Iedereen heeft af en toe last van zelfafkeuring. Bijna allemaal hebben we gedachten als: ik ben niet goed genoeg, mooi genoeg of belangrijk genoeg. Zo worden we echter niet geboren, het wordt ons aangeleerd.
Het boek Het leven houdt van je zit vol inspirerende verhalen en krachtige meditaties, oefeningen en gebeden. Louise en Robert bieden je een praktische filosofie op basis van zeven stappen om jezelf te leren accepteren en om van jezelf te gaan houden.
'Het leven houdt van je' is een van Louise Hays geliefdste affirmaties. Het is de kerngedachte die haar leven en werk verwoordt. Samen met Robert Holden onderzoekt zij in dit boek wat 'het leven houdt van je' werkelijk betekent.
Louise Hay was born to a poor mother who married Hay's violent stepfather. When she was about five, she was raped by a neighbor. At fifteen she dropped out of high school without a diploma, became pregnant, and on her sixteenth birthday gave up her newborn baby girl for adoption.
She moved to Chicago, where she worked in menial jobs, before moving in 1950 to New York. At this point she changed her name and began a career as a fashion model. She was successful at this, working for Bill Blass, Oleg Cassini, and Pauline Trigere.
In 1954, she married Andrew Hay, but after fourteen years of marriage Louise was devastated when Andrew left her for another woman.
Hay said that she found the First Church of Religious Science on 48th Street, which taught the transformative power of thought. Hay revealed that here she studied the metaphysical works of authors like Florence Scovel Shinn and the Religious Science founder Ernest Holmes.
In the early 1970's Hay became a Religious Science practitioner. In this role she led people in spoken affirmations meant to cure their illnesses. She also became popular as a workshop leader.
She studied transcendental meditation with the Maharishi Mahesh Yogi at his university in Fairfield, Iowa.
In 1977 or 1978 she found she had cervical cancer, and she concluded that its cause was her unwillingness to let go of resentment over her childhood abuse and rape. She refused medical treatment, and began a regimen of forgiveness, therapy, reflexology, nutrition, and occasional enemas, and claims she rid herself of the cancer. She declared that there is no doctor left who can confirm this story, but swore that it is true.
In 1976 Hay wrote a small pamphlet, which came to be called "Heal Your Body." This pamphlet was enlarged and extended into her book You Can Heal Your Life, which was published in 1984. As of February 2008, it is still on the New York Times best sellers list.
Around the same time she began leading support groups for people living with H.I.V. or AIDS that she called Hay Rides. These grew from a few people in her living room to hundreds in a large hall in West Hollywood. Her work with AIDS patients drew fame and she was invited to appear on "The Oprah Winfrey Show" and "Donahue" in the same week in March, 1988.
You Can Heal Your Life immediately landed on the New York Times Best Sellers List. More than 35 million copies are now in print around the world in more than 30 languages and has been made into a movie.
Louise Hay established Hay House Publishing. It is the primary publisher of books and audio books by Deepak Chopra and Doreen Virtue, as well as many books by Wayne Dyer.
In addition to running her publishing company, Hay runs a charitable organization called Hay Foundation that was established in 1985.
I have only one chapter left to read and I'm sad - I don't want it to end. I'm really enjoying this book and the relationship between Robert and Louise. I must say I have read more than my share of both of their books so I was aware of both of them and their sense of style and who they are as writers etc - however - I didn't know how the collaboration would work (hint: it doesn't always work out well). From the get-go I saw that this book was a labor of love and ego was literally nowhere to be found - Robert is funny and knows much in his own right but still eager to learn, Louise is a fountain of knowledge and so childlike in her pure awe of life and the world and I adore how Robert shows us from time to time throughout the book something that Louise says and how him or someone in his family picks it up that great insight and runs with it.
Anyway, enough rambling from me, it's a great book, I almost wish it was a blog so it would go on for infinity - but I can always re-read it....and this is one that sticks in my heart, one story, already is sticking in my heart that it's a beautiful thing to carry with me - and I am so grateful for that.
Love to all. I'm also thankful for my bed (I find myself saying) Life loves you
p..s. Just read the last chapter - and I would say it's the best, most fulfilling, enriching, life lesson filled chapter I've read to date.
I was of course attracted to this book because I thought that the wonderful Louise Hay was at least one of the authors.
But I have to say that Louise Hay did not write this book. Robert Holden did. Louise and Robert did spend nine days together: all their conversations were recorded; they had regular calls on Skype. But Robert actually wrote the book.
