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Ghid de înțelepciune pentru mame și fiice: sfaturi care nu se demodează niciodată
Continuând lecţiile de viaţă din bestsellerul Sfaturi pentru fiica mea, Alexandra Stoddard ne propune o nouă colecţie de meditaţii şi sfaturi practice despre ceea ce înseamnă fericirea pentru o femeie în lumea de astăzi. Mamă şi bunică, precum şi autoare a peste 25 de cărţi de lifestyle şi dezvoltare personală, Alexandra Stoddard scrie din experienţă şi compasiune – observaţiile sale sunt îndelung chibzuite şi autentice, rod al atenţiei de o viaţă faţă de sine şi faţă de cei apropiaţi şi, mai ales, al unei relaţii vii şi profunde cu propriile fiice.
Cu înţelepciune şi umor, ghidul de faţă oferă un moment binemeritat de introspecţie şi relaxare, dar şi un ajutor veritabil oricărei femei care se află în căutarea unei vieţi echilibrate şi împlinite.
Cu înţelepciune şi umor, ghidul de faţă oferă un moment binemeritat de introspecţie şi relaxare, dar şi un ajutor veritabil oricărei femei care se află în căutarea unei vieţi echilibrate şi împlinite.
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132 pages, Paperback
First published April 1, 2013
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Alexandra Stoddard
41 books127 followersALEXANDRA STODDARD is a philosopher of contemporary living and author of many best selling books, including the classic Living a Beautiful Life: 500 Ways to Add Elegance, Order, Beauty and Joy to Every Day of Your Life, Choosing Happiness: Keys to a Joyful Life, Things I Want My Daughters to Know: A Small Book About the Big Issues in Life, and You Are Your Choices: 50 Ways to Live the Good Life. Alexandra's newest book Happiness For Two: 75 Secrets for Finding More Joy Together, published in January 2008, is now in its second printing.
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May 8, 2013
I feel conflicted and a bit sad giving this book by one of my favorite living authors only two stars -- but this is how it has to be.
I have enjoyed reading Alexandra Stoddard's books since I was a teenager; so much, in fact, that I have a copy of each one she's published, even the very hard-to-find works. I treasure her ideas, her sense of beauty, and her philosophy of happiness. All of that is in this book as well.
She changed publishers a few years ago, and the current house does not seem to "get" Alexandra Stoddard. She's been reduced to writing essay-style collections, over and over, to the point where this is her fourth book of essays on mothers and daughters. I think her best book was "Living A Beautiful Life," and while that voice is still present, it's so diluted in this short-treatment format that it's hard to feel this is the same author.
She writes on familiar themes of connection with family, using one's time well, organizing space, appreciating fleeting beauty, and so forth, with somewhat forced insertions of her daughters' points of view on these topics so that the book can indeed impart shared wisdom. Had they actually written in their own words, this might have been a very valuable read. As it is, they remain somewhat two-dimensional.
Ms. Stoddard has chosen to reject many of the technological advances of the modern age of communication, so that much of her advice on keeping in touch falls very flat in the 21st century. She's oblivious to the usefulness of the Internet as a research and communication tool; her daughters had to get her a "Pronto" machine so that the grandchildren could sort of fax messages to her via the 'net. Oy. The anachronistic tone is saddening rather than empowering, because with her love of learning and people, she has chosen to sit out of an entire world of connectedness she might otherwise enjoy.
She had some trouble getting her last several books published, perhaps in part because she still writes longhand and many editors will simply not entertain the level of work involved in putting something so raw into publication. I continue to enjoy the books I have of hers, but it's with less longing that I realize this one may be her last.
Editing to add: her current May 2013 newsletter has some exciting news. She wrote a book about her husband some years ago, and has decided that as he's 91 this year, it's time to publish. Their relationship is inspirational and I sincerely look forward to reading this long-held manuscript in full book form. She is at her best as an author when an editor isn't prodding her along on a stale idea-- this next book should be truly delightful.
I have enjoyed reading Alexandra Stoddard's books since I was a teenager; so much, in fact, that I have a copy of each one she's published, even the very hard-to-find works. I treasure her ideas, her sense of beauty, and her philosophy of happiness. All of that is in this book as well.
She changed publishers a few years ago, and the current house does not seem to "get" Alexandra Stoddard. She's been reduced to writing essay-style collections, over and over, to the point where this is her fourth book of essays on mothers and daughters. I think her best book was "Living A Beautiful Life," and while that voice is still present, it's so diluted in this short-treatment format that it's hard to feel this is the same author.
She writes on familiar themes of connection with family, using one's time well, organizing space, appreciating fleeting beauty, and so forth, with somewhat forced insertions of her daughters' points of view on these topics so that the book can indeed impart shared wisdom. Had they actually written in their own words, this might have been a very valuable read. As it is, they remain somewhat two-dimensional.
