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The Power of a Transformed Wife
Are you in a difficult marriage that is failing to meet your expectations? Has your intimacy and closeness turned into angry words with smoldering discontent? In a world where Christian marriage and family is to be a beacon of love, faith, and hope, we find Christian marriages failing at an alarming rate. Like many Christian couples today, Lori Alexander and her husband, Ken, found themselves in a modern marriage partnership as two strong leaders who both loved each other, but could not find the oneness they knew God desired for their marriage. In The Power of a Transformed Wife, Lori bravely takes you with her on her 35-year journey of marriage showing the good and the bad as two strong people discover that doing things God’s ways produces exactly what God has promised. It is a journey out of the Christian feministic thinking that has infiltrated the Church and into the ever so simple concept that female equality does not mean that a modern day Christian wife cannot joyfully and willingly choose to submit to her husband as she submits to the Lordship of Christ in her life. If you are brave enough to challenge yourself with the simple message of marriage done God’s way, then you will have to walk past the few, but vocal dissenters, who will do all they can to shout down and drown out the plain teaching of the Bible. Lori Alexander has a large following of Christian women who chose to daily hear her common sense biblical approach to marriage and family. After regularly hearing from women around the world who have been touched by God’s simple transforming Word on marriage, Lori now gives a succinct summary of how she became a Transformed Wife. How she stepped out of the need to be right and in control of the marriage to trust God at His Word and in turn trust Ken. Her mission is to fulfill the biblical admonition for the older women to train the younger women how to love their husbands, love their children, and be keepers at home. “Wives submit to your husbands in everything,” is not for the fainthearted, but for the strong Christian woman who desires God’s blessings by doing things God’s ways. Thousands of Christian women are finding joy and closeness with their husbands by going back to a biblical marriage and family model that is rarely taught in the Church anymore. This frightens many feminists, and some Christians, to think that what women have seemingly gained over the past 50 years of feminism might be lost on a new generation of young Christian women who are going back to God’s Word for the answers to a fulfilling marriage and family life. The life of Jesus is one of love and sacrifice, and it is His life we must seek to follow no matter how counter-culture it may be, even when it may lead to ridicule or promised persecution. Dare to “be transformed by the renewing of your mind,” as this book challenges the Christian young woman, wife, and mother to be 100% biblical in how she is to live out her faith and marriage.
242 pages, Paperback
Published September 30, 2016
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Lori Alexander
4 books24 followersHello! My name is Lori Alexander and I have been married to Ken since 1980. We have four grown children who all walk in truth and have strong marriages. We have been blessed with five grandchildren so far.
My ministry is based upon Titus 2:3-5 in which God commands that older women teach younger women to be sober, love and obey their husbands, love their children, be chaste, discreet, good, and keepers at home. If you would love to learn and grow in these areas and allow God's Word and His ways to transform your marriage and your life, please join me as I teach you what I have learned from His Word, my own experience and mentoring many women, and most importantly, allowing the Holy Spirit to convict and transform you into the image of Christ.
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My ministry is based upon Titus 2:3-5 in which God commands that older women teach younger women to be sober, love and obey their husbands, love their children, be chaste, discreet, good, and keepers at home. If you would love to learn and grow in these areas and allow God's Word and His ways to transform your marriage and your life, please join me as I teach you what I have learned from His Word, my own experience and mentoring many women, and most importantly, allowing the Holy Spirit to convict and transform you into the image of Christ.
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July 17, 2018
I feel the need to publicly shame this book, this author, and all her teachings.
The author says that women should be submissive to their husbands (really men) in all things, should not be leaders in the church because men are smarter than them, and should not go to school. This book is absolutely toxic and harmful in a way that has nothing to do with being a Christian. It is one thing to follow the teachings in the Bible personally, but another thing entirely to dictate what other women should and should not do and slut shame them in the process. Jesus taught that we should love others as ourselves. Instead, this book says that women are inherently stupid and in need of guidance.
From the author's Facebook page:
Can we cancel this shit? She encourages prayer over a suicide hotline for depressed people. Encourages prayer over medical treatment and shames women for being empowered, smart and strong.
So in the full interest of offending people, here we go:
Feel free to add your own tattoos or gifs.
The author says that women should be submissive to their husbands (really men) in all things, should not be leaders in the church because men are smarter than them, and should not go to school. This book is absolutely toxic and harmful in a way that has nothing to do with being a Christian. It is one thing to follow the teachings in the Bible personally, but another thing entirely to dictate what other women should and should not do and slut shame them in the process. Jesus taught that we should love others as ourselves. Instead, this book says that women are inherently stupid and in need of guidance.
