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The INFJ Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type
After years of coaching writers who struggled with procrastination issues, high sensitivity to criticism, and crippling self doubt, Lauren Sapala realized that almost every one of her clients was an INFJ or INFP. Using the insights gleaned from these clients, as well as her own personal story, Sapala shows us how the experience of the intuitive writer can be radically different from the norm. INFJ writers don’t think like anyone else, and their highly creative brains take a toll on them that they rarely share with the outside world. The INFJ Writer discusses such topics How an INFJ writer’s physical health is tied to their creative output Why INFJ writers are more likely to fall prey to addictions When an INFJ writer should use their natural psychic ability to do their best creative work Whether looking to start writing again or to finish the novel/memoir they started so long ago, any writer with the self-awareness to identify themselves as highly sensitive and intuitive will benefit from this book that helps them to find their own magic, and to finally use it to build the creative life that actually works for them.
186 pages, Paperback
First published May 9, 2016
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14 books376 followersLauren Sapala is a writing coach who specializes in coaching introverted, intuitive writers. She founded the WriteCity writing groups in Seattle and San Francisco and currently blogs about writing and creativity at www.laurensapala.com.
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February 13, 2017
If you know you are an INFJ and you write or want to write, you NEED this book. If you are an INFP, you shouldn't be dissuaded by the title: this book is about you too. If you are any of the other NF types, there's plenty here for you to glean from.
I'm an INFP and when I read the chapter on what ails my writing life, I wept because she described things I have been incapable of describing. (Also, it should be noted, I'm an INFP, so weeping when I gain some new understanding about myself is not that rare of an occurrence.)
The book is easy to read, covers issues like organization, intuition, addiction, sensitivities, and why NFs make excellent writers. It offers exercises at the end of each chapter which are helpful, as well as a reading lists for further texts. (Most of these texts are more about spirituality and meditation and not about MBTI or other personality typing systems, fyi.)
In short, if you are an INFP or an INFJ who has felt blocked as a writer, buy this book. Not convinced, go to her website and read a post or two about your type and I think you'll see why this gets a rave.
I'm an INFP and when I read the chapter on what ails my writing life, I wept because she described things I have been incapable of describing. (Also, it should be noted, I'm an INFP, so weeping when I gain some new understanding about myself is not that rare of an occurrence.)
The book is easy to read, covers issues like organization, intuition, addiction, sensitivities, and why NFs make excellent writers. It offers exercises at the end of each chapter which are helpful, as well as a reading lists for further texts. (Most of these texts are more about spirituality and meditation and not about MBTI or other personality typing systems, fyi.)
In short, if you are an INFP or an INFJ who has felt blocked as a writer, buy this book. Not convinced, go to her website and read a post or two about your type and I think you'll see why this gets a rave.
October 3, 2017
Last Monday I spent the day with a fellow writer – we walked on the beach, ate ice-creams, and talked writing for hours. It was a much needed break from worrying about how little writing I’m actually doing these days. That evening a parcel arrived – a paperback copy of Lauren Sapala’s book, which is full of useful exercises and helpful advice. I learned that my messy, bitsy, disorganised method of writing (which is neither pantsing nor planning, but more like patchwork) has a name. It’s called the mosaic technique. How nice is that? (Despite my best attempts at cheating, I always code out to INFJ. It’s a nuisance, but there we are.)
I’ve only read a third of the book so far, because I’ve stopped to do some of the exercises properly before moving on. But I already know I’m going to love the rest. She speaks direct to the fragile, compulsive, obsessive part of my soul that insists I’m going to write, write, write, even while the more logical and rational parts of my brain are telling me that I’m never going to make a living from it, and I don’t need the hassle. Lauren understands that fundamental need to write like no-one else, and she’s already helping me to come to terms with the way in which I do it (and she’s been there – we’ve both labelled our own funny ways as ‘weird’ ‘odd’ ‘difficult’, which is so often the way others see us – now I understand that as an INFJ what makes perfect sense to me comes across as completely bonkers to other people.)
Who cares?! This book is full of support, sense, and sound advice to help the INFJ or INFP writer get on with their vocation. It’s worth every penny.
I’ve only read a third of the book so far, because I’ve stopped to do some of the exercises properly before moving on. But I already know I’m going to love the rest. She speaks direct to the fragile, compulsive, obsessive part of my soul that insists I’m going to write, write, write, even while the more logical and rational parts of my brain are telling me that I’m never going to make a living from it, and I don’t need the hassle. Lauren understands that fundamental need to write like no-one else, and she’s already helping me to come to terms with the way in which I do it (and she’s been there – we’ve both labelled our own funny ways as ‘weird’ ‘odd’ ‘difficult’, which is so often the way others see us – now I understand that as an INFJ what makes perfect sense to me comes across as completely bonkers to other people.)
Who cares?! This book is full of support, sense, and sound advice to help the INFJ or INFP writer get on with their vocation. It’s worth every penny.
January 19, 2017
A book of alchemy!
This book has become a staple in my writing courses and private food for my own writer's soul. Yes, she's talking directly to those of us who write, but her clarity of vision about the treasure and struggles of INF_ nature creates a feeling of looking in a friendly mirror that is sure to help non writers, too.
There's a lot to like about this practical book, but I especially appreciate how Ms. Sapala reveals the INF_ shadow aspects and gives instruction about accessing the "superpowers" in them, rather than allowing them to cripple us.
Like alchemy that turns lead into gold... this book is ultimately about deep creative healing.
This book has become a staple in my writing courses and private food for my own writer's soul. Yes, she's talking directly to those of us who write, but her clarity of vision about the treasure and struggles of INF_ nature creates a feeling of looking in a friendly mirror that is sure to help non writers, too.
