A thirty-year battle with drug addiction, three career changes, one divorce, a major mid-life crisis, and countless AA meetings later, Leonard Nimoy's son, Adam, tells his cautionary -- and very funny -- tale.
Pretty good memoir from the "son of Spock", Adam Nimoy, who turned to alcohol and pot as a way of dealing with his father's distance and celebrity. There are a few Star Trek anecdotes here, and Shatner is dismissed as a dope, but mainly this is a story about a man trying to put his life back together with AA and writing. Once he quit using, he realized that despite all the attempts at counseling, his marriage isn't working, and he has separated from his wife. You can tell he really loves his kids, and most of the chapters are about his relationship with his son and daughter, and how they are reacting to the separation with confusion and anger. What I didn't like - how Nimoy refers to just about every woman by how attractive she is, and her hair color. I guess it's honest, but he comes across as a jerk because of it. Only the true love he has for his kids redeems him. Well, that, and the way he reassures his wife that everything's going to be okay even once they are divorced. He's still going to be in her and the kids' lives. The stuff about directing was really interesting. He should write a book just about that. *edit: My copy of the book has a slightly different cover photo. Instead of his hand being relaxed as it's lying on the ground, it's making the Vulcan salute. I wonder if they ran into some kind of copyright issues with that?
This is a wonderfully honest and heartwarming book. Adam Nimoy is the son of Leonard Nimoy (Star Trek's Spock). But this book is not about growing up as his father son; rather, it is about being a father and maintaining a good relationship with his children while going through a divorce, battling a marijuana and alcohol addiction, his own relationship with his father (there are few and vague mentions of this) and finding a job.
The book is never dark or gritty or filled with lurid and scandalous details, it is simply the author learning to be honest with himself. The book is comprised a anecdotes (sort of chapters) lived by the writer whose main theme is that of accepting to move on with his life. The book is a bit self-absorbed but it is honest in its writing and feelings. It is obvious that the writer has not worked out through all of his "angst", even at the end, but it is something he is trying to do.
The style of writing does seem young (adorned with Nimoy seeming to have the mind of an adolescent in terms of women) and like that of a starting writer. It is disjointed and without any clear timeline, which I did not mind that much. The book reads like a journal and it may be just that: a series of anecdotes Adam Nimoy wrote for himself and decided to publish. I was not expecting much when I got this book. I chose it because of the title (it was a bit ingenious). Still, I enjoyed the book. It was easy and fast to read.
Adam Nimoy is an interesting writer and there was just enough family information about his famous dad, in context with his own life, to satisfy my curiosity without making the book be about his dad. One of the things I liked and could relate to was his constant reference to Alcoholics Anonymous and his recovery process. I found a lot of similarities between us, as would almost any recovering alcoholic I think. But this was the first time I've read a biography of someone who's actually gone through the process like I have.
One would assume that Adam Nimoy wrote this book in an attempt to capture the audiences of two specific markets: The `Behind-the-Scenes Hollywood Tell-All' and the `Bizarre and the Horrific Yet Somehow Humorous Memoir'. Of course, the key to writing for a specific market is to give that audience what it wants. This is where Adam's book fails to deliver.
Behind-the-Scenes readers love to get the inside gossip behind their favorite movies and TV shows. Not only was Adam Nimoy the director of some widely popular and highly successful television programs (Ally McBeal and NYPD Blue), but as the son of the second-most recognizable cast member of the original Star Trek, he had an opportunity to give a unique perspective to the making of the most famous science-fiction show in US history. Considering the number of Star Trek memoirs available (I Am Spock, Get a Life!, To the Stars, From Sawdust to Stardust, Beam Me Up Scotty and Warped Factors, to name but a few), one more wouldn't have broken the camel's back. And considering that the Star Trek franchise simply refuses to die, it isn't exactly a bad horse to hitch your wagon to.
But Adam Nimoy doesn't appear to want anything to do with that. He doesn't exactly avoid discussing his father's iconic role as Dr. Spock, but he only mentions it about as frequently as he would have mentioned his father's vocation if had happened to by a plumber or taxidermist. He gives just enough of a taste to annoy any Star Trek fans who might have reasonably expected more.
It wouldn't really appear that Adam was trying to sidestep his father's shadow, except the place where such a familial connection should have been proudly displayed is conspicuously void of any mention. Neither the book's title, nor it's underwhelming cover, give any real clue as to who Adam Nimoy is. His last name is the only indication to the casual shelf browser of the most interesting thing about the author.
