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“I defy any woman to flick through Modestly , through Dina’s musings on bullying, eating disorders, maternity wear, contouring and feminism, and not find something they can relate to” – METRO

‘This is the story of my life. It’s about me as a Muslim Brit embracing dual identities, surviving the turbulent teens and transitioning from self-doubt to self-belief. There is a little bit of drama, lots of laughs, plenty of practical advice and a shedload of bold statements. You can’t get a Muslim woman in a hijab with no opinion, am I right?!'
Dina x Guys, get ready. YouTuber and social media sensation Dina Torkia is giving you a never-seen-before look into her world. From advice on fashion, beauty and style, to frank opinions on family, career and faith, this is everything that Dina has ever wanted to share with you. So let Dina tell you how it really is, living and loving life as a modern Muslim Brit. @dinatokio

224 pages, Hardcover

Published September 20, 2018

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30 reviews
October 21, 2018
After searching far and wide, I had mixed feelings about the fact that in order to get my hands on the book of my favorite Youtuber, I’d have to support [“the A word”] (hint: rhymes with Ramazon), as my fellow independent booksellers call it. (s/o Warwicks fam) “It isn’t even showing up in our system. That sometimes happens when the foreign authors aren’t too popular,” I was told. Bummed, thinking /pshhh, who doesn’t know Dina Tokio???” I left, resorting to pre-ordering it online. I got it as a birthday present to myself, actually, hehe. And--it was actually cheaper than I thought it would be, and cheaper than most hard-copy books you’d get at an independent bookstore, in all honesty. It costed me about $24.50 (incl. shipping and the .71 cent foreign transaction fee). Not bad at all. Also, I did the math. Had I bought it in store, it would only be a few dollars more (SO SUPPORT YOUR LOCAL BOOKSTORE WHEN POSSIBLE).

...Now for what’s inside the book! I’ve been following Dina’s journey for YEARS. I’ve watched every vlog, every video, everythaaang. *heart eyes* Anyway--I jumped into it with zero expectations, besides the fact that I need to read this start to finish because I was so curious about what she had to say. I took in the gorgeous, minimally glam cover and the sheer quality of the book. Of course, I looked up the publisher, Elbury Press (an imprint of Penguin Random House), because in another life, I’d be publishing books right now. Anyway-- I was most excited for the pictures of little Dina and Toosy to be totally honest. But, then after the introduction, I started reading the chapters of personal essays, starting with “The Other Half,” and I could literally *hear* Dina in my head. It felt all too familiar. I wasn’t sure what I was expecting, but I think I was caught off-guard by it seeming like her videos where she is addressing her viewers. But, then I realized that folks usually write the way they speak, and I wasn’t, like, turned off by it; I just wasn’t expecting it, I guess. Regardless, I just had to continue. Since I’ve been following Dina for so long, I know quite a bit about her life, despite the fact that she’s said multiple times that she actually keeps a lot private. I guess, to be fair, I know more about her journey/what she chooses to share than her actual life, since I don’t actually /know/ her. So, her first essay is about how and where she grew up, discussing the cultural and religious contexts. Diving in, in another essay, she quickly gets to her hijab years, and then discusses her struggles with eating disorders, and later a disorder which caused her to obsessively pull out her hair. She discusses confidence issues, and her struggles with school and, thus inevitably, with defining her career goals. While so much of this was very familiar to me, she mentions details that gave me more perspective. Like, the fact that her mom didn’t notice that she was bulimic/what she was going through, and it made me realize how many disorders go unnoticed or disregarded in our community, though it may be unintentional. It’s so important to bring awareness to these disorders and struggles. Along with other “controversial” topics and reflections--like interracial marriage, being a creative in the Muslim community, racism and anti-blackness, family struggles, and many others--, Dina does a really good job of scratching the surface. I say “scratching the surface” not as in a “she’s not doing or saying enough” way, but, rather, that it’s a reality that we, as a community, have so much work to do. Like, yes, we can talk about these topics and agree to agree, but what are we *actually* doing to fix these issues? I honestly feel like it’s critical not only to address these issues openly (because it’s a lot healthier than flipping stigma/shame culture), but to collectively in supporting the folks who need it most, and aiming to fix the core causes of the issues. Okay--rant done.

Without giving too much away, the middle section of the book is fashion and beauty reflections and tips, which I found insightful. I’ll have to go back and flag the hell of it, because there are some pretty cool tips. She also makes an effort to reflect on the tokenization of Muslim and visibly Muslim women in the industry. Had me like: *GURL PREACH*

One of my top favorite parts of the book was Sid’s portion. I’m so glad Dina had him write a part (which takes up two whole pages and falls in the “Parenting & Family” chapter). I honestly am considering buying the audiobook just to hear what that portion sounds like in his voice. Having my own impression of Sid, and him usually trying to act like a tough guy, I think it gave a voice to the Muslim fathers who want to and do have an important role in their kids’ lives. And, it’s so important. To me, it made the book more wholesome--not to say that it wouldn’t have been without it, but it sat with me, along with other parts, and that’s what I need from a book. I’d read several parts of the book again--and again, and again--in a heartbeat.

