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Potukhshij vzgljad, nedovolstvo i neudovletvorennost – kak budto kto-to nazhal nevidimyj vykljuchatel. Lampochka est, no ne gorit. Redzhina Tomasauer sama byla takoj, poka ne otyskala istochnik sily, dostupnyj kazhdoj. Vot uzhe 25 let ona pomogaet zhenschinam raskryt svoju prirodu i razzhech vnutrennij ogon.Eta kniga – vasha dorozhnaja karta na puti k izlecheniju ran, uverennosti v sebe, uspekhu v ljubvi i umeniju poluchat udovolstvie ot seksa. Osoznajte sobstvennuju znachimost i sijajte segodnja i kazhdyj den.

282 pages, Kindle Edition

First published September 20, 2016

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390 reviews38 followers
November 20, 2016
It's really too bad .... This could have been a really good book. Unfortunately, there are just so many things wrong with it, that despite some really good content, I'm not entirely sure I'll make it to the end.

First, while trying so hard to convince the reader that they need to wholeheartedly fight/leave the status quo and join a female revolution, the author uses decidedly masculine and aggressive tactics to do so.

Second, hardly anything anywhere is all-or-nothing. Not every woman everywhere feels either incredible or a complete piece of garbage. Loads of us are on the flush side of mostly great already.

The whole thing is super affected. And I'm not just saying this because this is what she says of using the terminology Yoni to describe the entirety of the female genitalia - many of us who do knows that this also signifies its energetic and spiritual facets as well (unlike pussy). But really, coining the term "Great Pussy in the Sky" just so that you can use the acronym GPS?! I call that both ridiculous and pure marketing.

Loads of cultures, especially in Asia grant that there is a strong energetic power centred in the human pelvis. It is not unique to women's bodies, and it is one of three such centres in the body. Using different names does not make this power wholly female.
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1,605 reviews31 followers
September 14, 2017
Honestly, I accidentally misunderstood what this book was about going into it, but even still, once I found what it was actually about, it wasn't much better.
I assumed it would be a feminist read about reclaiming "pussy" and our bodies in society, but it's actually about the importance of loving yourself, your vagina, and your sex life. As I started to read it, I just assumed I wasn't the targeted audience, and that was why I wasn't enjoying it. But as I went further, it turns out, the author honestly sounds out of her mind.
If you're looking for a book that guides you into loving yourself and your sexuality, I don't suggest starting here. There are plenty of books out there that handle the topic, and this one genuinely seems like a very unhealthy outlook to start with.
The author sounds like she's drowning in her own ego and self adoration. She talks more about stories that don't actually relate to whatever she's talking about, usually talking herself up in the process. She's difficult to follow as she tends to ramble, and her topics are horribly disjointed and unorganized.
If you read this book, it will seem like women who are in tune with their sex lives and body are completely kooky. An actual passage in the book says you should place your hand over your vagina and ask it a question (like a Magic 8 ball), and pay attention to how it responds (like, how YOU feel as you ask it your question), and then follow that answer and see where it leads you. I wish I were joking, and I wish this were a form of satire, but it isn't. Apparently, this will help you feel more in tune with your womanhood. Somehow.
If you're interested in the topic, this book will definitely get you started in the wrong direction. Don't pick it up.
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93 reviews
January 4, 2017
I was given this book by a woman I deeply admire, who has completed many courses with Mama Gena and been changed by them. She is fabulous, and I thought if this is part of what has her be fabulous, I am going to engage with it.

And I was into the premise--a reclaiming of what has been deemed shameful by patriarchal culture. I'm all about that.

And I was reassured by the disclaimer at the beginning about the text and the curriculum it describes (the programs of The School of Womanly Arts) being inclusive of LGBTQ folks.