From the author's Facebook page:
Can we cancel this shit? She encourages prayer over a suicide hotline for depressed people. Encourages prayer over medical treatment and shames women for being empowered, smart and strong.
So in the full interest of offending people, here we go:
Feel free to add your own tattoos or gifs.
July 23, 2018
i would rather be alone (with my cat) for the rest of my life then to be a submissive blank version of the woman that i am today.
i was in a shitty situation with an abusive ex and i tell you right now, no man (besides my dad and brothers) will ever have a fucking say in anything i do or who i do it with. they will be cut out of my life faster than a blink of an eye. i don't have time for shit like that and i damn well will never let anyone around me like that again.
and people wonder why some men think women are like this.
fuck. no.
i was in a shitty situation with an abusive ex and i tell you right now, no man (besides my dad and brothers) will ever have a fucking say in anything i do or who i do it with. they will be cut out of my life faster than a blink of an eye. i don't have time for shit like that and i damn well will never let anyone around me like that again.
and people wonder why some men think women are like this.
fuck. no.
nein-nein-nein
March 21, 2021
"men prefer debt-free virgins without tattoos"
i think you mean "boring men"
but anyway the author thinks women shouldn't go to college because they should just stay home and bring up their kids, and also thinks women should be subservient to their husbands
the 1950's just called, they want their social mores back.
if a specific, individual woman WANTS to bring up their kids and not go to college and be subservient to their husbands, that's completely her prerogative, as long as she isn't being coerced in some way. like, if you wanna be a tradwife, that's literally none of my business, it's your life sis. the Issue is when people like this author are like, "women SHOULD do this," "we're the most Virtuous Women for following this lifestyle", "everything is going to hell because all women aren't submissive little Hausfrauen" etc etc.
women should do whatever they want. (er, as long as it's not illegal or something.)
July 17, 2018
This book is a misogynistic piece of trash. Writing was terrible and it is a horrible book all in all. Don't read this book unless you want to be taken back to BCE era.
LADIES, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE SUBMISSIVE TO YOUR HUSBAND. YOU SHOULD GO TO COLLEGE WHEN YOU WANT. AND YOU DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE KIDS IF YOU DON'T WANT TO.
LADIES, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE SUBMISSIVE TO YOUR HUSBAND. YOU SHOULD GO TO COLLEGE WHEN YOU WANT. AND YOU DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE KIDS IF YOU DON'T WANT TO.
July 23, 2018
This book is theologically unsound and harmful. It misuses Scripture in harmful ways by telling women who suffer from depression to keep reading the Bible until they feel better, while ignoring their real problems and needs. Alexander also promotes the idea that women cannot live by their own personal convictions but must filter everything through their husbands—how they believe, dress, act, etc. That is heresy. Our husbands cannot act as our mediators. Only Jesus can.
She also tells women who are in abusive relationships to “suffer in silence” in order to turn the abuser husband back to God. Her emphasis on one-sided submission is very dangerous. It’s just not good exegesis to ignore the Bible’s calling for mutual submission, respect, and love.
There is a dangerous thread that runs through Alexander’s teachings (I am also speaking of her blog now), essentially teaching women they must “deny” themselves by giving up things like their goals, dreams, likes, dislikes, and even “deny” their own convictions (which according to her need to be filtered through their husbands).
This author’s teachings do more harm than good as they lead us away from Jesus and loving others and lead us to a life of legalism and rigidity. Please do not read this book or follow any of her teachings.
She also tells women who are in abusive relationships to “suffer in silence” in order to turn the abuser husband back to God. Her emphasis on one-sided submission is very dangerous. It’s just not good exegesis to ignore the Bible’s calling for mutual submission, respect, and love.
There is a dangerous thread that runs through Alexander’s teachings (I am also speaking of her blog now), essentially teaching women they must “deny” themselves by giving up things like their goals, dreams, likes, dislikes, and even “deny” their own convictions (which according to her need to be filtered through their husbands).
This author’s teachings do more harm than good as they lead us away from Jesus and loving others and lead us to a life of legalism and rigidity. Please do not read this book or follow any of her teachings.
July 23, 2018
WTF is wrong with this woman?
From her blog:
"Do you know how much more attractive debt-free virgins (without tattoos) are to young men? Unfortunately, there are so few of these types of young women anymore because of the high costs of college (debt) and sexual promiscuity even within those in the church. As believers in Jesus Christ, we need to live in a way that is pleasing to Him because His ways are the best. He calls debt a burden and urges us to live lives of sexual purity."
