This book for children about being transgender, is
Wait, what? I thought this was about crayons.
Yes. A blue crayon with a red label. A crayon that "presents" as red but colors blue and leaves everyone confused and baffled.
I mean, no matter what Red tries to do, he colors blue. That's just him. He's blue. Even though he's in a red label. However, neither him nor any of his friends and family can understand this.
His teacher thought he needed more practice.
She encourages him to draw strawberries, but of course they turn out blue. She's shocked, but encourages him to try again. Perhaps next time he can get it right.
His mother thought he needed to mix with other colors.
She brings Yellow over and coos, "Why don't you two go out and draw a nice, round orange."
Red agrees enthusiastically, wanting to please his mom and hoping beyond hope this will work.
However, needless to say, him mixing with Yellow doesn't make an orange, it makes a big greenish ball. (Because Red is really blue.) This prompts Yellow to say, "Yuck." reinforcing Red's idea that there's something wrong with him and that he's basically disgusting as a person.
His grandparents thought he wasn't warm enough.
They give him a red scarf to keep warm and look more "red." You know, like he's supposed to be. Red. But when Red draws a class portrait for school, of course the whole thing (him AND his scarf) are blue. His grandparents are shocked.
Everyone seemed to have something to say.
AMBER: "Sometimes I wonder if he's really red at all."
HAZELNUT: "Don't be silly. It says red on his label."
COCOA BEAN: "He came that way from the factory."
FUCHSIA: "Frankly, I don't think he's very bright."
GRAPE: "Well, I think he's lazy."
ARMY GREEN: "Right! He's got to press harder."
STEEL GRAY: "Really apply himself!"
SUNSHINE: "Give him time. He'll catch on."
SEA GREEN: "Of course he will."
Now, whether these people are being "kind" or "tough" on our "misbehaving" schoolboy, what they are failing to see (but what children will clearly see) is that the crayon is simply mislabeled. It's a blue crayon. It's blue. It doesn't matter that it's label says, "Red" - that doesn't change the fact that the crayon is a blue crayon and can't possibly be anything else no matter how "hard" he tries.
All Red's friends try to "help" him. Masking Tape tapes him. Scissors cuts his label a tiny bit. Pencil Sharpener sharpens him. However, obviously none of these actions change the blue crayon to a red one.
Red works and works and works and fights and fights and fights being blue. Much as our society and our religions encourage transgender people to "fight their sin" and "fight their nature" and "work hard to correct yourself" and "fit in." Needless to say, this doesn't do Red the least bit of good.
One day, he met a new friend.
BERRY: "Will you make a blue ocean for my boat?"
RED: "I can't. I'm red."
BERRY: "Will you try?"
So he did.
BERRY: "Thank you! It's perfect!"
RED: "You're welcome. It was easy!"
And he didn't stop there.
Suddenly, Red can't stop drawing! He gleefully draws bluebells, blue jeans, blue birds, bluberries, and even a giant blue whale.
"I'm blue!" He screams joyfully!!!!! Somebody's finally seen through all the labels and the bullshit and has freed Red from the prison he's been in.
He was red blue.
And everyone was talking.
OLIVE: "My son is brilliant!"
AMBER: "Who could have known he was blue?"
HAZELNUT: "I always said he was blue."
COCOA BEAN: "It was obvious!"
BERRY: "His blue ocean really lifted me."
SEA GREEN: "All of his work makes me happy."
BROWN: "His blue strawberries are my favorites."
APPLE GREEN: "He's so intense."
YELLOW: "I'm going to make a green lizard with him. A really big one."
GRAY: "I hear he's working on a huge project."
SCARLET: "He's really reaching for the sky."
Now, I think we - as adults - can realize that this is not the way it would play out in real life. All these people are accepting and celebratory upon hearing the news that Red is blue inside. They don't disown him, hate him, judge him, beat him, spit on him, murder him, rape him, or drive him to suicide. However, I'm sure we can all agree that that would be a pretty depressing children's book. Perhaps the author is trying to create a world in which people don't have such a violent, angry, and terrified view of transgendered individuals as they do today. We can only hope. I've seen great strides just in the last 10 years, so there is a possibility things will be as idealistic as this book makes out one day.
