Restoration (spoilers and maybe trigger warning)
I liked it. I really, really did. I want to say that first. Tamar was a complex character and I honestly enjoyed her. I don't regret buying the book and will read more from this author. Stephen took a little bit more to grow on me but I liked him in the end.
But, my problem was with the secondary characters specifically Kim and her father. Rape culture infantilizes men in a way that is unfair and damaging to women. It reduces the feelings of victims to nothing and I felt that both Kim and Tamar's father did that to her under the guise of Christianity.
There was nothing Christian about Stephen's lies and abandonment but so many of the critiques from Tamar's loved ones were about how "bitter" SHE was being. Rape culture. Men can go to jail now for releasing nudes for a reason. It's a violation. It might not BE rape but it's close. And for Tamar's supposed friend to downplay how Tamar was violated and her life forever changed with "that's old" and her father to just say "it was a prank" is insulting not just to Tamar but any potential survivors who read that. Her supposed friend, knowing what Stephen might have done waxed way too poetic and way too soon about how hot Stephen was, ignoring much of the real damage that happened to Tamar.
Tamar had two men who were supposed to be her safe spaces prove themselves to be the opposite, but she needed to "let go of the bitterness." Her father was wishing when he could have repented and reached out to her first. He was wrong. No matter if she had sex before marriage, she was violated and his first thought should have been protecting her. She had a right to be upset and she wasn't less of a Christian for that. She had to change her name. She couldn't go to school. She had to leave the country. She was seen naked by strangers. She was violated. And her father, her Daddy called her a whore. Then, after he wronged her, he waited for her to come to him first. He acknowledged his fault but he should have come hat in his hand to do that before. And he shouldn't have downplayed what happened to her.
"That wasn't fair," he said about Stephen lying to flourish while she couldn't even go to school in peace. "He was eighteen." So was she. And, like she said he had many, many years between eighteen and thirty to come clean, but he waited. But she was supposed to do handstands because after he amassed the protection of wealth and reputation, he FINALLY comes clean. Nope. I liked Stephen but it was an "in spite of" like, not the like I'm used to feeling for heroes. So, I said all that to say I liked it but I wish we were more careful with how we treat survivors of sexual violation ESPECIALLY in Christian fiction.