الذكاء العاطفي : ادارة العواطف لاحداث أثر ايجابي في حياتك ومسيرتك المهنية‎

by Gill Hasson

الذكاء العاطفي هو القدرة على فهم العواطف والتحكم فيها هو عبارة عن استخدام عواطفك في تجسيد تفكيرك واستخدام تفكيرك في فهم عواطفك وادارتها ورغم أن الذكاء العادي مهم في الحياة فان الذكاء العاطفي هو المفتاح للتفكير بوضوح وبابداع وأن تكون قادرا على ادارة التوتر والتحديات بثقة وأن تتفهم الاخرين وتتعاطف معهم بشكل جيد في هذا الكتاب ستتعلم كيف تفهم عواطفك وعواطف الاخرين وتديرها بطريقة مفيدة ويمكن أن تحدث فارقا حقيقيا وايجابيا في حياتك.

Genres: Self Help, Psychology, Nonfiction, Mental Health, Business, Personal Development, Science

206 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2014

About the author

Gill Hasson is the author of Mindfulness: Be mindful. Live in the moment works with people from diverse backgrounds and situations. Her key motivation is her belief in the ability of people to positively change their way of thinking - about life, other people, and themselves.

She is a freelance journalist and writes articles on personal development and relationships for a variety of magazines, including Psychologies and Take A Break, and for a number of websites.

As well as delivering adult education courses in personal development, she is an associate tutor for the University of Sussex where she teaches career and personal development and academic study skills. She delivers training in child and adolescent development to preschool, youth and social workers, teachers and parents.

Reviews

[Krystal · Rating 2 out of 5]

So the first part had some interesting ideas, and the second part was all familiar territory, and the third part completely lost me.

Emotions have such a massive impact on our lives, and as someone who likes to bottle them, I was really interested in reading this and learning how they impact our lives through the way we manage them. I was hoping for some tips on being more able to feel without negative consequences. So I was interested in the first part, which breaks down the science of emotions, and talks about the secondary emotions that may be hidden by immediate emotional responses. It raised some interesting ideas, and talked briefly about some techniques to manage intense emotions: slow breathing, snapping an elastic band on the wrist, relaxing the shoulders ...

Part Two explored managing emotions in more depth, but a lot of it was old news to me. The communication stuff is all advice I've heard in my experiences working in retail, as it's all about building rapport and active listening to create clearer communication. Assertiveness is another thing I'm familiar with, so it mostly made sense, but it didn't feel particularly relevant to managing emotions. I mean, I guess it kind of does, but assertiveness takes rationality, and emotions are very rarely rational. It's like telling a depressed person to just be happy - it's not really that simple. Plus it then suggested some small techniques for managing emotions: slow breathing, snapping an elastic band on the wrist, relaxing the shoulders ... Suddenly I was starting to feel a little wary reading this book.

Part Three completely destroyed any credibility this novel had.

Spoiler alert: according to this book, if you are being bullied in your workplace, the best way to manage the bully is to quit your job.

Sorry, what?!

So if I have a job I love, and some new person comes in and happens to be a bully, and they make my life a living hell, then quitting the job I love is the most effective way to manage the situation?

I don't think so.

And if I have a child or niece/nephew who is being bullied at school, then I can either have a go at the bully myself or get the kid to quit school? Or 'include them in my group'? So, isolate them from childhood? How exactly is that gonna work?

Oh, and if I do choose to stand up to a bully, there are a few techniques that I can use: slow breathing, snapping an elastic band on the wrist, relaxing the shoulders ... Gee, now WHERE HAVE I HEARD THAT BEFORE?!?!

What a load of utter crap.

Then there's a bit about 'motivating and inspiring' others:

'You might need to negotiate and compromise; be prepared to offer something in return for the other person doing what you want them to do.'

Um, pretty sure that's called bribery.

So yeah, this three star read lost an entire star thanks to that last section of tripe.

It was such a great concept but it was delivered poorly and was weak in its logic. The research felt incomplete and the techniques were repetitive. I was really hoping for more but this felt like a desperate attempt at a self-help book where there was just not enough material. And the repeated refrain: '-and that's emotionally intelligent!' was just patronising and unnecessary. Also, who exactly are you trying to convince? Because saying it's emotionally intelligent doesn't make it so. *eyeroll*

No recommendation for this one at all. People who need strong communication in their workplace may benefit a little but honestly I feel like this is going to do more harm than good.

