ECPA BESTSELLER • How can I remember how to be a wife when it takes all I’ve got to be a momma?Since becoming a mom, do you ever feel like your marriage no longer receives the attention it needs to thrive? Do you ever wonder how you’re supposed to re-center your heart on your husband when you are so busy with everything else? Those feelings we experienced in the first days of love and marriage often become buried beneath hurried life, active children, and mountains of bills and laundry. Maybe you’ve questioned and perhaps even worried if you’ll ever again experience romance as you did in the beginning—that newness of what it meant to be fully caught up in one another. But what if you could rekindle that fresh sort of love? What if there was a secret to love unending? For the next twenty-one days, journey with Becky Thompson to remember what life was like when you first fell in love with your husband. Each daily challenge, reflection, and prayer will refocus your attention, re-center your heart, reignite the romance, and help you rediscover your marriage in the midst of motherhood. Take the Love Unending 21-day challenge and discover the best way forward is to look back at the beginning.
Becky Thompson is the author of BeckyThompson.com and is the founder of the Midnight Mom Devotional community on Facebook where over two million moms gather nightly for prayer.
Becky is the author of ten books, Hope Unfolding, Love Unending, Truth Unchanging, My Real Story, Midnight Mom Devotional, Peace, God So Close, Midnight Dad Devotional, Tonight We Pray for the Momma, and Healing Rest.
Becky lives in NW Oklahoma with her husband, Jared, and their three children.
This is a book to help young mothers reignite their marriage after being consumed with caring for little ones and focused on their children’s needs. It is a pleasant mix of marriage advice and personal down- to- earth stories from the author. The book is a 21 day plan to a more fulfilling marriage. Each chapter deals with a facet of daily married life. For example one chapter is titled: Greet Lovingly. The author asks us to examine how we greet our husbands when they come home each evening. What I liked about this book is that Ms Thompson selected areas that one might not realize affects a marriage as deeply as it does. Does it really matter how we greet our husband? But in each idea that she presents she brings in her personal life story to illustrate how important each chapter is to making your marriage what you long for it to be. Then she gives you a challenge. It’s like homework. Something you do after you’ve read the chapter. At the end of each chapter there are lines for writing down your husband’s reactions, how you felt and how the “experiment” went. Throughout the book she reminds us over and over to start each day new. This gives fresh hope to every marriage not matter what state you may find it in. This is a very positive book! Easy to read, easy to understand yet shares profound thoughts and encouraging throughout the entire text. This 21 day challenge in book form is definitely worth the effort and doable.
This book is a powerful tool for any wife who is also a momma! (Honestly it's good for any married woman, but Becky targets it to moms.) It's a 21 day challenge for married moms to rediscover the passion, servant's heart and prayerful attitude that we had early on in our marriages (or even relationship before marriage). These challenges have made me examine my heart in a new way and has begun a new heart attitude in me. I'm thankful to be able to build a strong foundation on my marriage (even 5 years in) to stand on for years and decades to come.
As the step mom of a 3 year old, and someone who is currently pregnant, sometimes we let our marriages fall to the way side. We put so much focus into our kids that we forget our marriages require just as much work.
In Love Unending, Becky provides great steps to getting your marriage back to where it was when you were a newlywed. At first I was hesitant, but even in the smallest challenges, the one's where you kind of think "Is this really necessary?" had a big impact. I can already see my marriage improving. Sometimes it takes just as many small steps as it does big ones, to re-ignite the love that is there.
I recommend anyone who is a mom/wife or becoming one, to read this book and really challenge themselves and see just how much it really does change your marriage for the better!
This book is such a game changer for marriages! You may not even realize how much your marriage can improve until you walk through the 21 days of this book.
Love Unending is set up as a 21 day challenge, with each chapter discussing a particular marriage pitfall and a suggestion for addressing it that particular day. I'm not really sure why it's designed this way. I suppose these types of "challenges" are popular these days (Hard 75, Whole 30) but if Thompson explained the reason behind the number 21 specifically I cannot recall it. In any case, I read the book with a fun group of ladies who meet at my house for coffee each Tuesday, so we spread the 21 day challenge over a 10 week period and worked on two pitfalls per week.
