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The Underachieving Ovary

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Will there be light at the end of the birth canal?

Does the word ‘endometriosis’ make you want to stick a fork in your eye? No? Then perhaps this book isn’t for you. It’s funny, and (sometimes alarmingly) frank. It contains an impressive array of synonyms for ‘vagina’ and it’s certainly NSFW.

It’s about having a devil womb and a hot knife lodged in my shoulder. It’s about becoming blackly bitter and twisted in my infertility, and then slowly finding a way to untwist myself.

It’s part memoir, part dark comedy, wrapped up loosely as a journal full of TMI and quirk.

Let me put it this way: If Helen Fielding and Marian Keyes were to go through IVF, and use Caitlin Moran as a surrogate, this book would be their baby.

321 pages, Kindle Edition

Published September 29, 2016

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J.T. Lawrence

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3,117 reviews6 followers
July 29, 2017
Before I start my review I must tell you that I don’t feel that I am the target market for this book, as I fortunately didn’t have any issues conceiving my three sons. However, having read JT Lawrence’s books before, I was interested to learn more about her as a person, not just an author, and I knew from her writing style that this would be a book that I would enjoy (if that’s the right word to use, given the nature of the plot).

The first thing that you notice is how open and honest JT (Janita), is with her readers. You can tell how much passion went into writing this book. It’s a beautiful read, that had me hooked from the beginning. That’s not to say that it was an easy read. At times I felt myself welling up, whilst at others I was laughing out loud.

Janita has a wicked sense of humour, and you can tell that this is what kept her going through some of the hardest times of her life. I can’t imagine being so desperate for a child, but your own body is letting you down. I have seen first hand from friends who have gone through the exact same thing, how much anguish it causes.

This book touched my heart and gave me a greater understanding of infertility and the failure to conceive. A fantastic book that had me feeling that I was walking step by step alongside Janita, on her long and hard journey to become a mother.

Reviewed by Stacey on www.whisperingstories.com
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Author 82 books318 followers
February 10, 2017
Bravo, JT, bravo! This book is, quite simply, a journey. It is real, and raw, and remarkable, with laugh out loud, choke-on-your-tea moments. Then there are those moments when you have to swallow the lump in your throat and go play with your kids, just because you can.

Admittedly, when I first started it, I thought it would be just another infertility story (I say that with all the nonchalance of someone who has not suffered with infertility) but boy was I wrong (spoken with all the empathy this book evoked in my fertile heart)

If you ARE going to tackle a sensitive issue like infertility, then THIS is how you do it. #nuffsaid
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1,062 reviews8 followers
September 12, 2016
I loved reading about Janita's journey from trying to conceive with all the ups and downs of infertility until her happy ending. This book reminded me of my own struggle to fall pregnant as I also struggled with endometriosis - the ugly catch 22 situation...

I loved the chapter headings, as I don't normally read it but these just did something to the book for me.
This is the first english book by a fellow South African that I have read, not all good writers are from UK or USA, you go Janita.

I would recommend this book to everyone out there.
Thank you to Janita and TBC for the ARC.
#TBConFB

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605 reviews20 followers
September 29, 2016
I loved this book despite starting to read it with some trepidation. I wasn’t sure if I cared enough about fertility to be engaged enough to read a whole book!

BUT………. it didn’t take Lawrence long to blow me away with her writing. Despite being a sceptic I was on every step of the journey with her. She writes with such a rawness that it feels like you know her, and by the end of the book, you love her and her family like they are actual real people. Which obviously they are, but like real real, not over there real.

Lawrence manages to share her pain in a way that makes the reader hurt right along with her, but turns it from the morose to darkly humour with a wicked sense of humour. Her turn of phrase will have you laughing despite yourself as you try not to cry along with her.

This book is about infertility and the struggle to conceive. But it is also about humanity and strength, love and commitment. And dealing with the unexpected curveballs life throws at you with humour and tenacity.

Lawrence draws you in, throws you onto a rollercoaster of emotions and spits you out, rung out and depleted, but invigorated to take life by the scruff of the neck and shake it.

A fabulous, readable book that runs the gamut of emotions. Worth reading whether you want a baby or not, because it is about facing challenges as much as it is about conceiving.

Bravo JT, bravo
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84 reviews2 followers
September 30, 2016
As Neets says, from as far back as she can remember, she has wanted to be a mother, to give birth to her baby; to hold her baby; to feed and bath and dress her baby and then she finds out she can't.

