First of all, I recognize and respect the amount of work and time that Amy Titani devoted to this book. As someone who writes and educates about Community Based Care, Care Collectives and living with chronic illness, and who is disabled by CSS, I know what it can take to do this work. Despite my rating I do think this book is important and valuable and I know that it will benefit many people.
Beyond several issues I think would have been resolved with more editing, namely areas of repetition, long-windedness, and disorganization of and within chapters, there are several reasons this book was disappointing for me.
I've been living with CS for over twenty years, with many CSS developing slowly over those years - TMJ, IBS, Fibro, ME/CFS, MCS, IC, Vulvodynia - most of which got barely a mention in the book. In fact, it wouldn't be misleading to say this book is actually about CS and MCS (and ME/CFS to a smaller degree) given the amount of the book devoted to coping with, managing, and treating MCS. There's not even an introductory section devoted to pain in Chapter 1, despite pain being a defining part of most CSS. I understand she is writing from her personal experience, which is clearly dominated by MCS, but given this I would have liked to see less of Amy's personal narrative and the addition of short narratives or vignettes from people living with different CSS than her. Or at least more of the book devoted to the particularities of coping with, managing and treating various other CSS that comprise CS. Pain not being *her" primary experience of CS shouldn't have resulted in it's essential exclusion from a book on CS and CSS. Even in Appendix F, resources on pain are as thin as the attention paid to it in the book.
Additionally, is unacceptable that Titani recommended, as part of treatment and recovery from MCS (which I also have), the use of fragrances out in the world. Why does she think it's OK to expose people to things that SHE KNOWS will trigger horrible symptoms in some of them? I'm not disagreeing that exposing ourselves to fragrances in thoughtful and controlled ways is useful or effective (it has been for me), but this MUST be done in environments that do not put others at risk (or put others at risk with their consent). Creating a world that is safer for all of us to live in is part of disability justice and I don't see that reflected here.
So, the section discussing being a "hopeless loser". Frankly, it's appalling. I respect that this term worked for her but to include it in a book and promote its use shows a significant level of ignorance regarding chronic mental illness. She was depressed for a period of time secondary to developing CSS so I recognize she does have some lived experience with depression. Nevertheless, for those of us (of whom there are many), who have lived with mental illness all or most of our lives, in addition to living with CSS, this comes across in one way: stigmatizing, belittling, and so, so ignorant. Her "warning signs of becoming a 'hopeless loser'" are the warning signs of DEPRESSION. There is literally NO REASON why this section couldn't just discuss depression. In fact, every single use of "hopeless loser" could be replaced with "depression" and the section would work just fine. I could go on and on about this but will stop here.
Lastly, Chapter 6 has so much good stuff in it but why, why, why are basic things like sleep, self-care, food, and faith presented as things to work on only when you've "spent some time in stability phase"? I mean, how do you even get to stability phase without these things? I wish these things had been presented earlier in the book and without the caveat. This is an example of an area further editing could have improved.
Despite these issues, this book is also filled with gems. The work of redefining one's identity post-illness, identifying triggers, "bubble time", the critical importance of rest as treatment, pacing during times of crisis and stability, identifying functional capacity and post-exertional malaise, valuing ourselves outside of what we can produce, coping with enormous losses, resentment, anger, building faith and self-care practices. I also appreciate Amy's vulnerability sharing her stories and her work to lighten the content a bit with her sense of humour (although it grated me the wrong way I can see it really working for others).
I think this book will be particularly relevant to people living with MCS and I will recommend it with caution regarding my previous comments.