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Roles: The Secret to Family, Business, and Social Success
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137 pages, Kindle Edition
Published August 6, 2016
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About the author
Nicholeen Peck
31 books20 followersNicholeen Peck is a mother of four and previous foster parent of many. She has been trained and certified in using the “Teaching Family Model”, which was developed at Boys Town and is used by the Utah Youth Village. Nicholeen did foster care for very difficult teens. She taught children with ADHD, OCD, kleptomania, compulsive lying, anger control issues, etc. She said, “I taught behaviors, not medication. They would come to us on many medications and usually leave not on any medications. Many children are misdiagnosed. They just need to learn cause and effect better.” She has been teaching self government skills to people all over the country for 9 years.
from http://teachingselfgovernment.com/
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March 2, 2022
Very interesting and useful to read. About a family that learns roles throughout their neighbor. At first the kids are very spoiled and annoying to read about but it's amazing how they all change, especially the teenager, Jasmine.
May 6, 2021
"Roles: The Secret to Family, Business, and Social Success" by Nicholeen Peck is a fictitious story based off of her lessons on how to live life by knowing one’s roles. It’s a little hokey, I suppose one could say, but it certainly gets the points across that she wanted to make—specifically, that family life especially, but other areas too, can be happier and healthier when everyone knows, accepts, and lives according to the roles they have. Peck distinguishes between roles and responsibilities in those roles, as they can easily get confused.
Much of the book is a conversation between the Sages, an elderly couple who shared the wisdom of roles, and the Justices, the parents of four children, who were completely clueless as to why their family was so dysfunctional. They had tried everything they knew and were about resigned to the thought that things would not get better.
As the story progresses and the Justice parents implement all the tools and wisdom of the Sages that they have learned over the weeks, their family is completely turned around. It certainly sounds a bit “Leave it to Beaver,” but Peck warns of the difficulties and the struggles that will surely come from implementing such changes. The second to last chapter gets a bit preachy and feels a little forced (like when a doctor on a television show explains what a medical term means to other medical personnel even though they ought to know it already, but explains it so the audience at home can understand).
Within the story, she plugs her other book, "Parenting: A House United" a couple of times. I am currently reading that one as well. However, "Roles" was certainly a good place to start as it summarizes Parenting and prepares the mind for a book that is about three times as thick. It gives the basis for what to expect and steps to move forward with one’s own family as the parents begin their journey to grow into the warm, loving family they wish they were.
If this review was based on the lessons alone, I’d give it a five-star rating. However, since I feel obligated to also rate the corniness of some of the conversations (but again, it was these corny conversations that clearly expressed Peck’s views), I bring it down to a four-star rating. Definitely worth the read.
Much of the book is a conversation between the Sages, an elderly couple who shared the wisdom of roles, and the Justices, the parents of four children, who were completely clueless as to why their family was so dysfunctional. They had tried everything they knew and were about resigned to the thought that things would not get better.
As the story progresses and the Justice parents implement all the tools and wisdom of the Sages that they have learned over the weeks, their family is completely turned around. It certainly sounds a bit “Leave it to Beaver,” but Peck warns of the difficulties and the struggles that will surely come from implementing such changes. The second to last chapter gets a bit preachy and feels a little forced (like when a doctor on a television show explains what a medical term means to other medical personnel even though they ought to know it already, but explains it so the audience at home can understand).
Within the story, she plugs her other book, "Parenting: A House United" a couple of times. I am currently reading that one as well. However, "Roles" was certainly a good place to start as it summarizes Parenting and prepares the mind for a book that is about three times as thick. It gives the basis for what to expect and steps to move forward with one’s own family as the parents begin their journey to grow into the warm, loving family they wish they were.
If this review was based on the lessons alone, I’d give it a five-star rating. However, since I feel obligated to also rate the corniness of some of the conversations (but again, it was these corny conversations that clearly expressed Peck’s views), I bring it down to a four-star rating. Definitely worth the read.
September 13, 2023
Chapter 9 on the importance of self-government was my favorite. It's all about the choices we make as individuals!
June 2, 2017
The principles laid out in the book are excellent! I felt like the book fell a little short on practical implication of the principles. I also own A House United, and I'm glad I purchased it because Roles felt like an introduction to A House United. It just fell a little short for me as a stand-alone guide for parenting, although I did appreciate the principles discussed, and I look forward to reading A House United.
November 28, 2016
Love the principles taught, and the realistic family struggle to change. It was great to hear the advice laid out in a step by step way
February 10, 2024
3.75✨rating. This book are rather unique in trying to show through story how the Justice family made changes so they could be happier with each other. It talked about the importance of knowing each others’ roles within the family and how it can help improve a person’s own identity within their world and with the family as well. The story started out interesting with how they were trying to problem solve but the dialogue occasionally got wordy and the ending seemed rushed with a plug for the reader to purchase her more in depth book to read next.