There's a lot to like about this practical book, but I especially appreciate how Ms. Sapala reveals the INF_ shadow aspects and gives instruction about accessing the "superpowers" in them, rather than allowing them to cripple us.
Like alchemy that turns lead into gold... this book is ultimately about deep creative healing.
July 10, 2018
I'm always a bit sceptical of books about writing. They tend to have mixed reviews and I'm often unsure whether the advice in there is something I could have figured out for myself and I would have wasted money and time I could have spent, well, writing. But this was less than £3 for Kindle so I gave it a go.
It turns out that this is the best resource on writing I have read - and what's more, due to its personality-based focus, it's also a pretty decent life manual. Although the title specifically mentions the INFJ Myers-Briggs personality type, I found it also incredibly useful as an INFP, relating very deeply to the anecdotes and eager to take on the advice.
I would really say that regardless of personality type, this is a must-read for anybody who gets overwhelmed because they struggle to reconcile their personal writing goals with social commitments, finances and their own demons.
The tone is at once non-judgemental and comforting, but also gives tough love on getting yourself out of a rut. It touches on psychic elements sometimes, but these are not things that are unfeasible and these are more like suggestions for trying to understand yourself than solutions in themselves.
Also, it doesn't follow the "quit your job and pursue your passion" rhetoric that a lot of careers/creativity books push. Instead, it's realistic and gently suggests the types of professions that work well side by side with writing (though it doesn't exactly discourage you from trying to write full-time, either, if that's what you want to do!).
It turns out that this is the best resource on writing I have read - and what's more, due to its personality-based focus, it's also a pretty decent life manual. Although the title specifically mentions the INFJ Myers-Briggs personality type, I found it also incredibly useful as an INFP, relating very deeply to the anecdotes and eager to take on the advice.
I would really say that regardless of personality type, this is a must-read for anybody who gets overwhelmed because they struggle to reconcile their personal writing goals with social commitments, finances and their own demons.
The tone is at once non-judgemental and comforting, but also gives tough love on getting yourself out of a rut. It touches on psychic elements sometimes, but these are not things that are unfeasible and these are more like suggestions for trying to understand yourself than solutions in themselves.
Also, it doesn't follow the "quit your job and pursue your passion" rhetoric that a lot of careers/creativity books push. Instead, it's realistic and gently suggests the types of professions that work well side by side with writing (though it doesn't exactly discourage you from trying to write full-time, either, if that's what you want to do!).
May 20, 2018
I’ve always had an interest in psychology and especially in the personality profiles outlined by the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). As a child and teenager I had always felt quite different and isolated, but since discovering I was an INFJ back in high school, something ‘clicked’ for me and a lot of my thoughts, habits and preferences started to make sense. I began to connect with my fellow INFJs and other introverts online and finally discovered my ‘tribe’, which allowed me to gain so much insight into my personality and that of others.
When I saw an advert for Lauren Sapala’s book, The INFJ Writer, on her blog, I was instantly intrigued. I’ve always loved creative writing, but I struggle with a lot of self-doubt, procrastination and episodes of feeling emotionally blocked. I had never really considered at looking at these issues from an MBTI perspective, but I wondered whether some of my problems were linked to my personality type.
The first thing you should know about this book is that it is not a writing guide. It offers very little in the way of practical advice about style or technique, which was a little disappointing. It is much more of a self-help book, specifically aimed at INFJs and other introverted intuitives who are lacking confidence or struggling with a writing slump. The INFJ Writer is like an extended pep talk that seeks to explain why you may be stuck in a rut and suggest ways that you can move forward with positivity.
Most of the topics discussed really resonated me. For example, Sapala explains how introverted intuitives can suffer mentally and even become physically ill from the effects of not having a creative outlet to express themselves. This is certainly true for me. If I don’t make time for writing, reading, blogging, art or other creative hobbies, I begin to feel less like myself and more and more stressed and unfulfilled. It can be difficult for INFJs to get back on track after a break or even to start a project at all, as they often have low self-esteem, high expectations of themselves and a fear of failure. Sapala suggests several exercises to help boost confidence and tackle any negative self-talk going on. These techniques would be useful for general mental wellbeing too, not just for issues regarding writing.
The INFJ Writer also explores Sapala’s own history with alcoholism and how this relates to her writing. It may seem irrelevant, but actually many introverted intuitives have an addictive personality and even if they do not indulge in drink or drugs they might have a reliance or attachment to caffeine, food, sex, gambling, and so on. My own weaknesses are sweet foods and shopping, which I definitely use to self-medicate when I am feeling low. Sapala explains why this happens, how we can free ourselves from this to focus on our art and how reconnecting with our creative interests can help break these unhealthy habits. I found this discussion interesting, but I thought that Sapala spent a little too long on this topic and it might not be helpful for all readers.
This book isn’t a quick fix that will suddenly cure all your mental health issues and get you writing straight away. It’s more of an explanation of the psychology behind the avoidance behaviours and low confidence issues that an INFJ might have. It’s a starting point for addressing these issues and contains some exercises to get you thinking about what is standing in your way. The onus is still on you to go out and make the necessary changes to your attitude and lifestyle.
Overall, I enjoyed this book and got a lot of positive information from it. It’s reassuring to know that I’m not alone with my insecurities and that it doesn’t mean I’m weak or failing. Certain aspects of my personality, like my perfectionism, make me more susceptible to worrying and self-doubt, and that’s okay. The same traits can also be applied in a positive way to improve my writing. I would recommend this book to any INFJ (or INFP, ENFP or ENFJ) who wants some inspiration and motivation to get started with a writing, creative or business project. This book may just be the boost that you need.
See my favourite quotes and let me know what you think of my review here: https://dustingthesoul.com/2018/05/bo...