Ms. Stoddard has chosen to reject many of the technological advances of the modern age of communication, so that much of her advice on keeping in touch falls very flat in the 21st century. She's oblivious to the usefulness of the Internet as a research and communication tool; her daughters had to get her a "Pronto" machine so that the grandchildren could sort of fax messages to her via the 'net. Oy. The anachronistic tone is saddening rather than empowering, because with her love of learning and people, she has chosen to sit out of an entire world of connectedness she might otherwise enjoy.
She had some trouble getting her last several books published, perhaps in part because she still writes longhand and many editors will simply not entertain the level of work involved in putting something so raw into publication. I continue to enjoy the books I have of hers, but it's with less longing that I realize this one may be her last.
Editing to add: her current May 2013 newsletter has some exciting news. She wrote a book about her husband some years ago, and has decided that as he's 91 this year, it's time to publish. Their relationship is inspirational and I sincerely look forward to reading this long-held manuscript in full book form. She is at her best as an author when an editor isn't prodding her along on a stale idea-- this next book should be truly delightful.
January 18, 2018
Nu mi-am schimbat parerea initiala cu mult, nu m-a impresionat prea tare.
Mi se pare o colectie de platitudini / mesaje pozitive, gen "fa-ti timp pentru tine", "pregateste-te sa fii dezamagita", "tine-ti ordine in casa si in viata" etc ...
Partea mai deranjanta e ca aceste mesaje sunt date cu un fel de superioritate condescendenta ce razbate prin toata cartea, gen "eu si fetele mele asa am facut, asa ne-am organizat si uite ce bine ne merge!" Nu pare sa se fi oprit tanti sa se gandeasca ca poate situatia lor privilegiata le-a ajutat, de asemenea, sa le mearga bine.
Cel mai bun exemplu e "Nu face ce nu-ti place sa faci, pune-i pe altii!" ... pe bune?! Acuma, sigur, e usor de zis asta cand ai banii necesari ca sa angajezi o femeie de servici, un bucatar, un gradinar, o tanti care sa-ti aduca hainele de la curataorie (!!!) etc ...
Mai sunt si discutii importante in carte, sau care mie mi se par pertinente si la care noi poate nu ne gandim suficient de des. De exemplu indemnul sa te focusezi pe momentul de fata - si cateva metode de a reusi asta; sau sa te gandesti din cand in cand cu recunostinta la oamenii care te-au influentat pozitiv; sau sa faci voluntariat; sau sa nu abuzezi de tehnologie si sa iti pastrezi mici ritualuri (de exemplu sa scrii notite de multumire, de mina).
Dar sunt atit de ascunse intre momente de pure smugness (la partea cu tehnologia, de exemplu, tanti spune ca ea refuza sa scrie / primeasca altceva decat scrisori, si tant pis pentru cei care au de comunicat cu ea, tre' sa se conformeze...) si intre sfaturi inutile (pt ca tin de bun simt, sau cel putin mie asa mi se pare) incat zau cred ca se poate gasi un format mai bun pentru discutiile astea.
Pe scurt, e OK de citit in sala de asteptare la dentist sau pe bus cand faci naveta, dar n-as zice ca e life changing si in mod sigur NU e, cum zicea cineva, "unputdownable" :)
Mi se pare o colectie de platitudini / mesaje pozitive, gen "fa-ti timp pentru tine", "pregateste-te sa fii dezamagita", "tine-ti ordine in casa si in viata" etc ...
Partea mai deranjanta e ca aceste mesaje sunt date cu un fel de superioritate condescendenta ce razbate prin toata cartea, gen "eu si fetele mele asa am facut, asa ne-am organizat si uite ce bine ne merge!" Nu pare sa se fi oprit tanti sa se gandeasca ca poate situatia lor privilegiata le-a ajutat, de asemenea, sa le mearga bine.
Cel mai bun exemplu e "Nu face ce nu-ti place sa faci, pune-i pe altii!" ... pe bune?! Acuma, sigur, e usor de zis asta cand ai banii necesari ca sa angajezi o femeie de servici, un bucatar, un gradinar, o tanti care sa-ti aduca hainele de la curataorie (!!!) etc ...
Mai sunt si discutii importante in carte, sau care mie mi se par pertinente si la care noi poate nu ne gandim suficient de des. De exemplu indemnul sa te focusezi pe momentul de fata - si cateva metode de a reusi asta; sau sa te gandesti din cand in cand cu recunostinta la oamenii care te-au influentat pozitiv; sau sa faci voluntariat; sau sa nu abuzezi de tehnologie si sa iti pastrezi mici ritualuri (de exemplu sa scrii notite de multumire, de mina).
Dar sunt atit de ascunse intre momente de pure smugness (la partea cu tehnologia, de exemplu, tanti spune ca ea refuza sa scrie / primeasca altceva decat scrisori, si tant pis pentru cei care au de comunicat cu ea, tre' sa se conformeze...) si intre sfaturi inutile (pt ca tin de bun simt, sau cel putin mie asa mi se pare) incat zau cred ca se poate gasi un format mai bun pentru discutiile astea.