That list bit may seem harsh, but it is undeniably true. The ups and downs of Nimoy's life, while well-written and somewhat entertaining, aren't extreme enough to be terribly engrossing. Addiction to alcohol and marijuana isn't exactly uncommon these days, and the same goes for people losing their jobs, wives, and self-esteem. That's why most popular memoirists have survived lives that have been amazingly bizarre (Running with Scissors: A Memoir), side-splittingly funny (Me Talk Pretty One Day), or at least partially fictional (A Million Little Pieces). Adam's life isn't any of these. Maybe it would have been more along those lines if he had included more about his film and television experiences.
But maybe that is why he decided to label his book as an Anti-Memoir; because whatever you might be looking for in a memoir from a famous actor's son, the odds are that you won't find it here.
I really wanted to love this book. It is funny and has a lot of good points in it. I'm not a Star Trek fan so I didn't really care that he was Leonard Nimoy's son. Yes, it might have been more fascinating if he would have delved into what that meant to him. This book bothered me because of the way it jumped around. It was like reading a stream of conscious. He would go from present to 3 years ago to a childhood moment to a conversation with one of his kids back to the present with no string to tied them together all in one chapter. If he would have put this into a chronological order then I think he would have had a very good book. I would have loved to seen how his parents dealt with him and raised him then his drug progression and meeting his ex-wife then his law career with the kids to the director of some good TV shows like Ally McBeal to now. I think he has a lot of interesting and funny stories about his law/entertainment career and his director career but he didn't tell them in a way that you could enjoy them. I especially liked his stories about his AA meetings and his teaching classes about directors and actors. He has the talent but his editor just isn't that great. I want to recommend it but I don't think I can.
I read Adam's book, which I found hilarious, beautiful and heartbreaking. His depiction of the turmoil our kids experience with divorce, no matter the necessity of the split and the best intentions of their parents, was devastating. The book clearly expressed the pain, confusion and anger of both son and father with regard to their estrangement. I'm not only elated but impressed that these two found common ground, love and respect together. Both Adam and Leonard Nimoy will live in my heart forever, as well as, of course, Leroy.
Leonard Nimoy's son has a few celebrity-related stories to tell, but this is primarily an account of his decision to get sober after decades of frequent pot smoking, which further prompts him to recognize that his marriage isn't working, and how the separation on the road to divorce affects his relationship with his two adolescent children. Raw in its honesty, but frequently funny as hell.
Overall not a bad memoir- and I meant that literally. Unlike many poison-filled memoirs by the chidlren of famous people, this one is surprisngly low key in outling the difficult and complex relationship Nimoy had with his father and his father's fame. Also seeems pretty honest in a non dramatic way about his own failings.
Star Trek fans mostly interested in learning still more about "Mr. Spock" will not be disappointed with this book; however, true to his intentions (as expressed early on to the agent he calls Richard the Tall), Adam Nimoy gives us (and, surely, his family) a treasure:
"So I'm not totally averse to getting into the Star Trek stuff and maybe some of the complications of being my father's son. But most of my writings revolve around my life today, in terms of my recent divorce, raising two teenagers, and dealing with recovery after thirty years of substance abuse."
Nimoy has accomplished in glorious spades what he set out to do with his "anti-memoir." I'm sure I will read this book again and again. Although it is organized around Nimoy's retreat into, and ongoing recovery from, years of alcohol and drug abuse, it transcends his personal story and any expectations I had for it. "My Incredibly Wonderful, Miserable Life" unfolds like the best poems do--with universal, multiconnotational resonances that extend their significance far past the last words.
The family photos punctuating the chapters are a delight, because they are so darned normal, and the cover pic is priceless. Incidental side tales--such as when Nimoy asks his mother where she's seen Katherine Harris before--surprise and accentuate just how juicy the life and experience of a sober soul can be.
As Nimoy tells his film students, telling the story--no, showing it--is of utmost importance, and that's just what he does; he shows us. He conveys "the real beauty of being sober: You have nowhere to go, no place to escape to, and nowhere to hide. Instead, you get to feel the pain. You get to live the experience." He shows us through his own life that, without being willing to feel the pain, one cannot expect to feel joy. These writings are embued with such humility, presence, and love that we get to live Nimoy's experience, too, as if it were our own--and we want to, even when it is painful.