Robert explains that the book explores your relationship with the world, whatever that really means. “It asks deep questions about the nature of reality.”
He declares: “Everything is part of everything. Each of us is part of a greater Unity, We have a relationship with the stars, with each other, with all of creation.”
The world is not just a physical place; it is also a state of mind.
Louise and Robert believe that the basic building block of creation is not the atom – it is love.
We are all an expression of this love. It is our true nature.
There are seven chapters, and each chapter ends with a spiritual practice. There are also a number of other exercises, which Robert exhorts us not to skip.
We are told about when Louise and Robert are having a festive lunch on Thanksgiving Day, how a little boy, Elliot, 18 months old keeps walking over to a large mirror and kisses his reflection.
Louise says we can all be like this child by doing mirror work, which helps us to love ourselves again.
When you love yourself, you see that life loves you too.
Louise taught Robert mirror work. It is a series of exercises you do in front of a mirror.
Robert tells us about his family – his wife, Hollie, his daughter, Bo, four years old, and his son Christopher, who is nearly six months old.
We hear about Louise’s childhood, when she was abused. We are also told about Robert’s childhood; his mother suffered from depression and his Dad had a drinking problem, and eventually left home and lived on the street.
The basic truth about everyone is “I am loveable”. Love is your true nature. The basic fear is “I am not loveable”.
When Louise kept on doing mirror work, little miracles began to occur, such as green lights and parking spots, when driving. She was in the rhythm of life. She was easier on herself and life was getting easier.
Louise taught Robert mirror work. It is a series of exercises you do in front of a mirror. These include meditations, affirmations, and inquiries that are featured in her Heal Your Life programme.
Robert calls the main concept behind mirror work “The Mirror Principle”.
The Mirror Principle teaches that your relationship with yourself is mirrored in your relationship with everyone and everything.
The Mirror Principle is the key to self-love and also to letting life love you.
“The less you love yourself, the harder you make it for others to love you. The more you love yourself, the more you recognize how loved you are.”
Robert quotes from A Course in Miracles: “Therefore, seek not to change the world but choose to change your mind about the world.”
The most difficult words for Louise to say were “I love you, Louise”. But she stuck with her mirror work and it transformed her life.
She tried a little exercise. She looked in the mirror and said “I am beautiful and everybody loves me”. At first she didn’t believe it, of course, but it soon felt easier. Wherever she went she said to herself “I am beautiful and everybody loves me”. Everyone became so kind to her.
The real purpose of mirror work is to stop judging yourself and see who you really are. You get to see beautiful YOU in full awareness, without judging, criticizing, or comparing.
Louise says “When you judge, you see flaws. When you love, you see your essence.”
Mirror work taught Louise to love herself. It accelerated her healing process when she had vaginal cancer.
When you are willing to love yourself more, every area of your life works out better.
“Love yourself as much as you can and all of life will mirror this back to you.”
We are given the first spiritual practice, for which we need a mirror. Sit comfortably. Look into the mirror. Inhale deeply. Say to yourself “Life loves you” or “Life loves me” and then exhale.
Notice your response. Repeat this ten times.
Note your sensations (body messages), feelings (heart thoughts) and thoughts (mental commentary).
Don’t try to be positive. Be honest.
“Life loves you” is about unconditional love.
After ten rounds of saying “Life loves you”, look in the mirror and say “I am willing to let life love me today”.
It’s important to take this mirror work lightly and be playful. Instead, it should be called “Mirror Play”.
Do this every day for seven consecutive days.
The real goal of this first spiritual practice is to help you align yourself with the basic truth “I am loveable”. When you feel loveable, you experience a world that loves you. Remember, the world is a mirror.
"When you let life love you, you feel loveable; and when you feel loveable, you let life love you.”
This is not about making yourself loveable, you already are loveble. It is not about imprroving yourself, it is about accepting yourself. It is not about changing yourself, it is about changing your mind about yourself.
Louise tells Robert “If you don’t know how to change your mind, you can’t change your experience. She says ”I don’t change anyone’s life. Only you can change your own life.”
The world isn’t against us. The truth is that we are all loveable and life loves us.
She says “You have to change your relationship to your mind” (I don’t really understand that) “by remembering that you are the thinker of your thoughts”.
We change our thoughts by making affirmations in front of the mirror.
Every thought you think and every word you say is an affirmation. The moment you say affirmations you are stepping out of the victim role.
