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How To Be HOT: Your Guide to Becoming Happy, Open and Trusting in Your Relationships
Change Your Approach for More Joyous, Truthful and Enriching Relationships
Relationships = Life; that’s Christal Fuentes’ mantra. As a full-time relationship coach, she helps women all over the world form more powerful and long-lasting connections through simple and effective practices—and now you have the same one-on-one teachings in your hands.
How to be H.O.T. is much more than just a dating how-to. Your relationships include the ones you have professionally, spiritually and personally and with Christal’s unique, no-bullshit approach, you’ll be taking strides toward a more passionate life from all angles. Using personal anecdotes, motivational quotes and expert advice, Christal will teach you how to stop playing the victim; trust more openly (even if you’ve been hurt in the past); say “no” more often; prioritize your values; and manage anger, stress and anxiety.
Prepare for enlightenment with this must-have relationship guide. Christal Fuentes is the all-knowing girlfriend you wish you could talk to, and with this book she’ll help you achieve the passionate, trusting and rewarding relationships you’ve always dreamed of.
Relationships = Life; that’s Christal Fuentes’ mantra. As a full-time relationship coach, she helps women all over the world form more powerful and long-lasting connections through simple and effective practices—and now you have the same one-on-one teachings in your hands.
How to be H.O.T. is much more than just a dating how-to. Your relationships include the ones you have professionally, spiritually and personally and with Christal’s unique, no-bullshit approach, you’ll be taking strides toward a more passionate life from all angles. Using personal anecdotes, motivational quotes and expert advice, Christal will teach you how to stop playing the victim; trust more openly (even if you’ve been hurt in the past); say “no” more often; prioritize your values; and manage anger, stress and anxiety.
Prepare for enlightenment with this must-have relationship guide. Christal Fuentes is the all-knowing girlfriend you wish you could talk to, and with this book she’ll help you achieve the passionate, trusting and rewarding relationships you’ve always dreamed of.
199 pages, Kindle Edition
Published September 13, 2016
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October 4, 2016
I follow Christal 'The Ladies Coach' on snapchat (if you don't I suggest you do! She is awesome and always offering knowledge and guidance but in a short and fun way), and other social media platforms so was extremely excited to get my hands on her book! I bought on pre-order. Perfectly timed was my annual holiday to Cornwall. I received the book on the Friday and travelled to Cornwall on the Saturday.
From the moment I picked 'How to be HOT' up, I felt like I couldn't put it down! Absolutely brilliant. The way Christal has been able to segment the sections into an easy flow is absolutely flawless. To open, we get a feel for what we are going to get from the book, so from the 'get go' we excited! We just want answers - Well let me tell you honestly, this book has them!
We all feel at some points like we are 'on our own' with our problems, but this book literally could have been written TO ME as my own 'self help guide' - So if it reached me, it WILL reach you.
There are beautiful quotes throughout which really add a nice tone and flavour to what you are reading.
I had back to back 'ah-ha' moments throughout. I literally cannot believe how much I can improve on in my life but in such a simple same which makes total perfect sense that should have always been the way. The book does not dwell on the past - The past is the past. The book encourages us to move forwards with confidence with a new approach to life. A positive one, which we fill with love, starting with ourselves. To be honest, I am not mushy and 'luvvy duvvy' so if someone said that to me I would be like "seriously?" - However, it's a way of thinking and being mindful. It also is an understanding to others and also to yourself - which in many situations we can often act first and think later or perhaps be very harsh to ourselves ... and to others - Which on any level does not make us feel good. We all know this. I have up until quite recently been there. Many times.
At many intervals, there are various exercises that you can participate in - These are short and only require your input for a few moments, a pen and a piece of paper. There is something about writing stuff down makes it that little bit more tangible and more "You know what, I can see clearly now".
Christal is always complimentary of her sources, mentors, guides, influencers. Often I find that we are 're-hashing' other peoples work as our own. This book is written from the heart and from a place of passion to helping people get out of their own way and actual enjoy life. This is what we are here for. To enjoy life. To be kind. To have wonderful relationships with ourselves, our significant others, our family, our friends ...
