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The Responsibility Process: Unlocking Your Natural Ability to Live and Lead with Power
FREEDOM, POWER, and CHOICE
Leadership is innate. The Responsibility Process proves it.
The Responsibility Process is a natural mental pattern that helps you process thoughts about taking or avoiding responsibility. How you navigate it determines whether you are leading toward meaningful results or just marking time.
This book gives you precision tools, practices, and leadership truths to navigate The Responsibility Process and lead yourself and others to freedom, power, and choice.
FROM THE FOREWORD BY HENRY KIMSEY-HOUSE
" The Responsibility Process offers powerful coaching. Christopher doesn’t just define the problem and then leave you with it the way some books do. He provides abundant tools, practices, and wisdom for taking ownership, solving problems, and developing your consciousness as a leader. I know you will enjoy this book and live a better life for having read it."
—HENRY KIMSEY-HOUSE , co-founder & lead designer of CTI, co-author of Co-Active Coaching & Co-Active Leadership
ADVANCE PRAISE FOR THE RESPONSIBILITY PROCESS
"This is an important book. The discovery and development of The Responsibility Process is a contribution to the psychology of success and happiness."
— DEREK SIVERS , founder of CD Baby, author of Anything You Want
"This book changed how I talk about responsibility in my training courses and with my teen daughters. An ownership mindset is critical to business agility. Avery brilliantly dissects how ownership (or the lack of it) works in the mind and what to do about it to lead yourself and others to freedom, happiness, and results that matter."
— MIKE COHN , author of Succeeding with Agile
CONTENTS
A More Productive Way to Live and Lead
Part I. Personal Responsibility in Everyday Life
1. What is Personal Responsibility?
2. Responsibility != Accountability
Part II. Three Tools for Understanding and Practicing Responsibility
3. The Responsibility Process
4. The Three Keys to Responsibility
5. The Catch Sooner Game
Part III. Practicing and Mastering Responsibility
6. Lead Yourself First
7. Sharing Responsibility, Sharing Leadership
8. Developing Responsibility in Others
9. Leading the Organization of Choice
On the Road to Mastery
Leadership is innate. The Responsibility Process proves it.
The Responsibility Process is a natural mental pattern that helps you process thoughts about taking or avoiding responsibility. How you navigate it determines whether you are leading toward meaningful results or just marking time.
This book gives you precision tools, practices, and leadership truths to navigate The Responsibility Process and lead yourself and others to freedom, power, and choice.
FROM THE FOREWORD BY HENRY KIMSEY-HOUSE
" The Responsibility Process offers powerful coaching. Christopher doesn’t just define the problem and then leave you with it the way some books do. He provides abundant tools, practices, and wisdom for taking ownership, solving problems, and developing your consciousness as a leader. I know you will enjoy this book and live a better life for having read it."
—HENRY KIMSEY-HOUSE , co-founder & lead designer of CTI, co-author of Co-Active Coaching & Co-Active Leadership
ADVANCE PRAISE FOR THE RESPONSIBILITY PROCESS
"This is an important book. The discovery and development of The Responsibility Process is a contribution to the psychology of success and happiness."
— DEREK SIVERS , founder of CD Baby, author of Anything You Want
"This book changed how I talk about responsibility in my training courses and with my teen daughters. An ownership mindset is critical to business agility. Avery brilliantly dissects how ownership (or the lack of it) works in the mind and what to do about it to lead yourself and others to freedom, happiness, and results that matter."
— MIKE COHN , author of Succeeding with Agile
CONTENTS
A More Productive Way to Live and Lead
Part I. Personal Responsibility in Everyday Life
1. What is Personal Responsibility?
2. Responsibility != Accountability
Part II. Three Tools for Understanding and Practicing Responsibility
3. The Responsibility Process
4. The Three Keys to Responsibility
5. The Catch Sooner Game
Part III. Practicing and Mastering Responsibility
6. Lead Yourself First
7. Sharing Responsibility, Sharing Leadership
8. Developing Responsibility in Others
9. Leading the Organization of Choice
On the Road to Mastery
274 pages, Kindle Edition
Published September 25, 2016
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About the author
Christopher Avery
8 books20 followersWhen Christopher Avery was a management consultant, this was his driving question: Why are so many smart people unhappy at work?
