‘Warm, wise and full of heart… I absolutely loved this book’ Lucy DiamondMum always knows best… The stunning debut for fans of Celia Imrie and Dawn French.Meet the daughters of Iris Parker. Dee; sensitive and big-hearted; Rose uptight and controlled and Fleur the reckless free spirit.At the reading of their mother’s will, the three estranged women are aghast to discover that their inheritance comes with strings attached. If they are to inherit her wealth, they must spend a series of weekends together over the course of a year and carry out their mother’s ‘bucket list’.But one year doesn’t seem like nearly enough time for them to move past the decades-old layers of squabbles and misunderstandings. Can they grow up for once and see that Iris’ bucket list was about so much more than money…
Cathy has put a lot of work into getting this book just right. It's original and clever. I applaud her for creating something different for death and grief is often such a sensitive subject.
I loved the Kicking the bucket list idea, the characters and the challenges. I felt like I was part of the story I was drawn in from the very beginning and felt like I was on the journey with the Sisters.
The story starts with Rose, Dee (Daisy) and Fleur. Their mother passes away and they are called in to read the will. However their mother has other ideas! All 3 sisters have to complete a series of bucket list challenges set by their mother and her 2 friends in order to get their inheritance.
Simple you may think! However each sister has to participate or they all lose everything!
Slight problem with this..... None of the Sisters get on and have been estranged and barely speaking.
It quickly becomes clear. Their mum wants them to repair their relationships with each other. Part of the agreement is that they spend several weekends together completing the challanges.
Now I don't want to give any more away except, I laughed alot, I shed tears as there are some tender heart breaking moments, there is love, lust and relationships, family drama, friendship bonds, and a whole lot of sass between the Sisters which I loved!!
Each sister is own their own personal journey within the story. Dee is about to be evicted from her home and needs her inheritance, Rose wants for nothing and Fleur is desperate to be part of a family again.
Then there is Daniel. He is in charge of the Sisters bucket list. Making sure each sister participates and handles the expenses. Daniel is charming and intriguing. But what is he's end game? There is just something about him!
My only critiscm is that it ended too quick I wanted more! I felt there was a few questions that i needed answering for my own curiosity! I have since spoken to the Author and she has cleared my curiosity. I would be interested to see if anyone else felt there was answers they would of liked to of known.
But overall I absolutely loved this book. Such a gem to read. The chapters were short and snappy and kept me engaged the whole way through. I loved each and every character and felt I really got to know them all on a personal level which was so nice.
I highly recommend this book as it has a great original concept. Kicking the Bucket List is such an original idea and each challenge is perfectly thought out and researched. You can tell Cathy Hopkins has spent alot of time researching the challenges to get them perfect for the journey each sister takes.
I received this book from the Publisher in exchange for a honest and fair review via Netgalley.
This was my wife's choice for our regular, ongoing buddy-read (we take turns to choose the book) and I have to say, I really enjoyed it.
I was a little unenthusiastic to start with, as it felt a bit cheesy and predictable at first. In fact, we both saw the big twist that hits at around the halfway mark coming a mile away. The second half of the book, however, took the story in some genuinely surprising directions and went some way towards redeeming the predictability of the first half.
The second half of the book is also where it started having a real emotional impact on me. I'm not ashamed to say there were a couple of times I had tears in my eyes. I was even a little bit shocked at one point, and I do not shock easily.
Overall, this would have been a five star read if it weren't for the teething troubles in the first half. I'll probably read more from this author in the future.
t the reading of their Mother's will, Rose, Daisy & Fleur learn they have to wait one year before they will inherit anything. Their Mother knew that the sisters are not getting on and this was her attempt to get them together, once a month for a year. The catch, they all to do whatever was asked of them or none of them would inherit.
The story is mostly told through Daisy although we also get get a little bit from Rose & Fleur as well. This is a nicely written, easy to read book.
I would like to thank NetGalley, HarperCollins UK, HarperFiction and the author Cathy Hopkins for my ARC in exchange for an honest review.
Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.... Max Ehrmann, Desiderata.
There are books sometimes, that wouldn't normally be "your type", you wouldn't pick them up... But something, somewhere strikes a chord with you and you suddenly get he whole book. For that reason alone you get to like it. This book was just that. I picked it purely for the title and a quirky cover. I thought it would be a funny book. And it was. At times. Other times it was pretty sappy... yet, there was something kind and nice in it, even though obvious too. Three sisters. Reading of their mother's will. An attempt of their mother to bring the three daughters back together, get them to be close again. Be sisters, support and share, laugh and love. Is it too naïve? Each has a life of their own. Is there even any point in that? Old mad woman? Or a wise mother who knows her daughters better than they do themselves? Nice and light, it made me cringe a few times, yet it also made me read that Erdmann's poem a few times and think...
I really enjoyed this book. The idea of a Kicking the Bucket list is an intriguing one and the story of how three sisters come to terms with the loss of their Mother and respecting her last wishes is excellent! I am sure more detailed reviews have been written so, suffice to say, I can heartily recommend this novel, particularly if you have sisters ! I am not sure the ending is as good as the beginning, however it is a book that made me think, smile, laugh and reflect on the relationships we have with our parents and siblings !
I absolutely loved this book couldn't put it down full of laughter sadness and happiness had me in tears I would highly recommend it fab book fab author x
I found this book a great read full of humour. Mum knows best. Even when she's dead. At the offices of Wilson Richardson solicitors in Chiswick London Rose Dee and Fleur were there to have their mothers will read out to them. The will. First of all don't be sad. Second don't feel guilty about my last chapter. Their mother explain in the will she would have been driven mad if she had gone to live with any of them. There is something rather odd that their mother request in the condition of her will she asks that some of the weekends are spent at each other's houses. There mother seems to laughing, she wished that she could see their faces now. How are the girls going to refuse the last wish of their dead mother? An excellent read that I recommend.
The Kicking The Bucket List by Cathy Hopkins is an amusing contemporary read about love, family and relationships. It is also a study of grief. "Grief is like standing on the edge of the ocean. Some days... it's manageable. Other days... it blasts like a tsunami." Grief can be all consuming as one adjusts to a new 'normal.' The novel follows three sisters over a year. Each one is unique. The relationship has been fractured. Can they rebuild as they unite in grief? There are many themes and as well as studying grief, the novel is a study of life. "Life isn't made up of what is thrown at you, it's about how you react to it.". The novel is a study of hope. A study of the past, present and future. It will make you smile. It definitely made me laugh out loud. And it will make you cry. Life is about love, laughter and families. The Kicking The Bucket List will make you realise that life is not about money. At the end of the day, life is about love and belonging. My favourite line was "Home is where my books are" and really sums it all up. We all need a place where we feel comfortable and loved. A marvellous novel set on location in London and S.E. Cornwall. It was refreshing to read about familiar places. We have had many holidays in Looe in Cornwall so I recognised the location straight away. A fabulous read. I received this book for free. A favourable review was not required and all views expressed are my own.
This story is quite fun, a bit like 'ps. I love you', though rather than it being a husband leaving messages from the grave to try to help his widow, it's a lovely Mum trying to help her kids, and the descriptions of the films that Mum left for her girls were the funniest and sweetest bit in the book.
Unfortunately, the rest of the story was predictable, and thin on substance, and believability, although I have to say that the book has one of the most vivid and arresting depictions of drain cleaning that I have ever read, a description that will linger long after the rest of the book has faded.
The thing about this book is that it was useful, I read it when I could not sleep. The book helped with wee hours boredom, but I don't think it would have satisfied me in daylight hours.
When Iris finds out that she is dying she is desperate for her daughters- Rose, Dee and Fleur to become close again. She leaves a set of instructions that they must follow to get their inheritance which mean they need to spend 6 weekends together completing a bucket list!