I think that there were parts that the book presented well and other that were a little rough in the execution. I’m hoping to read her next book though so I can learn about her self-government concept within a family.
I think that there were parts that the book presented well and other that were a little rough in the execution. I’m hoping to read her next book though so I can learn about her self-government concept within a family.
November 24, 2020
A Great Shake-Wake up Call for Families
Wow! What a great story for what we may be taking for granted. Things we assume we know but when assessed, our lives and families may show that we aren’t fully teaching roles to our children and fully filling them ourselves. And all the feelings we have in our role readjusting and giving consequences. I also own TSG the book and in order to read that I wanted to fully understand roles in my home. I find that I as a wife sometimes take on the role of my husband even going further to place him In a child’s role. Thank Nicholeen. Impactful!
Wow! What a great story for what we may be taking for granted. Things we assume we know but when assessed, our lives and families may show that we aren’t fully teaching roles to our children and fully filling them ourselves. And all the feelings we have in our role readjusting and giving consequences. I also own TSG the book and in order to read that I wanted to fully understand roles in my home. I find that I as a wife sometimes take on the role of my husband even going further to place him In a child’s role. Thank Nicholeen. Impactful!
December 29, 2021
Addresses what is becoming an increasing problem in society. Consistent with The Family Proclamation. Those who do not live their proper role in family life continue, endlessly, to search for something that will make them happy in life, and often blame their own spouse or society for their own unhappiness, for their unfulfilled life, for their repression. But the very pattern for happiness in family life was established by God millennia ago and lived by Adam and Eve. What it takes is humility and reverence for God's quiet and constant pattern, unsullied by the cunning and noisy philosophies of society.
August 9, 2018
Roles tells a story of a fictional family that learns about and implements Teaching Self Government to change their family culture. Nicholeen effectively demonstrates the power and liberation of understanding the proper roles within the family through the story of the Justice family. We read this book as a family and it was a great way for all of us to understand our roles as parents and children and why they are important. Highly recommend!
January 1, 2025
I am a little hesitant to give this 5 stars because it felt unnecessarily long-winded. I would rather have the concept explained to me than drawn-out and illustrated by the story and details of a fictional family like this book does. But the story is extremely relatable with my own family and makes me anxious to start “Parenting a House United” which should dig deeper into the solutions we really desperately need.
October 25, 2016
This was a wonderful book. I was expecting a fiction book, and then found that it was actually told in story format, which was a great way to teach the principles. Nicholeen really understands true principles of change, and explains them well here. Loved it, read it in one sitting (albeit I must disclose I was on an airplane which helped a lot.)
April 15, 2021
Parenting hope
I've read a lot of parenting books, this one rings true and possible.
This is a narrative story about a fictional family which applies the principles found in Nicholeen Peck's book A House United, so it probably isn't necessary if you are on a tight budget, however, it still has good information and expands on things in the other book, so it is worth the money.
I've read a lot of parenting books, this one rings true and possible.
This is a narrative story about a fictional family which applies the principles found in Nicholeen Peck's book A House United, so it probably isn't necessary if you are on a tight budget, however, it still has good information and expands on things in the other book, so it is worth the money.
August 20, 2021
I had the opportunity to attend four of Nicholeen’s workshops at a recent homeschooling convention. I feel like her principles are just what we need in our family. As others have said, the storyline is a little hokey and a bit of a glorified introduction to her main book, but I’m still thankful that I purchased and read this book. I have a lot still to learn...
March 13, 2022
The first couple of chapters are filled with dysfunctional family dialogue to build up the lessons in the book. I understand why the author did this, but it’s not really my style. I appreciate the content and message of the book.
Roles sets up Nicholeen’s other book, A House United. Both good reads for families, but especially for those with children who have a trauma background.
Roles sets up Nicholeen’s other book, A House United. Both good reads for families, but especially for those with children who have a trauma background.
July 21, 2022
Vital information for families
This book was a much-needed wake up call for me as a husband and father. I’m a firm believer in the importance of roles and how they guide us in our relationships. Learn and love your role, and your life will be full of purpose, peace, and prosperity!
This book was a much-needed wake up call for me as a husband and father. I’m a firm believer in the importance of roles and how they guide us in our relationships. Learn and love your role, and your life will be full of purpose, peace, and prosperity!
August 7, 2023
Roles is a good follow-up to Nicholeen’s book, Parenting A House United, where she fleshes out more of her parenting philosophies and strategies. Roles is more of an applied story where characters utilize the skills that Nicholeen teaches, so this book can be a good introduction or follow-up to her original book, since it provides a sampling of parenting skills.
Interestingly, I enjoyed hearing Nicholeen’s story at the end of how she got to fostering troubled teens, ending up on BBC, and then providing international support to families as her life’s work. Wow!
“My goal is freedom. If we cannot find freedom in our homes, we will not find freedom in our societies. It starts in the home.”