Pe scurt, e OK de citit in sala de asteptare la dentist sau pe bus cand faci naveta, dar n-as zice ca e life changing si in mod sigur NU e, cum zicea cineva, "unputdownable" :)
September 11, 2013
THE SHARED WISDOM of MOTHERS and DAUGHTERS is the latest of more than two dozen books written by "life" philosopher Alexandra Stoddard. I've been reading Ms. Stoddard for over twenty years now and am always eager to get a glimpse into the quiet, purpose-directed world she has created for herself. Her strong focus on eternal values--the preciousness of time, the importance of personal connection, the beauty that surrounds us even in the toughest times--never fails to give me a boost. Whenever I feel my life spinning out of control, I find myself returning to these books and their central theme--BREATHE! Unlike some of the author's fans, I am not crazy about her short-form essays. I'm greedy. I want more. This book in particular, being so brief, left me a little hungry. Yet, what there is of it is beautiful. Like a bite-sized piece of dark chocolate. Or a single rose.
February 8, 2021
I love that Alexandra calls herself a lifestyle philosopher and I can tell that she has a tremendous amount to say and teach, but in this collection it mostly falls flat. The idea of sharing both what she has taught her daughters and what she has learned from them is sound and interesting. But the book feels like it is mostly self-evident platitudes that we’ve all learned or known for decades. Perhaps though she is writing from an advanced age, she is writing to young mothers. Though she imparts some wisdom, her refusal to embrace any kind of technology causes the reader to mistrust her judgement. She spurns the internet and is oblivious to its potential for learning! What Possible wisdom can we gain we don’t approach ideas and relationships with an open mind? I have read that her book Living a Beautiful Life is her best work so I will try reading that before discounting her work.
September 26, 2021
Definitely thought this book would be more aligned with its main title and actually be more of a conversation between mothers and daughters. Instead, Stoddard gave advice on life and brought her daughters into the conversation at times to relate her advice back to herself. Nice advice that is good to consider, but nothing new. When my mother gifted this to me, she told me she did think it was more of a mother to daughter piece, but it was still nice!!
Main takeaways:
Appreciate nature more, limit your distractions on a daily basis (1 hour rule) and practice patience.
Main takeaways:
Appreciate nature more, limit your distractions on a daily basis (1 hour rule) and practice patience.
October 7, 2021
Pierdută undeva între răsărit și apus, clipa “fuge” și, din nefericire, putini apreciază valoarea acesteia.
Sfaturi relativ clasice, generalizate pentru relația “părinți-fiice”, dar pline de sens.
Dacă vrem să nu facem doar umbră pământului, trebuie, prin cultivarea răbdării, să contribuim la formarea unei relații frumoase și pline de dragoste de viață între noi și copii.
Sfaturi relativ clasice, generalizate pentru relația “părinți-fiice”, dar pline de sens.
Dacă vrem să nu facem doar umbră pământului, trebuie, prin cultivarea răbdării, să contribuim la formarea unei relații frumoase și pline de dragoste de viață între noi și copii.
May 6, 2019
Drăguță. Prea mult despre "eu când sunt cu fetele mele totul e perfect" însă are câteva punctări bune. Nu vei rămâne cu mare lucru după ce ai gătat-o dar îți conferă o reîmprospătare a ceea ce știai deja.
December 27, 2019
2.5 stars
Not what I was expecting. I thought this would be about the relationships between mothers and daughters. Instead it was advice on lots of stuff I have already learned. The audio was nicely read though and a nice backdrop to my traffic filled work commute.
Not what I was expecting. I thought this would be about the relationships between mothers and daughters. Instead it was advice on lots of stuff I have already learned. The audio was nicely read though and a nice backdrop to my traffic filled work commute.
September 24, 2017
„Fiecare perete este o ușă.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
June 9, 2013
"When we are mindful of our present experience, we are valuing our time in a soulful way. Those with whom we elect to share out time will also benefit from our sensitive awareness. We have to train our minds to become completely absorbed in the reality of whatever is going on at the moment. This discipline automatically opens us up to a deeper, more profound intelligence and understanding that enables us to tap into our innate intuitive powers. And, in this awareness, we experience timelessness, a flow state of inner peace and intense enjoyment, with full awareness of being alive in the present." (149).
August 31, 2016
Valuable pieces of advice from a selfless mom to all her readers. This book is a must have at home, to turn in times of bad mood for a quick boost. I recommend this book for all newly weds and new moms to shape their new lives.
November 16, 2013
Terribly disappointing. Chapter titles such as: choose to be an optimist or stay in touch, or waste not, speak for themselves. Nothing meaningful imparted or delved into here.
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