25 years ago, Christopher realized that the most useful skills he was teaching his smart, ambitious, professional clients were coping skills. They needed coping skills because they were stuck in a suffocating culture that systematically disempowered and controlled them. An insidious control cycle kept well-meaning, high-performing leaders and key contributors at all levels from doing their best, taking risks, learning, and operating with freedom, power and choice for the organizations’ best interests.
His own career trajectory changed forever when Christopher began working with an emerging behavioral science framework — The Responsibility Process. This powerful framework is the world’s first proven how-to approach for understanding, teaching, and taking personal responsibility. It helps us apply our innate leadership ability to face and overcome any challenge. Operating in freedom, power, and choice, we encourage and support those we lead to do likewise.
Hundreds of organizations worldwide have discovered that The Responsibility Process is the most direct, effective method for establishing a high-functioning culture that can achieve personal, team and organizational transformation and retain talent. The worldwide community of leaders who work with Christopher to master The Responsibility Process are transforming teams and organizations all over the world.
A speaker with wisdom and charisma, Christopher is popular with audiences interested in agility, effective leadership (not more leaders), and results that benefit the organization and the employees.
His classic work, "Teamwork Is An Individual Skill", inspires everyone who wants to be done with bad teams. His latest book, "The Responsibility Process", offers practices gleaned from 25 years of applied research on responsibility-taking and leadership. He’s the host of The Leadership Gift Program and its worldwide community of leaders and coaches who are mastering responsibility and reaping lifelong benefits.
In his mid-twenties, Christopher left a perfectly good job to return to school and earn a Ph.D. in organizational science from the University of Texas at Austin. Today his company is one of the go-to sources for leadership development and change management training worldwide.
25 years ago, Christopher realized that the most useful skills he was teaching his smart, ambitious, professional clients were coping skills. They needed coping skills because they were stuck in a suffocating culture that systematically disempowered and controlled them. An insidious control cycle kept well-meaning, high-performing leaders and key contributors at all levels from doing their best, taking risks, learning, and operating with freedom, power and choice for the organizations’ best interests.
His own career trajectory changed forever when Christopher began working with an emerging behavioral science framework — The Responsibility Process. This powerful framework is the world’s first proven how-to approach for understanding, teaching, and taking personal responsibility. It helps us apply our innate leadership ability to face and overcome any challenge. Operating in freedom, power, and choice, we encourage and support those we lead to do likewise.
Hundreds of organizations worldwide have discovered that The Responsibility Process is the most direct, effective method for establishing a high-functioning culture that can achieve personal, team and organizational transformation and retain talent. The worldwide community of leaders who work with Christopher to master The Responsibility Process are transforming teams and organizations all over the world.
A speaker with wisdom and charisma, Christopher is popular with audiences interested in agility, effective leadership (not more leaders), and results that benefit the organization and the employees.
His classic work, "Teamwork Is An Individual Skill", inspires everyone who wants to be done with bad teams. His latest book, "The Responsibility Process", offers practices gleaned from 25 years of applied research on responsibility-taking and leadership. He’s the host of The Leadership Gift Program and its worldwide community of leaders and coaches who are mastering responsibility and reaping lifelong benefits.
In his mid-twenties, Christopher left a perfectly good job to return to school and earn a Ph.D. in organizational science from the University of Texas at Austin. Today his company is one of the go-to sources for leadership development and change management training worldwide.
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March 12, 2018
The Responsibility Process is quite interesting and helpful in becoming more aware of how we are behaving. But in my view there is to much filler in the book. The most interesting part is part II, which are about 50 pages, the rest can easily be skipped.
Some concepts are a bit homegrown. They are "almost true" but not genuinely true. The "Catch sooner" concept for overcoming habits for example may a good first start for dealing with habits, but it has its limitations and is superficial. This is true for most of what is depicted. It stays on the surface, not providing any evidence beside the authors own experience and thus distorted towards the autos worldview.
The Responsibility Process itself is definitely worth 5 stars. But he can be easily looked up in the Internet (look for the responsibility method as well to get to the source of the idea). For me the book did not provide much added value.