Now, the question may be: “But, like, do you recommend it?” Uh, yes. I do, wholeheartedly. Having some background of the publishing industry, the reality is that publishing is a business. They’ll invest only in who and what seems potentially profitable, if we’re being honest. Another reality is that authors only get a portion of the profits (i.e. royalties), because of production cost and $$PROFIT$$. In other words, unless authors REALLY MAKE IT, they’re not getting paid that much from book sales, FYI. Regardless, it’s more critical than you know to support diverse authors. We need more diverse representation in every industry, and I know that’s not a questionable statement. Buy the book, and/or the audiobook. If you can’t, support in whichever ways possible. I think it’s most important to, just, *be present* and show up in one way or another. Now--What’s your excuse?
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245 reviews14 followers
May 23, 2019
Dina is one of the few vloggers I have maintained interest in throughout the years. I find that she is engaging, relatable and has a great sense of humor. I have no interest in fashion or makeup, but I do love Dina's fashion sense, even if I never apply it to my own. Considering my already established affinity, I enjoyed this book mostly because I liked getting into her head a little bit more.

The first half of the book is filled with childhood photos and personal stories, which I loved. The middle portion of the book revolves around fashion and beauty. While I did appreciate the photos, and some of the tips, for the most part I found this entirely uninteresting. For people who are interested in modest fashion, this will be more enlightening for you. The book ends with some musings about her personal life as it is right now -mostly motherhood but also just her personal life, her relationship with hijab and other topics that are relevant to her now.

She lost me talking about skin color and feminism. In these final topics, Dina is talking from her own personal perspective and it comes across as preachy. For example, she considers girls clothes that are short on the legs to be sexualizing of children. I'd argue that the only sexualization of children comes from adults viewing them that way. Is it sexual for a child to run around naked? I'd assume Dina would think so.

However she then moves into more interesting topics showcasing an intimate look at some aspects of being Muslim (like dating, marriage and sex). This is pretty fascinating, especially from her very modern/liberal perspective. The Muslims I know are much more conservative than her, yet her struggles rang with a lot of familiarity.

You don't have to be a Muslim to enjoy Dina and her philosophy on life and fashion, anyone can relate to her struggles and admire her successes. She isn't a fantastic writer, but it's a personal story and her writing suits the telling of it. It's simple, avoids purple prose, and is breezy to get through. I would have liked to seen more about her life and her family, but Dina is a pretty private person and this book is already an infringement to her privacy. I liked it, it was alright. I'd recommend it to anyone who is interested in the modest fashion "movement".
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4,565 reviews11 followers
September 29, 2018
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Book synopsis: ‘This is the story of my life. It’s about me as a Muslim Brit embracing dual identities, surviving the turbulent teens and transitioning from self-doubt to self-belief. There is a little bit of drama, lots of laughs, plenty of practical advice and a shedload of bold statements. You can’t get a Muslim woman in a hijab with no opinion, am I right?!'
Dina x

Guys, get ready. YouTuber and social media sensation Dina Torkia is giving you a never-seen-before look into her world. From advice on fashion, beauty and style, to frank opinions on family, career and faith, this is everything that Dina has ever wanted to share with you.