Ugh. Disgusting.
This kind of Christianity makes me want to vomit.
From her blog:
"Do you know how much more attractive debt-free virgins (without tattoos) are to young men? Unfortunately, there are so few of these types of young women anymore because of the high costs of college (debt) and sexual promiscuity even within those in the church. As believers in Jesus Christ, we need to live in a way that is pleasing to Him because His ways are the best. He calls debt a burden and urges us to live lives of sexual purity."
Ugh. Disgusting.
This kind of Christianity makes me want to vomit.
March 6, 2018
Wow is the first thing I can say about this book.
First, let me write about the overall structure of the book. First, I was looking up a chapter and realized the table of contents are not numbered correctly. In several areas the author tells a story and then the next paragraph there is another thought and the 2 paragraphs don’t connect. There are several odd transitions like this. Several other areas of the book read very condescending like the author was talking to a child. It was very disconcerting to read since this book is supposed to be teaching wives (adults). In addition, the author tells many stories from her bible studies, blog, etc. I didn’t see a caveat in the book that names had been changed or stories had been used with permission. I really hope she got permission for these stories because if someone belongs to the church where these conversations took place my guess is they can identify the person the story is about.
On to the substance of the book. The author’s views are very misogynist and not in a Christian view- even though she states she is a Christian author and blogger. She devotes majority of the book to teaching women to be Stepford wives. Just stop arguing and everything will be great. Win him without a word and everything will be great. Do everything he says and everything will be great. She is also teaching women not make any decisions and say you were just following your husband’s lead. The author is teaching women to be manipulative (to lay something on his heart and if he doesn’t agree then keep praying and bringing men into his world that see it the way the wife wants it to be) and also teaching women to take no responsibility what so ever in what is happening in the marriage. On the flip side she also says throughout the book that it is the wife’s fault if the husband is lead astray by porn, affair, every argument in the marriage, etc.
Several chapters are very disturbing. “This Thing Called Sex” is almost entirely about
The chapter named “Teaching and Training Children” talks about spanking the kids on the bottom with a few hard swats with a strap. And she goes on to say that pain is a great teacher. She talks about Michael and Debi Pearl often in her book. They wrote “To Train Up a Child”. That book has been linked with parents beating their children with plumbing line and other instruments like a strap that the Alexander’s used. The author even talks about using “Created to be His Help Meet” (written by Debi Pearl and mentioned on page 68) as a guide to stop arguing with Ken, her husband.
Another chapter quotes bloggers Sunshine Mary and TheJoyFilledWife. Sunshine Mary (on her blog) promotes a husband punishing his wife by spanking. TheJoyFilledWife talks about keeping your man no matter what, even if he cheats or is addicted to porn.
The only thing the Transformed Wife book can teach women is to be a doormat and take Biblical teachings out of context. The book will also teach you that Lori can do one thing and the readers must not do these things. For examples: Lori sabotaged her birth control to have 2 more children so she could stay home, she tells the readers to fill a quiver (pg 132). Lori tells readers to homeschool, yet her children went to school (pgs 119+). I repeat, this book is dangerous, teaches false doctrine and takes Biblical passages out of context. Do not read this book, do not read her blog (unless you want to read what not to do).
First, let me write about the overall structure of the book. First, I was looking up a chapter and realized the table of contents are not numbered correctly. In several areas the author tells a story and then the next paragraph there is another thought and the 2 paragraphs don’t connect. There are several odd transitions like this. Several other areas of the book read very condescending like the author was talking to a child. It was very disconcerting to read since this book is supposed to be teaching wives (adults). In addition, the author tells many stories from her bible studies, blog, etc. I didn’t see a caveat in the book that names had been changed or stories had been used with permission. I really hope she got permission for these stories because if someone belongs to the church where these conversations took place my guess is they can identify the person the story is about.
On to the substance of the book. The author’s views are very misogynist and not in a Christian view- even though she states she is a Christian author and blogger. She devotes majority of the book to teaching women to be Stepford wives. Just stop arguing and everything will be great. Win him without a word and everything will be great. Do everything he says and everything will be great. She is also teaching women not make any decisions and say you were just following your husband’s lead. The author is teaching women to be manipulative (to lay something on his heart and if he doesn’t agree then keep praying and bringing men into his world that see it the way the wife wants it to be) and also teaching women to take no responsibility what so ever in what is happening in the marriage. On the flip side she also says throughout the book that it is the wife’s fault if the husband is lead astray by porn, affair, every argument in the marriage, etc.