Love this. 100%. The real work in societal change begins with the individual, self-governing, and then for homes to be stable and self-governing. This is the basis for a well-functioning, free society, and the proof is in Nicholeen’s work literally across the globe. Very inspiring for small changes to have ripple effects, and encouraging that no small task is unimportant.
Interestingly, I enjoyed hearing Nicholeen’s story at the end of how she got to fostering troubled teens, ending up on BBC, and then providing international support to families as her life’s work. Wow!
“My goal is freedom. If we cannot find freedom in our homes, we will not find freedom in our societies. It starts in the home.”
Love this. 100%. The real work in societal change begins with the individual, self-governing, and then for homes to be stable and self-governing. This is the basis for a well-functioning, free society, and the proof is in Nicholeen’s work literally across the globe. Very inspiring for small changes to have ripple effects, and encouraging that no small task is unimportant.
February 27, 2020
A reminder that before one can truly govern one's self, one needs to first deeply understand one's purpose.
As we better understand who we are and what our role is we can better help our loved ones.
As we better understand who we are and what our role is we can better help our loved ones.
January 3, 2020
Liked the principles behind it..not my favorite book or the only one that helps bring awareness to needing to identify roles in order to work together in relationships, but helpful and short.
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March 29, 2020AMAZING! I learned so much and came away with many ideas that I want to implement in my family.
September 1, 2020
Excellent book explaining the roles of family members.
February 12, 2021
This book really made me think about my family and where our roles are blurred. It reads as a story of a family's journey to discover their's and repair their family.
March 22, 2023
Not great literary merit, but really good parenting and family merit! I'd recommend it if you're curious about understanding family roles.
November 8, 2024
Great accompaniment to the other book about self-government. Tyson laughed when listening to the beginning and said it sounded just like our family.
January 23, 2019
Roles... clear roles.. fulfilled roles.. in the home specifically.. so important and foundational to change. This book is not as in depth as I expected Nicholeen Peck to be.. because she is often specific. Yet, it definitely is a good introduction to her.. principle.. and truth about making changes in families. Glad I read it.. not my favorite from this author.. but worth the time spent, to be sure.
January 31, 2017
Based on true principles
The premise of this book is true. Understanding our own roles and the roles of those around brings clarity and freedom. We have lost an understanding of those roles in our families, our communities, our workplaces, even in our churches. When we understand true roles based as God's truth, we can more accurately fulfill those roles.
The part of the book that I struggle with, is in the application of those principles. While true principles apply to everyone, the way we apply those principles can and should vary person to person, family to family, etc. This book suggests that there is only one way to apply the principle of roles, and that is to follow the prescribed methods outlined in the author's other book. Having studied that book as well, I find the same frustration. It's based on true principles, but describes only one method for application and presents that as the only method of success. I even tried her method, and found that it didn't work for my family. I blamed myself for not doing it "right" until I realized that the principles were true, but that I could apply those principles differently and successfully in my home.
I did gain some insight about clarifying roles, but I will counsel with my husband and God in how to apply that in my family. It will look different in my home.
The premise of this book is true. Understanding our own roles and the roles of those around brings clarity and freedom. We have lost an understanding of those roles in our families, our communities, our workplaces, even in our churches. When we understand true roles based as God's truth, we can more accurately fulfill those roles.
The part of the book that I struggle with, is in the application of those principles. While true principles apply to everyone, the way we apply those principles can and should vary person to person, family to family, etc. This book suggests that there is only one way to apply the principle of roles, and that is to follow the prescribed methods outlined in the author's other book. Having studied that book as well, I find the same frustration. It's based on true principles, but describes only one method for application and presents that as the only method of success. I even tried her method, and found that it didn't work for my family. I blamed myself for not doing it "right" until I realized that the principles were true, but that I could apply those principles differently and successfully in my home.
I did gain some insight about clarifying roles, but I will counsel with my husband and God in how to apply that in my family. It will look different in my home.
December 5, 2019
A fictional story about a family that implements the principles and method in Peck’s other book, Parenting: A House United. A little cheesy in parts, I wouldn’t call it great literature, but on par with other books I’ve read in the genre, like Leadership and Self- Deception or Sophie’s World. If you’re interested in Peck’s philosophy, I think it’s worth reading. We listened to it on audible and someone forgot to do some editing, there were several mistakes left in the recording. It did not disturb our enjoyment of the book.
October 21, 2016
This book is a game changer for those who want to see what it looks like to transform your family to the ideal. It's important to recognize that this book is meant to go with Nicholeen's book "Parenting A House United" but this book helps you understand how to actually implement what is taught in her other book in a fun way through this story of the Justice family. LOVE IT!
December 7, 2016
Roles are largely forgotten or misplaced in our families, schools, work places, and society. A good discussion. Also helps explain points and methods of Teaching Self Government. So needed for most people.
May 2, 2018
This is one of the the most amazing books I have read. It really clearly delineates our roles in the family and in society at large. It made me think a lot. It also helps us see why individual effort and the family unit is of the utmost importance in our society.
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