So let Dina tell you how it really is, living and loving life as a modern Muslim Brit.
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90 reviews56 followers
November 16, 2021
Wasn't really what I was expecting but I still enjoyed it. It had lots of great life advice with titbits of Dina's life meshed into it. So it was sort of like Self-help book about many aspects of Dina's life and advice to the readers in relation to each be it family, fashion, love, duality of identity, interracial marriage, being a Muslim in the West and a Youtuber/vlogger
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450 reviews24 followers
January 4, 2019
I love following Dina on youtube and bought the book to support her. I enjoyed the autobiographical sections of the book but a lot of specific fashion/makeup tips felt a little less engaging in printed form vs. video tutorials. There are a lot of great pictures throughout, but you can also get similar content on her instagram. I'll continue following her online but probably won't re-read this.
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2 reviews
May 31, 2021
I have been watching Dina Torkia's vlogs and videos, and following her blog as well for almost a decade now, time really flies! You can imagine the excitement I felt when I found her baby (her book) at Virgin Mega Store, after struggling to get it from Amazon for a long time!
Dina has been my friend since day one. I first found her videos back in 2011 when I started wearing Hijab, she was still new to YouTube. There weren't many daring women who actively presented themselves on the internet on any platform by filming or blogging about Muslim women issues, hijab struggles, and style. That's how she started before she managed to tackle deeper topics.
There's something warm about bonding with a blogger that some people might find weird and silly, but it feels like a journey that we have been through together, we have grown, both Dina and us, her audience, which is very sentimental when I think of it.
Dina's book is a journey by itself. I have been carrying this book around for a few months now, giving each chapter some time and living each phase separately, mostly relating to everything I'm reading.
This book feels like a guide to Muslim women on how to embrace every aspect of our culture, religion and mental health MODESTLY.
Dina tackles so many important topics, from fashion and beauty to family and parenting, moving to relationship talks and reflections, and of course struggles that are universal to women from childhood to teenage and adulthood. She touches on many taboos as well.
Dina is half Egyptian half British, and her husband is Pakistani, which gives so much insight and sheds a light on very important issues very common within our communities and affect our daily lives, yet we never really discuss openly.
I was deeply touched by her words, because she's not an author, she's a woman, a mother, a wife, a sister, and just like any of us, paving her path into this life, figuring out her way.
I am grateful to every woman who tries to share something valuable and meaningful with us. This book is literally a companion that reminds you that you should never feel alone or different.
We unfortunately rarely get those shared experiences in books.
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5 reviews
January 9, 2024
I have been watching Dina Torkia's vlogs and videos, and following her blog as well for almost a decade now, time really flies! You can imagine the excitement I felt when I found her baby (her book) at Virgin Mega Store, after struggling to get it from Amazon for a long time!
Dina has been my friend since day one. I first found her videos back in 2011 when I started wearing Hijab, she was still new to YouTube. There weren't many daring women who actively presented themselves on the internet on any platform by filming or blogging about Muslim women issues, hijab struggles, and style. That's how she started before she managed to tackle deeper topics.
There's something warm about bonding with a blogger that some people might find weird and silly, but it feels like a journey that we have been through together, we have grown, both Dina and us, her audience, which is very sentimental when I think of it.
Dina's book is a journey by itself. I have been carrying this book around for a few months now, giving each chapter some time and living each phase separately, mostly relating to everything I'm reading.
This book feels like a guide to Muslim women on how to embrace every aspect of our culture, religion and mental health MODESTLY.
Dina tackles so many important topics, from fashion and beauty to family and parenting, moving to relationship talks and reflections, and of course struggles that are universal to women from childhood to teenage and adulthood. She touches on many taboos as well.
Dina is half Egyptian half British, and her husband is Pakistani, which gives so much insight and sheds a light on very important issues very common within our communities and affect our daily lives, yet we never really discuss openly.
I was deeply touched by her words, because she's not an author, she's a woman, a mother, a wife, a sister, and just like any of us, paving her path into this life, figuring out her way.
I am grateful to every woman who tries to share something valuable and meaningful with us. This book is literally a companion that reminds you that you should never feel alone or different.
We unfortunately rarely get those shared experiences in books.
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9 reviews
September 16, 2023

Pros:
- The makeup and fashion tips were helpful.
- The section about family and parenting was interesting and helpful
- I liked how she pointed out the unislamic things of some cultures (e.g. Egyptians being racist to black people)
- I liked how she pointed out the dangers of the beauty world that make it seem like being white is more beautiful so Asians use light coloured foundation. But she doesn’t blame them for doing so but rather the unfair beauty standards set by the beauty industry.
- The tips on dealing with in-laws seemed helpful
- She elaborated on her father’s hypocrisy about initially not wanting them to get married even though he married a woman from a different culture
- Loved the jacket design (gold foiling, square shape, pink and blue/grey colour theme)
Cons:
- I think she should have given more tips on haircare. As a hijabi myself, I only realised the importance of haircare much later.
- The images didn’t really match the text all the time
- The images were just recycled from instagram. She didn’t put any effort into creating new outfits for the book which is silly because the people who will buy her book are her followers on Instagram who have already seen those images/outfits. Because the images didn’t match the text, I felt like it was hard to understand what she meant at times
- Was a bit boring at times. I think video suits the makeup section because then we could see her apply it.
- She didn’t really say anything new that we didn’t already know from her vlogs.
- Would’ve liked to learn more about her relationship with the hijab and her relationship with God. But since she removed it shortly after this book came out, I guess she didn’t have a very spiritual connection to it.
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6 reviews
October 3, 2019
Dina Torkia is one of my absolute favorite Youtubers, and I could not wait to get my hands on her book. The book is one I find myself reaching for when I'm drinking tea, when I'm online shopping and I want inspiration, when I'm feeling down and just want to hold something beautiful. Torkia puts her life into this book, revealing the difficulties of more than just a hijabi, but a woman. Her eating disorder is in here, "All the people I know who are battling eating disorders have a big relapse during Ramadan," normalizing battles during what is also a spiritual time is monumental for others struggling. Her beauty hacks from makeup, to the hajib, to modest fashion are down in a book, which is monumental.
I used some of these pictures and quotes from the book for a project I did on Arab voices and how we hear them, how we listen to them, and how we read them. Each is understood differently, and Torkia has gone so far to make Arab women's voices heard and listened to.
168 reviews1 follower
July 31, 2020
Dina's story of her life growing up mixed Egyptian-English, & a British Muslim hijabi. Have to admit I picked this up mainly to see what Dina had to say about modesty in general & modest clothing in particular. Enjoyed the book, but would have liked to see a lot more photos of Dina's outfits, especially when she's discussing solutions to particular issues. I know she's a blogger & YouTuber but not everyone will access those.
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20 reviews
November 25, 2021
I thoroughly enjoyed reading Dina Torkia's book as she was genuine, real and honest about life in her book. She spoke about issues she's suffered with, allowing people who follow her, like myself, to understand her even more. This book talks about her life from the very beginning, to her current self.
Personally, I think autobiographies like this deserve more appreciation and love because of the honesty poured into the book.
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32 reviews1 follower
December 14, 2018
I listened to the audio version of this book however I can imagine, from what I have heard, that the physical book would be nice to have on display but I haven't actually seen it in person. This didn't take me long to finish and I could relate to most of what Dina was saying. I did like some of the advice and did have a laugh at times.
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11 reviews
October 8, 2018
Great stories from Dina's life combined with sound advice, encouragement and fashion/career/beauty tips. Also, a beautiful photo with color photos and colored pages. It feels and looks very DINA. Thanks, Dina!!!! Love this.
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2 reviews1 follower
October 10, 2018
3.5 stars