[Armando]

[Read for Category of A Book that Models Healthy Processing of Emotions]

This is the first real book that is a study in Emotional Intelligence that I've ever read, so only armed with dozens of youtube videos of related topics, this was a very refreshing read.

The first half is a bit slow, and not as fascinating to me as the rest. Its mostly an introduction and overview to emotions, so I don't think its bad. Like I've said I've already watched dozens of videos discussing emotions at length, so I was less interested in learning about them and more interesting in learning how to manage them. And that's where the last half of the book comes into play. These chapters detail how to deal with, cope, and manage different emotions, and give you plenty of exercises and thoughts to train yourself on them. The chapters on anxiety and anger were especially interesting to me, but only time will tell how well the exercises play out.

I meant to read this book much slowly, but the last 20 or so pages were so interesting that I kept on reading. And while I have learned some of the exercises it demonstrates here, it was a good refresher on them and there were some new exercises I have not tried before.

This is a very short book, being only 137 pages, I don't think its meant to be an in-depth study of emotional intelligence. The author is obviously very knowledgeable about this subject. And I think the intention of writing this book was to give the readers a good crash course or small manual with how to make yourself more aware and capable of managing your emotions and the emotions of others. And like I said, the exercises will require some time on the part of the reader to spend with before real progress is made.

Overall, a very enlightening read. Some stuff I already knew but quite a bit I was unaware of until reading this. It might not be the most detailed or most in-depth look at emotional intelligence, but its still a pretty solid overview of it.

[إيمان الشمري · Rating 2 out of 5]

كتاب خفيف، تنهيه في ساعتين
فيه من التكرار الذي يصاغ بلغة ناقلة ، كاتبة مبتدئة لكنها مجتهدة
استمتعت بجزئية الحزم و لكن كنت اتمنى لو انها تقوم بتعريف بعض المصطلحات

[Dana · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.8 ⭐️

[Victoria Chhim · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book helped me to understand A LOT about myself. I've always been hypersensitive and introvert, standing alone because I felt/feel like I don't fit in. I think I found myself way stronger after reading this book, my perspective really changed and now instead of feeling like I'm cursed. I feel more blessed.

[Ace · Rating 1 out of 5]

Unfortunately it was a waste of time to read this book. A lot of this was common sense and unfortunately I did not learn anything new. Perhaps for someone who struggles with emotional intelligence but doesn't want to read a large college text about it would benefit.

[Alyssa Westlake · Rating 1 out of 5]

Seemed very general and kind of repetitive. It may be helpful for someone just starting to learn, but if you have a basic knowledge of the topic of emotional intelligence it may be just a refresher if you need it, otherwise you can skip it.

[Sadeem Alburaidi · Rating 2 out of 5]

اعتقد في كتب افضل بكثير من هذا .. Run Run ولا تفكر تاخذه

[Roberta Miškinytė · Rating 4 out of 5]

What could have been 50 pages turned out in a 200 pages book. A lot of repetitions, it seems like all situations require the same actions and same tecnhiques can be used.

On the other hand, there are quite a few insights that, even though are rather basic, help put your knowledge on emotions and emotional intelligence in the right places. It’s good to be reminded of stuff that is already known.

[amanda Navarro · Rating 4 out of 5]

I am trying to better myself and this book came in handy. Sometimes you need a reminder to take a step back and go through your emotions.

[avril ruiz · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5⭐️

Very surface level. Good beginner book. I did find myself annotating some tips!

[Amber]

Good, but dragged on. Lots to share on the different ways all people interpret different moments/emotions/reactions.

[Amina · Rating 4 out of 5]

"الحكمة هي أن تتعرف على المشاعر التي تنتابك دون أن تنغمس فيها" - جاك كورنفيلد
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كتاب خفيف على القلب، جميل لترتيب المشاعر والأفكار 🤍

[RGD · Rating 3 out of 5]

قرأت الترجمة العربية لهذا الكتاب. يعتبر كتابًا جيدًا كمدخل لعلم الذكاء العاطفي.
لكن واجهت صعوبة في الاندماج فيه وذلك لركاكة الترجمة مما أظهر جليًا ضعف النسق اللغوي للكتاب.