Several chapters are very disturbing. “This Thing Called Sex” is almost entirely about
The chapter named “Teaching and Training Children” talks about spanking the kids on the bottom with a few hard swats with a strap. And she goes on to say that pain is a great teacher. She talks about Michael and Debi Pearl often in her book. They wrote “To Train Up a Child”. That book has been linked with parents beating their children with plumbing line and other instruments like a strap that the Alexander’s used. The author even talks about using “Created to be His Help Meet” (written by Debi Pearl and mentioned on page 68) as a guide to stop arguing with Ken, her husband.
Another chapter quotes bloggers Sunshine Mary and TheJoyFilledWife. Sunshine Mary (on her blog) promotes a husband punishing his wife by spanking. TheJoyFilledWife talks about keeping your man no matter what, even if he cheats or is addicted to porn.
The only thing the Transformed Wife book can teach women is to be a doormat and take Biblical teachings out of context. The book will also teach you that Lori can do one thing and the readers must not do these things. For examples: Lori sabotaged her birth control to have 2 more children so she could stay home, she tells the readers to fill a quiver (pg 132). Lori tells readers to homeschool, yet her children went to school (pgs 119+). I repeat, this book is dangerous, teaches false doctrine and takes Biblical passages out of context. Do not read this book, do not read her blog (unless you want to read what not to do).
December 8, 2016
Boy, was this book a stinker. The writing was so-so. I've certainly read worse written books, but there was a jumpiness to it that kept catching me off-guard. It almost was like there were two authors (only one credited, though) because it kept switching between "voices" and even topics -- there'd be two paragraphs on one topic and then suddenly, with no warning, the next paragraph would bounce onto something else.
Enough about that -- the advice. My goodness. Some of it was okay. I definitely tend to be conservative in the area of relationships -- if something isn't working right, check yourself first. Most of her advice was childish or just plain bad.
There are a lot of personal anecdotes in which the author reveals that she is a bossy (her term, not mine), overbearing, manipulative woman who expects to always get her own way either by bulldozing others or by passive-aggressive wheedling.
Sex is also touched on, sometimes in a really disturbing and maybe triggering way.
I don't like reading books that are echo chambers. I do like reading things that challenge my thinking or push my comfort levels. This book didn't do either of those things. It made me uncomfortable and angry and awkward-feeling and not in any kind of a good way. There was no point to this book, and it's not going to make anyone's marriage better. It definitely does not follow any of the biblical principles I was taught growing up in a conservative Baptist church or those I am currently being taught in the still-conservative Baptist church I now attend. Might make your marriage more manipulative, though, so if that's your thing, have at it.
Enough about that -- the advice. My goodness. Some of it was okay. I definitely tend to be conservative in the area of relationships -- if something isn't working right, check yourself first. Most of her advice was childish or just plain bad.
There are a lot of personal anecdotes in which the author reveals that she is a bossy (her term, not mine), overbearing, manipulative woman who expects to always get her own way either by bulldozing others or by passive-aggressive wheedling.
Sex is also touched on, sometimes in a really disturbing and maybe triggering way.
I don't like reading books that are echo chambers. I do like reading things that challenge my thinking or push my comfort levels. This book didn't do either of those things. It made me uncomfortable and angry and awkward-feeling and not in any kind of a good way. There was no point to this book, and it's not going to make anyone's marriage better. It definitely does not follow any of the biblical principles I was taught growing up in a conservative Baptist church or those I am currently being taught in the still-conservative Baptist church I now attend. Might make your marriage more manipulative, though, so if that's your thing, have at it.
March 6, 2018
I'd suggest looking at the book's Amazon page. There are pictures of her with a low cut top and and another wearing short shorts.
Yet she tells other women not to wear these clothes!
Yet she tells other women not to wear these clothes!
September 8, 2020
I became acquainted with the "work" of Lori Alexander when I went down the rabbit hole of the internet and found her on Facebook. I have been following her for awhile in the way a person watches a train wreck. I even tried to bring some common sense to the proceedings but was promptly banned for challenging her half-baked ideas. So today out of morbid curiosity I bought the book to see if I could understand the genesis of her crackpot ideology.
Lori Alexander is a control freak who made her husband miserable for 20 years. Then she read an even worse book by Debi Pearl than the one she foisted on us here and decided that instead of controlling her husband and being a brat she would become an expert at teaching women how to be doormats. The only thing that would be less desirable is a book by the Duggars on healthy family boundaries.