I'm a huge Dina Torkia fan, I've been following her on all social media platforms for years.
She's my favourite Youtuber, so I know alot about her and her life.
This book is basically an extension of her blog for her fans to gain an understanding of how "Dina Tokio" came about.
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Author 9 books13 followers
December 22, 2018
If you are a new Muslim and you are wondering what modesty is all about check out this book. Dina is all about balance and tolerance - much needed qualities in our diverse community and I can’t wait to see what she writes next.
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130 reviews1 follower
February 1, 2024
2.75⭐️ i love Dina and have followed and watched her for years. I have loved seeing her journey. But the book just wasn’t something i was really interested in. I ended up skipping through many parts. The book isn’t bad. It just isn’t for me.
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5 reviews1 follower
October 1, 2019
A really warm book that doesnt feel much different from Dina's video, you can see her personality and honest though. A really good look at the struggle of being a muslim woman in the current time.
1 review
February 28, 2020
Unfortunately anyone can write books nowadays.. no substance, waste of time
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102 reviews1 follower
May 20, 2021
Ive been following Dina for YEARS so this book wasnt to be missed. Its a good collectors item and display book to have.

Content wise, its her musings, tips and tricks and life lessons she's learnt. While you do get a sense of Dina from these, her wit and her confidence, the book is structured in a very step by step way. She's very honest and she covers alot of raw topics (which, Kudos!!) But the structured and chaptered way its built didn't really allow for me to sink into her words. There is depth in her stories but its chopped up into essays section by section, which....might not actually be her doing. Still! Younger fans will definiately connect to some of the deeper topics.

The book can be roughly divided in 3 parts: the first section starts with her "beginning". There is advice and there ate experiences described concerning serious topics, modesty and eating disorders. Theyve been woven into her "life story". The second section is full of tips and tricks with modest fashion advice and shopping smartly. The third is again, life experiences and advice.

Personal anecdotes are always interesting but she's so vibrant and charismatic in her videos already.
The selling point, aside from being a fan of hers, were the pictures! This book is FULL of GORGEOUS, inspiring pictures. The whole book is beautiful and looks so classy.

Good job Dina, i hope you get to write more books.
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10 reviews1 follower
July 21, 2020
I purchased this book as Dina is another YT sensation that I enjoy watching. I have maintained an interest in Dina’s YT channel throughout the years, which doesn’t happen often. As people grow (both creators and viewers) it’s often hard to stay on track with them, because either you grow out of their content, or it’s no longer relevant. This isn’t the case with Dina. I’ve always been curious about Dina and her upbringing as a British Muslim and this book did not disappoint. The book touches on bullying, eating disorders and everything in-between. I love a book that is able to teach me something, without preaching or making me feel like I’m back at school sat staring out the window, waiting for class to be over and this book taught me a lot – without me realising at the time. I found the section on Dina and her relationship with Hijab very interesting. You don’t have to be a Muslim to be able to enjoy this book or her philosophy on life and fashion. Personally, I would have liked more about her, and personal pointers rather than tips and tricks but nevertheless It’s a good all-rounded book, and has plenty to relate too throughout.
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