When I saw an advert for Lauren Sapala’s book, The INFJ Writer, on her blog, I was instantly intrigued. I’ve always loved creative writing, but I struggle with a lot of self-doubt, procrastination and episodes of feeling emotionally blocked. I had never really considered at looking at these issues from an MBTI perspective, but I wondered whether some of my problems were linked to my personality type.
The first thing you should know about this book is that it is not a writing guide. It offers very little in the way of practical advice about style or technique, which was a little disappointing. It is much more of a self-help book, specifically aimed at INFJs and other introverted intuitives who are lacking confidence or struggling with a writing slump. The INFJ Writer is like an extended pep talk that seeks to explain why you may be stuck in a rut and suggest ways that you can move forward with positivity.
Most of the topics discussed really resonated me. For example, Sapala explains how introverted intuitives can suffer mentally and even become physically ill from the effects of not having a creative outlet to express themselves. This is certainly true for me. If I don’t make time for writing, reading, blogging, art or other creative hobbies, I begin to feel less like myself and more and more stressed and unfulfilled. It can be difficult for INFJs to get back on track after a break or even to start a project at all, as they often have low self-esteem, high expectations of themselves and a fear of failure. Sapala suggests several exercises to help boost confidence and tackle any negative self-talk going on. These techniques would be useful for general mental wellbeing too, not just for issues regarding writing.
The INFJ Writer also explores Sapala’s own history with alcoholism and how this relates to her writing. It may seem irrelevant, but actually many introverted intuitives have an addictive personality and even if they do not indulge in drink or drugs they might have a reliance or attachment to caffeine, food, sex, gambling, and so on. My own weaknesses are sweet foods and shopping, which I definitely use to self-medicate when I am feeling low. Sapala explains why this happens, how we can free ourselves from this to focus on our art and how reconnecting with our creative interests can help break these unhealthy habits. I found this discussion interesting, but I thought that Sapala spent a little too long on this topic and it might not be helpful for all readers.
This book isn’t a quick fix that will suddenly cure all your mental health issues and get you writing straight away. It’s more of an explanation of the psychology behind the avoidance behaviours and low confidence issues that an INFJ might have. It’s a starting point for addressing these issues and contains some exercises to get you thinking about what is standing in your way. The onus is still on you to go out and make the necessary changes to your attitude and lifestyle.
Overall, I enjoyed this book and got a lot of positive information from it. It’s reassuring to know that I’m not alone with my insecurities and that it doesn’t mean I’m weak or failing. Certain aspects of my personality, like my perfectionism, make me more susceptible to worrying and self-doubt, and that’s okay. The same traits can also be applied in a positive way to improve my writing. I would recommend this book to any INFJ (or INFP, ENFP or ENFJ) who wants some inspiration and motivation to get started with a writing, creative or business project. This book may just be the boost that you need.
See my favourite quotes and let me know what you think of my review here: https://dustingthesoul.com/2018/05/bo...
April 27, 2017
As an INFJ writer, I wish I had read this a long time ago. Reading this along another "self-help" writing book, it's become clear that there is not a one size fits all way to live the best writing life. This book is a MUST for INFJ writers, especially those that are struggling to keep up with the rest of the writing community or those that are constantly up against other writing walls. I cannot express enough how this book has given me clarity and peace of mind about my writing life.
Self-help books tend to make me arch a brow every time they get personal, but Sapala seamlessly sews in her stories to her messages. Her journey is relate-able. INFJ writers will probably love this book and take away a lot of helpful insight. Other sensitive intuitive types can appreciate this one as well, and Sapala even goes into some of the other types at the end of the book.
Self-help books tend to make me arch a brow every time they get personal, but Sapala seamlessly sews in her stories to her messages. Her journey is relate-able. INFJ writers will probably love this book and take away a lot of helpful insight. Other sensitive intuitive types can appreciate this one as well, and Sapala even goes into some of the other types at the end of the book.
August 23, 2018
I get that this book is highly specialized for INFJ writers/creatives (it me), and while there were pieces and chapter-ending writing exercises that didn't always feel especially applicable or necessary to me at this juncture of my writing and personal/professional life, I also haven't felt so seen since reading Susan Cain's
Quiet
.
This book isn't going to be relevant to everyone (especially considering INFJs are the rarest type, comprising only 1-2% of the overall population), but if you're into personality types, are an INFJ yourself, and/or are romantically or otherwise involved with one, I definitely think this book is worth reading for the myriad related insights into INFJs and what makes us tick.
[Four stars for being so full of pages this INFJ needed to read right now.]
This book isn't going to be relevant to everyone (especially considering INFJs are the rarest type, comprising only 1-2% of the overall population), but if you're into personality types, are an INFJ yourself, and/or are romantically or otherwise involved with one, I definitely think this book is worth reading for the myriad related insights into INFJs and what makes us tick.
[Four stars for being so full of pages this INFJ needed to read right now.]
August 14, 2017
Perfect advice for the INFJ writer, covering the particular strengths and perceived 'weaknesses' which we have to grapple with as writers of this Jungian type. Lauren helped me to accept how I approach my own writing and understand how I need to tweak my approach to be happily productive instead of plaguing myself with doubts and self-criticism. This book can give validation and support to any writer and artist, as I see it, and I go back and dip into it regularly for timely reminders.
May 2, 2017
This book was an impulse buy. I saw on Twitter that it was only $2.00 on the Kindle, so, knowing that I'm an INFJ, I figured it would make an interesting read.
My reaction was largely "eh."
There were a few interesting chapters, but overall there was more I disagreed with to the point that it left me wondering if I really am an INFJ. I retook the Myers-Briggs test for the fourth time now, just to confirm. (I am still an INFJ.)
And yet.