But the premise of this book is grounded in old-school feminist biological essentialism, and it is entirely heteronormative and often openly transphobic. She talks almost exclusively about heterosexual interactions, and her occasional references to same-sex relationships are parenthetical. Literally. 'When you're doing this or that with him (or her)...' Except when she encourages same-sex exploration as a means to expand one's capacity for pleasure. Doing some of the homework requires a clitoris, and not all women have those. Or pussies, for that matter. I thought perhaps there was a way to work metaphorically with pussy as a way to think about the sacred feminine or feminine power, or that's what the disclaimer at the beginning seemed to suggest, but Mama Gena gives no examples or explanations to further such a reading.

I'm totally okay with a book about discovering one's sensual power being geared to folks with particular genital configurations. And I can hold space (most of the time) for folks who think that there are only two sexes, which Mama Gena says several times, because maybe they just don't know about science. But don't say that it's inclusive when it's not. Don't say it's safe and welcoming when it's really another example in the sex-positive literature of the violent erasure of queer and trans* folks.

Now off to write a letter to Mama Gena's editor about removing that disclaimer...
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8 reviews32 followers
September 16, 2022
At first, I believed this book to be benignly absurd. As is usual with Hay House publications, the author states her opinions as absolute universal fact, rambles disjointedly about semi-relevant personal experiences, and offers vague-yet-still-troublesome advice (like implying readers would be wise to turn down well-paying jobs to write a novel that “will end up making you far more,” going into debt to by clothes, or making it a habit to flirt with coworkers (pre-#metoo, perhaps)). Okay, she’s entitled to her opinions, I’d still offer a few stars for it all being mildly entertaining and a tad empowering.

But then I got to the chapter in which the author decided she wanted to be with a particular man. As part of her seduction, she admits to putting her vaginal fluid on his toothbrush (in addition to “every object in the house”). Exposing another person to one’s bodily fluids without their knowledge or consent is where I have to draw the line. I’m not a prude, this is a biohazard. As a medical professional, the multiple mentions of covertly feeding men vaginal fluids (including menstrual blood) was horrifyingly unethical. You can give people diseases. Not cool.

If you’re looking for a factually informed, empowering read about female sexuality and anatomy, I highly recommend “Vagina” by Naomi Wolf. If you’d like to understand female anatomy and pleasure, check out “Women’s Anatomy of Arousal” by Sheri Winston and/or “Come As You Are” by Emily Nagoski. “The Pleasure Prescription” is excellent if you’re dealing with pelvic pain. Enjoy!
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213 reviews17 followers
February 5, 2017
It took a lot of courage to purchase, open and read this book,..and I feel like I was greatly rewarded with a renewed sense of power and self-worth. I loved the mythology from Greece and Japan, stories that I might not have heard elsewhere. This book unpacked and expanded some long held beliefs I didn't realize I kept.
I challenge the women in my life to read this book!
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June 17, 2024
6/17 oh look everybody! It’s a book that crazy supposed stinky butt gynecologist can use in her commercials about Lumi! I’m sorry i don’t care that your products can keep my privates smelling like the beach for 75 hours. Or that you want to play the woman shame or elderly shame games, which, by the way, I find a sickening, twisted, and way too TMI perspective to sell your products. TAKE A SHOWER! Soaps break the water barrier so really soap is allowing the water to do its job. The scents may be antibacterial or just make you smell nice or help the water out. But if someone wants to go that long without bathing because of some commercial gimmick you’re just gross and lazy. Maybe clinically depressed in which case it’s understandable because you don’t even want to get out of bed and change clothes.
I am so glad I finally got that off my chest.

I honestly don’t know what to say about this book. Some parts were interesting; some parts had me snorting in laughter. I just think that if one is secure in herself, has a strong sense of identity all of the word making upping is funny. I’m not even sorry for saying that. But I’m an extremely open and honest communicator. I just could not take this seriously 100%. I did take away a few things. But I left behind a whole lot more.
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January 11, 2024
FeministCat

Pussy

A feline feminist fairy tale by ChatteGPT-4

Once upon a time in the heart of New York City, there lived a sassy, intelligent, and decidedly feminist Siamese cat named Bella. Bella, unlike many cats, was very aware of human language and conversations. She defied all stereotypes and her prowess extended beyond chasing mice and lazing in the sun.