Raw emotion - like when you accidentally rip the scab off a sore - is the only way to describe this book. Brutally honest; medically informative; laugh out loud funny and heartrendingly sad - the journey the reader takes with Neets and Mike through the seemingly unending chasms of infertility will resound with every woman and her partner. I will never again brag about my fertility. I endured endometriosis every month, but was able to control the pain and fall pregnant 3 times. Only now, having read Neets' journal do I realise how lucky I was. There is swearing/cussing in this journal - I think Neets might have toned it down a bit! Some South African words are used - they're in italics, and just like Neets does, if you don't understand something, Google it!

This book should be read by every woman wanting to have a baby. To paraphrase Syd Kitchen - "Infertility is not for sissies!"
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267 reviews71 followers
October 28, 2017
A rainy evening curled up on the couch, a hot cup of coffee (well actually 3 cups in total), and me sucked into the world of the underachieving ovary navigating the terminology and jargon which include, TTCers trying to establish texture of the CM!
There's the "devil womb" and relationship anecdotes with the BFG and Crackers Counsellor... oh, and the fab Dr G!
The "turkey baster" moments! The "stimming" procedure... and intermittent laughter ringing through the quiet house...rivalled only by the raindrops on the awning.
Angry VJJs and the up-and-down emotions between BFN and BFP.
"Punani grotto" OMG! ROTFL
The endearment of "Breakfast Burrito" (there's also Stink Fruit/sproglet/ cantaloupe and sea monkey) as things fall into place...and finally the triumphant Tag Team!

Thank you for sharing this journey with your readers.
I'm looking forward to your next non-fiction book.
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Author 23 books3 followers
November 26, 2016
Despite not having ovaries, I absolutely loved reading this book. A brutally honest account of a woman who went through the hell of endometriosis and all the mental anguish that comes with it, in her at times bleak quest to motherhood; written in easy to read prose that made me feel like I wasn’t reading a book, but was actually sitting at a pub having a heart to heart with the author over a few beers. Using sharp wit, she reeled me in and kept me wanting more with deep thoughts like, “everything in moderation-including moderation.” I recommend this book not only to women with fertility challenges, but to everyone looking for an amazing and funny story of human triumph over insurmountable adversity.
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398 reviews52 followers
December 6, 2016
I don't often read memoirs, but having thoroughly enjoyed JT Lawrence's fiction, I gave this one a shot. Her great sense of humour takes the edge off a bitterly painful story, but nothing can quite dull the heartache of her struggles to conceive a child.

I have so much respect for her as a woman, a human, and a writer. This is excellent.
174 reviews14 followers
October 25, 2016
Wow, I loved this book, but what an emotional roller coaster of a read! I feel emotionally drained. I laughed, I cried, I got angry, I cheered and sometimes all within the space of the same page.

Having suffered with endometriosis and fertility issues when I was younger myself, although to a much lesser degree than Janita, I could appreciate a little of what she went through. Most of all I could understand her single-minded, bordering-on-obsessive determination that she wanted a baby, no matter what it took. And the more the universe conspired against her the stronger her desire to have her own little bundle of joy.

This book is written in a journal format with no punches pulled and is not for the easily offended. It's honest, intimate, heartbreaking and at times fiendishly hilarious. It will especially appeal to you if, like me, you have a slightly warped, dark sense of humour.

I would recommend this book to everyone, (unless they are easily offended by bad language and frank discussion about genitalia and bodily functions) as it’s more than a book about a couple’s experience of infertility, it’s about holding on to your dreams, being courageous and fighting to realise those dreams, even when the odds seem stacked against you every step of the way.

It’s a truly inspiring book as well as a damned good read. Janita has a great way with words and I’m now eager to read more of her books. 5 big fat juicy stars from me!

Thank you to Janita and TBC for the opportunity to read an advance review copy.
12 reviews1 follower
November 23, 2016
They say 'life is a journey, enjoy the ride' But sometimes you just want to flip the journey off with two birds. Becoming a mother is supposed to be every woman's right. Yet it is not the case for so many who are labeled with the word infertile. Infertility is a battle that can drive the sane insane. And bring you to the point of believing that assumption is the mother of all f-ups.

Janita's story is gripping, heartwernching and humoristic, with a happy ending. Following her 'war-story' gave me a new perspective on the controversial topics of fertility treatments. There are always options and if you want something bad enough, everything is a possibility.

The first memoirs I have read that did not bore me to tears, there were tears yes, since I am very empathetic, I felt her pain, disappointment, her despair. Depression is a dark hole not many can climb out of, but the courage and sheer determination gave me a new outlook on life in general.