She believes she is a a teacher to women but really she just exploits them online feeding them nonsense and blaming them for every misfortune that happens to them without a shred of empathy or human decency. She gives medical advice and mental health advice with absolutely no training and she lets men harass women freely. I guess its so they can see what a gem they can get if they follow her advice. If you check out her blog or Facebook it is literally the best advertisement to NEVER follow her advice and run from any man who thinks she is someone to aspire to. This book is so bad that I would rather a woman read 50 Shades of Grey for relationship advice but honestly I think Christian Gray would love her. I mean who needs a man who gaslights when you have Lori to do it on his behalf!
The first part describes how much of a nightmare she was the first 25 YEARS of her relationship and how she nagged, manipulated, lied and tricked her husband. Whether she was poking a hole in her diaphragm, haranguing her husband about what he ate or just being a total pill starting fights with him she was a pretty bad wife. Then she read this book from the above mentioned Pearl and believes she transformed into a better wife through God. She became the ideal wife. Presto chango. Now according to her she is selfless, submissive and the mom on Father Knows Best can eat her dust.
But here's the secret. She hasn't really changed at all. She says that she took accountability for herself and stopped blaming her husband for everything. She states she gave up her need to control and was able to let go and let Jesus take the wheel. But it's not true. She just put off all her issues onto all women. She thinks women need her to tell them to treat a man with respect and make him feel wanted. Thank God Lori is here to tell me men like sex and enjoy having it. Do I really need a woman who would stoop so low as to poke a hole in her diaphragm teach me how to be a good wife? Probably as much as I need Gwyneth Paltrow to give me steam cleaning tips.
She still needs people to control but instead of her husband it's all the women who have such low self-esteem they follow her like some kind of guru. It is truly disturbing to see these women compete in groveling, martyrdom and lack of self-preservation skills like it is some kind of Olympic sport where God is going to be handing out medals. She has no concern for the welfare of the women who follow her letting the men who follow her page harass, degrade and abuse the women on her Facebook page. It's really sad and she bans any woman who dare take up for those women and stand up to those bullies because usually those women make far more sense than she does.
So stay far, far way from this book if you value yourself as a woman, want a healthy relationship based on respect and want a realistic guide on what it means to be a Christian woman. You are far better off with the work of women like Rachel Held Evans, Sara Bessey and Nadia Bolz Webber. Hell....you would be better off with Stephanie Meyers because this woman makes Bella look empowering. Thankfully, Amazon has a great return policy.
Lori Alexander is a control freak who made her husband miserable for 20 years. Then she read an even worse book by Debi Pearl than the one she foisted on us here and decided that instead of controlling her husband and being a brat she would become an expert at teaching women how to be doormats. The only thing that would be less desirable is a book by the Duggars on healthy family boundaries.
She believes she is a a teacher to women but really she just exploits them online feeding them nonsense and blaming them for every misfortune that happens to them without a shred of empathy or human decency. She gives medical advice and mental health advice with absolutely no training and she lets men harass women freely. I guess its so they can see what a gem they can get if they follow her advice. If you check out her blog or Facebook it is literally the best advertisement to NEVER follow her advice and run from any man who thinks she is someone to aspire to. This book is so bad that I would rather a woman read 50 Shades of Grey for relationship advice but honestly I think Christian Gray would love her. I mean who needs a man who gaslights when you have Lori to do it on his behalf!
The first part describes how much of a nightmare she was the first 25 YEARS of her relationship and how she nagged, manipulated, lied and tricked her husband. Whether she was poking a hole in her diaphragm, haranguing her husband about what he ate or just being a total pill starting fights with him she was a pretty bad wife. Then she read this book from the above mentioned Pearl and believes she transformed into a better wife through God. She became the ideal wife. Presto chango. Now according to her she is selfless, submissive and the mom on Father Knows Best can eat her dust.
But here's the secret. She hasn't really changed at all. She says that she took accountability for herself and stopped blaming her husband for everything. She states she gave up her need to control and was able to let go and let Jesus take the wheel. But it's not true. She just put off all her issues onto all women. She thinks women need her to tell them to treat a man with respect and make him feel wanted. Thank God Lori is here to tell me men like sex and enjoy having it. Do I really need a woman who would stoop so low as to poke a hole in her diaphragm teach me how to be a good wife? Probably as much as I need Gwyneth Paltrow to give me steam cleaning tips.