One day, while lounging in a sunny spot of her owner's apartment, she overheard a conversation that struck a chord within her. She heard, for the first time, the word "pussy" being used as an insult. Bella, immediately horrified, felt a fire ignite in her feline heart. Unwilling to accept this derogatory use of a word representing her identity, she decided to take action. Bella was about to launch a campaign, one that would challenge stereotypes and reclaim her identity one 'purr' at a time.

Bella used her apartment's window as her stage. Her first line of attack was a series of vocal protests and dramatic performances that were impossible to ignore. She created attention-grabbing poses with signs that read, "Pride, not Prejudice!" and "Feline Feminism Forever".

Her antics caught the attention of her owner, Ana, a passionate freelance journalist. Intrigued by Bella's unusual behavior, she used her platform and skills to amplify Bella's message. Ana wrote a series of articles, capturing Bella's campaign and highlighting the derogatory use of the term 'pussy'.

The articles went viral instantly, sparking conversations around the world. The hashtag #PawsforPussy took over social media, rallying support towards the drive. Women and men, young and old, joined Bella in her quest to make the term 'pussy' one of empowerment and endearment.

Months rolled by and Bella's campaign continued to gain momentum. Celebrities began to adopt the message, and prominent feminist figures included Bella’s story and campaign in their speeches. Bella’s message was even embraced in schools as educators included discussions of language respect and empowerment in their curriculums.

Through persistence, unwavering confidence, and a healthy dose of cat-titude, Bella successfully instigated a shift in conversation and perspective. Society began to disregard the derogatory use of the term 'pussy', and instead, started referring to it with respect, understanding, and positivity.

Bella, a feminist cat, had indeed launched a successful campaign. She had reclaimed a term that had been used as an insult and made it a word of power and respect. She had taught humanity an invaluable lesson about respect, equality, and the true essence of feminism. The feisty, bold, and beautiful Bella had left her paw prints on the world, affirming that courage, conviction, and a little 'purr'-sistence could effect change, no matter how small the protester.
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124 reviews31 followers
October 13, 2020
This was book #2 on my own personal feminine/self-worth/sexual liberation quest (following the amazing Women Who Run With The Wolves).

The content in this book is POWERFUL. While the book is pretty repetitive in theme, the change I saw in myself throughout reading it was absolutely revolutionary. I went from cringing every time I read the word "pussy" and feeling scared to take out the book on the train ... to feeling empowered, turned-on, and excited to be part of the revolution towards embracing feminine power.

I have a vision of a world in which every woman takes back her power, embodied her radiance, and erodes the heavy doses of sexual and personal shame that our patriarchal society inevitably forces down her throat (and into her pussy) just for being a woman. I want to see a world where that isn't the case. And while some feminists might be inclined to protest and march in order to accomplish that, I personally prefer Thomashauer's idea that the real revolution will come in the form of pleasure, of joy, of women just taking what's innately theirs -- the radiance, power, and self-love they've forgotten. When that happens, the world will have no choice but to give us what we desire.

Very grateful to Thomashauer for writing this book and being such a big step on my journey of stepping into myself and my own power. Thank you!
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October 14, 2016
Definitely made me think; sparked my memories of why I write what I write, why I believe what I believe, and reminded me that Divinity comes from within.

Read it with an open mind, allow the messages to resonate with you as they will. You aren't obligated to view things the way Ms. Thomashauer does, but I do think that if you're honest with yourself, this book will add some strength to your journey.

Lastly, keep in mind, the "self" in self-help. As is often said, "nothing changes until you do." Take the risk of changing your mind - how you think, how you make decisions, the way you interact with the world, your beliefs...take the risk of trying something different - the homework in the book, for example - and see what happens. You may very well be surprised.
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Author 2 books2,469 followers
January 24, 2021
I really loved this more than I thought I would.