They are resistant to meeting up initially- but Dee is more in need of her inheritance than her sisters and manages to persuade them to meet up and find out what their mum planned for them.
They have a wide variety of activities mapped out for them - some are more enjoyable than others- but the relationship between them shows no sign of thawing. Some of the plans that their mum had drawn up had me quietly chuckling away.
All three sisters are concealing heartbreak or troubles of their own- but Dee is keen to build bridges with them to try and regain their close bond. You can feel the emotion when the three sisters watch the video clip at the start of each of their challenges and feel their pain- but also the comfort from seeing their mum speaking to them .
I did enjoy this book - although it was sad at times.
Interesting concept: a mother videos tasks for her three estranged daughters to carry out once she has died. But I found the cackling old mother and her jolly mates truly irritating, the sort of embarrassing old biddies who would be hilariously flashing their knickers at a wedding dance And if she bothered to go to all this trouble, why on earth didn't she try to manipulate her daughters more before her death? And The three middle-aged daughters were weirdly juvenile, Dee the main POV keeping her relationship with the facilitator, Daniel, a secret. Rose being preciously secretive about her cancer. What annoyed wasn't so much that they didn't want to share, but the endless angsting they indulged in. And the various tasks: going for a walk, using a health spa, were terribly mundane. Read for a book group, and while it was readable, a bit shallow and chick-lit for snobby me.
"The Kicking the Bucket List" is Cathy Hopkin's first adult book - previously she has been writing teen fiction. As soon as I spotted this novel on NetGalley I knew that I want to read it - I love the cover, it's so uplifting and the three ducks are lovely :) Also, the tag saying "Mum knows best. Even if she's dead" is really eye - catching and I just had a feeling that this can be THE book. It is about death and grief but dealing with those issues in a lovely, exceptional way. The writing style is truly great, it was flowing, it was so vivid, bringing all the characters and events effortlessly to life. I couldn't wait to see what the next task is going to be - some of them were better, some of them not so good but in the end they should have bring the girls together. Did they?
The book started very promising and it quickly started to gain a pace. However, somewhere in the middle it went a little downhill for me, felt a little too slow and too flat, but in the end it gathered pace again. There were many funny moments and I more than once laughed out loud, but it was also full of very poignant moments that almost brought tears to my eyes. There were passages that I loved and passages that I skim - read, as I thought they were not necessary. There were moments that were so important but also some that felt too insignificant. But altogether, I totally enjoyed this story and was engrossed in the three sisters' lives - the three very different women are the main characters in this story - well, just like sisters can be different. They are sisters by blood but because of life getting in the way they are actually more like strangers - they don't get in touch, they don't see each other, they don't know what is happening with each other. I don't know if it's such a typical relationship between sisters? Though, you know, I also have a sister - she's 8 years younger than me and there is 1000 km between us since more than 10 years now and well, yes, we talk on the phone every once in a while, or we send an email and we know what's going on in our lives but I wouldn't call it the perfect sisterhood - although Rose, Daisy and Fleur took their relationship to another level, I think, as they only knew what's happening with their sisters through their mother - but now she's gone. She had also added some conditions to her will. The girls must complete some tasks before they receive their inheritance but the main reason is that Iris wanted to bring all her girls together - will she manage, from beyond the grave?