Some concepts are a bit homegrown. They are "almost true" but not genuinely true. The "Catch sooner" concept for overcoming habits for example may a good first start for dealing with habits, but it has its limitations and is superficial. This is true for most of what is depicted. It stays on the surface, not providing any evidence beside the authors own experience and thus distorted towards the autos worldview.
The Responsibility Process itself is definitely worth 5 stars. But he can be easily looked up in the Internet (look for the responsibility method as well to get to the source of the idea). For me the book did not provide much added value.
January 28, 2019
Content-wise, the "Responsibility Process" itself owns a clear 5-star rating to me. Christopher Avery manages to lay out the essence and ingredients to master the "Responsibility Process" in an easily readable, humble and inspiring book. I got in touch with Christopher's concept during one of his talks at the Lean Kanban Conference Europe 2018 in Hamburg, and I instantly knew that this was valuable advice that will positively challenge me within my personal and professional life.
Now that I finished reading "The Responsibility Process", I will use Christopher's writings as a work book and follow the manifold "Responsibility Practices" that he encourages the reader to do. The result might be a life-long journey which will be both frightening and rewarding at the same time.
So why only 3 stars? I wished the book was a bit more dense, and delivered some more background on the scientific foundation that the "Responsibility Process" is built upon. As with many American business and "self-help" books, I am left with the feeling that it contains too many pages that act as fill-ins, repeats itself too often and tries to sell itself to the reader just once more.
After all, if you are up for this kind of approach, read this book. If you are not fortunate enough to listen to Christopher at some conference, you will find talks of him on the Internet, so you can listen and decide if the "Responsibility Process" is something that might benefit the life you want to lead.
Now that I finished reading "The Responsibility Process", I will use Christopher's writings as a work book and follow the manifold "Responsibility Practices" that he encourages the reader to do. The result might be a life-long journey which will be both frightening and rewarding at the same time.
So why only 3 stars? I wished the book was a bit more dense, and delivered some more background on the scientific foundation that the "Responsibility Process" is built upon. As with many American business and "self-help" books, I am left with the feeling that it contains too many pages that act as fill-ins, repeats itself too often and tries to sell itself to the reader just once more.
After all, if you are up for this kind of approach, read this book. If you are not fortunate enough to listen to Christopher at some conference, you will find talks of him on the Internet, so you can listen and decide if the "Responsibility Process" is something that might benefit the life you want to lead.
September 28, 2019
Dies ist eines der Bücher, denen ich gleichzeitig 1 und 4 Sterne geben möchte.
Auf der Plusseite enthält es wirklich einige gute Erkenntnisse dazu, wie wir mit Situationen umgehen, in denen wir uns überfordert fühlen, und wie man daran etwas ändern kann. Soweit, so gut.
Völlig unerträglich finde ich aber den Schreibstil. Ratgeberliteratur - speziell amerikanische - neigt ja ohnehin gern zur Übertreibung, aber Avery treibt es auf die Spitze. Alle paar Sätze wird betont, dass der RESPONSIBILITY PROCESS dein Leben vollenden wird und dass man durch die Übernahme von echter VERANTWORTUNG (ja, der Fettdruck ist aus dem Buch) jedes Problem lösen kann. Stilistisch irgendwo zwischen KFC ("Wie bereits COLONEL HARLAND SANDERS sagte...") und religiöser Erlösertexten ("Und der HERR sprach..."). Und stellenweise wissenschaftlich ähnlich fundiert.
