المحادثات الواثقة : كيف تتواصل مع الاخرين بنجاح في أي وقت

by Mike Bechtle

المحادثة الرائعة فن لا يتقنه معظم الناس، واذا كنت شخصا انطوائيا يعانى لايجاد ما يقول أو شخصا انبساطيا ليست لدية أي مشكلة في التحديث ولكنه ينسى أن يصغى فربما يتعين عليك تحسين مهاراتك في المحادثة. ومن البدء في المحادثة والاستمرار فيها. وانهائها والانصات بكفاءة وكذالك تصبح مستكشفا وليس معدا فقط وستستمتع في هذه العملية أيضا.

Genres: Communication, Self Help, Nonfiction

218 pages, Paperback

First published August 1, 2008

Reviews

[Erin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Christmas present from Preston. His little notes throughout it for me are sweet. :) He's a good friend.

So I finally finished this. It was a good helpful book. I have an introvert personality and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. It's the unique personality God gave me and it's part of what makes me His beautiful creation. This book shows how to take the personality given to you and develop conversational skills using it. I would recommend this book to everyone. People who think that since they are shy, something must be wrong with them. People who think that since they talk too much, there must be something wrong with them. There is NOTHING wrong with you! God gave you that unique personality! Learn how to use it and develop conversational skills with it! This book will help. :-)

[Adriana Rivera]

It was good, I guess. However, when I bought this at JFK, I hoped it provided many conversation encounters and examples of different scenarios. I was a little disappointed because the advices were quite generic. Aside from that, the few anecdotes it included were gripping and comical. I just couldn't put it down. That's exactly why I wanted more of them. :)

[Monika · Rating 5 out of 5]

a great approach to understanding conversations and how to navigate them

[Melissa (Vacation Mode) · Rating 3 out of 5]

Conversation can be difficult for just about anyone. If you're an introvert, you may hold back, wish you could speak to others better, and struggle to come up with the right words - often not saying anything at all. If you're an extrovert, you may take over every conversation, talking and talking without listening to anything others have to say. Both ends of the extreme could use tips and pointers about conversation, and Confident Conversation is an excellent resource to meet that need.

Author Mike Bechtle divides the book into four parts: Function Uniquely, Prepare Thoroughly, Explore Expectantly, and Focus Outwardly. Each section goes into depth about conversational techniques to help people become confident, yet not domineering, conversationalists.

In the Function Uniquely section, readers will learn about their own conversational style. The author encourages readers to find what works best for them, not what seems to work well for others. A quiz can help a reader to narrow down their own personal style. Prepare Thoroughly explores barriers and helps the reader to identify common ground within any conversation.

Explore Expectantly moves toward beginning a conversation, developing it, ending it, and then what might happen afterwards. The in-depth explanation of each stage is very helpful, especially to someone who might not have a problem with the beginning of a conversation, but might be clueless as to how to wrap things up. Finally, Focus Outwardly shows the reader how to be a better listener, channeling stress, asking good questions, handling tough conversations, and working on attitude. A very important section deals with high tech communication, from e-mail to chat rooms and all points in between.

Confident Conversation wraps up with 'a mini course for communication', allowing the reader to put into practice all the techniques learned throughout the book. Overall, this is an excellent resource for business, teaching, and any situation where you might need to carry on regular conversations with others. Effective communication is important in every aspect of our lives - from marriage and family to business to just getting along with neighbors. Anyone will find some tidbit in Confident Conversation to take away and apply to his or her own life.

[Sam Scott · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book was a well written easy read that holds your attention all the way through. Unfortunately, it seemed like the purpose of the entire first half of the book was to get the reader excited for what was to come in the second half. For that reason it was a bit light on content.

Overall, I'm happy I read it and hope to implement some of the strategies.

[Manhal Manhal · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have finished reading this books, in fact I was unaware by so many important techniques in the building of effective conversation. now I know my self quite well, I’m going to practice all the techniques that are mentioned here, I’m planning to be effective conversationalist.

[Baiju Joshi · Rating 3 out of 5]

Common Sense. Easy to read.

[Yang · Rating 3 out of 5]

Manual like instructive reading.

[Penny · Rating 2 out of 5]

Confident Conversation offers up some ideas on how to be a better conversationalist as well as listener without getting TOO far out of your comfort zone. The entire first half of the book, or at least about 50 pages, the author re-iterates to you that you are unique, you are wonderful and there is no reason to change that (which isn't exactly my cup of tea when it comes to motivation but to each their own)!! The tips are aimed at both introverts and extroverts alike. Bechtle teaches you to look at conversation as an explorer setting off on a journey into a strange land. The book also offers tips on how to leave conversations, how to answer difficult question and deal with stress. A lot of this stuff is common sense though so I am giving it 2 stars.

[Leigh · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was a quick, helpful little book to give those of us who didn't quite get the gift of gab at whim to do better in conversational situations.

It's direct and to the point, and offers good advice and reassurance that you are not the sole individual responsible for a successful conversation, which is something worth reminding yourself of on a regular basis.

There was an odd thread of Christian references scattered throughout, which, fine, but they seemed out of place and somewhat irrelevant.

Otherwise, a handy little guide for quiet folk forced to walk among the chatty.

[Rashad H · Rating 3 out of 5]

The first four chapters of the book was the best for me because I believe that the author touched the principal tools that will assist you to communicate better. Overall, it's a great guide to improve your hidden skills :)

[Amber Dawn · Rating 4 out of 5]

Communication

I liked that this was as directed to introverts as it could be to extroverts. I still have the problem of sometimes I just can't speak. I open my mouth and no words escape but there are a lot of good techniques.

[Cherie]

Excellent book! I recommend it to anyone.

[K B · Rating 3 out of 5]

has a few good segments - not a page turner, unless you're a speedreader.

[Xuehui Huang · Rating 3 out of 5]

The book is just ok. I cannot learn anything new from. The first couple of chapters are good, but all the later chapters I cannot find my pain point in that.

[Ke Zhou · Rating 3 out of 5]

干货不多

[Jin Shusong · Rating 4 out of 5]

good suggestions，and can be applied directly