Like Becky Thompson, I have been blessed with a great example of marriage from my parents. It certainly isn't perfect, but they have loved and served each other well for over 40 years and I have no doubt that many good things about my own marriage can be accredited to them and their positive example. On the other hand, if I brought up the specific ways my dad loves, serves, and treats my mom to Eddie as often as Becky Thompson does in her book, I think Eddie would throw the book in my face, tell me to go marry my dad, and walk out. There's a fine line between admiring the way your dad did things and emasculating your husband, and frankly I think Becky Thompson crossed it.
Here's the thing. Becky Thompson is around my age. We've probably been married for about the same length of time. I don't want to say we know nothing, because I certainly have learned some things in my last 10 years, but our advice isn't yet seasoned by test of time. Thompson continually returns to her dad's exceptional performance because she just doesn't have the experience to draw solely on her own marriage. Her advice isn't wrong, it's just too soon.
I think this would have been an excellent blog post, or possibly an article in some Christian women's magazine. But presented as a book, it felt like Thompson struggled to fill the pages.
When I first had my daughter, almost a year ago (!!), there were many sleepless nights and times where I would be scrolling through Facebook in order to stay awake while I was feeding her or holding her until she fell asleep. On one of those middle of the night feedings, I happened across a shared post from a page called Scissortail Silk. I don’t remember the exact post, but I remember feeling overwhelmed and drained at being new mom. I felt alone and as if I was going to fail. After reading a beautifully written post by Becky Thompson, I found myself revisiting her Facebook page daily and eventually ventured to her website to find comfort in times when I needed it most. It was almost as if Becky was reaching into my brain and putting all my thoughts and emotions in her posts all while giving me a comforting squeeze of the hand or hug to reassure me or to offer me words of wisdom.
Once I felt like I could manage reading a book and a newborn (seriously…it’s tricky people), I purchased her first book, Hope Unfolding. What a blessing that book was in the midst of my transition into motherhood and in the midst of rediscovering myself with all of the changes. Motherhood can be lonely, y’all. Trust me! BUT it doesn’t have to be. After reading that book and finding my rhythm, I learned that she was coming out with a book that covered MARRIAGE + MOTHERHOOD. Say what?! Okay, for those of you who a) aren’t married, b) don’t have kids, or c) either…let me tell you a little secret…..when that baby is born, they become your sole focus and purpose for being on this planet. Your spouse/significant other…well, they tend to get placed on the back burner at times. It’s frustrating for them and for you who is trying to figure out how to balance it all.
Thankfully, Becky (who is married & has 3 kids) totally understands.
Love Unending: Rediscovering Your Marriage in the Midst of Motherhood could not have come out at a more perfect time. This book takes you on a 21-day journey of rediscovering the why you fell in love with your husband. You read the quick little blurb in the morning, challenge yourself to complete the task, and then in the evening, there is a little place where you can journal and reflect upon what happened that day when rediscovering your marriage. It’s a beautiful journey and a wonderful reminder when everything is going full speed around you. I truly loved every challenge of this book and the way I was able to reflect on the whys I fell in love with my husband and what makes him so special.
My marriage of ten years had taken a significant downward turn after the births of my 3 little blessings. I knew I should give my husband more (more time, more attention, more affection) but I honestly didn’t know how. I started a journey to “fix” things about 4 years ago with little progress. 21 days…that’s it…21 days through the Love Unending challenge and we’ve seen more progress than in the last 4 years of trying. And by trying, I mean marriage seminars, weekends away, pray for your spouse books, other books that offered daily challenges…nothing worked! You might ask…what’s different about this one?! God placed on my heart about 6 months ago a command to “Love him” (him being my husband) and I STRUGGLED for months. Over and over I’d hear God and I’d think I KNOW but HOW?!? I seriously did not know how to love my husband well.
