she explains through stories. Majority of the stories placed into this are through her personal experience which allows me to really connect on a greater level.

[Ayesha · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is an amazing read. Touches all the main aspects around strengthing your communication skills but overall, being more intentional in your life to align with your purpose and vision. I love the faith integration, it spoke directly to my heart.

[Alyssa · Rating 5 out of 5]

Valorie Burton did an amazing job with this book.
She breaks the 9 habits down very well and i love that she uses
real life women to give you realistic examples on how to be successful.
Great Read!

[Sabrina Taylor · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very practical and good adice. I loved every bit of this book.

[Keshia Rollins-Contreras · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was an awesome book with some great tools for habits that build confidence, courage and influence! A great book!

[Kyra Watkin · Rating 5 out of 5]

Not what I expected, literal advice, with great examples behind why the advice is important.

[Danielle O'Neill · Rating 5 out of 5]

Must read for all women who feel their life could use improvement in one area or another.

[Simone Francois-Whittier · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent!

[Ivalina · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some very good advice on the power of our speech as business and academic women in modern society.

[Maritza · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent book!!! I will reread this book and keep for reference..

[Yisel Covarrubias · Rating 5 out of 5]

Phenomenal book! A true life-changer.

[Marie-Sharrane]

Thus is a great book to remind you that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you (Phillipians 4:13)! Have faith and work hard!

[Mariana Cătălina · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good insights!

[St. Andrea · Rating 5 out of 5]

Love this book so much. It's like having an intimate executive coaching session. It's exactly what I needed.

[Marlee Dukek · Rating 5 out of 5]

Love this book! It was recommended to me by a friend and there were a lot of really useful and powerful messages. Lots of great information and perspectives for young women leaders!

[La'Nisha Walker-Hyde · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book changed my life! I present myself different.

[Manli Davis · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good advice!

[Shauna · Rating 3 out of 5]

Wasn't a bad book. Great self coaching points

[Lisa · Rating 5 out of 5]

I picked up this book with the thought that it would be empowering for my career, which it was. What I did not expect was the pleasant surprise of the sage and empowering advice for women in relationships with friends, lovers, and family. I find it easier to stand up for myself professionally than personally, so this was a good inspiration and reminder that I can assert myself when needed in all environments. I would consider this book a must read for all women...there is really a good takeaway no matter where you are coming from.

[Carol Muleta · Rating 5 out of 5]

I found this book to be insightful and empowering. Women need to be reminded that they matter not only to others, but to themselves. Many times we are harder on ourselves than others would be. This tendency leaves us open to slights, insults, and injustice from those who do indeed mean us harm. This book encourages women to speak their truths and to act on their truths, confidently, clearly, and in spite of, fear. I highly recommend this book for women who want to find their voice and for women who want to refine their voice. That covers just about all of us. Yes?

[Bet LaPointe · Rating 5 out of 5]

Habit 2: "What You Say Without Saying a Word" is a chapter I'll need to review more than once this year. It's full of things I teach my kids, but also some new things I need to implement for myself.
Habit 4 was my favorite: Build Trust Through Respect. There was so much meat in that chapter.
This is definitely a re-read for me.