I absolutely love the humour and wit this was written with. Such a joyful read. I would recommend this book to all women and men, there is something honest and raw about this, we call can take something away from reading this.
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11 reviews
November 12, 2016
Faced with a disgnosis of infertility, author JT Lawrence honestly documents her journey in a raw, entertaining and oftentimes witty manner.

In tribute, I present a list of all the reasons why I give this read a solid five stars:

1. She doesn't hold back: this is not only a front seat ticket but also an all access pass to the trials, emotions and, um, often messy process of dealing with infertility

2. Her wit and humour will have you laughing at even the most unfortunate of processes.

3. You'll learn all there is to know about TTC (trying to concieve) from the acronyms (POAS anyone?) To the monstersperm and more.

4. I don't suffer from infertility, please don't hate me for being a fertile Myrtle, even so, a lot of the frustrations explored are universal; grief, loss, struggle, mental health and isolation.

5. You learn great lessons such as -Be wary of murky water in fertility caves and always carry cash
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350 reviews4 followers
April 16, 2018
SECOND READ

This book, this time I listened to the audiobook and the narrator was amazing, really enjoyed this, I think even more than I did the first time around.

FIRST READ
WOW, while reading this one, I learned so much, and I have to say, every woman, especially Janita, who has gone through this has become my hero.

This is an alarmingly frank and incredibly funny memoir of JT Lawrence as they go through the process of trying to get pregnant.

It had me in stitches and gasping for air, laughing at how frank she was about some of the things that she was going through, while at other times I was grabbing for tissues and chocolates, to help heal my breaking heart.

She has a way of pulling you in, making you as invested in her getting pregnant as she was. I was rooting for them to succeed.

This is definitely going at the top of my list for favourite reads this year.
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581 reviews2 followers
January 23, 2018
Recommended to all wannabe baby mamas struggling with fertility! Written as her journal, it's very readable and heartbreaking and REAL. If you've thought/felt it, she did too. I bought the Kindle book because libraries didn't have it (OMG!!!!!) so hopefully I can share it. It could've been MY journal when I read: "I know I think too much. Always have... I play things over in my mind until they are sufficiently processed, and only then can I let go... It's like there is the actual conversation taking place in real time, and then there is the echo further back in my head, analyzing everything I say and how it could be incorrectly interpreted." and "Usually I find that if things fall into place easily, it can be taken as a sign that you are heading in the right direction." YES x 10 to both of these.
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371 reviews1 follower
November 11, 2016
This book was both heartbreaking and heartwarming . I find stories on infertility fascinating as it really isn't a reference point that I understand. I read Tertia Albertyn's book as well and found it equally fascinating and both of their stories luckily ended/started with having their dreams of a child realized. It makes me feel happy that it did but I do often wonder about the others who don't. Have there been any books written about infertility when there isn't a happy ending/starting.
Anyway, I'm getting side tracked... read this, its good and pretty compelling. Written in a journal format, it is compelling reading because you really want to know if they succeed in getting pregnant or not. I think humans are quite strange, unique and fascinating creatures.
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538 reviews19 followers
October 2, 2016
I would like to thank Helen at TBC and the author for giving me the opportunity to read this in exchange for an honest and open review.
This was a far cry from my usual diet of blood and guts. I requested this because I have family members who have been on a similar journey, and what a journey it was!
My heart went out to Janita and her family. I was incredibly lucky, as I realise now, and had no problems when trying to conceive. I am not sure if I would have been strong enough to do what Janita did.
I laughed and I cried whilst reading this. I so wanted her to succeed.
I will definitely be recommending this to all my friends.
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Author 11 books45 followers
October 14, 2016
I'm a fan of J.T. Lawrence, but I wasn't sure how much I'd enjoy this book - simply because I don't have any children and I thought that I might not be able to relate. Turns out that I was wrong ... what a wonderful story. This was a very honest and raw take on a difficult period in her life. I'm not sure how much of it was autobiographical but by the end of the book I felt like I knew her well. Also ... other than the 'trying to conceive' part I felt often like I was reading about myself - which now makes me feel as if J.T and are best friends (heh).

Also, despite a very difficult subject matter, there were so many hilarious parts in the book.

Great read from my new bestie.
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October 27, 2016
From the moment I opened The Underachieving Ovary I could not put it down. It is a gripping book that takes you on an emotional journey through a number of ups and downs that make you laugh one moment and shed a tear the next.

It took me only a few days to get through this amazing diary-like book and, as someone who does not know very much about the struggles of infertility or endometriosis, it was a journey that has taught me a lot about the struggles many women/couples go through.

