How Do You Know by Meredith Schoor is a 2014 Booktrope publication. I was provided a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
Well, I'm not sure where to even start with this book. I couldn't help but notice when I added the book to my TBR list on Goodreads, it was very well received with over fifty reviews, nearly all of them five stars. I thought the book sounded like an up to date “Sex in the City” and would have friendships, romance, and humor all mixed together, with a chick -lit style, plus it sounded like a fun kind of book. Well, some of those elements are there, but sadly, the book just didn't work for me.
Maggie has embarked on her last year before turning the big Four-O. This impending milestone has her fretting about the future, not so much professionally, but in the romance department. Her near perfect, and slightly younger, live in boyfriend, Doug, seems like a real catch, so why the doubts? Is he or isn't he “the one”? When Maggie voices her inner thoughts out loud to Doug he feels it's best they part ways, and so Maggie embarks on a year of self discovery, looking for answers to her burning questions about love and life.
Well, If Maggie had been in a snit over her impending thirtieth birthday, I would have been fine with the book. But, forty? Good Lord, people! Really? Forty? I wouldn't mind if forty was the new thirty in terms of health and life expectancy, but not in maturity levels. Maggie's character fit perfectly in with some twenty somethings I know and few thirty somethings too, but no one, and repeat, no one I know approaching their forties is this silly, immature, or this incredibly self absorbed. Maggie gave little or no thought to the consequences of her actions, nor does she care about those she stomps on or over, or who she hurts in the process. She doesn't figure in any kind of accountability for her actions, thinking it's perfectly alright to string people along while you do your self discovery thing. When I say self discovery, I really do mean SELF- It's all about her!
I didn't like Maggie jerking Doug around, not even mourning the break up, immediately sleeping with a man who is separated, but not divorced, which is still adultery, and carrying on like a horny teenager. Yes, the character goes through a year of ups and downs and in the end finally gets a grip on herself and thinks she has figured out all of life's burning questions after putting everyone through her self absorption for a year. Again, this is something I could see a younger person doing and just because she never married or started a family, is no excuse to behave in this manner. Maggie should have grown up emotionally a long, long, long time ago. In fact, I kept having to remind myself this woman was nearly forty years old! That still just doesn't want to compute. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that once you get to a certain age you can't have fun or live life to it's fullest, or kick up your heels once in awhile, or that she should have stayed in a relationship she felt uncertain of or just settled for comfort and stability. But, realistically, we all have doubts, all feel an attraction to someone other than our significant other on occasion, all wonder "what if" from time to time, all wish we could escape the ordinary routines of life, but do you just throw away all that is good and right, over a few niggling doubts? Selfish, immature people do, but those who use their common sense and have a modicum of maturity will use reason and logic to dispel those moments of doubts, traits Maggie didn't appear to have.
I wanted to like the book, tried to buy into what the author was selling, but I just couldn't warm up to Maggie, couldn't relate to her in any way, didn't really care for her friends or choice of lovers, and didn't find anything funny, charming or emotional in any of characters, except poor Doug, who deserved so much better than he got.
So, I guess maybe I'm a little out of touch or old fashioned, or I missed out on some grand epiphany everyone else caught onto, that I missed out on somehow. It wasn't my cuppa, but it could be just your kind of book- that's what makes the world go round.
2 stars