Becky’s book and her grace-filled truths taught me how to love my husband again. This 21-day challenge was hard but it was totally doable and I’m so glad I stuck with it. Through daily journal, prayer, Becky’s amazing stories, and God’s heart whispers, I was take back to the beginning of our relationship so I could remember the foundations of our love. I realized what an amazing man God has provided for me and I began to treat him as such! I found ways to reconnect with my husband. This journey changed MY heart in so many ways…and I knew that was the key all along, I just didn’t know HOW. I first did the challenge 3 months ago and I marvel at where my relationship is with my husband now. This book has helped me to refocus on my marriage while still balancing my role as “mommy.” I never thought I would feel like I was succeeding at both, but Love Unending has shown me that when I focus on making my marriage a priority, the “momma” role actually gets easier too!
This book is the result of a millennial thinking she has gained enough life experience to devote into a book on marriage. It is a common problem among millennials. They think their every day observations are groundbreaking. This book lacks the wisdom, discernment and knowledge a women can gain from many Y E A R S of life experience and growth in her spiritual walk. The problem with unchecked mom bloggers thinking they have wisdom to share, is that they lean on narcissistic anecdotes instead of actual spiritual wisdom and gospel foundations. This book makes no mention of “The Great Marriage.” The very thing our earthly unions are to emanate, they are modeled after it. If we can’t understand that, greeting our husbands with a jubilant hug upon his arrival is an empty gesture. This is a dangerous book for young wives and mothers because it’s all fluff. It sounds good, like all topical studies sound. It has no roots, no gospel and no substance. It paints pretty pictures and allows a women to put a band aid on actual problems. To put on the rose colored glasses and proceed with life as if everything is fine. There are so many other books out there written by women who know so much more. Who rip those blasted band aids off. You bleed a little and it hurts, but then you heal. I would recommend a good cookbook before I ever would recommend this book. And I would never suggest this book.
You don't want to miss this gem that is easy to read and apply to your own marriage. Love Unending is filled with personal stories that grab your attention and help you feel that you can be a great wife even as daily life is swirling around you. Becky writes from her experience and everyday life as she gives her readers easy to adapt 'challenges'. During the 21-day challenge, you are motivated to love well through tangible ways like: greet lovingly, speak kindly or listen intently while being encouraged to a process of heart transformation in yourself. The spaces to journal each day give you a visual of how things are changing and holds you accountable to checking in on how the process is going on a daily basis. Love this book and the change it has encouraged in my own marriage heart!
There are countless books on the market that help to fix behaviors. Love Unending is a tool that works on the heart! My heart towards my husband (and my children) has been softened and reminded of the exciting and passionate love we experienced in the early stages of our relationship (pre-children). I love the journaling space at the end of each chapter to document the journey and the changes in myself and my husband. My only criticism is that I wish there was more space to journal, but I'm ok with it because it gave me an excuse to go buy a notebook and who doesn't love a cute new notebook!?
After being married for 8 years and having 3 children, my husband does not get the attention that he once had when we first fell in love. This 21-day challenge has made me realize how important it is to still make my husband a priority and it has really opened my heart on how I can best love him. I know this book will be so helpful for other women who have struggled with balancing being a mom and wife!
I was fortunate to receive an advanced copy of Love Unending. It has been a game changer in our household. It has made me think about how I interact with my husband and has definitely been changing how he responds to me in the process too. It is making our home environment so much more peaceful. This is the best $8 you could spend to change your marriage and bring the spark back like you had when you first met.
Mommas need hope, and that's what Hope Unfolding was all about. What Becky has done in Love Unending is to offer moms hope for their marriages, something we all need---in the craziness of motherhood---there is hope for the future of our marriages! Love Unending is already changing the temperature in my marriage... And making me a better mom and wife at the same time! I can't get enough of Becky's open, honest sharing of what God has put on her heart in this book. It's life-changing!!!!
Marriage is hard. Marriage with kids is even harder. In this book, Becky uses personal stories and practical guidance to help you rebuild the relationship you had with your husband before there were children. This book is a must read for all married mommas out there. Is it a difficult challenge? ABSOLUTELY! But is it worth it? 100%!
