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The Ultimate Guide to Christian Singleness
The Ultimate Guide to Christian Singleness covers a wide range of common questions Christians singles often have. Why am I still single? Is God calling me to a life of singleness? How can I use this season for God’s glory? Is God punishing me with singleness because of my past sins? How can I find a godly spouse? This book is divided into four sections which cover the common phases of Christian singleness. It has 30 short chapters, each with three reflection questions meant for small group Bible studies or individual use.
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191 pages, Kindle Edition
Published October 29, 2016
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December 31, 2025
Very practical, very good read
August 2, 2019
This book not only provided insight to how God wants us to view singleness and relationships in general, but it provided the answer we all need to hear for the trials of life as well. I would recommend this book to anyone, married or single.
July 19, 2020
Love!
Going through a break up is tough, but growing from a break up is liberating! This book showed me how much I can gain during this season of singleness and helped guide me in the right direction when in doubt of God’s plan.
Going through a break up is tough, but growing from a break up is liberating! This book showed me how much I can gain during this season of singleness and helped guide me in the right direction when in doubt of God’s plan.
June 30, 2025
Very enlightening and good guide for singles, useful to teach girls and boys or men/women who're still single. And want to serve God in singlehood, the blessings,the struggles and the understanding based on Bible is elaborated well.
July 20, 2017
its ok for a freebie....,.. dont expect too much.... it is not so grand anyone can finish it.. in a day
June 24, 2020
Some helpful points but also a bit contradictory at times
July 18, 2023
Lots of misspellings detracted from the content. Also most chapters appeared to be copy and pasted straight from author’s website.
October 25, 2024
Good read
I enjoyed reading this book. The references of scriptures topped it off for me. If you are single read this book
I enjoyed reading this book. The references of scriptures topped it off for me. If you are single read this book
April 4, 2025
Wish there was a subject title on pages
Seeing Chapter #... didn't give me any idea of what the content would be
The book is well written but not able to navigate without GPS 😃
Seeing Chapter #... didn't give me any idea of what the content would be
The book is well written but not able to navigate without GPS 😃
May 20, 2022
The Ultimate Guide to Christian Singleness serves as a **mostly** solid little book on what it is like to be Christian and single, and how God can use us during this time—which provides scriptural evidence to back up nearly all of its assertions (even if the author often seems to use verses out of context). Ballenger makes some excellent commentary about why God chooses to use us to accomplish His agenda, even though God is sovereign and all-powerful does not need our help. I also appreciated the section on missionary dating, as I just happened to read that section the very same night after making the difficult decision to end a potential relationship with a young woman who was a Christian, but I did not feel spiritually compatible with, and I hoped to . . . kind of change. So that chapter proved quite encouraging for me.
Why the lackluster one-star rating, then, if most of the book is solid? Two reasons. Firstly, much of The Ultimate Guide to Christian Singleness seems rather basic for me, personally; I feel like I already understood most of the ideas presented in the book. Secondly, and much more importantly, I find the section on homosexuality deeply problematic, as Ballenger unabashedly asserts that "being gay is a choice." To be fair, he does specify that by “being gay” he is referring to homosexual actions rather than homosexual inclinations or temptation—the former of which certainly is a choice—but I nonetheless find Ballenger’s semantics to be deeply irresponsible. Based on my discussions with gay/bi friends, as well as the numerous stories that I have read, not to mention the immense amount of data that has been compiled in study after study after study, I know that one's attractions are not by any means a choice. We cannot choose our attractions, but we can indeed choose our behavior. And almost everyone associates the phrase " gay" with one's primary attractions rather than their sexual behavior. It is problematic, irresponsible, and ignorant for Ballinger to redefine the phrase “being gay” and then make such a sweeping generalization as “being gay is a choice”—especially when so much misunderstanding in this area already often gets perpetuated in Christian circles (amounting to tremendous pain to LGTBQ Christians everywhere). Even if he did not in fact mean that one’s homosexual orientation is deliberately sinful (which, honestly, I am not certain about, as he does not make it entirely clear what he does believe in that area), Ballinger should have been much more careful in his semantics. I simply cannot give The Ultimate Guide to Christian Singleness any more than one star for this reason alone. Despite the best of intentions on the author’s part, this book could be hugely damaging in the wrong hands.
Why the lackluster one-star rating, then, if most of the book is solid? Two reasons. Firstly, much of The Ultimate Guide to Christian Singleness seems rather basic for me, personally; I feel like I already understood most of the ideas presented in the book. Secondly, and much more importantly, I find the section on homosexuality deeply problematic, as Ballenger unabashedly asserts that "being gay is a choice." To be fair, he does specify that by “being gay” he is referring to homosexual actions rather than homosexual inclinations or temptation—the former of which certainly is a choice—but I nonetheless find Ballenger’s semantics to be deeply irresponsible. Based on my discussions with gay/bi friends, as well as the numerous stories that I have read, not to mention the immense amount of data that has been compiled in study after study after study, I know that one's attractions are not by any means a choice. We cannot choose our attractions, but we can indeed choose our behavior. And almost everyone associates the phrase " gay" with one's primary attractions rather than their sexual behavior. It is problematic, irresponsible, and ignorant for Ballinger to redefine the phrase “being gay” and then make such a sweeping generalization as “being gay is a choice”—especially when so much misunderstanding in this area already often gets perpetuated in Christian circles (amounting to tremendous pain to LGTBQ Christians everywhere). Even if he did not in fact mean that one’s homosexual orientation is deliberately sinful (which, honestly, I am not certain about, as he does not make it entirely clear what he does believe in that area), Ballinger should have been much more careful in his semantics. I simply cannot give The Ultimate Guide to Christian Singleness any more than one star for this reason alone. Despite the best of intentions on the author’s part, this book could be hugely damaging in the wrong hands.
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