10 Điều Khác Biệt Nhất Giữa Kẻ Thắng & Người Thua

by Keith Cameron Smith

Khi gặp khó khăn hay không vừa lòng với một chuyện gì đó, đầu tiên bạn sẽ làm gì? Tôi dám cá rằng, đến 80% độc giả sẽ trả lời là than thở với ai đó. Chuyện đó chẳng có gì bất hợp pháp cả, đơn giản chỉ là bạn muốn trút sạch những chuyện đen đủi đi và cầu cứu một sự cảm thông. Nhưng đã bao giờ bạn nghĩ đến cảm xúc của người "hứng" những than thở cho bạn chưa? Tôi cam đoan là nó chẳng có gì vui vẻ, trừ khi người đó là đối thủ của bạn. Điều quan trọng hơn là những lời than thở, phàn nàn đó lại là những kẻ "phản chủ", nhất là khi than thở đã trở thành một thói quen. Nói càng nhiều về những điều bạn chưa hài lòng, bạn càng cảm thấy cuộc sống này thật chán nản và buồn tẻ, đó cũng là bạn nhấn mình trong cái nhìn bi quan và đẩy mình ra xa khỏi hội những người hạnh phúc. Vậy bạn cứ tiếp tục phàn nàn, than thở hay chọn một con đường thay đổi hiện tại. Chẳng ai có thể giúp bạn cả, vì có thể họ đang cố gắng cải thiện mình bằng cách tránh xa những người như bạn. Cuốn sách nhỏ bạn đang cầm trên tay sẽ phân tích và chỉ ra 10 điều mà bạn đáng được nhận nếu thoát khỏi những ý nghĩ tiêu cực trong cuộc sống và tạo động lực để bạn chữa trị căn bệnh "thâm niên" này.

Genres: Self Help

192 pages, Paperback

First published December 20, 2010

Reviews

[The Conch · Rating 3 out of 5]

A short book. If you have no important work in hand, then read this small one quickly. At least reading something is always better than mindless swapping and screen gazing.

[Fiona Hina · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good

[Rosanna · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a jem. A short read jam packed with knowledge. Simple steps to help reshape your thinking.

[Rahaf · Rating 5 out of 5]

يمتلك الفائزون قناعات وسلوكيات محدده تمدهم بالقوة اللازمه و النتائج التي يحصلون عليها ما هي الا انعكاسات للخيارات التي يتخدونها ولكن ما تقدمه لنا الحياه يفوق ما يمكن لاي منا ان يراه بمفرده لدى من خلال ممارسة رؤيا الحياه من عدة زوايا سيمكنك ان تتغير لتصبح شخصا افضل و تذكر ان العزيمه والاصرار هما القوه التي تدفعك الى المثابره.

عليك ان تتعلم ان تستمتع بموقفك الحالي وان تواصل الاجتهاد ولكن لا تجعل سعادتك تتوقف على الانجاز فنحن نشعر بالسعاده حينما نصبح افضل ما بوسعنا ان نكونه وان الرغبات قادره على ان تقود البشر للجنون فمن المهم ان تتعلم كيف نفرق بين ما نرغب فيه وما نحتاج اليه حقا وما تعتقد انه قد يجعلك سعيدا و ان ما تقدمه لنا الحياه يفوق ما يمكن لاي منا ان يراه بفرده اذن فمن خلال ممارسة رؤيا الحياه من عدة زوايا سيمكنك ان تتغير لتصبح افضل.

[Rusty Fulling]

Sept 2011 - Good book by Keith Cameron Smith. Simple and to the point regarding winning vs. whinning attitudes. My favorite quote was the 20-40-60 principle. "When you are 20 years old, you care what everyone thinks of you. When you are 40, you dont' care what anyone thinks. At 60, you finally realize that nobody was thinking about you at all."
Chapters include:
Winners take responsibility / Whiners play victim.
Winners can have what they want / Whiners want what they cannot have
Winners find a way / Whiners find an excuse.
Winners brighten a room by entering / Whiners brighen a room by leaving
Winners listen twice as much as they talk / Whiners talk twice as much as they listen
Winners enjoy life's journeys/ Whiners put their joy in the destinations.
Winners build friendships / Whiners destroy friendships
Winners think big / Whiners think small
Winners are focus-minded / Whiners are scannterbrained
Winners crate positive meanings / Whiners create negaive meanings.

[Phoenix · Rating 3 out of 5]

I felt I needed to skip read the rest of this book because after awhile it feels as though it's repeating itself. I like what I've learned from it, but I feel I don't really need to finish it to know what it's all about. It's pretty clear even a quarter in.

It's a pretty good self-help book but at times I felt that there was a bit of preaching going on (mostly when the God issue was used as an example). I don't mind God being used as example, per se, but after a few mentions of how if you become enough of a winner you might even be able to communicate with Him, it started to feel a little like proselytizing. Not much, and that wasn't the reason why I put the book down, it's mostly just an observation.

[Andrew · Rating 2 out of 5]

Imagine someone spent a while gathering every platitude and piece of wisdom they could find and then gathered it into a book about being a winner. This is what you'd get - a mixed bag. Some insights were helpful, others were too simplistic, and a few were actually insulting.

If you deal with complex problems (disabilities, psychological problems, stuff that you can't change with your attitude), you might find this amazingly simplistic and not all that helpful. Most of the advice is do-it-yourself - just change your attitude or your way of thinking or something simple and then WHAM! your life will be better.

Individual results may vary.

[Don Holliday · Rating 3 out of 5]

A book with good content, but a better page layout with more intuitive line breaks, subheadings, etc. would have given it more character, made it more enjoyable to read, and made the information easier to retain. I found myself re-reading many sections of the book because the author jumps from Winner to Whiner and back again with great frequency. If this book had a better editor and page designer, I would have given it 4-stars. It's a quick read at a slim 93 pages, so it's worth a read (even if you have to re-read a few lines in order to make certain you comprehended a passage correctly.)

[Nicole · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good points but a lot of generalizations without enough examples to clarify; though most of the points are pretty straight-foward. The read cheered me up a lot after having a rough few weeks with inner struggles.

[Kristy Hansen · Rating 4 out of 5]

So in a nutshell: Winners take responsibility for themselves and their actions and Whiners complain, make excuses, blame others and play the victim.

[Troy Holt · Rating 3 out of 5]

He made some good points and some things to really think about.

[Jason · Rating 3 out of 5]

It's ok, pretty straight forward. It pretty much runs along the line of any other motivational book. Has some good points though.

[Eric · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very good book. Explains a lot about all the whiners I see in life. This will be a book to read numerous times.

[Brakston · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book got me thinking of what I am and how I can fix it.

[Dionne · Rating 3 out of 5]

Not as good as his millionaires and the middle class book but it does have some food for thought.