Louise lived her affirmations. She didn’t just do ten minutes of affirmations in the morning and then got on with her day. She had affirmations placed around her home.
From what I have indicated so far, you will realize that this is a wonderful book. It is.
Remember, love is our true nature. Love is our soul’s purpose. We are here to choose love over fear. This is our gift to ourselves and to each other.
I didn't really like this book. I find if you go three pages back from the end of each chapter there are the exercises that you can do and affirmations you can make to act as a catalyst of change for your life. The rest of each chapter is seem to be filler content mostly composed of personal feel good stories that didn't necessarily coincide with all the lessons. I also see this book as an advertisement for other books by the same authors which might contain more information that one might be seeking rather than finding in this book. Not a good fit for me but I'm just one person.
Love, love, loved it. It is a feel good book. One that I will always pick up if I need to know I'm loved or love able or am having a rough day. Best life lesson - self help book I've read yet. I highly recommend it. Remember Life loves you.
i bought this book last week and didn’t know anything about the author Louise “may her soul rest in peace” has died in 2017 , i really admire her writings and i wish i could meet her soul one day, the book has helped me with my self image, i recommend it for teenagers with problems with self images.
This is my first book I read by Louis such a beautiful book it’s really opened my eyes on gratitude and forgiveness, I loved the practices in this book I’ve been practicing it while reading , if you want book that talk about healing and growth this is perfect pick.
"Din cauza fricii noastre, noi interpretăm iubirea ca pe un premiu pe care trebuie să îl câștigăm prin efort, să îl merităm și să îl obținem, dar numai dacă suntem demni de el. "
Para mi gusto, demasiada paja para abordar un tema, da mucha introducción o es demasiado detallado, si bien tiene uno que otro dato rescatable le dirá 1.5 estrellas.
Es el tercer libro que leo de esta autora. La verdad su optimismo me parece fuera de este mundo, sin duda su calma y amor se expresan en cada oración mencionada por el co-autor. Me encantaría ser como ella algún día jeje.
بدأت قراءته نهاية عام ٢٠١٩ وانهيته بداية عام ٢٠٢٠ واتوقع ان هذا التوقيت كان موفق فعلاً . تقييمي له ب ٥ لأنه بالنسبه لي جا بالوقت المناسب. الكتب اللي تجي بالوقت المناسب بالنسبه له اقيمها بخمسه لأنها تشعل شي بنفسي . او تخليني القى جوهري .
الحياه تحبك كتاب يوجهنا لحب انفسنا وكيف نمتن لكل صغيره بحياتنا قبل كل كبيره
I’m a big fan of Louise Hay. Her first book, You Can Heal Your Life, set me on a path towards self-love back in the 1980s. Not only has she brought upliftment to many through workshops and other books, she has supported other self-help authors by preparing and distributing their works through Hay House Publishing. Life Loves You is a collaboration with one such author, Robert Holden. While the principles are sound, there is nothing new for us old-timers. The book might appeal more to people just getting started with loving and accepting themselves, focusing on the positive, and taking responsibility for their responses to life’s events.
Some worthwhile highlights:
“The guilt story…begins inside us, then we project it onto the world…We use it to judge ourselves, criticize ourselves, and reject ourselves…From this…comes the superstition…the fear that God is judging you, the world isn’t safe, and life does not love you…ends only when the protagonist gives up unworthiness…[by] forgiveness.”
“All disease come from a state of nonforgiveness and that forgiveness can heal every guilt and every fear.” Louise’s forgiveness exercise provides a tool to overcome guilt and fear.
“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it…work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life.”
“Gratitude supports basic trust. Gratitude helps you suspend your judgment.”
“According to the Already Principle, you have already been given everything you need for your journey in this life. No matter which road you take, divine guidance will meet you there.”
“Often what’s missing in a situation is our ability to receive.”
“Love yourself now. Don’t wait until you’re ready.”
If these quotes resonate with you, and you’d like to learn more and step through the exercises, you’ll likely enjoy Life Loves You.
Honestly, it's got to be good for someone but itches too generic, too facile for me. If it were s piece of food is say it was a Granny Smith apple bought on the New Jersey turnpike: no taste, no smell, hard as a rock, but probably slightly more nutritious than a doughnut.