It inspired me to reach out to a past boyfriend who iced me out because of a different relationship he wanted to pursue, but wanted to be “platonic friends.” I asked him about a comment he made that, in my memory, seemed like he was threatened by female sexuality. (This was years ago, so not a current issue, just a memory that came up.)

His response was something like, “Thanks for asking me to have sex with you, I know you’re feeling rejected right now and finding a way to blame me for it.”

I was like “uhhhhh I was reading a book about female sexuality and the patriarchy and wondering if I remembered your comment correctly, but way to double down.”

This book brought up a lot of justifications I’ve made for seeing people threatened by female sexuality, size, voice, and energy. Even though I work in this space a lot, there were many issues I hadn’t noticed. Loved it!
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102 reviews
January 16, 2019
If you are a queer woman, put this book DOWN. Read Cunt instead. I take huge issue with her disclaimer at the front of the book - that this is for all women. It. Is. Not. If she had just said up front that her book is for straight women, I would give it 4 stars. Instead, all of the “your man” “your husband” “his pleasure” just felt oppressive. False advertising does not uplift the queer pussy, Mama Gina.
251 reviews
December 7, 2016
Some information, but mostly it reads like a long sales pitch for her course. Lots of repetition as well. I skimmed after the first 2 chapters.
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211 reviews26 followers
April 11, 2018
[Note: this was written by my good friend, Lindsay McLaughlin. I was planning to write a review, but hers was so good, I asked her permission to share it. Enjoy.]

"Pussy: A Reclamation" is a provocative book gathering a woman's sensual pleasure experienced through the clitoris, vulva, vagina into a word, pussy, and presenting it as a portal to the transcendent, Divine Feminine. This resonates, because it connects with woman's reproductive, life-giving abilities, her intrinsic, deep ties to the cycles of moon and Earth, to the primal, creative life-force. The sensate opera embedded in the clitoris can be seen as a hyperlink launching a woman into layers and layers of experience, meaning, and connection. It also has the advantage of making it impossible to image the Divine as anything other than feminine. It completely overtakes all other attempts to bring the Divine Feminine foremost in the western imagination-whether that is thinking of Mary as Mother, using the feminine when naming God ("Mother"), etc. because all these images have the masculine as a reference (Mary relates to Jesus, Mother God implies Father God) and most western minds cannot wipe the masculine out of the picture. Not so, when your portal is a vulva.

At its heart, and its best, "Pussy" ushers women into belonging, which is the source of a joyful, empowered life. If women are connected to the Divine, are Divine, are the Sun and life source, then we Belong. We know our place in the family of things, and it is central. This bestows a renewed sense of self-worth and self-love and forgiveness which overflows into an understanding of connection and community, and particularly in this book, of sisterhood.

Regena is good at demolishing centuries of women's seeing themselves (at unconscious levels, of course) as flawed, lacking, less than, guilty. She does this by guiding women to acknowledge (and practice) their universe-given pleasure playground, which conveys the message of deserving, worthiness, and wholeness at a gut, cellular, nervous, primal level. We deserve to feel wonderful; not only that, we are meant to feel wonderful; the universe wants and needs us to feel wonderful.

From there, it is possible to project a forceful community of wonderful-feeling women ("radiant") who are empowered to live with awareness, love, soul. And who knows what will happen then?

"Pussy" is an all-encompassing term as Regena uses it. It includes the physical, sensual pleasure derived specifically from clitoris, and the intuitive, dark inward knowing impulses/wisdom, a dream-poetic-mythic realm, and the Divine/Goddess. In her reclamation, it is a word to be reckoned with.

I definitely feel that this book is a find and that women everywhere should read it, if they can bring themselves to open the cover. I have sent it to my daughter-in-law. It would be scary and fascinating to attend the School of Womanly Arts. Sure, it has its "Oprah-esque" passages, and despite references to women struggling with poverty, or in Syria, etc., it cannot shake its New York, urban/suburban milieu. Nor should we expect it to.