I want to personally thank Adam Nimoy. His book has come into my life at the perfect time. An orthopedic surgeon recently asked me, as we looked at the x-rays of a destroyed joint in my thumb that for years I've been told was "just bursitis," what had I been taking for the pain. When I answered "Nothing," thinking he was talking about pain pills, I was stunned to hear him say "I don't know how you've been able to stand the pain." And then I could see how I have been standing the pain: my daily "little bit" of wine. Without reading this book, I don't know if I would have seen how I've been numbing myself out to my feelings.
I admit, I like this book because I like Adam, and I have absolutely no problem with the fact that this book is not about his dad. I also have no problem with the anecdotal, jumping-around aspect of it. But I would have loved to hear more about the TV shows he directed. I read his second book first and thought it superior to this one. But both were pretty darned interesting.
Somehow or other I expected better from the "Son of Spock". I know it must have been incredibly, wonderful, and miserable to be brought up in the shadow of a character portrayed on television as emotionless, logical, and totally in control of one's life.
For those "Trekkies" who will consider buying this book to learn more about the man from Vulcan save your money. There is very little in this book about Leonard Nimoy and his role as Dr. Spock on Star Trek. True, the story is about Adam's life, but it would have been more interesting if it had a little more "Spock".
The book is more an expose of a dysfunctional Hollywood family. Adam and his sister growing up as spoiled brats that blame their problems on everything but themselves. It is hard to commiserate with their lives when one can see so many others today faced with much greater adversities and overcoming their problems without the use of drugs, alcohol, or pyschiatrists.
I do admire Adam for overcoming his years of alcohol and drug abuse and getting his life turned around; however, (in my opinion) he has done nothing to overcome hsi mental outlook on life.
It bothers me gthat even though his family life may not have been ideal, he was given a great education and became a lawyer. When he felt that his life was not being fulfilled as a lawyer, his father helped him to get a position as a TV director. He was very successful at this, only to have it taken away due to substance abuse.
The book is sketchy and spotty and leaves the reader with no empathy for the writer or his sister. For those "Trekkie" fans out there , I have no doubt that you will be disppointed in its contents.
Ich gebe zu, ich habe dieses Buch mit der Absicht bestellt, etwas über den privaten Leonard Nimoy zu erfahren. Das habe ich auch bekommen. Aber als ich dann so las, wollte ich gar nichts mehr von Nimoy sen. wissen, denn Nimoy jn. wurde plötzlich extrem interessant. Er erzählt mit großem Charme von sich und seinen Kindern und gibt dem Leser hin und wieder ein Flashback in seine Kindheit. Wenn er von seiner Beziehung zu seinem Vater spricht, schwingt sowohl Traurigkeit als auch Stolz mit. Das was er zu erzählen hat, haben sicherlich hunderte von anderen Hollywood-Kindern auch zu erzählen, aber er tut, im Gegensatz zu manch anderer Biographie, niemandem weh, mit dem was er sagt.
30 Jahre Pot- und Alkoholabhängigkeit haben nicht nur sein Leben zerstört, sondern auch seine Ehe, seiner Karriere als TV-Regisseur und beinahe auch die Beziehung zu seinen Kindern. Auch wenn es an anderer Stelle geschrieben wird, er hat niemals seinen Vater für sein Leben verantwortlich gemacht. Er weiß sehr wohl, dass jeder seines eigenen Glückes Schmied ist.
Adam Nimoy ist ein ausgesprochen sympathischer, charmanter und koketter Mann, der seine Kinder liebt und trotz eigener Probleme, immer versucht, die Fehler seines Vaters nicht zu wiederholen. Seine Karriere als Regisseur musste er an den Nagel hängen (vorerst, vielleicht bekommt er nochmal eine Chance sich wieder zu beweisen, falls er das will). Heute arbeitet Adam Nimoy als Lehrer an der NYFA (New York Film Academy) in L.A. und unterrichtet dort zukünftige Schauspieler und Regisseure.
The first time I didn't know what to expect. I read it as I was making my way through all peripheral-Trek books and memoirs, despite knowing going into My Incredibly... that it was not that kind of book. I thought it was self-indulgent.
The second time - because it stuck in my mind and I more or less picked it up and got to the 100-page mark without realizing I was re-reading it - I thought okay, this isn't as self-indulgent as I thought. Or, if it is, it's intelligently written and honestly explored. It's a recovery book. I have many friends in recovery and have heard them speak to one another (via social media mainly) and it actually helped me understand some of the terrain they were co-exploring.