Störend finde ich außerdem diesen Allgemeingültigkeitsanspruch: JEDER kann die hier aufgeführten Techniken erlernen und damit JEDES Problem lösen? Beides ist nach meiner Erfahrung Unsinn. Es gibt Gründe, warum die im Buch genannten suboptimalen Bewältigungsmechanismen (Leugnen, Beschuldigen, Rechtfertigen, Schämen, Aufgeben, Verpflichtung) auftreten, und zwar nicht wie vom Autor wiederholt behauptet nur wegen einer fehlerhaften kulturellen Prägung. Sondern weil es vollkommener Wahnsinn wäre, für jedes Problem, das einem im Laufe des Lebens über die Füße läuft, persönlich VERANTWORTUNG übernehmen zu wollen. Ja, man kann sich eine Reihe von Problemen vornehmen, für die man durch die im Buch genannten Techniken Verbesserungen erzielen möchte. Aber der Versuch, immer und in allen Situationen in Verantwortung zu gehen, zeugt doch eher von Selbstüberschätzung. Stellen Sie sich vor: Sie sind mit der aktuellen Politik unzufrieden? Sie finden den Klimawandel schlimm? Ihnen tun Flüchtlinge leid? Sie leiden unter dem Bürokratiewahnsinn in Deutschland? Sie sind erschrocken über die wachsende Ausländerfeindlichkeit und den neuen Antisemitismus? Wenn Sie dem Autor folgen wollen, dann liegt das Problem bei Ihnen: Hören Sie auf zu jammern, sondern tun sie etwas. Und zwar gegen all die genannten Punkte und noch viele mehr. Ist das realistisch? Eben.
Noch einmal: Das Buch hat einige durchaus valide Beobachtungen. Aber das nahezu biblische Sendungsbewusstsein lässt ihn meiner Meinung nach weit übers Ziel hinausschießen.
Auf der Plusseite enthält es wirklich einige gute Erkenntnisse dazu, wie wir mit Situationen umgehen, in denen wir uns überfordert fühlen, und wie man daran etwas ändern kann. Soweit, so gut.
Völlig unerträglich finde ich aber den Schreibstil. Ratgeberliteratur - speziell amerikanische - neigt ja ohnehin gern zur Übertreibung, aber Avery treibt es auf die Spitze. Alle paar Sätze wird betont, dass der RESPONSIBILITY PROCESS dein Leben vollenden wird und dass man durch die Übernahme von echter VERANTWORTUNG (ja, der Fettdruck ist aus dem Buch) jedes Problem lösen kann. Stilistisch irgendwo zwischen KFC ("Wie bereits COLONEL HARLAND SANDERS sagte...") und religiöser Erlösertexten ("Und der HERR sprach..."). Und stellenweise wissenschaftlich ähnlich fundiert.
Störend finde ich außerdem diesen Allgemeingültigkeitsanspruch: JEDER kann die hier aufgeführten Techniken erlernen und damit JEDES Problem lösen? Beides ist nach meiner Erfahrung Unsinn. Es gibt Gründe, warum die im Buch genannten suboptimalen Bewältigungsmechanismen (Leugnen, Beschuldigen, Rechtfertigen, Schämen, Aufgeben, Verpflichtung) auftreten, und zwar nicht wie vom Autor wiederholt behauptet nur wegen einer fehlerhaften kulturellen Prägung. Sondern weil es vollkommener Wahnsinn wäre, für jedes Problem, das einem im Laufe des Lebens über die Füße läuft, persönlich VERANTWORTUNG übernehmen zu wollen. Ja, man kann sich eine Reihe von Problemen vornehmen, für die man durch die im Buch genannten Techniken Verbesserungen erzielen möchte. Aber der Versuch, immer und in allen Situationen in Verantwortung zu gehen, zeugt doch eher von Selbstüberschätzung. Stellen Sie sich vor: Sie sind mit der aktuellen Politik unzufrieden? Sie finden den Klimawandel schlimm? Ihnen tun Flüchtlinge leid? Sie leiden unter dem Bürokratiewahnsinn in Deutschland? Sie sind erschrocken über die wachsende Ausländerfeindlichkeit und den neuen Antisemitismus? Wenn Sie dem Autor folgen wollen, dann liegt das Problem bei Ihnen: Hören Sie auf zu jammern, sondern tun sie etwas. Und zwar gegen all die genannten Punkte und noch viele mehr. Ist das realistisch? Eben.
Noch einmal: Das Buch hat einige durchaus valide Beobachtungen. Aber das nahezu biblische Sendungsbewusstsein lässt ihn meiner Meinung nach weit übers Ziel hinausschießen.
November 17, 2018
A great tool for self leading, leading and coaching. There are many ways to stay in a coping state and not to grow. Taking Ownership is only way to be free, empowerd, and at choice, which lead to growth.