Since reading 'How to be HOT' I have implemented so many of the suggestions. So simple and easy. You don't even need to think really. It's as if we have stripped off the unnecessary stress and worry and aggravation that we put on things.
There are examples of situations throughout the book which may not always be directly applicable to you - HOWEVER - the learning is the same. Where the example may be about a significant other or a parent ... you can easily apply the elements to your own situations.
I do feel like I could continue to rave on about this book. I have never written a book review before. This is the first book that I have ever read where I have actually said "wow, game changer". I also really admire Christal and love her message and passion for helping others. Such a beautiful person who has also as per her book had her own struggles. We are all human after all.
I fully intend to read the book again because I want to really digest the information. Work through the exercises again. Make myself accountable for myself! ...
One thing that will happen to you, apart from obviously changing your mind set and becoming more positive and the long list of other amazing things ... but you will also become more aware of those around you and how you will see a lot of the 'old you' in there ways and that you cannot actually believe you used to be like that or say those things or behave that way.
Back to my holiday, I have a camper van #VW ... me and my partner are both sat reading .. I’m reading 'Hot to be HOT' and he is reading tractor magazines !! ... Anyway, I will have an 'ah-ha' moment (continuous) ... and we will both discuss it. To be honest, he isn't big on reading books or all this self-development work ... however, we are discussing some of the new ways we can BOTH think or react to situations or just basically choose life ... and even he has been reached by it. We have now both put ourselves into a position which is open to suggestion and change for the better.
In summary, 'Hot to be HOT' is an amazing book, which has hugely impacted my life already and those around me. 1) because I am feeling more 'me' if that makes sense, and 2) because I am being able to offer some key suggestions from the book which may help them. Obviously to quote "we are the bus driver of our own lives" and sometimes people are not always on board with a positive outlook. But if they are, it's great to see.
I hope Christal reads this. I would love her to know how much of an impact she has had.
Hoping there is a book 2 !!!!!
From the moment I picked 'How to be HOT' up, I felt like I couldn't put it down! Absolutely brilliant. The way Christal has been able to segment the sections into an easy flow is absolutely flawless. To open, we get a feel for what we are going to get from the book, so from the 'get go' we excited! We just want answers - Well let me tell you honestly, this book has them!
We all feel at some points like we are 'on our own' with our problems, but this book literally could have been written TO ME as my own 'self help guide' - So if it reached me, it WILL reach you.
There are beautiful quotes throughout which really add a nice tone and flavour to what you are reading.
I had back to back 'ah-ha' moments throughout. I literally cannot believe how much I can improve on in my life but in such a simple same which makes total perfect sense that should have always been the way. The book does not dwell on the past - The past is the past. The book encourages us to move forwards with confidence with a new approach to life. A positive one, which we fill with love, starting with ourselves. To be honest, I am not mushy and 'luvvy duvvy' so if someone said that to me I would be like "seriously?" - However, it's a way of thinking and being mindful. It also is an understanding to others and also to yourself - which in many situations we can often act first and think later or perhaps be very harsh to ourselves ... and to others - Which on any level does not make us feel good. We all know this. I have up until quite recently been there. Many times.
At many intervals, there are various exercises that you can participate in - These are short and only require your input for a few moments, a pen and a piece of paper. There is something about writing stuff down makes it that little bit more tangible and more "You know what, I can see clearly now".
Christal is always complimentary of her sources, mentors, guides, influencers. Often I find that we are 're-hashing' other peoples work as our own. This book is written from the heart and from a place of passion to helping people get out of their own way and actual enjoy life. This is what we are here for. To enjoy life. To be kind. To have wonderful relationships with ourselves, our significant others, our family, our friends ...
Since reading 'How to be HOT' I have implemented so many of the suggestions. So simple and easy. You don't even need to think really. It's as if we have stripped off the unnecessary stress and worry and aggravation that we put on things.
There are examples of situations throughout the book which may not always be directly applicable to you - HOWEVER - the learning is the same. Where the example may be about a significant other or a parent ... you can easily apply the elements to your own situations.
