Wired That Way

by Marita Littauer, Florence Littauer

Do you want to understand yourself better, maximize your strengths and improve your relationships? Understanding how we are wired can enrich our lives and our relationships, helping to overcome differences that can seem irreconcilable. Instead of terminating jobs, friendships or marriage on grounds of incompatibility, it is possible to turn these relationships from dying to growing. For more than 25 years, Marita Littauer, with her mother, Florence Littauer, has helped thousands of men and women with their personal and professional relationships. In Wired That Way, Marita brings together in one book a comprehensive overview of the personality types that speaks to anyone who wants to understand and to be understood.

Genres: Nonfiction, Business, Self Help, Personal Growth, Psychology, Personal Development, Relationships

278 pages, Paperback

First published May 8, 2006

Reviews

[Anne-Michelle · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved this book. First, it assessed my own personality based on a relatively quick test in the back of the book, and I discovered how completely wrong I was about my own personality! And my husband is the complete opposite of me! I'm enthralled with reading about birth order, and this book was an entirely new perspective that showed there is no "right" or "wrong" personality. Instead, everyone is different, and by learning how to work with others' strengths and weaknesses, we will be more accepting in the long run.

[Teresa · Rating 3 out of 5]

DNF. (38%) The first part of the book is a great overview of the 4 personality types, but it quickly devolves into pseudo psychology. If you feel like whiling away a few hours with anecdotes and vauge horoscope-esque advice, then this is the book for you.

[Anna · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wow! Incredible book! I've been studying personality styles for years and this is by far the most interesting and accurate I have found. I definitely recommend this book to anyone who wants to work better with people, who want to improve their relationships drastically, and who want a lot of laughing along the way!

[Karen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fantastic book! I learned a lot about myself and my husband's personality types. I've been able to implement some changes already and things are going great. It's really nice and I loved the part about spiritual life at the end

[Sarah Hellman · Rating 4 out of 5]

Loved listening to this audiobook - I love learning more about the personalities and how they interact throughout the different areas of our lives and different techniques for communication to ensure positive intent.

[Lesley · Rating 2 out of 5]

Nothing new added with this rendition of personality types. Also, the religious undertone was a bit unexpected and off putting. I decided not to finish it.

[Beth Butler · Rating 5 out of 5]

What a great book. I loved the authors analogy of color mixing to describe people's personality. Yes, there are basic primary personalities and people are made up of more than one in varying degrees. Very interesting and useful information about meeting people's emotional needs and working with people based on their personality in all life situations (marriage, parenthood, work, spiritual life, etc). Not only was the information great, but I was in stitches laughing at some of her examples. I highly recommend this very positive and inspiring book.

[Leah · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book completely surprised me. Due to a friend's recommendation (and borrowing of the book), I read this book, not knowing at all what to expect, if anything. Within the first few chapters, I came to find that the author has a very good grasp on personalities, mine in particular. At first, it was unsettling and almost upsetting how well she could peg how I would act in certain scenarios and feel about certain happenings in life. But as I read on, I began to realize just how much research and work the author must have done to understand these intricate personalities so well. Also, the stories she provided from those she loved or knew were enticing, at least, so I kept on reading.

I would have to say that the book held most of its weight to me within the first half of the book. The rest of the book was helpful, but it was so specific to certain perspectives of life that I haven't reached yet that some of it felt irrelevant. That might also be that I'm afraid I will lose the information that I read by the time I actually reach those situations, but I guess then I can refer back to the book.

For all of you who are intrigued by the many similarities and differences that we humans contain and how that affects our relationships, I would highly recommend this book, since it caters to many of your interests. But for those who are more relaxed and really would just like life to pan out for themselves and not worry and analyzing each situation, this book might just give you too much to think about and overwhelm the way that you live, so I'd stay away (unless it's something you want). By the way, I had to refrain strongly from using any specific personalities in this description - just look at what Wired that Way has done to my own vocabulary!

[Casey Garrett · Rating 2 out of 5]

I began reading Wired That Way when I was going through a hard time and trying to be mindful more of who I am as a person. It was recommended to me from a friend. When I began the book I took the comprehensive personality quiz, and it said I was dominant Perfect Melancholy with secondary Peaceful Phlegmatic characteristics. As I was reading I wasn't really relating to my supposed Peaceful Phlegmatic side. I wasn't really taking the book seriously and began to read it in between other books.

It took my about 7 months to get through the entire book. As I neared the end of Wired That Way I started to understand the different personalities. The chapters on family and spirituality resonated the most for me. After finally finishing it I retook the personality quiz. This time being more conscientious of my answers and what my true strengths and weaknesses are, my dominate personality is still Perfect Melancholy. That personality is me through and through, however this time my secondary trait is Powerful Choleric. After rereading the strengths and weaknesses that a Powerful Choleric can have they are more to my personality.

It took awhile to get through the book, but once I did it was very enlightening. I would like to have my associates take the quiz to see if their personalities match up with what I think they are.

[pianogal · Rating 3 out of 5]

I liked this one. It was a little more in-depth than some of the others I've read. I wonder if the author even realizes how much she talks about the personality she is and her husband is compared to the other two. If I didn't happen to be one of these personalities, I think I'd feel left out. Or maybe that's just my Melancholy coming through.