We might not change the Circumstances around us, however how we react to it is in our own hand.
Control the sail not the wind
We might not change the Circumstances around us, however how we react to it is in our own hand.
Control the sail not the wind
June 26, 2018
This book is more than just a book on responsibility, it is a book about a different life. A life that can be attained with very little effort but with much discipline.
A very good and a concise book, containing very much information on very few pages. It tells about the responsibility process and how we actually can be responsible instead of just talking about being responsible.
The beginning contains a explanatory section, going into more detail about what responsibility actually is and how it presents itself in everyday life. Right from the start, the author puts the responsibility process right in the center of attention and explains each step of what the author regards as the responsibility process. Reading through this section made me aware of many mistakes I do in my life an where there is still a lot of potential to be more responsible and to take more responsibility.
It made me aware of my shortcomings and where I can apply some of the suggestions in the book. The author provides, for my taste, very plausible strategies to overcome some of our mental barriers and gives advice for very real scenarios. The suggestions can be applied in everyday life. The suggestions in the book apply for responsibility novices as same as for masters.
I definitely recommend reading it. Regardless of how you apply responsibility in your life already, I think it still will be a great addition to your life.
A very good and a concise book, containing very much information on very few pages. It tells about the responsibility process and how we actually can be responsible instead of just talking about being responsible.
The beginning contains a explanatory section, going into more detail about what responsibility actually is and how it presents itself in everyday life. Right from the start, the author puts the responsibility process right in the center of attention and explains each step of what the author regards as the responsibility process. Reading through this section made me aware of many mistakes I do in my life an where there is still a lot of potential to be more responsible and to take more responsibility.
It made me aware of my shortcomings and where I can apply some of the suggestions in the book. The author provides, for my taste, very plausible strategies to overcome some of our mental barriers and gives advice for very real scenarios. The suggestions can be applied in everyday life. The suggestions in the book apply for responsibility novices as same as for masters.
I definitely recommend reading it. Regardless of how you apply responsibility in your life already, I think it still will be a great addition to your life.
January 5, 2018
Practicing responsibility is something many people - and I - believe are doing, however we are responsible humans (being nice, good as to the moral compass taught by others), we are not *taking responsibility*. That is what I've learned first from this amazing process called The Responsibility Process. It is a huge difference between being responsible and taking responsibility.
Did you know that every time we feel anxiety or stress, that we're going through the same cycle each time again? Once we're aware of this cycle - and that is what this book is for - we will get much faster up, above the line, staying in (taking) Responsibility.
"Catch yourself sooner" is a game introduced in this book, to, well yes, catch yourself sooner when we are in one of the stages below the line by blaming others, justifying our own behaviour. Or we are stuck in Shame or Obligation. Worse, we are in the limbo, called Quit and think "Whatever" most of the time, getting along with life, like everyone does (justifying again). I catch myself everyday a few times now justifying or blaming or feeling obliged to to something. And it works, next day, I catch myself sooner and feel lighter and in control, owning the situation earlier than before.
Christopher writes in a way that feels like having a chat with a friend. There is no exaggerations like some would possibly know from a self-help book. There is no patronising tone or You-Should, You-Must phrases. Step by step Christopher explains how to get into taking Responsibility. The difference between accountability and responsibility. It's about owning your reality. The freedom, choice and power to chose, create and attract the reality. Your reality.
As an Agile Coach, this book will be very helpful to my future approaches of getting people on board in change & transition journeys. Not by telling THEM how to take responsibility. No, it is ME by leading as a person that takes Responsibility. This will invite and attract people to take Responsibility.
This book was time spent well and I will get back to it frequently to check-in where I am.
Did you know that every time we feel anxiety or stress, that we're going through the same cycle each time again? Once we're aware of this cycle - and that is what this book is for - we will get much faster up, above the line, staying in (taking) Responsibility.
"Catch yourself sooner" is a game introduced in this book, to, well yes, catch yourself sooner when we are in one of the stages below the line by blaming others, justifying our own behaviour. Or we are stuck in Shame or Obligation. Worse, we are in the limbo, called Quit and think "Whatever" most of the time, getting along with life, like everyone does (justifying again). I catch myself everyday a few times now justifying or blaming or feeling obliged to to something. And it works, next day, I catch myself sooner and feel lighter and in control, owning the situation earlier than before.