I do feel like I could continue to rave on about this book. I have never written a book review before. This is the first book that I have ever read where I have actually said "wow, game changer". I also really admire Christal and love her message and passion for helping others. Such a beautiful person who has also as per her book had her own struggles. We are all human after all.
I fully intend to read the book again because I want to really digest the information. Work through the exercises again. Make myself accountable for myself! ...
One thing that will happen to you, apart from obviously changing your mind set and becoming more positive and the long list of other amazing things ... but you will also become more aware of those around you and how you will see a lot of the 'old you' in there ways and that you cannot actually believe you used to be like that or say those things or behave that way.
Back to my holiday, I have a camper van #VW ... me and my partner are both sat reading .. I’m reading 'Hot to be HOT' and he is reading tractor magazines !! ... Anyway, I will have an 'ah-ha' moment (continuous) ... and we will both discuss it. To be honest, he isn't big on reading books or all this self-development work ... however, we are discussing some of the new ways we can BOTH think or react to situations or just basically choose life ... and even he has been reached by it. We have now both put ourselves into a position which is open to suggestion and change for the better.
In summary, 'Hot to be HOT' is an amazing book, which has hugely impacted my life already and those around me. 1) because I am feeling more 'me' if that makes sense, and 2) because I am being able to offer some key suggestions from the book which may help them. Obviously to quote "we are the bus driver of our own lives" and sometimes people are not always on board with a positive outlook. But if they are, it's great to see.
I hope Christal reads this. I would love her to know how much of an impact she has had.
Hoping there is a book 2 !!!!!
October 25, 2016
The first thing that comes to mind when we think about relationships is romantic relationships. But, Christal Fuentes’ How to Be H.O.T. highlights the idea that each of our lives are defined by not only romantic interactions but also by the connections we have with our family, friends, and, most importantly, ourselves.
Christal begins by opening up to the reader about her history and struggles. For me, I immediately connected with Christal when she spoke about her relationship with her mother. At first, it felt as if she was telling my own story. As a result, I was immediately able to apply some of Christal’s conclusions to my own life. Specifically, it was obvious that I had been looking at my relationship with my mom the wrong way. Having this "Ah ha!" moment right off the bat had me turning every page to learn more!
One of the most valuable things I learned (and there were many) was that the relationship that I have with myself sets the foundation for the relationships I have with others. Even if you've been hurt in the past, there comes a point where you must let that go, taking happiness into your own hands. We can't go out searching for people or things to make us happy. The only person that can do that is you. But, that doesn’t mean you can’t get help along the way. Christal provides the tools and shows you how to begin your journey toward happiness.
I’ve read other, less effective, self-help books that offer guidance through practice exercises. For me, those have always been a roadblock. I get to the questions and just stare blankly at the page. But, unlike those other books, Christal does the exercises along with you. Instead of being stumped or unsure of what the right thing to say is, she provides a path. So, whereas in the other books I’d often stop all together at this point, here I’m learning and opening up with the author. It feels like you're doing this with your closest friend instead of on your own.
The most moving part was in the last chapter of the book. The practice of How to be H.O.T. brought me to tears. The words she has you say to yourself are words that I've never said. But it’s obvious that these are things that I needed to say to heal. From this, I was able to realize what kind of woman I wanted to be and what I needed to do daily in order to become that woman. So powerful!
Even if you think your life is perfect or as though you don't need a book like this, I promise, this book can take things to a new level. You will become more happy, open, and trusting than you ever were before if you follow Christal’s guidance. This book is so beautiful inside and out with its lessons, quotes, photos, and humor. Everyday that passes before reading How to Be H.O.T. is a day wasted. It’s one less day of being on the path to be a better you. So, get to it! Start being H.O.T. today!
Christal begins by opening up to the reader about her history and struggles. For me, I immediately connected with Christal when she spoke about her relationship with her mother. At first, it felt as if she was telling my own story. As a result, I was immediately able to apply some of Christal’s conclusions to my own life. Specifically, it was obvious that I had been looking at my relationship with my mom the wrong way. Having this "Ah ha!" moment right off the bat had me turning every page to learn more!