Marriage changes when kids come along. This is a brilliant and practical book for every mum wanting to invest in her marriage. I loved working through the daily challenges and have noticed my heart soften and tune in to my husband like it was in the beginning before kids. This has had a positive impact on, not only my marriage, but also, my interactions with my kids and the atmosphere of my home.
I really enjoyed the content and structure of this book. I loved how the advice was presented in short bite-size little chunks, just a little something to think about throughout the day each time I listened. I wish I had read it the way it was intended, one challenge/tip per day for 21 days, and journaled my experiences. I think I would have internalized/remembered things a little bit better. I also liked that they were all very simple things. They don’t take a huge amount of effort, just giving a little more thought and purpose to your marriage.
Reminders for me to come back to: 1. Greet him 2. Speak kindly 3. Touch him purposely 4. Listen intently - put phone down 5. Thank him 6. Pray for him 7. Forgive him 8. Give him grace to become who he’s meant to be 9. Serve joyfully 10. Reach out intentionally - connect 11. Fight fairly: never use secrets as weapons, no name calling, we’re on the same team, words are permanent 12. Prepare intentionally 13. Honor and protect his name 14. Correct sparingly 15. Choose to spend time with him 16. Connect intimately 17. Show interest in his interests 18. Profess your love passionately 19. Discover daily 20. Love unexpectedly 21. Interact patiently
I loved reading this book. Becky Thompson carries the tone of a best friend, and overall the book was an engaging read. It was completely relatable to my current season of life, and I thought it was a good reminder of ways to show love to my husband. I took notes throughout this book and formed a more simplified list to glance at in my journal from time to time. It's a great way to reevaluate ways to show love and respect to my husband and work on/build on those in the midst of the crazy. I would definitely recommend this book.
"What if every day when I wake up, I tell myself it is the first day that I am married to my husband." This is the premise behind this book, because we all know that as children and other responsibilities come along it is easy to let those little things creep into it marriage. It is easy to not be as patient,loving,caring or forgiving with it spouse. This book is a 21 day challenge to bring back some if that specialness to our marriage. There were areas to journal and prayers at the end of each chapter.
Excellent 21 day challenge for strengthening your marriage. Becky is real, honest and hilarious. I related to every story she had - motherhood and marriage combined is a challenge...she gives great advice and daily challenges to strengthen your relationship with your husband in the midst of motherhood.
This book was a good reminder to make sure that your spouse is first on your priority list and gave different ways to help make that happen without neglecting any other responsibilities that you have on your plate.
I really enjoyed listening to this book. I didn't do my challenges over 21 days but I don't think that really matters. The things the author suggests to do for our husbands are so simple but could really make a difference in the way we interact with our husbands.
One of the resources I turned to this second half of the year is Becky Thompson's new devotional Love Unending: Rediscovering Your Marriage in the Midst of Motherhood. This 21-day challenge is a reminder that in order to move forward is to go back to the beginning and remember why you fell in the love in the first place.
Thompson begins with a conversation she had with her father. The way he said the way to approach your marriage is to look at each day as if it is the first. This mindset sets the tone for all of Love Unending.
I enjoy Thompson's writing style a lot. I first encountered it when I read Hope Unfolding. In everything she writes, Thompson covers everything with grace. She recognizes that motherhood is hard. And that sometimes we lose sight of ourselves or our spouse when we focus solely on our children.
Each day shares a scripture, a corresponding devotional (often with a person story from Thompson on how she's learned to focus on the days particular topic), a challenge, journaling space, and prayer. But I think my favorite thing throughout was the focus on coming back at the end of each day and reflecting on how things went. Each day builds on the next, and that is evident throughout the reflections in the entire devotional. Nothing is so hard that you want to avoid doing the challenge.
I highly recommend this book to any wife and momma out there!
I received this book from Blogging for Books. This review is my honest opinion.