Christopher writes in a way that feels like having a chat with a friend. There is no exaggerations like some would possibly know from a self-help book. There is no patronising tone or You-Should, You-Must phrases. Step by step Christopher explains how to get into taking Responsibility. The difference between accountability and responsibility. It's about owning your reality. The freedom, choice and power to chose, create and attract the reality. Your reality.
As an Agile Coach, this book will be very helpful to my future approaches of getting people on board in change & transition journeys. Not by telling THEM how to take responsibility. No, it is ME by leading as a person that takes Responsibility. This will invite and attract people to take Responsibility.
This book was time spent well and I will get back to it frequently to check-in where I am.
May 6, 2018
This is an amazing book
This is an amazing book. Christopher describes the Responsibility Process that is inherent in all of us and natural to humans. Each time we encounter a problem, we are going through the complete Responsibility Process. The goal is to become aware of the mental state we are in when upset and quickly move on to the mental state of Responsibility. In this state we own our ability and power to create, choose, and attract; we feel powerful, free and of choice. Christopher also explains the difference between being responsible and taking responsibility, with the later one as the one meant in the Responsibility Process.
If you want to become a leader or better person in general, read this book and internalize the Responsibility Process. If only everyone would intent to take responsibility, the world would be a much better place to live.
This is an amazing book. Christopher describes the Responsibility Process that is inherent in all of us and natural to humans. Each time we encounter a problem, we are going through the complete Responsibility Process. The goal is to become aware of the mental state we are in when upset and quickly move on to the mental state of Responsibility. In this state we own our ability and power to create, choose, and attract; we feel powerful, free and of choice. Christopher also explains the difference between being responsible and taking responsibility, with the later one as the one meant in the Responsibility Process.
If you want to become a leader or better person in general, read this book and internalize the Responsibility Process. If only everyone would intent to take responsibility, the world would be a much better place to live.
March 13, 2018
Trying to get our daughter to take more responsibility was difficult. This book helped us as parents to take responsibility by asking for agreements in a new way. We immediately saw demonstration of the behaviour changes we sought! See, “Do I have agreement for what I’ve asked for?”
December 23, 2018
4 start for the book itself, but the idea is worth 5
December 31, 2021
Gutes Thema, unerträglicher Schreibstil.
Aber - um Dorothee G. zu zitieren - seitdem ich den Prozess akzeptiert habe, geht das Beschuldigen viel schneller und macht mehr Spaß 😎
Aber - um Dorothee G. zu zitieren - seitdem ich den Prozess akzeptiert habe, geht das Beschuldigen viel schneller und macht mehr Spaß 😎
November 27, 2021
Concepts are good, but the the repetition of ideas made it painful to read..I skimmed most of the second half.
January 30, 2022
Some truly wonderful ideas, principles, and techniques. Could have used a stronger edit for clarity, structure, flow, and repetition. The core self-awareness process is gold.
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November 12, 2024Christopher doesn't live above the line.
Unfortunately I can't read my father's second book without remembering that he hasn't taken responsibility for living a double life, moving money out the back door to the scientology 'free zone', allegedly cheating on my mom, and emotionally and psychologically abusing the three of us. He ripped off Mom in the divorce- she paused her cardiac surgery nurse/ ICU charge nurse career to be his accountant and CFO and he cheated her out of a retirement after thirty years. I was diagnosed as a child and he ignored the doctors and abused me for my condition having symptoms. He has not attempted to make amends so sadly I can only read hypocrisy. He was with the family from a few years before my birth until I was about 25 when he could no longer hide the scientology in his work from my questions after earning degrees in philosophy and psychology. At that point my mother, brother, and I learned a lot of the dirty truths as his mental health declined and we unraveled his deceptions. Christopher Melton 'Responsible' Avery certainly has not made amends and certainly does and did not live above the line.
The key takeaway I would offer is that from a cognitive psychology perspective, it is not healthy. The scientology was inseparable from the assumptions of manifestation and control, etc.