My first reservations came when I reached the chapter where the author, after explaining how INFJs are wonderful at empathizing, should not empathize with those who like to "play the victim." She referenced politics very briefly and showed herself to be a centrist, but she also alluded to the belief that liberals are "always playing the victim." (Not true. Liberals are just empathetic and sensitive. Essentially *gasp* INFJs.)
Then she went on to say that INFJs should basically ditch any friends who are like this. On the one hand I can understand it; there are indeed some people in this world (on both the left and the right -- I have no idea why she brought political alignments into it) who are emotionally draining to be around because ~*everything*~ goes wrong in their lives. Sometimes these are things they can prevent. But I know people who genuinely just have awful luck, and bad things seem to happen to them all at once. It just seems counter-intuitive to me for the author to say "INFJs are so empathetic," and then dissuade them from using that empathy (and also ignore the left's tendency to use empathy to fight for the rights of the marginalized).
I think she was trying to say "Don't be empathetic to a fault, where it hurts you and people take advantage of it," but the way she expressed it just didn't sound that way to me.
Then there was the chapter about critiquing. Oof. This was the chapter that lost it not one, but two stars.
Coming from an INFJ: This chapter was bullshit.
The author went on and on about how INFJs are too ~*sensitive*~ to face critique. She even encourages INFJs to avoid it altogether if they can.
I am an INFJ. I've always handled critique just fine.
It IS true: You DO need thick skin to be a writer. And if you can't face the criticism, then guess what? Your writing will never, ever improve. It is not enough to just write every day. You have to go back and edit. But you are biased towards your own writing, so you are going to need beta readers, editors, etc. to provide a second set of eyes and point out flaws and mistakes. But hopefully they'll point out your strengths as well.
You cannot be a professionally published writer and NOT get feedback. You need to learn that most people offering critique are doing so with your success in mind. They want to help you, not hurt you. Suck it up.
It doesn't get any easier, even after you've already heard feedback once. But it's not nearly as difficult as you think.
So yeah. I didn't like a lot of the stuff I read in this book. 2/5 stars.
My reaction was largely "eh."
There were a few interesting chapters, but overall there was more I disagreed with to the point that it left me wondering if I really am an INFJ. I retook the Myers-Briggs test for the fourth time now, just to confirm. (I am still an INFJ.)
And yet.
My first reservations came when I reached the chapter where the author, after explaining how INFJs are wonderful at empathizing, should not empathize with those who like to "play the victim." She referenced politics very briefly and showed herself to be a centrist, but she also alluded to the belief that liberals are "always playing the victim." (Not true. Liberals are just empathetic and sensitive. Essentially *gasp* INFJs.)
Then she went on to say that INFJs should basically ditch any friends who are like this. On the one hand I can understand it; there are indeed some people in this world (on both the left and the right -- I have no idea why she brought political alignments into it) who are emotionally draining to be around because ~*everything*~ goes wrong in their lives. Sometimes these are things they can prevent. But I know people who genuinely just have awful luck, and bad things seem to happen to them all at once. It just seems counter-intuitive to me for the author to say "INFJs are so empathetic," and then dissuade them from using that empathy (and also ignore the left's tendency to use empathy to fight for the rights of the marginalized).
I think she was trying to say "Don't be empathetic to a fault, where it hurts you and people take advantage of it," but the way she expressed it just didn't sound that way to me.
Then there was the chapter about critiquing. Oof. This was the chapter that lost it not one, but two stars.
Coming from an INFJ: This chapter was bullshit.
The author went on and on about how INFJs are too ~*sensitive*~ to face critique. She even encourages INFJs to avoid it altogether if they can.
I am an INFJ. I've always handled critique just fine.
It IS true: You DO need thick skin to be a writer. And if you can't face the criticism, then guess what? Your writing will never, ever improve. It is not enough to just write every day. You have to go back and edit. But you are biased towards your own writing, so you are going to need beta readers, editors, etc. to provide a second set of eyes and point out flaws and mistakes. But hopefully they'll point out your strengths as well.
You cannot be a professionally published writer and NOT get feedback. You need to learn that most people offering critique are doing so with your success in mind. They want to help you, not hurt you. Suck it up.
It doesn't get any easier, even after you've already heard feedback once. But it's not nearly as difficult as you think.
So yeah. I didn't like a lot of the stuff I read in this book. 2/5 stars.
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June 7, 2019I started reading this book when I thought that I was an INFJ, I finished this book when I came to the conclusion that maybe I'm more of an INTJ. (Learning about one's functions happens. *shrugs*)
But because I still remain an HSP (highly sensitive person) I believe this book wasn't a waste of time.
(Except for chapter 10 but maybe it is full of helpful tips for actual INFJs and INFPs, ENFPs and ENFJs and me as INTJ am too rational for that part).
Author: "(About INFPs) they are feelers in a society that relies on rational thinking and frowns-up on emotion-based judgment." On the contrary, there is much more relying on emotions than on rational thinking in the world. Not that emotionlessness would be a perfect state but emotions are loud and space taking and they often drown the voice of reason.
But because I still remain an HSP (highly sensitive person) I believe this book wasn't a waste of time.
(Except for chapter 10 but maybe it is full of helpful tips for actual INFJs and INFPs, ENFPs and ENFJs and me as INTJ am too rational for that part).
Author: "(About INFPs) they are feelers in a society that relies on rational thinking and frowns-up on emotion-based judgment." On the contrary, there is much more relying on emotions than on rational thinking in the world. Not that emotionlessness would be a perfect state but emotions are loud and space taking and they often drown the voice of reason.
August 11, 2018
I'm an INFP, not an INFJ, but this book is written for all intuitive writers. I have been struggling so much trying to write my memoir in chronological order, and what the author said about that being basically impossible for INFPs really hit home. I had to stop reading several times to let out a few tears because I felt so deeply heard, seen, and valued.