As a long time follower of Becky Thompson and her blog Scissortail Silk, I was extremely excited to know that she was going to be writing a book about marriage after kids. Now, I was a little hesitant because there are quite a few books on this topic. HOWEVER, this book is nothing like the others. As the wife of a Lineman who is out of town more than he is home, I was a little concerned on how the challenges given in this book would work, but I was very pleasantly surprised to find that even though I had to do a little altering, this book worked for me. And I am convinced that if it is doable for my situation, it is doable for anyone’s! I loved Becky’s honesty and relatable stories and experiences throughout the book, made me feel like I wasn’t alone in any of the situations I face as a married woman with a child! She says that the first few challenges are critical, and the rest help build on them and I would definitely say that is true. I HIGHLY recommend this book to anyone – whether you are looking for just a little push in the right direction, or are needing a little more help than most—and definitely feel that the effort that she suggests you put in is entirely worth it, as I saw a significant positive change in my marriage! Would be great in a multitude of settings, from doing it on your own to using it as a template for a bible study! Definitely a must read and a must have for any collection!
Whether you think your marriage is perfect, needs work, or pretty much over, this book is for you! I believe in this 21 day challenge so much so, that I am going to keep going through this book again and again until I have it branded on my heart! Why? Because it is changing my marriage!
My husband has thanked me over and over again for how much I have been changing the way I treat and talk to him! This book is about changing your own heart and actions (not your husband's) but lets just say that I am loving how, through my acts of kindness and changed heart, that my husband has started doing really sweet things again for me like opening my car door and cleaning our kitchen! Say what?! All because he's feeling really loved again and wants to show me he loves me back!
I only wish I had read this a few years ago! Trust me, Becky will having you laughing, crying and on your way to a renewed marriage in no time!
This was a very inspiring book! I listened to the audio version and enjoyed hearing the author read her work. The stories she shared in each chapter made it easy to understand her point and how to work on that area of your marriage relationship. There are 21 chapters and each one has room to journal about how you will apply what you've learned. That made me wish I had bought a paperback copy, and I plan to buy it that way for others. I think it might be wise to take it a little slower than the 21 days suggested so you can really hone the skills you are working on. I loved the prayers included with each chapter. They really helped me focus on what is most important in my relationship with the Lord and my husband. Love Unending is practical, biblical, and very encouraging. I highly recommend this book!
Hmmmm I'm not sure what to say about this book. I don't want to ding it too hard... as I honestly feel this book just wasn't for me.
The writing was good and I enjoyed the little anecdotes of the author's own experience with her husband and parents. I just couldn't get past the feeling of pressure being solely put on the wife, and not the husband as well. I understand this book was intended to be from a woman's POV on personal changes she can make to better herself and her marriage (and some of these ideas/tasks were creative and wonderful), but I felt it to be daunting and a bit unfair.
Again, this is just my opinion and I'm sure this book has been empowering and helpful for many women out there.
It takes two to Tango! Maybe I would like this book more if a counterpart existed just for the men.. :)
I didn't read this book because my marriage was in jeopardy. The reason I read this book was because I wanted to invest in my relationship with my husband. My pastor often says when talking about marriage that the grass isn't greener on the other side- it is greener where you water it. So true! With two kids now, I have found myself investing a lot of my time and energy into them but not as much in my husband. And, to be honest when the kids go to college I don't want us to be strangers. Through this book I was able to reposition my heart and my attitude in my daily interactions with my husband so that we can face life like we did when we first met, full of love and excitement. No matter where your marriage is, you should read this book.
Maybe you have a great relationship with your husband, maybe you’re traveling on a rocky road and need a friend to hold your hand and help you out, or maybe you have a failing marriage and are grasping for straws right now. No matter where you are, momma, friend, Love Unending has something for you. The second book from Becky Thompson is a simple, yet fulfilling challenge that will gently guide you back day-by-day to the reasons you first fell for your husband. Love Unending is a marriage changer. It’s encouraging, revitalizing and exciting. If you’re willing to fight for your marriage, to better your marriage, or simply update your marriage, get your hands on this! It will be the most rewarding twenty-one days of the year!
This is a must read for any married mom especially if you're in the stage of raising babies and toddlers right now. God is ultimately the one that changed my marriage for the better, but this book gave me the tools to start moving toward God's best for me, my husband, my marriage, and my children. It's a 21 day challenge and each day is a quick read - 10 minutes about. It's very doable even if you're in a crazy stage of life managing little ones!