I really was not expecting this book to address the issues that it did, so that was a pleasant surprise. Unlike many reviewers I've seen, I did not mind that our main character, Samantha, has grown up a year since the events of the first book. That was refreshing and realistic. And I didn't mind the sex part either--but what really bothered me was the ending, where she does decide to have sex with him. Ironically, I had been rooting for that the whole book through, but the way it happened was just so... agh.
I mean, Sam spends the entire novel agonizing over whether or not to have sex with her boyfriend, thinking when he invites her to spend the weekend away with his family he means they'll be intimate together. Up until that point they have not even been naked with each other. So when the time comes, Sam thinks she's going to have to turn him down since she's decided she's not ready. But in the end... they wind up having sex.
WHAT?!
That came out of freaking NOWHERE!! Up until that point Sam had been saying she was going to say no to him. Then all of a sudden she does it anyway!? And the worst part of it is, we have no idea why! We get NO insight into her thoughts or motivations on that matter. Based on what she says to other characters later, what happens that night is that they have sex and she loses her virginity, and probably not much else, because she reveals she didn't get off herself.
First of all, I just want to say that this is totally ridiculous. Two virgins who have not even seen each other naked get intimate for the first time, and sex happens. Really? REALLY?? Two virgins? You think they'd both be so worked up and nervous about having sex that they'd start out with something a little more basic, and then WORK UP to sex. I mean, that's a really healthy progression; much less pressure and much less stress. But, no. They just go right ahead and do it as if there aren't ANY other activities they could be involved in. And that's another thing that bugs me; Meg Cabot holding up the old cliche that penetrative vaginal sex is THE sex, the only sex, and that's just not fair to girls, who often do not get off from that alone (another fact that isn't brought up). I mean, she doesn't mention anything else the whole novel through.
The worst part, though, is how Sam behaves afterwards. We don't get any insight into her thoughts through her narration, we only get a conversation with her sister and a conversation with a co-worker that tells us what happened with her boyfriend that night. The conversation with her sister only reveals to us that they did it and that she didn't come (they discuss other details but they aren't spelled out in the text), and the conversation with the co-worker reveals that Sam had fun. Oh? How did she have so much fun if all that happened is she was penetrated for the very first time (which had to have hurt), and didn't even get to come herself? Especially after she was so nervous the entire book about losing her virginity, there's no way she could all of a sudden magically unwind enough to enjoy it.
Furthermore, I really resent that she doesn't give any confessions to the reader in her narration, like "Okay, so it did hurt a little" or "You know, I actually don't feel all that different; I'm not sure what the fuss was about." But no. Apparently, it was perfect and dream-fulfilling, since she never tells us otherwise.
The reason I'm so upset that nothing was spelled out is because this book is for teenagers! A lot of whom may be contemplating losing their virginity sometime sooner or later, and may be looking to this book as an indicator of what it will be like. And according to this book, it's no trouble at all, with no pain to speak of, and "fun" the first time. Um, try fairly complicated, at least a LITTLE bit painful no matter what, and somewhat awkward (which is not to say there aren't positive aspects too, but to focus ONLY on them?).
I'm not saying a first time can't be perfect and magical and easy and totally painless, I'm sure that occurs on rare occasions--but those are RARE occasions, NOT the norm. It's really just giving unfair, unrealistic expectations, and I would expect more from Meg Cabot. Mostly, I just resent being shut out of Sam's thought processes after the most important event in the whole book, when we've been privy to them all up until that point.
Meg Cabot... I really expected better!