Listen, I'm a long-time fan of mirror work. In 2000, a boyfriend introduced it to me in when he showed me how affirmations work. This is what happened: he said, you say something you want to be true like, "I have a great memory for names" and he did. Then he said "You repeat it, but with intention. " and he did, and I could feel a "push" happening. And then you repeat it looking into a mirror. At the time we were in a car in Adams Morgan. He flipped down the rear view mirror, gazed deeply into his eyes, and pushed while saying, "I have a GREAT memory for names!"
No kidding: I saw stars around him when he said it. I know magic when I see it and that was pretty convincing.
Ever since then I've known how to make myself believe anything I want to believe, but Louise Hay was the first person who made me realize that sometimes there's preparation work to be done first. Sometimes you have to be "willing" to even state something you want. There's reluctance to a new idea, because an old idea about yourself is so comfortable and familiar. So you have to be willing to be willing.
While you gotta love the message, sometimes the messenger isn't right. I'm sure this book is perfect someone, just not me. Also, I really really disliked the self congratulatory tone of the author. He seemed like everything that is wrong with the self help movement: superficially educated, dropping the buzzwords, adequate writer to pen a book, but just barely. My two stars is generous.
The book is a bit boring but has a very positive tone, making it an ideal book to read right before going to sleep. It offers seven practices to « heal your life »:
1) Let life love you 2) 10 dots (affirmations to repeat throughout the day) 3) Affirmation board (aka vision board) 4) Forgiveness scale: very useful method to forgive by starting with forgiving only up to a specific percentage (On a scale of 0 to 100 percent, I forgive this person…) and then increasing it through meditation 5) Daily gratitude in front of mirror 6) Receiving journal (pretty much the same as previous practice, but through journaling) 7) Blessing the world
These practices are explained at the end of each chapter. Most of the practices are a series of affirmations, except for the vision board, which is a collage of images. You do each practice once a day for seven days.
I found some of the affirmations beautiful and useful, such as: I now accept and appreciate the abundant life the Universe offers me.
Also: Open your heart and trust love to take you where you need to go.
I was so excited to read Louise Hay. I have been subscribing to her website and receiving her inspirational quotes. This book was so disappointing to me. It was poorly written as a conversation between her and Robert Holden ... verbatim...it was too much. Every chapter is written the same way and becomes tedious. Such a disappointment. I’m not sure I will hunt down another Louise Hay book.
A practical guide with loads of examples of how to accept the greatest truth of the Universe: life loves you. If you are not familiar with Louise Hay's work, the Mirror Work and self-love teachings, this is a gentle way of breaking your self-image and developing new beliefs. A great tribute to the amazing life or Louise Hay by Robert Holden. If you don't have the time, you can also get the audiobook read by Robert Holden. This book really makes you think and create a mindset shift.
Life loves you! Yes it does. I’ve tried for myself, I’ve practiced everything that was displayed in this book and my life got better, I’ve become more trustworthy of myself. I really like Louise Hay, it’s not my first rodeo with her. I’ve searched her books in a time of despair and today in a time of healing. I really recommend it if you want a boost in confidence, peace or if you want to start loving yourself and you don’t know where to start.
Although there are two authors listed, I'm here for Louise - and she really does share some great nuggets in this book. In many ways the other author is more of an interviewer of Louise and that's fine by me - the conversational style works well and it's a really relaxing, cozy read. Probably my favourite Louise Hay book.
I enjoyed the positivity and guidance this book gave me. I like the suggestions of things to practice to love yourself and love life. I made the mistake of not bookmarking the seven projects to do. I kept reading. So, I need to go back and scroll through to find and practice the action items.
هذا الكتاب لا يخلو من حشو فارغ. وربما يمكن اختصاره إلى النصف. وتبدو معظم أفكاره شديدة البساطة والسطحية. لكنه أيضا الصوت الذي يقدم لي رسائل الدعم بأبسط لغة وبتكرار يناسب الروح المجهدة في الساعة الأخيرة من اليوم. إنه تذكرة بالأفكار البسيطة التي تُدفن تحت وطأة تعقيدات الحياة.
Este libro es muy acogedor, se siente como una taza de chocolate caliente en invierno. Después de leerlo te quedas con un mensaje muy positivo acerca de la vida. Este escrito en forma de charlas entre Louise y Robert, lo que lo hace muy ameno de leer, (aunque en algunos capítulos sentí que había un poco de relleno y me hubiera gustado que llegaran directamente a la información). Definitivamente el mensaje más poderoso que te llevas del libro es que "La vida te ama".
