A New Map for Relationships: Creating True Love at Home and Peace on the Planet

by Dorothie L. Hellman, Martin E. Hellman

What if you never had another fight or argument? And what if doing that helped bring peace to the world?

You are invited to eavesdrop as Dorothie and Martin Hellman reveal the secrets that allowed them to transform an almost failed marriage into one where they reclaimed the true love that they felt when they first met fifty years ago. Their marriage became a laboratory, where they learned how to resolve seemingly unfathomable differences through holistic thinking and compassion. Listen in on their conversations so that you can do the same.

Working on global issues proved critical to bringing magic back into their marriage, and truly loving personal relationships provide the model for a peaceful, sustainable planet. Through formerly top secret documents, you will see scheming and outright lies get us into one needless war after another. You will also see how the same tools that transformed their marriage, "holistic thinking and compassion" can avoid future such catastrophes.

The essence of this book is, "You have to believe in the seemingly impossible gifts of unconditional love and a more peaceful planet, and then dedicate yourself to discovering how to achieve them."

By revealing the mistakes that nearly ruined their marriage as well as the healing process that has them madly in love again, the book provides solid evidence for that belief. The hard-earned lessons from their journey will ease your own.

Former Secretary of Defense William J. Perry praises A New Map for Relationships as "a truly unique book that tells an engaging and persuasive story relating domestic peace to world peace." He goes on to advise that "this book should be read by married couples seeking peace at home, as well as by diplomats seeking peace in the world."

330 pages, Hardcover

Published August 20, 2016

Reviews

[Phil Mayes · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book has two messages. The first is that peaceful relationships are possible. In their 49 years of marriage, Martin and Dorothie Hellman struggled to balance the rational and emotional for more than 3 decades. They succeeded, and haven’t had an argument in well over 10 years. The book details their progress towards this state: “No matter how much it was directed at me...his words only reflected something about him and where he was at that moment.” and describes how they maintain it: “Asking questions when you don’t understand your mate and really listening to one another is key to creating a successful relationship.” They describe the importance of belief and intention in reaching this state: “You have to believe in the seemingly impossible gift of of unconditional love, and then dedicate yourself to discovering how to achieve it.”
The second message of the book is that international relations can be improved in the same way, and that work on one benefits the other. They deconstruct seven international conflicts ans name the points where a different approach would have avoided escalation. These sections have been fact-checked by some very prestigious referees. They see the path to implementing this as an increase in compassion and holistic thinking, and that people need to expand their allegiances to larger and larger groups until it encompasses the planet itself. There is no doubt in my mind that this is the direction in which the world can and must move.
They end with a call to action and a website for like-minded people to meet.
Postscript: This is THE Martin Hellman of Diffie-Helmann key exchange, the basis for encrypted communications on the internet. If you’re not in IT, trust me; this is a big deal.