NOTE: Children aren't going to know this is about transgender people. I've seen this book make adults weep openly, but children aren't going to get that. Instead, the child will be delighted when - imbued with a God-like power - he or she can see straight into the true core of the individual: he's a blue crayon in a red label.
I notice that the book doesn't try to "re-label" Red. He starts off as blue in a red label, he ends as blue in a in a red label - just one who is self-aware and happy, now. There's no move to strip him of his red label and put a blue one on him. This is important, I think. If Red later chooses to wear a blue label instead of a red one, that will be his choice.
I think it's important to read this book to children, but you might want to gauge how much you strip away the thin veneer of color and explicitly make it about transgendered people. It's up to you, it is your choice, based on your child and what you think your child can handle.
I'm also unclear as to where religion falls in this. Is the book saying that "God" (the factory) make a mistake in labeling Red? Or is Red extra-special, unique and brilliant for being someone who has a red label but a blue "soul?" Of course, if you are raising your child in the Christian faith (just my two cents here) the most important thing is to teach compassion, mercy and love. None of this soul-destroying 'love the person, hate the 'sin'' trash ('sin' is in quotes because even thinking that word in regards to transgender people makes my blood boil) that is so common now. I think it's clear in the book that Red's family and friends love him and care about him, and when it becomes obvious to them that Red is blue, they rejoice in his specialness and his unique gifts. They love Red, they want him to be happy, they cheer and rejoice when their friend is free and happily expressing his true self. That is love. That is the true nature of Christianity (IMO).
Why are we talking about religion and Christianity, Carmen?
Yeah... I know. I'm sorry, but I can't help but think (when I think about the transgender people I know) that religion is A1 when it comes to excusing hatred, violence and terror as a reaction to someone who is not meeting gender norms. I think it's super-important to realize that Christianity should be, at its core, about love, acceptance and community. When my father said about someone, "He did the Christian thing," my father was ALWAYS talking about being merciful, compassionate and loving. Never in my household was hate or cruelty held up as good examples of being a worshiper of Christ, and it really saddens me to see that about 90% of Christianity today is used to make people feel like shit about themselves.
Are you even Christian?
No comment.
Are you even atheist?
No comment.
Do you even math, bro?
Um...
Then... what the hell are you talking about?
I'm talking about the fact that although the majority of people believe that being Christian involves being a judgmental asshole, it doesn't have to be that way.
Anyway, I'm getting off-topic.
Tl;dr - Children aren't going to "get this." I think it's important to teach this message to children (be true to yourself, your inner self is beautiful and special) but they are NOT going to get that it's about transgender people unless you explicitly tell them. In a way, this book is more for adults than for children. However, I think it's a good and important book. Doubly so if your child has a little transgender friend in his/her class. In that case, please spell it out for them.
Even without the knowledge of what 'transgender' is, children will delight in their ability to clearly see what all the foolish and misguided crayons can't see - the obvious fact that Red is a blue crayon. You can talk about how clothes don't make the man, how it's important not to judge people on their appearances. You could use it to illustrate gender roles or to express the importance of celebrating a person's true gifts (even if that gift doesn't "fit" with a person's physical appearance - think of Binky Barnes being an accomplished ballet dancer on Arthur). There's so much to talk about here without talking about being transgender, but this book IS without a doubt about transgender people.
DISCUSSION POINTS:
Why did the factory 'mislabel' Red? OR DID IT? (dum dum DUM)
Why were the other crayons so confused and baffled on how to 'handle' or 'teach' Red when they were blind to his true color?
Why do crayons even NEED labels at all? Do they? What purpose do labels serve? What if all the crayons just ripped off their labels and ran around naked? Would that be a good idea or a bad idea? Why?
This is a rare book that clearly has a message but isn't preachy. You can completely ignore all issues and just read it as a straight-up children's book that's simply about crayons if you want. No one's going to force you to talk to your kid about gender identity if you don't want to. I've read this to many Catholic schoolkids without a peep about transgender issues. It's a good book with a good message no matter what, you need to decide based on your audience whether to broach the transgender discussion or not.
Read it, enjoy it, and take from it whatever you want. :)
Ages 0-6. However, there is no upper age limit if you are using this as a tool to teach someone about gender identity. It can work wonderfully to illustrate this concept even to adults.