I am kind of picky on what I read as far as parenting books go, but this one is well worth the investment. I think with every parenting book, you take what you want out of them for your own children and their issues. There are a couple of things I don't know if I fully agree with, but for the most part, I am so motivated and excited to try her approach to dealing with situations and especially on looking at myself as a parent and evaluating what I am doing wrong. That is what I loved. Sometimes we look at how we need to fix our kids and make them listen to us, and how to discipline, the right punishment, etc. Her approach is totally different. Her main focus is that in order to change our children's behavior, we need to evaluate ourselves and how we are parenting to see how it is affecting our children's behavior. If we want our kids to change, we need to change ourselves. Great insight. Creating a "safe haven" is the focus for our children. I learned a lot that I would to change in myself as a parent and am excited to see if it creates positive changes in my children and how they react to problems and situations. It is also one I would go back to when my kids are teens, too.