This book is very cozy, it feels like a cup of hot chocolate in winter. After reading it you have a very positive message about life. This writing in the form of talks between Louise and Robert, which makes it very enjoyable to read, (although in some chapters I felt that there was a bit of stuffing and I prefer to come directly to the information). Definitely the most powerful message you get from the book is that "Life loves you".
أسوأ ترجمة تخيلتها في حياتي بسببها تركت الكتاب وعدت للنسخة الانجليزية ليته لا يترجم مرة أخرى الكتاب متميز وبه وقفات كثيرة وهو رحلة طويلة مع النفس تحتاج مثابرة وتأكيد وعزيمة وتدريب لويز هاي تصف الحالة النفسية لشخص يعيش في سلام وثقة ورضا. هي تتحدث عن "ماذا تشعر" عندما تكون متناغمًا. بينما الإيمان في الإسلام يقدم الأساس العقدي والمنهج العملي الذي يؤدي إلى هذه الحالة النفسية وما هو أعظم منها. هو لا يصف الحالة فقط، بل يوضح بمن نؤمن (الله)، ولماذا نثق به (لأنه العليم الحكيم)، وكيف نصل إلى هذه الحالة (عبر العبادة والطاعة). يمكن اعتبار الكتاب بمثابة "علم نفس الإيمان" أو وصف للآثار النفسية الرائعة التي تتحقق بالإيمان الحقيقي في القلب ، لكن الإيمان في الإسلام هو المفهوم الأشمل والأعمق لأنه يربط هذه الحالة بمصدرها الحقيقي وهو الله سبحانه وتعالى. للأسف يجب التقدم في القراءة بحرص لوجود ما يتعارض مع ذلك فقد ربطت أشياء كثيرة ببوذا وأنه قادر على التغيير ومساعدة البشر وغير ذلك من أفكار تتعارض مع صحيح الإيمان. الفكرة صحيحة لكنها لا ترتبط إلا بالله تعالى الواحد الأحد لا إله إلا هو أنصح بدراسة الكتاب وأفكاره مع الحرص عند تلقي مفاهيم تؤثر على العقيدة
"Life Loves You: 7 Spiritual Practices to Heal Your Life" offers an insightful look into the transformative effects of self-love and positive thinking, making it a valuable read for anyone on a journey of personal growth and healing. The book provides a series of actionable steps and practices that encourage readers to explore the concept of loving oneself as a foundational element for achieving a fulfilling life. Its blend of practical advice and spiritual wisdom makes it an accessible resource for individuals at various stages of their personal development. It's definitely worth exploring to see how its teachings can be applied to your own life, offering a unique opportunity to experience the potential benefits of its principles firsthand.
I often get asked how long it takes for a person to change. Who knows. It is a very slow, intimate and individual process which solely depends on our resistances.
We all understand things on a cognitive level. We all understand our intellect and concepts. But concepts are landmines. That is why discussion about spirituality is barren with somebody who intellectually understands. Because it is not about understanding - it is about practice and patience.
It is all about personal belief system and choosing to allow yourself to perceive things differently.
I get it, you get it, we are all smart. Do you practice? No, but I understand. Yes, but do you practice? No.
That is the difference. Intellect doesn't count, and it often becomes the biggest burden. Because you try to convince yourself too hard that you want to believe fairy tales.
No progress in that - until, you choose to allow yourself to perceive things differently with daily practices that turn them into habits.
Life loves me is a very inspiring book. I recommend this book for everyone not just people who are having issues. I'm a big Dr Wayne Dyer fan sad he is gone thank you to Louise Hay that is words will carry on. I will do the exercises in the book and love the world
I recommend this book to everyone not just people who are going through difficult times in their lives. I am a big Dr Wayne Dyer fan and thanks to Louise Hay we can continue to receive his wisdom. I love life and life loves me.
Nice little book. First time reading something from Louis Hay, although I have heard about her. There are 2 writers in this book, the other one is Robert Holden, I had never heard about him before. I liked the affirmations and their positive message about LOVE in all of its possible manifestations but starting with your own. If we watch the news we know we all could use more love to each other. It also talks about healing and how we can heal ourselves if we set our mind to it. Sending love to you if you happen to read this review!
The style of the authors really didn't resonate with me. I think, however, that many of the principles in the book are sound. In addition to the stylistic disconnect, I was also disappointed at how much God and Christianity are discounted in the book. Not that Christianity is insulted in the book, it's not. It's more that God and religion are ignored in the discussions. There are a few mentions of religion, but it is mostly of Buddhism.