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How to Raise a Feminist: Bringing Up Kids with the Confidence to Change the World
'We are all equally fascinating, equally valuable, equally capable of altruism, equally able to change the world for the better.
That's feminism, isn't it? And it's what every parent wants for their kids . . . every parent that's not a d*ck, that is.' Growing up in the '70s, neither Allison Vale nor Victoria Ralfs reckoned they needed feminism. But years of settling for the smallest chops at the dinner table, getting battered in British Bulldog, and negotiating the flasher down the lane, left them feeling had feminism been the missing link?
In How to Raise a Feminist, they join forces as mothers, educators, story-tellers and women, to tell the riotous story of how they came to put feminism at the core of their parenting.
Real feminism
· NOT angry or man-hating
· common sense
· the way to raise happily flawed, robust sons and daughters
Real parenting
. mostly without a script
. often a bit terrifying
. entirely amazing
How to Raise a Feminist is the ideal read for anyone, anywhere, unnerved by the pressure to be perfect; a 'good enough' guide to raising your children into gloriously gutsy, empathetic, likeable young people, irrespective of their gender.
That's feminism, isn't it? And it's what every parent wants for their kids . . . every parent that's not a d*ck, that is.' Growing up in the '70s, neither Allison Vale nor Victoria Ralfs reckoned they needed feminism. But years of settling for the smallest chops at the dinner table, getting battered in British Bulldog, and negotiating the flasher down the lane, left them feeling had feminism been the missing link?
In How to Raise a Feminist, they join forces as mothers, educators, story-tellers and women, to tell the riotous story of how they came to put feminism at the core of their parenting.
Real feminism
· NOT angry or man-hating
· common sense
· the way to raise happily flawed, robust sons and daughters
Real parenting
. mostly without a script
. often a bit terrifying
. entirely amazing
How to Raise a Feminist is the ideal read for anyone, anywhere, unnerved by the pressure to be perfect; a 'good enough' guide to raising your children into gloriously gutsy, empathetic, likeable young people, irrespective of their gender.
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208 pages, Paperback
First published February 16, 2017
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October 25, 2017
Chi ha descritto questo libro come "una chiacchierata tra amiche" aveva proprio ragione. Non riesco a trovare definizione migliore per descrivere questa delizia di libro, che in pochissime pagine ci fa entrare nella vita frenetica delle due autrici, queste donne così forti e pazienti che ci prendono per mano e ci trascinano con loro a vivere la loro esperienza genitoriale con occhi attenti di madri.
Sono un uomo, sono giovane e probabilmente non potrò mai avere figli, ma leggere questo libro mi ha aiutato tantissimo perché sono riuscito a trasmetterne il messaggio a mia sorella, una neo-mamma single e giovanissima un po' impanicata per questo nuovo viaggio nella sua vita.
Son stato felicissimo di leggere i messaggi giusti da dare ai bambini, con esempi chiari e geniali, con consigli delicati ma severi nel loro intento. Mi ha reso felice, mi ha fatto ridere tantissimo, ma soprattutto mi ha lasciato un sorriso meraviglioso sulle labbra.
È stata proprio una chiacchierata di poche pagine, ma che tornerò a leggere ben volentieri, soprattutto perché corredata di citazioni e tesi utilissimi a capire meglio i messaggi lanciati, grazie anche alle canzoni che ogni tanto sbucavano tra le pagine.
Mi è stato molto utile e mi ha tenuto compagnia nel migliore dei modi, dandomi un insegnamento meraviglioso e unico che potrò trasmettere a chi vorrò.
Sono un uomo, sono giovane e probabilmente non potrò mai avere figli, ma leggere questo libro mi ha aiutato tantissimo perché sono riuscito a trasmetterne il messaggio a mia sorella, una neo-mamma single e giovanissima un po' impanicata per questo nuovo viaggio nella sua vita.
Son stato felicissimo di leggere i messaggi giusti da dare ai bambini, con esempi chiari e geniali, con consigli delicati ma severi nel loro intento. Mi ha reso felice, mi ha fatto ridere tantissimo, ma soprattutto mi ha lasciato un sorriso meraviglioso sulle labbra.
È stata proprio una chiacchierata di poche pagine, ma che tornerò a leggere ben volentieri, soprattutto perché corredata di citazioni e tesi utilissimi a capire meglio i messaggi lanciati, grazie anche alle canzoni che ogni tanto sbucavano tra le pagine.