October 26, 2019
Great book
So many 'ah, so that's why I'm like that' moments. So good to know I'm not the only one who thinks and writes like this. Thanks Lauren
So many 'ah, so that's why I'm like that' moments. So good to know I'm not the only one who thinks and writes like this. Thanks Lauren
August 30, 2018
[UPDATE]
Leyendo este libro de Lauren Sapala me he sentido VISTA por lo que soy como persona con una personalidad INFJ.
Y, el hecho de ver todas las preferencias del tipo INFJ desde el prisma de la escritura y de ser escritora, ha hecho que sienta muchísima más compasión por mi misma y por mi yo del pasado, porque vivió muchas de las experiencias que Lauren relata en el libro.
Por ejemplo, el hecho de que a las personas que somos Sensibles e Intuitivas ( Sensitive Intuitives, como nos llama ella) no nos gustan los cursos de lectura en los que se critica lo que escribimos de manera brutal. Sobretodo si nuestra obra todavía no está terminada.
Como ejemplo personal, en 2011 empecé un curso de novela, en el que el objetivo era hacer un outline de la novela, pensar los personajes y dejarlo todo ligado para empezar a escribir el primer capítulo al final del curso. El primer ejercicio era hacer un timeline de la historia, con los mayores eventos que iban a pasar. Pues bien, mi profesor machacó tanto lo que hice sin dar ningún feedback positivo (o, por lo menos, así es como lo sentí en ese momento) que me bloqueé, dejé el curso a las tres semanas porque los feedbacks que me dio en los siguientes ejercicios fueron igual de machacones, estuve sin escribir durante 4 años y la idea que tuve para la novela continúa parada hace ya siete años y medio...
Durante muchos años, pensé que era mi culpa y me sentí avergonzada por ser demasiado sensible y tomarme las cosas "demasiado a pecho". Pero, como dice ella,
O esta otra cita aquí, que me hizo querer llorar por la verdad que se esconde en ella:
En fin, ¡no puedo decir mucho más porque me pasaría la reseña citando el libro entero!
Así que si te sientes identificada con los fragmentos que he mencionado aquí, eres intuitiva, tienes características de Persona Altamente Sensible, tienes tendencias hacia la introversión o ya sabes que eres INFJ (puedes hacer un test aquí) y eres escritora o siempre has querido escribir pero... (incluye excusa aquí), este es tu libro.
[Mini-reseña]
Necesito tiempo para poner orden a la cantidad de sentimientos e ideas que este maravilloso libro de Lauren Sapala me ha provocado.
De momento, puedes leer el moment by moment de impresiones en este hilo de Twitter ^_^
Leyendo este libro de Lauren Sapala me he sentido VISTA por lo que soy como persona con una personalidad INFJ.
Y, el hecho de ver todas las preferencias del tipo INFJ desde el prisma de la escritura y de ser escritora, ha hecho que sienta muchísima más compasión por mi misma y por mi yo del pasado, porque vivió muchas de las experiencias que Lauren relata en el libro.
Por ejemplo, el hecho de que a las personas que somos Sensibles e Intuitivas ( Sensitive Intuitives, como nos llama ella) no nos gustan los cursos de lectura en los que se critica lo que escribimos de manera brutal. Sobretodo si nuestra obra todavía no está terminada.
If(...) outside judgement starts making you feel critical about yourself, the life force you need to feed your story could feel threatened for a very long time."
Como ejemplo personal, en 2011 empecé un curso de novela, en el que el objetivo era hacer un outline de la novela, pensar los personajes y dejarlo todo ligado para empezar a escribir el primer capítulo al final del curso. El primer ejercicio era hacer un timeline de la historia, con los mayores eventos que iban a pasar. Pues bien, mi profesor machacó tanto lo que hice sin dar ningún feedback positivo (o, por lo menos, así es como lo sentí en ese momento) que me bloqueé, dejé el curso a las tres semanas porque los feedbacks que me dio en los siguientes ejercicios fueron igual de machacones, estuve sin escribir durante 4 años y la idea que tuve para la novela continúa parada hace ya siete años y medio...
Durante muchos años, pensé que era mi culpa y me sentí avergonzada por ser demasiado sensible y tomarme las cosas "demasiado a pecho". Pero, como dice ella,
If you are a Sensitive Intuitive, there is no way you can change your wiring and there is no way you can grow this ridiculous thick skin. In fact, the more you harden your own vulnerability, the more you will block your own light. Sensitive Intuitives must be able to Access their authentic, vulnerable heart center at all times in order to stay psychically healthy.
O esta otra cita aquí, que me hizo querer llorar por la verdad que se esconde en ella:
But the main obstacle is always, always that Sensitive Intuitive writers have felt so different from other people, so alien, for all of their lives that they can't shake the feeling that they are weird. That something is wrong with them. This feeling eats away at the self-esteem and causes insidious damage to the creative spirit. That's when we get into problems like chronic and crippling procrastination, self-sabotage, and paralyzing wirter's block.
En fin, ¡no puedo decir mucho más porque me pasaría la reseña citando el libro entero!
Así que si te sientes identificada con los fragmentos que he mencionado aquí, eres intuitiva, tienes características de Persona Altamente Sensible, tienes tendencias hacia la introversión o ya sabes que eres INFJ (puedes hacer un test aquí) y eres escritora o siempre has querido escribir pero... (incluye excusa aquí), este es tu libro.
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Necesito tiempo para poner orden a la cantidad de sentimientos e ideas que este maravilloso libro de Lauren Sapala me ha provocado.
De momento, puedes leer el moment by moment de impresiones en este hilo de Twitter ^_^
October 12, 2018
I don't want to be that one naysayer among a lot of 5-star reviews, but I didn't like this book. Hopefully my review can help direct the right people to or away from it.