One of the most valuable things I learned (and there were many) was that the relationship that I have with myself sets the foundation for the relationships I have with others. Even if you've been hurt in the past, there comes a point where you must let that go, taking happiness into your own hands. We can't go out searching for people or things to make us happy. The only person that can do that is you. But, that doesn’t mean you can’t get help along the way. Christal provides the tools and shows you how to begin your journey toward happiness.
I’ve read other, less effective, self-help books that offer guidance through practice exercises. For me, those have always been a roadblock. I get to the questions and just stare blankly at the page. But, unlike those other books, Christal does the exercises along with you. Instead of being stumped or unsure of what the right thing to say is, she provides a path. So, whereas in the other books I’d often stop all together at this point, here I’m learning and opening up with the author. It feels like you're doing this with your closest friend instead of on your own.
The most moving part was in the last chapter of the book. The practice of How to be H.O.T. brought me to tears. The words she has you say to yourself are words that I've never said. But it’s obvious that these are things that I needed to say to heal. From this, I was able to realize what kind of woman I wanted to be and what I needed to do daily in order to become that woman. So powerful!
Even if you think your life is perfect or as though you don't need a book like this, I promise, this book can take things to a new level. You will become more happy, open, and trusting than you ever were before if you follow Christal’s guidance. This book is so beautiful inside and out with its lessons, quotes, photos, and humor. Everyday that passes before reading How to Be H.O.T. is a day wasted. It’s one less day of being on the path to be a better you. So, get to it! Start being H.O.T. today!
February 14, 2017
I started and finished this book on the same day, i could not put it down! It explores not only romantic relationships, but relationships with friends, family, co-workers etc. She invites the reader to self-evaluate themselves and their behaviours, and throws a truthbomb or two. I absolutely loved the quotes throughout the book also!
March 2, 2017
Can we just take a minute to appreciate this woman!
Thank you.
Thank you for helping me see the things that have been hiding deep inside me that I push to the side thinking I'm ok when I'm really not. So I can open the box of hurt and start to work on it. Helping me to grow as a person. Helping me to appreciate the small things in life and to sit back and ask myself what I'm grateful for.
Download the apps she mentions if you haven't already!
P.s...If you have snap chat and your not already... you need to follow Christal. This book not only give a shit load of self help advice but for day to day, snap chat is a must.
Thank you.
Thank you for helping me see the things that have been hiding deep inside me that I push to the side thinking I'm ok when I'm really not. So I can open the box of hurt and start to work on it. Helping me to grow as a person. Helping me to appreciate the small things in life and to sit back and ask myself what I'm grateful for.
Download the apps she mentions if you haven't already!
P.s...If you have snap chat and your not already... you need to follow Christal. This book not only give a shit load of self help advice but for day to day, snap chat is a must.
February 7, 2017
Overall a good book, there was a lot of content that was not relevant to me, but I guess you will get that in any book of a similar nature. There definitely was a few 'ah-ha' moments and something things I have taken away from it to use in my everyday life.
Thanks Christal, love your work.
Thanks Christal, love your work.
September 27, 2016
This book is everything I needed and more!
I've been following Christal on the ladies coach for a while now, before I knew about the book coming out I would always said I wish I could print out your articles and rants and advice into a folder for my own collection. This book is that and more! She is so real and honest and makes you realises truths you didn't even realise you were doing! You read each page and go yes omg I totally do this!!
I guarantee this book will change your life for the better it's a must read!
I've been following Christal on the ladies coach for a while now, before I knew about the book coming out I would always said I wish I could print out your articles and rants and advice into a folder for my own collection. This book is that and more! She is so real and honest and makes you realises truths you didn't even realise you were doing! You read each page and go yes omg I totally do this!!
I guarantee this book will change your life for the better it's a must read!
October 11, 2016
As a therapist/Coach of 30 years myself, what Christal is doing with The Ladies Coach is amazing for the young women of today. I have been coaching men and women through a few generations so it's particularly refreshing to read her encouraging approach for women out there in the world!
February 8, 2019
Christal is amazing in all her platforms. Instagram. Snap chat. Writing and videos. Her knowledge is sound and she truly wants to help all those that she can.
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November 21, 2017
Amazing book - truly makes you look at how your relationship with yourself impacts every other relationship. Highly recommend this book!
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