Mi è stato molto utile e mi ha tenuto compagnia nel migliore dei modi, dandomi un insegnamento meraviglioso e unico che potrò trasmettere a chi vorrò.
May 19, 2019
An irreverent look at aspects of parenting if you want to raise confident, safe, assertive and kind children, whose interests are supported, and who are encouraged to reach for their own dreams. Each chapter starts with the personal experience of one of the authors, either their experience of parenting, teaching, or from their own childhood/youth, and offers some thoughts on how to deal with the type of situation raised in the personal experience.
One thing I took from it concerned children's interests; sometimes we celebrate boys wearing princess dresses but don't like girls wearing them...which can tell girls that their interests are trash, and thus perpetuate the idea girls are less worthy. Instead, talk with your children about what they are interested in, and older children or teens can engage in conversation about why (they think) they like something. This is hard in a world that shoves pink sparkles and bows at girls just because they are girls.
One thing I took from it concerned children's interests; sometimes we celebrate boys wearing princess dresses but don't like girls wearing them...which can tell girls that their interests are trash, and thus perpetuate the idea girls are less worthy. Instead, talk with your children about what they are interested in, and older children or teens can engage in conversation about why (they think) they like something. This is hard in a world that shoves pink sparkles and bows at girls just because they are girls.
October 22, 2017
A fairly basic once-over-lightly chat about feminism. A great starter if you're new to the area but without a lot of depth if you aren't.
The layout was quite pop-feminism. A n anecdote, a set of bullet points on what we learnt, a song that emphasises the theme of the chapter... pretty formulaic but an enjoyable enough, easy read.
A few parts did bug me though - at times the content wasn't very feminist... assuming the mother did the laundry for example. And the entire judgey chapter about a mother working away from home whose son was being ignored at home despite having been left at home with Dad. No judgement for dear old Dad just lots of handwringing about Mum. Ugh.
A recommended read for your not very woke friends or sister in law maybe.
The layout was quite pop-feminism. A n anecdote, a set of bullet points on what we learnt, a song that emphasises the theme of the chapter... pretty formulaic but an enjoyable enough, easy read.
A few parts did bug me though - at times the content wasn't very feminist... assuming the mother did the laundry for example. And the entire judgey chapter about a mother working away from home whose son was being ignored at home despite having been left at home with Dad. No judgement for dear old Dad just lots of handwringing about Mum. Ugh.
A recommended read for your not very woke friends or sister in law maybe.
November 9, 2018
This book was for me, one to read bits of and breeze through. It's filled with anecdotes and advice for people both new and old to parenting. It makes some good points and explains the reasoning but I was looking for something with a bit more detail. It's great as an introduction to get you thinking about little everyday changes that could be made, though as the authors explain, these little changes build up to big differences.
September 17, 2019
Easy read. I liked the anecdotes but sometimes missed how they connected to chapter themes. Concrete advice but nothing revolutionary if you've taken some women's studies classes.
The authors are British - the language took some getting used to and I relied heavily on context to determine what age of kids they referred to as the grade and testing systems referenced were different than what I'm accustomed to. Made my brain bigger.
The authors are British - the language took some getting used to and I relied heavily on context to determine what age of kids they referred to as the grade and testing systems referenced were different than what I'm accustomed to. Made my brain bigger.
April 25, 2023
I started reading this book today, and I really really wanted to like it but I can't.
I was expecting something more professional, evidence based and full of tools.
However, I found that it is mostly the author's lifes nd their personal experience.
Most of them not valuable to myself.
At the end of the chapters there is something like a summary and I can say those where the best parts of the book.
It is definitely not for me.
I was expecting something more professional, evidence based and full of tools.
However, I found that it is mostly the author's lifes nd their personal experience.
Most of them not valuable to myself.
At the end of the chapters there is something like a summary and I can say those where the best parts of the book.
It is definitely not for me.
May 19, 2017
This book was basically like having one long conversation with your funniest friend. "Feminism" can be a pretty heavy subject, but this was anything but. Relatable, relevant to both genders, and generally a very fun read. If you like Caitlin Moran, you will love this.
January 1, 2018
Funny, chatty, very accessible and a great starting point with some solid ideas for raising thoughtful, strong children.
February 4, 2018
Simple but very good ideas about parenting feminist, happy, confident children. Highly recommend! (I liked the song recommendations too :))
July 13, 2018
Honest, no holding back book about how to raise children with a feminist outlook. Not preaching just saying it as it is.
April 16, 2019
An honest, chatty take on feminism and parenting.
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