Regena mentions many women in the book who have not or did not come into their radiance solely, or even at all, through the practices she advocates so passionately. Mother Teresa, Rachel Carson, and Sojourner Truth are a few that come to mind. This underscores that the roads to women's empowerment, the recovery of the Feminine, and the healing of the Earth (and culture) are many, varied, and woven together from these sources.

"Pussy" prods women to live by a story that says we deserve pleasure, that the universe needs women to feel good, empowered, beautiful and to own our place as creatures of divinity. That's a message I can get behind 100%.
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90 reviews
October 17, 2020
I couldn't bring myself to even finish reading this. I discovered Regena through a podcast and felt so empowered by her words but that didn't translate the same way in this book. What made me dislike it so much was how she would talk on behalf of other peoples lives and claim how miserable they were because they didn't practice her pussy method. All for my pussy but not for Regena - don't waste your time with this
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142 reviews
February 1, 2020
So, I get it, okay? A woman’s superpower is her p*ssy. I loved the overall theme of this book about reconnecting with your unique sensuality as a woman. However, there were times when I felt overwhelmed by the aggressiveness of Mama Gena’s lessons (of which, there are plenty). I would so attend the School of Womanly Arts, even though there is a possibility that I wouldn’t finish and run screaming out of there. I love what she teaches, but am mildly turned off by how she does it.

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65 reviews
March 10, 2025
Like a 2.5. The overall message was so slay and I totally agree but this girl has some personal views that I cannot gel with and her White Woman was showing
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194 reviews18 followers
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December 28, 2018
Not for me. While I can totally see how this would lift and empower some women, the ideas didn’t feel all that revolutionary for me and the delivery was a bit grating.
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July 14, 2021
This book is insane everyone go read it
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December 8, 2021
What the actual f*ck
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
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273 reviews
February 3, 2017
I had to read this for a book club.

At first I was very intrigued with this book. It started with a very powerful message. It reminded of the vagina monologues taking power and turning a word with a negative connotation positive. While some of her theories on Rupture and Radiance struck a cord with me overall I couldn't grasp onto the idea that having mind blowing orgasms would lead to a more successful life. Her idea that I was to only do things that would generate pleasure for me before anyone else seemed selfish. I also highly doubt my husband's goal in life is to only provide me with orgasms. Her take on men is poetically one of the reasons that people associate feminists with man haters.

In the end her sole focus on the pussy as the source of all the answers to my questions really turned me off rather than on.
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19 reviews1 follower
February 11, 2021
I enjoyed reading this book, and definitely learned and grew a lot from it. It helped me with new insights and perspectives in many ways. However, it was disappointing to see the lack of inclusion regarding the many different identities surrounding womanhood and femininity. Besides a very minuscule amount of references, it failed to emphasize the very prominent event that...not all women prefer partners who are men. I look forward to learning more about Regena Thomashauer and her work, as she has hopefully evolved towards more inclusive language, examples, and “homework” ideas that highlight the beautiful, powerful diversity in being a woman.
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432 reviews8 followers
June 21, 2023
There were parts I struggled with and ones that didn't resonate at all, but overall this is a super empowering book and an important wake up call for women everywhere. It shook up a lot of my belief systems and gifted me with a new way of looking at how to be a woman in today's world. I'll be sharing it with all of the important women in my life.
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November 6, 2016
Great premise and inspiring

Fantastic ideas but they are repeated many times. Would be nice if other examples of power rather than only sexual manipulation were discussed. I still got a lot out of it and it's worth the read. You just have to make it work for you personally.
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408 reviews30 followers
January 23, 2024
Every human should read this. It’s only January and I think this might be the most transformational book I’ll read this year. I already know it’s going to help me grow in every aspect of my life. 👏🏼🔥 Here are a few quotes from the book I loved!