The chapters got a little long until we discussed how each personality handles the topic trait, and then what each personality can do to improve. I would think there is probably a better way to organize this. Maybe make four big sections entirely devoted to each personality. That would be more efficient (but again, that's probably just my Melancholy coming through).

Also, Melancholies are more than just perfectionist list making analysts. We're also creative geniuses. I'm just saying...
:)

[Nadia Saar · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was recommended to me by a dear friend, and I'm glad she sent me in this direction. The personalities provided a lot of clarity for some of the people I interact with that I simply can't understand. It also provided some great insight into myself and how I can live in my "strengths" more often than my weaknesses.

As a Powerful Choleric/Popular Sanguine, it was refreshing to see that I was completely normal just different. A lot of personality books tend to focus on "you are who you are, suck it up" but this book showed you how to manage yourself and others. I'd recommend it to anyone who is trying to work with a plethora of personalities. It can help you in your marriage, the boardroom, or even with friends and family members.

[Erica Roberts · Rating 4 out of 5]

I thought this book was fun to read and informative. The only criticism I have is that some of the stories were repeated from Florence Littauer's books, although I guess that's understandable since she is Marita's mother.

[Ben Goodman · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must read

[Jennifer B · Rating 5 out of 5]

My favorite of all the personality profiles!!

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[Jacklyn (ReadingBliss) · Rating 5 out of 5]

An enlightening read and one of the best self improvement books I have read. I have heard of many personality theories and while I don’t agree with some, I think extroverts/introverts, the Meyers-Briggs, and this one has merit. Take from it however much you want, but if one can apply the insights given, value and ease can be added to one’s life. This book really helped open my eyes to put some things into perspective and I am betting that it will inspire me to make some changes that will instigate some positive results. I found this book to be freeing and empowering as it helped me understand a little more about myself and why I was always seeming to be criticized about certain traits like they were bad things around certain people but commended by others for those same exact traits. It just left me feeling confused. This, in combination with the Boundaries books and the habit books that I have recently read are all accumulating into life changing snowballs. I highly recommend. And before I go, I would like to add that one of my unexpected favorite things about this novel was that it ended up being God centered. I say “ended up” and “unexpected” because it was not clear to me at first that this was written by a Christian author on a Christian foundation. I did not bother to read the full table of contents, so I did not know the final chapter circled it back to Jesus. It was so much better with Jesus in it.

[Asia Brown · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a very helpful addition to my understanding of myself (Perfect Melancholy / Peaceful Phlegmatic), as I would refer to myself in these terms through my early poetry writing, not knowing that it was my personality type that I was speaking to! For example, I considered myself a "social chameleon," which Littauer attributes to Peaceful Phlegmatic personalities. The "Spiritual Life" section was also interesting for me as a believer, because I have rarely pondered the personality of Christ.

One minor note is that the spiritual side of personality / religious undertones are introduced midway in Littauer's book instead of at the beginning, which would have been more fitting to keep her spiritual perspective on personality consistent throughout the book.

Overall, I enjoyed this book in learning another dimension to myself and understanding other personalities in my circle (family , friends / work /etc.).

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[Jason Oliver · Rating 4 out of 5]

Another book recommended in therapy.

Wired That Way covers 4 personalities that I would describe better as temperaments. I enjoy these books, ones that make sense and I can see myself and others in these personalities. Littauer teaches a philosophy that her parent originated. The writing is not great, but I did find some truth and it reinforced some of the things I have already learned in several other books I have read.

There is also a test to help you identify your personality. Mine was spot on.

[Lisa Doyle · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good read about the different personality types with their strengths and weaknesses and who can complement others. Made a lot of “sense” when reading as you think of your friends and family and how they behave and the types of people you can’t stand. Really jump the shark when the author was talking about God and Jesus and all the disciples personalities and how to bring it into studying the Bible

[Ivan Galindo · Rating 3 out of 5]

Its a great book, it goes very much in depth on the concepts but the author gets her ideas from her mom and they are misleading some straight up incorrect. John T. Coccorris is 100x more credible. His lifes work and research is based on these concepts. He also clarified misconceptions i learned from this book

[Mitchell Stevenson II · Rating 5 out of 5]

i'd often looked at personality as more nurtured than natural, but this writer wisely and gracefully explores the interwoven gravity of both. includes great storytelling of even with children being raised in the same environment, different personalities bloom – reminding me of my childhood. great read that equips me to understand myself, and those around me, at both a deeper and higher level.

[Jackie · Rating 4 out of 5]

The book explains four basic ways of how people think. Personally, I think it was good to see the basic motivations behind people as it helped me see how all personality types can overcome weaknesses and build strengths.

[Bonnie Iris · Rating 5 out of 5]

Lots of great information to understand myself and the people I interact with. This book had me laughing at times sharing stories about the different personalities.

Overall great read and adds value if you are interested in expanding your connection and communication skills.

[SAMANTHA ACEVEDO · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book has helped me understand others' personalities and why people think the way they do.
Suppose you are looking for something that will help you gain some knowledge in Sociology and psychology. This is a great read!!

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[Kelley Lozada · Rating 5 out of 5]

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[Mo Fone-Bardill · Rating 4 out of 5]

Fun book about personalities.

[Jannick Burmester · Rating 3 out of 5]

Way too much with the religious undertones, but still enjoyable and easy to read

[KieraK]

There's a faith component to this one. So if that's not how you relate to the world, skip it. Not bad overall but I feel like the author was choleric heavy in her discussion.