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Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself: The Top 10 Survival Tips for Loving Someone With an Addiction
Are you feeling exasperated and helpless about your family member's addiction? Are you at your wit's end, having tried everything you can think of to make them stop?
If someone you love is engaging in addictive behaviors such as alcohol and drug misuse, eating disorders, smoking, gambling, Internet addiction, sex addiction, compulsive overspending, or relationship addiction, you are undoubtedly experiencing unpredictability in your relationship.
Some of the most common emotions you will experience
- Guilt and shame
- Anger and anxiety
- Confusion and powerlessness
Whether the addict in your life is your spouse, partner, parent, child, friend, or colleague, the key to changing this reality for yourself lies in shifting your focus from your loved one's addiction to you own self-care. This book presents a dramatically fresh approach to help you get off the roller-coaster chaos of addiction, maintain your own sanity and serenity, and live your best life.
If someone you love is engaging in addictive behaviors such as alcohol and drug misuse, eating disorders, smoking, gambling, Internet addiction, sex addiction, compulsive overspending, or relationship addiction, you are undoubtedly experiencing unpredictability in your relationship.
Some of the most common emotions you will experience
- Guilt and shame
- Anger and anxiety
- Confusion and powerlessness
Whether the addict in your life is your spouse, partner, parent, child, friend, or colleague, the key to changing this reality for yourself lies in shifting your focus from your loved one's addiction to you own self-care. This book presents a dramatically fresh approach to help you get off the roller-coaster chaos of addiction, maintain your own sanity and serenity, and live your best life.
- GenresAddictionNonfiction
172 pages, Kindle Edition
First published December 1, 2009
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About the author
Candace Plattor
9 books4 followersCandace Plattor is a professional speaker, a TEDx speaker, and the author of the award-winning "Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself: The Top 10 Survival Tips for Loving Someone with an Addiction".
Candace Plattor, M.A., R.C.C., is an Addictions Therapist in private practice, where she specializes in working with the family and other loved ones of people who are struggling with addiction. As a former opioid addict with over 35 years clean and sober, Candace has learned that overcoming addiction is a family condition: everyone in the family is affected by addiction and everyone needs to heal. For more than three decades, she has been helping both addicts and their loved ones understand their dysfunctional behaviours and make healthier life choices.
The results Candace achieves have been astounding: addicts stop using and families regain their lives back from the ravages of addiction. As the developer of the Love With Boundaries Family Addiction Counselling and Therapy method, Candace now works with her team of top counsellors, helping both the families and their addicts break the devastating cycle of addiction for good.
Candace is a member of the Canadian Association of Professional Speakers (CAPS).
If addiction is causing pain and suffering in your family, and you’re ready to do what it takes to reclaim your sanity and serenity so you can live your best life, click go to lovewithboundaries.com/intake-questio... to qualify for a free 30-minutes consultation.
Candace Plattor, M.A., R.C.C., is an Addictions Therapist in private practice, where she specializes in working with the family and other loved ones of people who are struggling with addiction. As a former opioid addict with over 35 years clean and sober, Candace has learned that overcoming addiction is a family condition: everyone in the family is affected by addiction and everyone needs to heal. For more than three decades, she has been helping both addicts and their loved ones understand their dysfunctional behaviours and make healthier life choices.
The results Candace achieves have been astounding: addicts stop using and families regain their lives back from the ravages of addiction. As the developer of the Love With Boundaries Family Addiction Counselling and Therapy method, Candace now works with her team of top counsellors, helping both the families and their addicts break the devastating cycle of addiction for good.
Candace is a member of the Canadian Association of Professional Speakers (CAPS).
If addiction is causing pain and suffering in your family, and you’re ready to do what it takes to reclaim your sanity and serenity so you can live your best life, click go to lovewithboundaries.com/intake-questio... to qualify for a free 30-minutes consultation.
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January 30, 2022
Simple and straightforward. I liked that the message was clear and repetitive. It was just what I needed to ground myself in a more worthy/competent attitude; I can move forward on better footing with these ten survival tips.
June 27, 2019
really helpful in terms of looking at oneself.
Especially when feeling like, "I have to x..." Or else "X bad thing will happen..." when it's about someone else's pattern of choices.
Especially when feeling like, "I have to x..." Or else "X bad thing will happen..." when it's about someone else's pattern of choices.
October 28, 2020
This book was a good reminder of exactly where our focus should be. For me, it wasn't extremely eye opening, but it did a great job of reinforcing concepts I already was aware of and bringing to my remembrance things that are important in the journey. An easy read.
October 12, 2021
excellent book, changed me for the better. Very healing.
October 9, 2025
This was very personal read for me. While some parts were really thought provoking and educational, other parts were kinda boring because I felt like I already knew these things. I would have preferred a more scientifically approach and action based on how to actually navigate this situation. Although some of the example stories were helpful.
May 9, 2022
Very helpful (and practically the ONLY) book available for those living with an addict. Useful coping strategies, a good book to refer back to again and again.
September 3, 2016
Helpful and positive
The book shows new and fresh approach towards addiction. I enjoyed it. It gave me reassurance that it's OK to focus on myself. My favourite tip is: stop trying to change somebody else! Brilliant, thank you so much for this book
The book shows new and fresh approach towards addiction. I enjoyed it. It gave me reassurance that it's OK to focus on myself. My favourite tip is: stop trying to change somebody else! Brilliant, thank you so much for this book
May 23, 2019
Extremely helpful.
January 25, 2022
A rare book for an uncommon audience, bringing hope, solace and difficult truths for those who have lost themselves in caring for loved ones struggling with addiction
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