I got about 20% of the way through this book but then DNF'ed it. I skimmed it a bit, but didn't foresee any more new useful information out of what was left in it.
If you don't know what an INFJ is, are if you're not familiar with Myers-Briggs Personality Types at all, then you won't learn anything about them here. This is prior knowledge you'll need in order to understand the book. Luckily for me, I'm really into Myers-Briggs. My own type is INFP which is really close to INFJ so I thought there would be a fair amount of good information in there for me.
To be fair, I feel like INFJs and INFPs might likely get some good insight into their type if they haven't looked at it too much already. There is some good validation for not having to follow the "rules" of writing. And I've seen some good writing exercises offered.
However, she is gave me a LOT of spiritual but not Christian "vibes." So if you are a Christian considering reading this, I'd say proceed with caution. There are some undertones of relativism and other bad, wishy-washy philosophies. It feels more like a self-help book that happens to also be about writing.
On top of that I'm also seeing a lot of Barnum statements that just lead to making INF-s feeling super special about themselves. I say this as an INFP, that really likes validation and feeling special. (Granted who doesn't) But I don't think some of the problems and difficulties addressed in this book are any more problematic for INF- types than others, though the author claims that they are. (Problems like procrastination, or perfectionism, or self doubt.)
Ultimately most writing advice boils down to get your butt in the chair and put words on the page until you are done. Turn off critic mode for drafting, turn it on for editing. This book might be helpful for some people to learn how to get out of their own way, but for the most part I personally didn't find it helpful. That, and bad philosophy irritates me like nothing else.
I got about 20% of the way through this book but then DNF'ed it. I skimmed it a bit, but didn't foresee any more new useful information out of what was left in it.
If you don't know what an INFJ is, are if you're not familiar with Myers-Briggs Personality Types at all, then you won't learn anything about them here. This is prior knowledge you'll need in order to understand the book. Luckily for me, I'm really into Myers-Briggs. My own type is INFP which is really close to INFJ so I thought there would be a fair amount of good information in there for me.
To be fair, I feel like INFJs and INFPs might likely get some good insight into their type if they haven't looked at it too much already. There is some good validation for not having to follow the "rules" of writing. And I've seen some good writing exercises offered.
However, she is gave me a LOT of spiritual but not Christian "vibes." So if you are a Christian considering reading this, I'd say proceed with caution. There are some undertones of relativism and other bad, wishy-washy philosophies. It feels more like a self-help book that happens to also be about writing.
On top of that I'm also seeing a lot of Barnum statements that just lead to making INF-s feeling super special about themselves. I say this as an INFP, that really likes validation and feeling special. (Granted who doesn't) But I don't think some of the problems and difficulties addressed in this book are any more problematic for INF- types than others, though the author claims that they are. (Problems like procrastination, or perfectionism, or self doubt.)
Ultimately most writing advice boils down to get your butt in the chair and put words on the page until you are done. Turn off critic mode for drafting, turn it on for editing. This book might be helpful for some people to learn how to get out of their own way, but for the most part I personally didn't find it helpful. That, and bad philosophy irritates me like nothing else.
May 7, 2018
'Go out into the world and be part of it. Write as honestly and as bravely as you can. Be the brightest, strongest, most YOU you that you can be.'
Wow, I am so glad I bought this, it was just so interesting and compelling to read the whole way through.
There were a few minor typos- for example, 75% and 15% do not make 100% no matter how long I stare at the figures to be sure- but that did not detract from the emotional connection I felt with this book. I felt...understood, which was strange, but not completely unwelcome. Especially since I've been interested in personality and human psychology from an early age.
Plus, the clear and engaging writing style meant I read the whole book in almost one go and I took various points of inspiration from it.
I now feel more energised and determined to keep working on my writing, which is always a bonus.
Wow, I am so glad I bought this, it was just so interesting and compelling to read the whole way through.
There were a few minor typos- for example, 75% and 15% do not make 100% no matter how long I stare at the figures to be sure- but that did not detract from the emotional connection I felt with this book. I felt...understood, which was strange, but not completely unwelcome. Especially since I've been interested in personality and human psychology from an early age.
Plus, the clear and engaging writing style meant I read the whole book in almost one go and I took various points of inspiration from it.
I now feel more energised and determined to keep working on my writing, which is always a bonus.
September 13, 2021
In the afterword, she says, "My goal in writing this book is to help guide you to start writing again." Goal accomplished. I haven't worked on my novel in 4.5 months because work and life got frantic, so I picked this short book up to reconnect with my writing self and gain a little inspiration. It didn't rock my world, but I did get a few tips and help me turn back toward my writing.
I would, however, recommend her "Intuitive Writing" online course. I took that in July 2020 and got more out of it.
I would, however, recommend her "Intuitive Writing" online course. I took that in July 2020 and got more out of it.
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August 5, 2018Lauren Sapala has written a very personable, informative book about the unique strengths and struggles of INFJ writers. I also like how she describes the strengths and struggles of INFP, ENJF, and ENFP writers. I've already started her next book (Firefly Magic: Heart Powered Marketing for Highly Sensitive Writers). :)
April 8, 2022
Took a personality test to help out a friend who’s a career coach. After discovering my Myers-Briggs personality type (who knew?!?), this book was recommended to me. So many realizations about my writing life and, oftentimes, avoidance of it. I always enjoy books that teach you more about the world and yourself!