Then, after reading Shatner's recent tribute to Leonary Nimoy, I thought I recognized a few things in there from this Adam Nimoy book, so I picked it up again. This time around, it all clicked as not just a recovery book but an authentic glimpse into growing up in SoCal in the circumstances the author did and cross-referencing it to other such overviews or memoirs. Some of the anecdotes (like the Katherine Harris) were worth preserving for themselves alone, but to tie it into a larger narrative of recovery/ survival from the life so-described in the title, I think it hangs together well.
If Adam Nimoy's name sounds familiar to you, it most likely is you recognized his last name. Yes, he is Leonard Nimoy's son and, ironically, he sounds as happy as the son of Spock probably would have sounded. However, My Incredibly Wonderful, Miserable Life is not, as one might expect, a whining account of what it means to be the offspring of a celebrity, but a heart wrenching anecdotal account of Adam's personal life, going through parenting, addiction, divorce and trying to pull himself together. The book is a collection of very short and stand alone chapters which feel like, and probably are, Alcoholic Anonymous stories about himself, just as raw and open as one might expect from the floor of a meeting of people following the 12 step program.
My personal opinion is that I absolutely loved it. As any good autobiography, it teaches something beyond a mere story, it reveals. I enjoyed the book not as a Star Trek fan, but as a human being. This stuff is not easy to get, at least not for me. I recommend it highly.
I read this book as research for the book about Star Trek that I am writing. It provided a lot of good material to think about, but not much information to include in my book. Adam Nimoy is obviously a smart guy who loves his children, who almost crashed and burned his life away. His story is interesting for the "inside information" but also for the almost cathartic manner in which he writes about his life and choices. I was most impressed that although he writes about some negative influences in his life, it never comes across as blaming other's for his own mistakes. I would recommend this book to the right person, but I am not sure who that is.
By the time I got around to taking this off my "to-read" shelf, I had already forgotten who his father is. And it worked out, because I didn't delve into it looking for "Spock gossip" or anything of the sort, and I like how it's not focused around his father, yet he still makes an appearance... in that 'dad' kind of way. Nimoy annoyed me sometimes, with his degregation of women and parenting skills, but you get the feel that he's trying; he screwed up and he wants to fix it, and you just can't argue with that.
I enjoyed this book more than I thought I would. When I picked it up on a whim at the library, the title sounded fun, and the author was Leonard Nimoy's son...it sounded like it could be interesting. And it was. He writes a very honest and touching "memoir" about his way out of drug addiction and the how his relationships have changed for the better as a result of not being stoned all the time. Not all that suprising of a conclusion, but the ride to that conclusion was definitely worth my reading time.
Self indulgent prattle, this man was a bit spoiled and so are his kids especially. Sorry, Adam, your story of recovery from marijuana addiction wasn't that fascinating. It was kind of masturbatory. It wasn't your biggest problem, narcissism is closer to the issue you need to be dealing with. DO NOT give this book to any addicts, recovering or otherwise, it will make them want to poke him in the eye.
De schrijver is, zoals hij zelf zeg, behoorlijk bezig met zichzelf. En ja, hij wil graag een serieuse relatie maar ze moet wel mooi, sexy en slank zijn met prachtig haar. En hij blijft ze oppikken op AA meetings wat ook niet de beste zet lijkt voor een ex-verslaafde. Ik schrok vooral van hoe manipulatief zijn kinderen zijn. Ze misbruiken hem en hij lijkt te denken dat hij zo een goede vader is. Opgroeien in Hollywood heeft duidelijk z'n duistere kanten.
I knew nothing about Adam Nimoy when I picked up this book from a deeply discounted bin somewhere but that he probably is Leonard's son. He is, and the book is part about existing as Spock's son but more about his drug/alcohol recovery life and how it affected his now ex-wife and kids. Not too bad in a sort of wonder-what-will-happen-next, life-doesn't-always-turn-out-perfect-but-can-be-OK sense.
Interesting read. He talks a lot about his children and his relationship with them. Another theme is his addictions and how he is working to overcome them. Work history and disruption thereof is also discussed.
Eh, it was just okay. A quick read, but he sure didn't want to go into any details about being the son of a famous actor or any of his exploits directing popular TV shows. Was more about his addiction to pot and his divorce, which I cared less about.
an interesting diversion to serious literature. A useful example for those writing their own story. I appreciate the humor, honesty, and humility shared by Adam about his own narrative. Both the one in reality and the one that was going on in his mind as it happened. Also helped me miss LA.
A great book, funny and poingnant. I am not a fan of Star Trek, I've never watched a complete episode, but I enjoyed Adam's stories about growing up in Hollywood.