[Sa7ar · Rating 3 out of 5]

عربي

[Irma Elizabeth · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book offers practical advice on making good choices when it comes to emotional intelligence.

[Zahraa · Rating 3 out of 5]

قرأته مترجم للعربية لا اعلم ان كانت الترجمة ظالمته او هو فعلا كتاب بسيط المحتوى مكرر و ثقيل بعض الاحيان
معجبه بموضوع الكتاب ولكن للاسف لم احصل الا على سطور بسيطه افادتني

[معاذ · Rating 2 out of 5]

أعتقد التعامل الأمثل مع هذا الكتاب هو وضعه على الرف وتطبيق التمارين الواردة فيه عند التعرض لأحد الضغوط النفسية .


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[Andrew Smith · Rating 4 out of 5]

As of late I have found myself drawn to many books on EQ and Psychology simply because the world seems to be going mad around us all.

I truly enjoyed this book from the presentation of EQ and Emotions as a whole to some degree. Although I disagreed with a lot of the book and its approach as it offered sometimes ridiculous solutions to situations I was pleased to see the author at least try to explain their approach, and in doing so give me another point of view to consider.

To be honest, I stopped in the middle of the book, looks up the author and what else she had written and pretty much slapped myself on the forehead and said "that makes more sense". Whether a positive or negative experience comes out of you in this book you should consider the points of view as possibilities, even if you don't agree. I may read a few other books of here even though at first glance I disagree with them as well. Why? IF we are looking to reinforce our views with our reading, we have lost the power of reading. I feel strongly reading should open our mind to possibilities beyond our own, even if those possibilities disagree they may validate our approach to the world.

[Steven · Rating 2 out of 5]

This isn’t a book on EQ. It is a self help book on managing unproductive emotions, and not a very good one at that. Author seems to have a very limited understanding of what EQ is.

Book is full of patronising material that these kinds of modern self help books are full of, such as “Smiling means someone is happy” wow thanks I never thought of looking at someone’s face before.

“It’s good to talk. It’s a good way to communicate.” Another quality piece of advice. Now I know why my colleagues aren’t responding to the hieroglyph messages I’ve been leaving them.

There is also some very fishy information given, like “Your posture can increase your testosterone 19%” WHAT?! I’d like to see the study that came from because if it’s true every bodybuilder would spend all day in that pose. I’m calling total BS on that.

In short a very shallow, repetitive work full of very obvious methods to help manage emotions. I couldn’t bring myself to give it 1 star but 2 stars does feel very generous. If you want to learn about EQ try The Great Courses, Boosting your emotional Intelligence.

[Reader · Rating 1 out of 5]

It worries me that a book with this many grammatical errors and such poor quality writing has been published. It reads like the author just slapped some thoughts into their Notes app in the middle of the night, copied and pasted into a word doc and called it a day. Even the author’s ancknowledgement on the very first page isn’t quite grammatically correct. This is why you hire proof readers!

This means that unfortunately it’s really difficult to engage with the content of the book. It does have some potential, but the concepts are quite elementary and need to be developed further perhaps in collaboration with a psychologist.

[Hoor · Rating 3 out of 5]

قدم لي الكتاب تجربة قراءة مُلهمة، لم يكن مجرد تعريف بالمصطلح، بل رحلة لفهم الذات وإدارتها بطريقة أهدأ وأكثر وعي. تناولت الكاتبة مواضيع تمس حياتنا مثل القلق، والتعامل مع المواقف الصعبة، وكيفية التحلي بالحزم والثقة دون أن نفقد تعاطفنا أو اتزاننا.
أعجبتني طريقة الطرح الواضحة، واللغة السلسة التي تجعل الأفكار في متناول الجميع، سواء كان القارئ مبتدئًا أو لديه خلفية في تطوير الذات. أكثر ما يميز جيل هاسون أنها لا تكتف بالتنظير، بل تقدم أمثلة واقعية وتمارين بسيطة للتطبيق.

