Having just had a new baby this book was a very poignant read for me. I thought the emotions Twyla went through, particularly in the early days of pregnancy were beautifully and exquisitely described; I had to keep putting the book down and reading in short, sharp bursts because I was an emotional wreck.
To receive the news that your child is blind would be devastating because, whether people admit it or not, we all have the ideal family in mind when blessed with the news that we are about to have a new addition. Normally, when questioned about gender/weight/date etc. people's response is your typical "I don't mind, as long as it's healthy", so what happens when you deliver your bundle of joy and it isn't healthy? Being such a new mum, I was easily able to empathise with Twyla and from the start asked myself, would I do the same thing? Would I go against all the odds if it meant a chance for my baby to be able to see and live a normal life? And still, two days after finishing the book, the honest answer is I don't know. I think the moral dilemna is something that, until you are put in that situation, you wouldn't be able to answer truthfully. I honestly don't think it was a case of seeking 'perfection' in Twyla's case, I think it was just being a mum and wanting the best chance at life for her baby boy. Similarly, as a father and a grandparent, I think this was Stephen's motivation for staging the intervention that he did and, although done in a cruel and twisted way, I can understand his longing to try and give his family the best possible chances. He felt the need to protect his daughter and his grandson from the cruel world that we live in and sometimes this means doing things that compromising what is deemed morally and ethically correct in today's society. It's the innate 'flight or fight' response that we all have built within and he chose to fight alongside his daughter - is this so wrong? Again, the honest answer is, I don't know. Definitley a thought-provoking read that makes you question your own ideas and beliefs about the world and parenthood.
The only character that irked me somewhat was Dylan. He most obviously fell on the 'flight' side of things throughout the novel but, even before leaving the family behind (which I actually thought was a bit rich considering the amount of things he kept from Twyla, including his reservations about the operation right up until the week before they were due to have it meant he was in no position to be angry at her for keeping anything from him) his attitude to the whole situation annoyed me. He seemed heavily led and influenced by his mother and sister, yet seemed to harbour a deep resentment for both of these characters given his childhood experiences. The fact that he had felt deserted all his life would, personally, make me think that he would want to change this and be the husband/parent that his father wasn't but, alas, this wasn't the case. This was despite, on more than one occassion throughout the book, him voicing the fact that he blamed his father and his lack of stayability for the runiation of the family unit: Eileen's depression, Bindy becoming carer for Fee etc. So why then did he replicate his father's actions? He also didn't appear to have a mind of his own and instead opted to go along with everyone else's ideas: Twyla's, his mother's, Bindy's, Molly's; he sought solace in all of these people at some point in the novel rather than ever really detailing his own personal feelings about the situation. I found it hard to believe that Twyla, a strong character who stood by her guns in the face of all criticism and weathered the storm, would ever even have plumped for someone who, quite frankly, came across as spineless and a bit of a wet weekend. But, again, I suppose until someone is actually put in the situation that their family were, it would be difficult to say how one should, and indeed would, act.
This book stayed with me even after putting it down and I think it raised some valuable questions about humanity and the lengths that we will go to. The boundaries between what people consider right and wrong in terms of medicine and science are most definitely still blurred, even in this technologically advanced era.