May 4, 2021
This was a short, easy-to-read book for INFJ writers. I felt like I got some good information from it but it also had the judgmental, kind of condescending tone that irritates me with "self-help" books and life coach-type people. I'm sure Lauren Sapala is a good writing coach but I could do without some of the psycho-babble, and I felt like when she talked about her past issues it was still very surface-level and formulaic, the way many of these self-help books are. My biggest takeaways were that NF personalities have a different writing process than rational types and we benefit from less editing and critique before our works are completed, and that we need to accept that we will not benefit from most of the mainstream writing advice. I liked the idea of having writing groups where you just write for one hour a week and do absolutely no critique, because that sounds really low-pressure and a good way to create new work rather than keep working on the same work. Personally I'm an INFP so this didn't apply to me 100% but there were some mentions of INFPs and a short chapter devoted to them so this was helpful. However, I feel like most of it was verbatim quoted in an article Lauren Sapala wrote on INFP writers.
March 25, 2019
Lauren Sapala dives into the unique world and challenges of writing as an INFJ, the rarest MBTI type, using experiences from herself and others she has counseled over the years. INFJs are known as very sensitive and intuitive, in a world that’s almost exactly the opposite, extraverted and sensing, which results in crippling self doubt in themselves and their work. Developing a thick skin is extra hard for these types. Sapala speaks to writers in a very consoling, kind and informative way about the common roadblocks of INFJs and how to make their type work for them instead of against them. Sapala’s stories are insightful and add an extra layer of knowledge and experience to her words.
This book seems geared more towards beginners and those that haven’t written for a long time, so I think some of the advice is a bit lacking for those that have been writing for a while, but it’s still very informative. I’m also an INFP, so I didn’t relate to some of the sections as an INFJ would, but if you are a XNFX, you’re going to benefit from this book, especially in the last section. I recommend taking a look at it, and after you're finished, take a look at Firefly Magic: Heart Powered Marketing for Highly Sensitive Writers.
This book seems geared more towards beginners and those that haven’t written for a long time, so I think some of the advice is a bit lacking for those that have been writing for a while, but it’s still very informative. I’m also an INFP, so I didn’t relate to some of the sections as an INFJ would, but if you are a XNFX, you’re going to benefit from this book, especially in the last section. I recommend taking a look at it, and after you're finished, take a look at Firefly Magic: Heart Powered Marketing for Highly Sensitive Writers.
September 12, 2020
So much resonated with me in this book. It really helped me see areas to be more understanding of myself and how to protect myself and nurture my strengths. There was some airy-fairy mysticism stuff I wasn't in to, but the majority of the book was helpful.
February 18, 2021
This book had more ego strokes than advice. The one sentence summary would go something like this:
If you're INFJ you're special, rare, brilliant, and creative - just like me.
If you're INFJ you're special, rare, brilliant, and creative - just like me.
September 29, 2022
This book made me cry.
This is the first time I read a book on Writing which spoke in the language I understood.
Reading this book was a healing process.
This is the first time I read a book on Writing which spoke in the language I understood.
Reading this book was a healing process.
July 8, 2019
I’m an INFP, and I still got a lot out of this book. When you do any formal schooling in creative writing, there will be a lot of focus on the technical aspects of the writing. There will be talk of structure, form, voice, tense, person, etc. etc. etc. All of those things are amazing, and you should absolutely know about them, and master them over time. The only way you can subvert the standards is to have fully mastered them, and know when it’s okay not to follow them. :)
That said, creative writing degrees and MFAs are not always going to talk about the motivation process, or what order you should write your first draft scenes in, or what to do when you have emotional blocks that make it horribly scary to put any words on the page at all.
The short essays in this book helped me analyze myself as a creator. They helped me conceptualize how I see the world, how I relate to it, why I would want to write at all.
The most beenficial messages I received from this first read-through were: the suggestion to write out of chronological order, and the knowledge that it is OKAY to not be perfect, to have a different writing process from other people. We’re all different, and acknowledging that difference as OKAY is crucial.
Some writers probably won’t need to be told to try writing out of chronological order—I needed to hear it, though, because of all the formal schooling and the need for 25-50 page segments of writing that are linear and can be submitted for creative packets. I lost sight of the options available to me—as a creative person, it’s okay if I don’t want to write the next scene in the book right now, but instead want to write a scene that comes in five chapters later.
I’m going to give this a try and I anticipate it helping me get more words on the page, overall. Ultimately, I would recommend this book to any INFP or INFJ writer, specifically the ones who have trouble showing up to the page. You need to hear that it’s okay to have a process that is different from other writers, and it’s okay to come up with your own process that will work for you.
This and other reviews by me can be found at www.annaimber.com
That said, creative writing degrees and MFAs are not always going to talk about the motivation process, or what order you should write your first draft scenes in, or what to do when you have emotional blocks that make it horribly scary to put any words on the page at all.
The short essays in this book helped me analyze myself as a creator. They helped me conceptualize how I see the world, how I relate to it, why I would want to write at all.
The most beenficial messages I received from this first read-through were: the suggestion to write out of chronological order, and the knowledge that it is OKAY to not be perfect, to have a different writing process from other people. We’re all different, and acknowledging that difference as OKAY is crucial.
Some writers probably won’t need to be told to try writing out of chronological order—I needed to hear it, though, because of all the formal schooling and the need for 25-50 page segments of writing that are linear and can be submitted for creative packets. I lost sight of the options available to me—as a creative person, it’s okay if I don’t want to write the next scene in the book right now, but instead want to write a scene that comes in five chapters later.
I’m going to give this a try and I anticipate it helping me get more words on the page, overall. Ultimately, I would recommend this book to any INFP or INFJ writer, specifically the ones who have trouble showing up to the page. You need to hear that it’s okay to have a process that is different from other writers, and it’s okay to come up with your own process that will work for you.
This and other reviews by me can be found at www.annaimber.com
May 19, 2017
A little validation for a small minority!
As an INJF (and a writer) I really enjoyed this little book. It's full of insights, helpful tips, and hey, in this loud, extroverted world, it is really nice (and validating) to read something that reflects the INJF reality. No, we're not crazy. Just different.