This is most likely a book I will read again and again, and borrow to anyone who wants to read it (as long as they give it back!). Thank you for the amazing read.
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43 reviews2 followers
September 29, 2016
This is the story of one woman’s amazing journey into all things relating to having babies. As usual the writing is excellent and JT draws you into her world and all the emotions and experiences she faced. I loved reading this book. When she was angry I was angry with her. When she was sad, I felt it too. This book is raw and powerful and I believe that everyone who reads it (whether they have children or not) will come away with a deeper understanding and empathy for people who struggle to conceive.
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66 reviews
November 7, 2016
What a brilliant book. I admire the author immensely for writing this book. I admire her for allowing us into her world during a very personal life event and for bearing her soul to us. As a sufferer of endometriosis and the fertility issues that came with it I can absolutely relate to some of the experiences faced by the writer. It's humour was honest because let's face it, you either laugh or cry during hard times. I'm now officially a huge fan of JT Lawrence and can't wait to read more of her work.
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12 reviews1 follower
December 19, 2016
Recommend for anyone who needs to understand the emotional roller coaster of infertility!

I am actively reading books on topics that cover emotional journeys I have not and probably, partly because of my life choices, will never go on - infertility, IVF, pregnancy and motherhood are amongst these.
This book has given me a valuable insight into the journey of infertility and IVF in a way that I had not imagined possible.
Thanks for bravely and humorously sharing your journey with us JT Lawrence.
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577 reviews99 followers
September 15, 2016
This is my first book by J.T Lawrence but it won't be my last. I hated the pain that she has gone through and just wanted to reach into the book and give her a hug. I can't imagine the heart break her and her husband went through. This book has gave me a better understanding of IVF and what's involved in the process.

Thanks goes to TBC and JT for offering me a copy in exchange for an honest review.
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6 reviews3 followers
October 18, 2016
I absolutely loved this book. I laughed, cried, felt hopeful and then desperate all in the space of one chapter. I also loved just how honestly it was written ( no point in trying to make a visit to the gynae glamorous)

It has given me insight that I never had about the journey of infertility. What a roller coaster ride.

Read it, you will love every page. Finally, I have said it before and I will say it again, South Africa has some amazing authors, JT Lawrence being one of them.
2 reviews
December 15, 2016
I have just finished the most amazing, heart-breaking, funny and captivating book EVER! J T Lawrence's The Underachieving Ovary is a must for every couple....know that this Fertile Mertle will never ask someone when they are going to start a family again!
The emotional roller-coaster is worth every up and down. Make sure you have your tissues handy and be ready to laugh and cry you way through a life changing journey.
An absolute MUST READ.
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233 reviews4 followers
February 7, 2017
J.T Lawrence really shared her life and her struggles with us in this story. Being about infertility and resulting chronic pain you could feel her struggle through it, however she has such a way with words that it is still an easy read. As it is a journal I did get confused by some of the names that popped up (having no memory of them being in the book previously) but this did not detract from the book. I felt it also gave me a good insight into infertility.
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45 reviews1 follower
October 2, 2016
I loved this book!! there were so many laughs and many tears too throughout the book.
it took me a little while to get into the writing style as its more of a personal diary. it felt at times like I was intruding on someone's life and almost like I shouldn't be reading it, that alone kept me reading! A fab book for anyone experiencing issues such as these!
189 reviews4 followers
October 5, 2016
The Underachieving Ovary by JT Lawrence

I've never had JTs problems, but this book is for everyone, I learned a lot, reading it, I laughed at bit's, got choked up at others. I'm glad the author shared her story, it was wonderful. If the book is not for you, pass it on to someone else, let them see there can be light at the end of the tunnel.
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69 reviews4 followers
October 28, 2016
This is one incredibly well written book. It is funny, very emotional, deeply sad and at the same time so expressive...During reading I thought :"how is it possible that that somebody can describe all these feelings end emotions so well..." I don't want to give away anything of the story but ... wow. Just....wow.
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1,137 reviews
November 15, 2016
Oh, all the feels! The hope and expectation and sadness and pain and the fear!
You make us feel as though we are right there with you.

Quoted: "What's next? Telling people they're lucky to have a headache? Thank God for Panado, hey? At least it's not a brain tumour! "
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6 reviews
October 30, 2016
I have just finished ‘The Underachieving Ovary’. I pretty much read non-stop for hours, despite a rather big deadline on the horizon. I just couldn’t put it down. What a book!! It was devastating but wonderful, so much hope and joy at the end. Highly recommended!
2 reviews
January 22, 2017
breathes life into my daily experience with infertility

i loved how identifiable and relatable the moments were. i laughed so hard when reading about my own experience put in such a real way. helped me laugh, not cry.
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