She still needs people to control but instead of her husband it's all the women who have such low self-esteem they follow her like some kind of guru. It is truly disturbing to see these women compete in groveling, martyrdom and lack of self-preservation skills like it is some kind of Olympic sport where God is going to be handing out medals. She has no concern for the welfare of the women who follow her letting the men who follow her page harass, degrade and abuse the women on her Facebook page. It's really sad and she bans any woman who dare take up for those women and stand up to those bullies because usually those women make far more sense than she does.
So stay far, far way from this book if you value yourself as a woman, want a healthy relationship based on respect and want a realistic guide on what it means to be a Christian woman. You are far better off with the work of women like Rachel Held Evans, Sara Bessey and Nadia Bolz Webber. Hell....you would be better off with Stephanie Meyers because this woman makes Bella look empowering. Thankfully, Amazon has a great return policy.
February 4, 2021
Most of the reviews on this book are pretty ridiculous and probably these women do not read the word or understand it, unfortunately. This was an incredible book and while there are a small handful of things I disagree with in here she is writing based on the word and what God says to us about submission. I really enjoyed her teachings and learning about her transformation.
June 12, 2020
This book was INCREDIBLE! If you open your mind and actually take in what she is saying. Some of these reviews I’m seeing are straight up ridiculous. This book WILL save your relationship if you let it. God is good and His plan works!
August 3, 2019
Partly it sounds like satire. I feel for this woman's family - how unhappy a life like this must be for everybody, not just the women.
Not helpful for any mentally sane person.
Not helpful for any mentally sane person.
December 6, 2016
This is an excellent book for any wife who wants to follow God's principles given to us in His written word. If you're not interested in biblical principles, then don't bother reading it. However, if you want to also be a "transformed wife" then get your copy today and start following the Spirit's leading.
January 8, 2022
Lori Alexander hides behind the Bible to beat toddlers. She admitted she subdued her four small children for four hours because the children spilled raisins on the floor. Those defenseless children WERE going to acknowledge Lori was the boss. Lori took out her own frustrations on her children.
And why is it Lori Alexander never wrote in the book how she hit the little ones then kicked them out in the cold in only their pajamas. The children’s crime? Doing what children do, opened Christmas presents. Lori, “Was so mad,” she forced those small children into the cold with no way to keep warm. This is not love, this is a moms sick need to be on control.
The book is as trashy as Lori Alexander is.
And why is it Lori Alexander never wrote in the book how she hit the little ones then kicked them out in the cold in only their pajamas. The children’s crime? Doing what children do, opened Christmas presents. Lori, “Was so mad,” she forced those small children into the cold with no way to keep warm. This is not love, this is a moms sick need to be on control.
The book is as trashy as Lori Alexander is.
July 30, 2019
Didn't read. Saw excerpts from her blog and that was enough - the stuff she spouts is SO harmful and egocentric. Just because she likes being stuck in the 50s doesn't mean she should drag others back with her.
November 18, 2019
Pure nonsense. Anyone who believes this foolishness is as foolish as the author is.
July 13, 2020
Literally a child abuser and child abuse advocate, surprised this lady haven’t been arrested or have had CPS called on her. Please keep this book off the shelves for good.
February 5, 2021
Complete trash!!! Twists and cherry picks what parts of the Bible she wants to follow, then approves of rape in marriage and beating your kids. She's vile
November 2, 2019
This book. If I could give it 0 stars I would. It’s basically a bunch of misogynistic bullshit bound in a book cover and passed of as a book.
I just feel like Lori Alexander herself published this book of it was just published by some misogynistic asshat who’s eyes she wouldn’t meet because ya know women shouldn’t look men in the eye because they’re protectors and providers and... yeah women should be subservient.
She probably promotes Christian guys who rape their wives.
Lori Alexander does a great job of really setting feminism back a thousand years and just doing that with a good healthy dose of slut shaming and pushing her (stupid, misogynistic, all in all idiotic) views on other people.
I’d just really like to comment on one thing. How did the whole freaking stupid idea of purity in women being attractive come from??? Or like... stupidity? But focusing on the whole purity thing, why is it that a woman losing her ‘virginity’ is a huge deal and makes her less ‘desirable’ (like why the shit should she care if she’s desirable to men who are so freaking sexist) while a man having sex for the first time is perfectly fine and NORMAL.
Actually, encouraged????
Lori Alexander, a personal message to you. I want to go to college. I want to get a job. I want to provide for myself and carry freaking pepper spray around to protect MYSELF from terrible men and I never want to get married or have children. The day I become the ‘transformed wife’ will be the 30th of February. Wait for that.
Also your life is bullshit... your views are idiotic... yep I covered it all.
Just a disclaimer I don’t have anything against Christianity even though I am definitely an atheist. I know, the blasphemy, right???