Unfortunately I can't read my father's second book without remembering that he hasn't taken responsibility for living a double life, moving money out the back door to the scientology 'free zone', allegedly cheating on my mom, and emotionally and psychologically abusing the three of us. He ripped off Mom in the divorce- she paused her cardiac surgery nurse/ ICU charge nurse career to be his accountant and CFO and he cheated her out of a retirement after thirty years. I was diagnosed as a child and he ignored the doctors and abused me for my condition having symptoms. He has not attempted to make amends so sadly I can only read hypocrisy. He was with the family from a few years before my birth until I was about 25 when he could no longer hide the scientology in his work from my questions after earning degrees in philosophy and psychology. At that point my mother, brother, and I learned a lot of the dirty truths as his mental health declined and we unraveled his deceptions. Christopher Melton 'Responsible' Avery certainly has not made amends and certainly does and did not live above the line.
The key takeaway I would offer is that from a cognitive psychology perspective, it is not healthy. The scientology was inseparable from the assumptions of manifestation and control, etc.
October 25, 2020
This book and the concept can change your life if you do the work and put in the practice. I am amazed at how differently I approach situations that upset me. I was used to dealing with technical problems as a programmer, but problems with people interactions were almost impossible for me to work out. After deliberate practice with experienced Responsibility Masters, it is easier for me to see what my problems are, figure out what I want, and take effective action steps to live a life free, powerful, and at choice.
February 21, 2021
This book is about the difference between "being a responsible person" and "taking (personal) responsibility". It lays out a model to recognize and label the avoidance and coping stages that precede taking true Responsibility, with an emphasis that these are completely normal, human, coping responses for anxiety, but they are unresourceful states. A very useful language for recognizing and negotiating Responsibility in yourself and with others.
September 5, 2023
"The Responsibility Process" by Christopher Avery, published in 2016, has been a great read content-wise. The idea of taking responsibility instead of staying in coping mechanisms like denial, lay blame, justification, shame, obligation and quit, was great and motivating.
However, the text and citing style sometimes lacked quality. The text could have used more literature references. In addition, Avery's verbal success claims were a bit too much for my taste.
So overall 3 stars.
However, the text and citing style sometimes lacked quality. The text could have used more literature references. In addition, Avery's verbal success claims were a bit too much for my taste.
So overall 3 stars.
December 24, 2024
A good book, I miss a more scientific approach to what Christopher is “selling” on the content, but is still a good book.
I like how some of the themes in the book is aligned with some themes I was talking in my therapy and how some of the “keys to responsibility” is something I want to master in my life.
Anyway, Christopher have a unique view about responsibility and this book could be a good way to take that view to yourself
I like how some of the themes in the book is aligned with some themes I was talking in my therapy and how some of the “keys to responsibility” is something I want to master in my life.
Anyway, Christopher have a unique view about responsibility and this book could be a good way to take that view to yourself
September 19, 2022
I liked this book.
Good for reflecting over own behavior. I doubt nobody can see themselves In most of the situations described.
I didnt agree with everything … sometimes it is described almost spiritually but mostly applicable in the context of work environment. Also the structure was a bit uneven and repetetive.
All in all a book I would recommend.
Good for reflecting over own behavior. I doubt nobody can see themselves In most of the situations described.
I didnt agree with everything … sometimes it is described almost spiritually but mostly applicable in the context of work environment. Also the structure was a bit uneven and repetetive.
All in all a book I would recommend.
August 2, 2019
Very good book for personal growth. Unfortunately the author repeats himself quite often.
November 8, 2019
Really great book if you have no in-depth knowledge of coaching
July 7, 2021
I did not enjoy reading this book. The worst part about it was that I couldn’t DNF it since it was required to read.
August 17, 2017
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Līdzīga sajūta man iepriekš bija varbūt pirms gadiem 10, kad pirmo reizi lasīju un mācījos par līdzatkarību
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Bija sajūta, kā pēc zemestrīces - tik spēcīgi un nozīmīgi bija nosaukt vārdā spēcīgas sajūtas un procesus, kas caurvij manu ikdienu. Atbildības process ir kā otra milzu plātne, ar kuru saduroties, radot satricinājumu, var rasties skaistākie kalni manā dzīvē.