If you're an INJF writer, or friend to one, this is a little gem of a book.
As an INJF (and a writer) I really enjoyed this little book. It's full of insights, helpful tips, and hey, in this loud, extroverted world, it is really nice (and validating) to read something that reflects the INJF reality. No, we're not crazy. Just different.
If you're an INJF writer, or friend to one, this is a little gem of a book.
January 15, 2018
Me Too.
I'll mostly likely revisit this book.
A few factors contributed to my reading this at the beginning of 2018. I had started the new year with a few goals in mind: read more, write more, and figure out what career I wanted to push head first into. After reading a book that reminded me why I loved books and imaginary worlds, as well as starting the year with a partial social media hiatus, I decided to bite the bullet and put baby steps into getting back on track.
Starting this book, I probably came at it like most early 30's INFJ people would who'd already put in a few years of researching their personality type: "Pssh, c'mon Lauren, you're not telling me anything I don't already know." Knowing the basics of why we do things is one big duh moment when it comes to being INFJ.
Then, as she started to break apart the possible reasons INFJ writers have a hard time starting and/or finishing, I began to realize how far I had distanced myself from the emotional intelligence that had been so natural to me in my younger years. And beginning to identify the many factors why blew a hole in the armor I had developed even against myself for so long. I spent most of this book going "OMG yes!" The many correlations I have with her INFJ journey would produce my own book, it's uncanny.
Now I understood why I needed the hiatus.
I highly recommend this for any NF creative types or those trying to understand an NF creative type on a much deeper level.
I'll mostly likely revisit this book.
A few factors contributed to my reading this at the beginning of 2018. I had started the new year with a few goals in mind: read more, write more, and figure out what career I wanted to push head first into. After reading a book that reminded me why I loved books and imaginary worlds, as well as starting the year with a partial social media hiatus, I decided to bite the bullet and put baby steps into getting back on track.
Starting this book, I probably came at it like most early 30's INFJ people would who'd already put in a few years of researching their personality type: "Pssh, c'mon Lauren, you're not telling me anything I don't already know." Knowing the basics of why we do things is one big duh moment when it comes to being INFJ.
Then, as she started to break apart the possible reasons INFJ writers have a hard time starting and/or finishing, I began to realize how far I had distanced myself from the emotional intelligence that had been so natural to me in my younger years. And beginning to identify the many factors why blew a hole in the armor I had developed even against myself for so long. I spent most of this book going "OMG yes!" The many correlations I have with her INFJ journey would produce my own book, it's uncanny.
Now I understood why I needed the hiatus.
I highly recommend this for any NF creative types or those trying to understand an NF creative type on a much deeper level.
April 23, 2022
Great Insight
The INFJ Writer helped me to understand why other writing techniques weren't connecting with me and put me on a path to a better writing future.
The INFJ Writer helped me to understand why other writing techniques weren't connecting with me and put me on a path to a better writing future.
December 26, 2017
I was initially skeptical about a writing book based on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, but the author's many helpful insights into the nuances of creating as an INFJ writer inspired me to experiment with changing the way I approach the craft and gave me hope as a "late bloomer", which seems to be the path for many who gravitate toward diverse subjects and deal with high sensitivity, giftedness, etc.. Lauren includes a meaty section on health challenges and addiction which few other writing books address, although both are common themes for creatives of all kinds. If you're typed as a NF (INFJ or INFP in particular) and you've found that Myers-Briggs has been helpful to you, I highly recommend this book, particularly if you're struggling with writer's block or niggling self-doubt where your art is concerned. Writing like we've been taught to write in school- sequentially, methodically, with stacks of research notes in hand- can actually sabotage our progress and our craft. Learning why- and what to do instead- has been invaluable. This book was a delightful surprise!
July 9, 2017
This was one of those books that inexplicably showed up as an ad for me on my kindle without me ever doing any kind of searches for writing books or personality theory books. However, the shoe fits! I don't have any other books on writing. I just write. Sometimes I feel like I should give up, because I have so many other things that need my attention, but every time I make the decision to "quit," I feel like crying (which I think means it is the wrong decision and what is actually needed is for me to rearrange/reprioritize the other parts of my life to make room for something that feeds my soul and is something that only I can do. This was interesting, validating, and affirming book. I recognized so much of myself within it. My critique is that ends in a very abrupt and strange manner--talking about other personality types and writing and then boom, afterword. No real conclusion, no tying the threads together, just done all the sudden.
July 9, 2017
As an INFJ who loves to write but often struggles to create a writing space for myself, this book helped SO freaking much.
Sapala doesn't just tell you what to do, she suggests different venues and explains your personality. Like: why aren't you able to write? or what's keeping you from writing? She explains how atmosphere and being at peace has to do with creating that productive writing space for an INFJ. We are not the tortured artists society would have, we are the artists who thrive when we are happy. And based on my experience, it's completely true.
She also gives you questions to help your writing get kick started. Most are very personal and require deep thinking and a good amount of time, but they are amazing.
Overall, this book helped me realize why I haven't been producing anything worthwhile and giving me the tools I need to help me further my desire to write. Which, it worked! ;)
Sapala doesn't just tell you what to do, she suggests different venues and explains your personality. Like: why aren't you able to write? or what's keeping you from writing? She explains how atmosphere and being at peace has to do with creating that productive writing space for an INFJ. We are not the tortured artists society would have, we are the artists who thrive when we are happy. And based on my experience, it's completely true.
She also gives you questions to help your writing get kick started. Most are very personal and require deep thinking and a good amount of time, but they are amazing.
Overall, this book helped me realize why I haven't been producing anything worthwhile and giving me the tools I need to help me further my desire to write. Which, it worked! ;)
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