“If you want to know where your true power lies, go to the places you’ve been taught to fear the most”

“listening to, and living our desires, as if they were a roadmap to our truth is the way we women live our unique phenomenal gifts. Each of us has a unique voice that the world requires. And the key to unlocking this gift is to cherish your own storyline, and to stand with every fiber of your being for the significant and momentous importance of your desires, everything you want matters. “

“When the feminine culture is repressed, the consequences are tragic. We end up with violence in schools, mass shootings, a mercenary corporate culture, and an environment on the brink of collapse. The game becomes power and profit rather than humanity. We are passing responsibility for feeling our pain down to our children and grandchildren, who will have to live wiry the consequences of our unwillingness to do so.“

I could write pages on this book but I’ll just leave it at this: read it. 💃🏼
Profile Image for Hailey Elianna Elianna.
26 reviews5 followers
September 11, 2023
I would give this negative stars if I could. Oh, Regena.

The whole book was so… UGH, but nothing pissed me off more than the ~I love my trans friends~ note in the foreword WHILE REGENA MADE ABSOLUTELY ZERO EFFORT to use ANY gender inclusive language throughout the entire book!!!!!!!

Repeatedly writing out “he or she,” “his or hers,” and so on after such a statement when one could so incredibly easily use “they” is just ridiculous. That’s one of the simplest examples I could pull out of my head without looking at this nauseating book again, although it is certainly not the only instance of a clear lack of effort in regard to writing a book that actually possesses some form of inclusivity after a blatantly performative “I’m not like the other White FeministsTM” statement… The TERF energy is palpable.

Further, suggesting that individuals get themselves into ludicrous amounts of debt in order to get to a place of knowing oneself has to be the stupidest thing I’ve ever read. I can guarantee you, you do not need to drop three grand on a dress be more in tune with your pussy, folks.

Lastly (not because I don’t have more to groan about but because I cannot fathom expending more brain energy on this sad excuse of stringed together words), it felt like one gigantic advertisement for Regena’s pussy school and, in my humble opinion, provided little to no concrete information pertaining to the book’s overarching point.
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24 reviews1 follower
January 3, 2022
Overall, I didn’t enjoy this book as much as I thought I would. And I wouldn’t recommend it to another woman sadly.

For starters, Mama Gena (as the author calls herself) goes into many acronyms that I found were ludicrous. Such as GPS (great pussy in the sky — which is comparative to almost God). Also some of the mechanisms that she goes to tapping into your “inner pussy” (what I found to be just your inner feminine) were also way too taboo for me, even as someone who is claimed by my friends.

Mama Gena also goes through a lot of stories of her own personal life which I believe she does this to add on to her teachings, however, some felt unnecessary and was not needed for the overall lessons she was trying to teach.

Nonetheless, there was some good that I found within this book. And there were some quotes within the book that made me feel really good & empowered as a woman. One of the biggest things that Mama Gena hits on is the concept of unlearning the rules that we as women have learned throughout our life of what women are “supposed to be.” To me this was eye opening because most of time we as women are our own worst enemies. Sisterhood gives us the strength to believe in the best and brightest aspects of ourselves and connect deeply to our power. This is important to understand because we as women are all goddess and every woman is another woman’s sister. The quicker we all learn this, the more empowering and uplifting that we will see between women.
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Author 2 books38 followers
November 29, 2021
Ok, I will admit that even at the end of this book, I was uncomfortable with the word "pussy." And I am not sure that I fundamentally buy the author's assertion that women's vulvas are the epicenter of our power (though I do very much believe that our relationship to sensual pleasure and our relationship to ourselves and our power are heavily intertwined). Those two things aside, I feel like this is an incredibly important book about women's relationship to our innate power -- something that I am very passionate about, as a story coach to women. I especially *loved* her chapter on "sister goddess activism," which is how she talks about our interconnectedness as women, and how, when we can reflect what we see in another woman back to her, we create space for her to expand into a fuller expression of who she really is. And I agree with her that for all of our work dismantling patriarchal systems, there is a limit to how much we can unleash feminine power if we aren't all doing this kind of essential work to love ourselves and connect with our innate power. This is definitely worth a read for any feminist, and anyone interested in growing women's power, either at a macro or very personal level.
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