I just feel like there are a lot of things, even in the Bible that are outdated and has society evolves, religion has to evolve with it.
And yeah, sorry but I don’t buy the whole Jesus thing. If God was really almighty don’t you think he would me helping out the massively screwed up human race?
I just feel like Lori Alexander herself published this book of it was just published by some misogynistic asshat who’s eyes she wouldn’t meet because ya know women shouldn’t look men in the eye because they’re protectors and providers and... yeah women should be subservient.
She probably promotes Christian guys who rape their wives.
Lori Alexander does a great job of really setting feminism back a thousand years and just doing that with a good healthy dose of slut shaming and pushing her (stupid, misogynistic, all in all idiotic) views on other people.
I’d just really like to comment on one thing. How did the whole freaking stupid idea of purity in women being attractive come from??? Or like... stupidity? But focusing on the whole purity thing, why is it that a woman losing her ‘virginity’ is a huge deal and makes her less ‘desirable’ (like why the shit should she care if she’s desirable to men who are so freaking sexist) while a man having sex for the first time is perfectly fine and NORMAL.
Actually, encouraged????
Lori Alexander, a personal message to you. I want to go to college. I want to get a job. I want to provide for myself and carry freaking pepper spray around to protect MYSELF from terrible men and I never want to get married or have children. The day I become the ‘transformed wife’ will be the 30th of February. Wait for that.
Also your life is bullshit... your views are idiotic... yep I covered it all.
Just a disclaimer I don’t have anything against Christianity even though I am definitely an atheist. I know, the blasphemy, right???
I just feel like there are a lot of things, even in the Bible that are outdated and has society evolves, religion has to evolve with it.
And yeah, sorry but I don’t buy the whole Jesus thing. If God was really almighty don’t you think he would me helping out the massively screwed up human race?
June 20, 2021
Unapologetically biblical and plentiful scripture.
Recommended for newer Christian women. Mature Christians who are familiar with their Bible won't receive any new information yet will still be edified by its affirmation of the scriptures.
Ignore the negative reviews; there are many hard hearted women out there who are either led astray by their emotions or misunderstand and refuse to have a teachable spirit. Being a biblical wife does not make you unequal to your husband nor does it have anything to do with equality. God's word tells us in John 14:15, "If ye love me, keep my commandments." It's as simple as that. Your obedience is a demonstration of love. Your obedience glorifies God. Obedience to what? God's prescription for you as a married woman. Being a biblical wife is not demeaning or make you a doormat or slave to your husband. That was not and is not God's intention. Also, keep in mind that men have their own set of commands in marriage too.
*If you are seeking more information and would like to see for yourself what the Bible says about biblical womanhood, I highly recommend buying Lori Alexander's Bible study workbook entitled Biblical Womanhood. You work your way through the Bible. Great if you're not sure where to start your study.
Recommended for newer Christian women. Mature Christians who are familiar with their Bible won't receive any new information yet will still be edified by its affirmation of the scriptures.
Ignore the negative reviews; there are many hard hearted women out there who are either led astray by their emotions or misunderstand and refuse to have a teachable spirit. Being a biblical wife does not make you unequal to your husband nor does it have anything to do with equality. God's word tells us in John 14:15, "If ye love me, keep my commandments." It's as simple as that. Your obedience is a demonstration of love. Your obedience glorifies God. Obedience to what? God's prescription for you as a married woman. Being a biblical wife is not demeaning or make you a doormat or slave to your husband. That was not and is not God's intention. Also, keep in mind that men have their own set of commands in marriage too.
*If you are seeking more information and would like to see for yourself what the Bible says about biblical womanhood, I highly recommend buying Lori Alexander's Bible study workbook entitled Biblical Womanhood. You work your way through the Bible. Great if you're not sure where to start your study.
January 4, 2021
This was so good! I read it in a few days. Lorie is an excellent writer. She is a true follower of Christ. She takes her roll seriously as an older woman teaching the younger to be sober, discreet, keepers of home.
I’ve found her a blessing for years on her blogs and found her book just as helpful. I long to be such a kind older woman someday.
Ladies, be gentle to your husbands! They need us to follow them, to respect, to love them, to be intimate with them, to share our faith with them.
Read this book, remember that we are to be meek like Jesus, set aside our pride, and go about being the best wife and mother that we can be. And remember, we need the Word and prayer to help us get there.
So yeah, I give it five stars!
I’ve found her a blessing for years on her blogs and found her book just as helpful. I long to be such a kind older woman someday.