رغم أن التكرار في بعض الصفحات أضعف وتيرة القراءة، إلا أن الرسائل الجوهرية كانت واضحة وعميقة. أنصح به لكل من يشعر بأن مشاعره تتغلب عليه، أو يبحث عن أدوات لفهم نفسه والتعامل مع الآخرين بحكمة أكبر.

[Praveenbalakris · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is my first read in E.I. So, I got to say I got good insights and understanding and took notes as I read through. What emotions are, different types of emotions, which part of brain is responsible for emotion and how to manage them both for you and other people.

We need to practice (observe, think, write and act) to develop Emotional Intelligence.

Part I and ll are good. Part III mostly repetitive of early chapters. Sub headings under Chapters could have better structured as it is hard to remember and some repeats between chapters.

[Esraa Wattar · Rating 3 out of 5]

إنه الذكاء العاطفي الذي ينوه لك على أن تفكر بحزم في كل الأمور
أن تضع حداً للفرح وللحزن ، عند الحزن يمكن أن تتصرف تصرفاً له أبعاد أكبر مما يستحق، وعند الفرح أيضاً يمكن أن تأخذ على نفسك عهوداً لا تستطع أن تستمر بها بل ويمكن أن تؤدي إلى ضغط نفسي كبير إستناداً إلى ذلك العهد، والغضب أيضًا يجب أن يكون الإنسان حازماً في الغضب يحب أن يضع نفسه في مواضع يستطيع بها السيطرة على نفسه،
كتاب مناسب للأشخاص المندفعين الذين يشعرون أن انفعالاتهم تحتاج إلى ضبط عيبه الوحيد التكرار و الترجمة الركيكة في بعض المواضع،ولكنه بالمجمل كتاب جيد جدأ وسيضيف قيمة لحياة قارئه.

[Karsynn Rowell · Rating 2 out of 5]

It's not quite what I was expecting.
I found it very repetitive and difficult to finish. My mind went on so many rides while reading this. I found myself rereading a lot of sentences, because I'd realize that I didn't comprehend a single thing I read.
A lot of the key points are contradicting. It will state why you should or should not do something and provide an option of what you can do instead. The very next paragraph is why you should/shouldn't do what it says you sometimes shouldn't/should do.
It does have some insightful tips, but I could summarize them on five pages or less.

[Dorishea · Rating 3 out of 5]

My biggest takeaway with this book is that it had some suggestions and guidance toward replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts and thinking. Another helpful suggestion was the breathing technique of inhaling for 3 seconds and exhaling for longer than I breathed in, 5 seconds.

A worthwhile read for those who don't already have a good grasp on what emotional intelligence is, but it only offers a basic understanding, with some repetitive concepts and questionable methods of managing this skill.

[Dmytro Chasovskyi · Rating 4 out of 5]

It is a good intro book on emotional intelligence. It has some obvious, or seem to me obvious suggestions and ideas. For instance, how to manage bullies, manage your emotions such as anger and disappointment. All in all, it is a good reminder and there are some other good ideas on motivating and inspiring people, building secure and safe environment/communication between people, active listening, and more.

[meefcake · Rating 2 out of 5]

I’d say that the first section of this book offered unique and relevant information to promoting emotional intelligence. But, the second and third sections seemed to either be common sense or repeated from earlier parts in the book. Reading these repeated passages was annoying (I get the need for emphasis, but at least change up the word choice or sentence structure!), and made me want to stop reading entirely.

[Tori · Rating 3 out of 5]

If you're in need of a refresger during your re-evalutation of how you manage yourself and other's emotions, this read is decent read.

I really appreciated about Gill presented ideas so simply and concisely. I tend to get lost in analyzing the subjects and stories many other self-help books offer, however, however Gill uses short examples that get straight to the point of the intended message.

This book allowed me to really sit honestly with myself and re-evaluate how I manage my emotions.

[Alan Wilson · Rating 2 out of 5]

Hold your breath, and then control it…. That seems to be the big take away and repetitive lesson from this book. If you’re new to the concept of EI, or are starting the journey of learning about your emotions and how to control them, it might be a good book. Generally though, it’s not very deep, as mentioned repetitive, light on different practical advice, and filled with lists of emotions, which do go in for a while. Not bad, but also not good.