Kristofers Eiverijs
raksta:
"Vadītāji man mēdz jautāt, “Kristofer, vai tu domā, ka Atbildības process nostrādās arī manā kompānijā?” Es atbildu, sakot, ka tas jau tagad pilnā apmērā strādā. Daudz svarīgāks jautājums ir “Kā tas strādā?”. Vai līderības un kultūras vide problēmu un frustrāciju gadījumā vedina cilvēkus mēģināt tikt galā, izturēt vai izmantot problēmu, kā iespēju pilnveidoties un augt?"
Aizstājot "vadītāji" ar "cilvēki" un "kompānija" ar "dzīve", ir skaidrs, ka nav jautājums, vai atbildības process var nostrādāt manā dzīvē; jautājums ir - kā tas jau šobrīd notiek un notiks visu manu dzīvi.
Līdzīga sajūta man iepriekš bija varbūt pirms gadiem 10, kad pirmo reizi lasīju un mācījos par līdzatkarību
. Bija sajūta, kā pēc zemestrīces - tik spēcīgi un nozīmīgi bija nosaukt vārdā spēcīgas sajūtas un procesus, kas caurvij manu ikdienu. Atbildības process ir kā otra milzu plātne, ar kuru saduroties, radot satricinājumu, var rasties skaistākie kalni manā dzīvē.
Kristofers Eiverijs
raksta: "Vadītāji man mēdz jautāt, “Kristofer, vai tu domā, ka Atbildības process nostrādās arī manā kompānijā?” Es atbildu, sakot, ka tas jau tagad pilnā apmērā strādā. Daudz svarīgāks jautājums ir “Kā tas strādā?”. Vai līderības un kultūras vide problēmu un frustrāciju gadījumā vedina cilvēkus mēģināt tikt galā, izturēt vai izmantot problēmu, kā iespēju pilnveidoties un augt?"
Aizstājot "vadītāji" ar "cilvēki" un "kompānija" ar "dzīve", ir skaidrs, ka nav jautājums, vai atbildības process var nostrādāt manā dzīvē; jautājums ir - kā tas jau šobrīd notiek un notiks visu manu dzīvi.
October 7, 2021
Have you ever fallen into the trap of blaming others, justifying why you can't overcome an obstacle, shaming yourself, feeling obligated to do something or simply quitting when faced with a challenge? You too, huh? Yeah, you are human.
So....what if there were ways you could learn how to move out of these states to be more free, powerful and at choice thereby widening your range of responses? At least interested in the possibility? Then read this book.
I enjoyed this book, and think this is valuable for everyone to read. I recommend you try the practices and thought questions to get the most out of it.
So....what if there were ways you could learn how to move out of these states to be more free, powerful and at choice thereby widening your range of responses? At least interested in the possibility? Then read this book.
I enjoyed this book, and think this is valuable for everyone to read. I recommend you try the practices and thought questions to get the most out of it.
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September 29, 2017The Responsibility Process will probably change my life.
The beginning chapters of the book were a bit crufty for me. But that's probably because I've had a couple people explaining the process to me, including the author himself at the book signing.
The later chapters though, were worth reading the book, even though I already knew a lot of the theory.
I necer understood how personal responsibility could be 'the single key to leadership' (or however people formulate it.
And I still don't think this book alone would have given me the insight why that is.
If you want to get that insight I would recommend reading 'Extreme Ownership' first, like I did. That book primed me to understand the leadership part of this book.
You don't need to have that insight to lead though, just applying this book will probably make you a fantastic leader...
The beginning chapters of the book were a bit crufty for me. But that's probably because I've had a couple people explaining the process to me, including the author himself at the book signing.
The later chapters though, were worth reading the book, even though I already knew a lot of the theory.
I necer understood how personal responsibility could be 'the single key to leadership' (or however people formulate it.
And I still don't think this book alone would have given me the insight why that is.
If you want to get that insight I would recommend reading 'Extreme Ownership' first, like I did. That book primed me to understand the leadership part of this book.
You don't need to have that insight to lead though, just applying this book will probably make you a fantastic leader...
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