Ladies, be gentle to your husbands! They need us to follow them, to respect, to love them, to be intimate with them, to share our faith with them.
Read this book, remember that we are to be meek like Jesus, set aside our pride, and go about being the best wife and mother that we can be. And remember, we need the Word and prayer to help us get there.
So yeah, I give it five stars!
December 18, 2020
Lori Alexander encourages women to be helpless beings under the complete control of their husbands. She thinks education turns women into liberals and it’s a woman’s duty to bear children and raise them. If that woman’s husband leaves her, it’s her own fault and she will need to remarry immediately because she won’t have the education of job skills to live on her own. It’s horrifying.
October 23, 2019
I think this woman is a nut and a domestic abuse apologist/enabler. Her teaching is toxic and dangerous.
September 23, 2019
i made a goodreads account just to take a big dump on this book and on lori. didn't want to give it even one star. it deserves zero stars. everything about this book is horrendous. makes me want to spit on lori or at least in her general direction. shame on you, lori. you don't deserve to have your name capitalized. i don't understand how her youtube videos aren't filled with more hate. can't believe there are so many brain dead people who agree with her. i feel very sorry for anyone who agrees with her, like the way i feel towards a poor dog in a cage at a shelter. very pitiful, very sad. lori should be embarrassed by the bullshit she spews. i'm caught between wanting to fist fight her and also feeling sorry for her. i hope that her husband doesn't abuse her, though it seems like she wouldn't have a problem with it if he did. i hope that he hasn't abused her in any way in the past, though it seems like she herself wouldn't even view it as abuse. i could go on forever about how disgusted this book and her teachings make me. very dangerous to women AND men in today's world. this is 2019, not 1819. get your head out of your ass. stop teaching men it's ok to think they're the masters of women, and stop teaching women they should strive to be submissive to men. you and people like you are the reason women are struggling so much today. you are pandering to an audience of men who view you as less than them anyway, so what's the point? you only have about 10 years left on this earth, if that. better not waste anymore of your time living like this.
March 23, 2020
I have not read this book, and absolutely will not read this book. The writings of Alexander that I have been exposed to already are fully enough to deter me. The fact she associates with authors such as Michael and Debi Pearl is also very concerning.
On behalf of all true followers of Christ out there, I want to apologize to those of you who are not Christians for authors like this because they do not represent who Jesus truly is, His gospel, and what He stands for. Women were never created to be silenced, shamed, abused, stifled sperm dumpsters like this author promotes. They were created to be loved, honored, and respected. If you want a good read on Biblical Womanhood, do not read any of her writings.
On behalf of all true followers of Christ out there, I want to apologize to those of you who are not Christians for authors like this because they do not represent who Jesus truly is, His gospel, and what He stands for. Women were never created to be silenced, shamed, abused, stifled sperm dumpsters like this author promotes. They were created to be loved, honored, and respected. If you want a good read on Biblical Womanhood, do not read any of her writings.
August 2, 2021
Lorie is a twisted person who believes in violently beating children into submission with a strap to break their will. She once beat her kid for 4 HOURS! She is very UNchristian in her teachings. She believes woman should be submissive doormats with no careers. If your spouse dies you have to get the church to support you. She is a joyless, sanctimonious , crone trying to shame woman. Many of the things she tells you not to do, she actually has done! Her advice is vile, and she is hardened, frustrated, angry and lays it all out. This is THE WORST BOOK I’ve read in a decade and the WORST ADVICE BOOK EVER!!!
December 6, 2016
This is an excellent book not only for women struggling in their marriage but also for those happily married. Lori follows God's word in how she instructs women to be the best wives and mothers they are designed to be. It's also a great recommendation for single women who want to be fully prepared for marriage.
February 14, 2020
Sub-par writing and zero style only make the arguments in this book worse. Even Hitler could write with charisma. This was a chore to get through and I only managed to finish because halfway through I realized I was reading a book written by two conflicting personalities of the same person. That's kinda interesting, but the author never took that plot anywhere. Instead, the reader is blasted from both sides by "God made women by mistake and really messed up when he gave them brains" and "submission and subservience is exactly what God created women for, you uppity sluts" It's a tennis match and your brain is the ball. If this sort of philosophy is your bag, that's cool. You do your thing, baby. But this garbage book is not the way to draw new members into your freaky Women Suck cult.
February 24, 2021
This is so horribly sexist and full to the brim with outdated misogynistic ideals. Women are not slaves to their husbands. Women are allowed access to abortion. Women do not need to be dominated by men. Terrible book. DO NOT RECOMMEND.
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