I must say that I liked the characters immediately, probably because they were so honest and genuine in the way they were. Rose, the eldest, is also the bossiest and she seems so cold - hearted. She is the one who wanted to backtrack from the challenge - Dee thinks it's because she's so stand - offish, has enough money and doesn't need to be afraid of the future. But - is this the real reason? The more you read the more you learn about Rose and her reasons. Yes, she was smart alec, she thought she knows best but I think that deep down it was because she was the eldest and somehow she always felt the responsibility for her younger siblings.Daisy, the middle sister, is an artist and she often has her head in the clouds - she, unlike Rose, doesn't own a home, she only rents it and Rose can't understand why. Dee turns 50 in the book and her birthday party, especially the song sang by Anne and Marie was fantabulous! Dee is single, and her only daughter lives in Australia. After the misfortunate relationships Dee decided no more men in her life, she's going to concentrate on her art but well, how do they say, if you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans - because a man, or even more, appear on the scenes. Dee is desperate to make the challenge her mum set for the sisters, as without her part of the inheritance she can't buy the house she's currently living in. But she also wants to connect with her sisters again, she misses them - really misses them. Then we have Fleur, the youngest one, real power - woman who runs a very prosperous property portfolio and next to having some fancy apartments all over the world she also has one in London. I'd personally love to know more about Fleur, because I have a feeling that I didn't get to know her as much as I'd like, she was the closed, withdrawn one, even though she probably had the sharpest tongue of all of them. There is also Daniel, the man who was helping Iris organizing the tasks for the girls. Let me just tell you that from the very beginning there was something in him that made me unsure. I didn't trust him, full stop. Was I right?
Dee is the main character in the story and it's told mostly from her point of view, however there are also chapters told by Rose and Fleur, so we also get a chance to get to know - and understand - them much better, especially Rose. I also totally adored how the relationship between them was developing - it was not too quick, it was not a bed of roses and it's good, because then it would seem too unrealistic, and doing it this way the author has made it much more authentic and genuine. Well, you can't fall into each other's arms after years of hidden grudges and animosities and not being in touch, right? So it was a real joy to see how eventually the girls start to stick up for each other. And they loved their mother. They could be different, they might have not agree on different issues, but what they had in common was the fact that they loved Iris, so I imagined how emotional it must have been for them, to see her in the video messages. The author has brilliantly captured all the emotions between the sisters, this great deal of misunderstandings, hurt and jealousy. I think she described it just like it is in real life. The way they picked on a word or two and chose to understand it the wrong way, the way they jumped to conclusions, well, it was just so realistic and honest. Also the reasons why the sisters didn't want to partake in the challenge were thoroughly explained, the secrets were revealed and it really let us understand what and why.
I truly enjoyed "The Kicking the Bucket List" by Cathy Hopkins. It was emotional, it was full of feelings, it was incredibly funny and poignant, just the perfect mix. It made me pick my phone and call my mum and sister, just to hear their voices, to know they are there. It is a story that will probably make you think and re - evaluate your relationships and show you that you shouldn't take them for granted. It is a book about appreciating what you have because it can happen that very suddenly there will be nothing more to appreciate, a lovely and warm story about finding happiness and contentment. Recommended!
Copy provided by the publisher in return for an honest review.
I received a digital arc of this book from NetGalley/publishers in exchange for an honest review.
Dee, Fleur and Rose are three sisters and completely different to one another. After three years of no communication, even their mothers death can't fix the rift but their mother has devised a plan beyond the grave. In order to get their inheritance, the sisters must spend six weekends together for a year completing tasks organised by their mother. Will this help them reconnect?
This was a sweet and fun book and one that was a nice, easy read. I liked that all the characters are so different to each other but I also liked that they were aged 46+ and had already lived full lives but were ready for a whole lot more and still had lessons to learn. There are some great laugh out loud moments such as an embarrassing sex moment for Dee regarding fanny farts which had me snorting with laughter. I did find some of the plot a bit predictable and it had an About Adam feel at one point. I also read The Alphabet Sisters by Monica McInerney last year and the plot was also quite similar with three sisters not speaking to one another. The ending of this one didn't hit me quite as hard as that one though, but I don't think I had quite an emotional connection with that character anyways.
One thing I didn't like in the book was at one point Rose called Dee and Fleur "retarded" when they were laughing about a joke she wasn't happy about. While this might not end up in the completed, physical version of the book l do feel like we're at a point where these kind of slurs don't need to be used any more. Dee also compares the sisters' Zumba class to a "special needs outing" at one point as well.
What a super book this is. I can't think of anything more heart breaking for a mother than knowing that her children just do not get on together and haven't done for the last three years and the only time that they do communicate is to arrange visits to see her that will not coincide with each other. So when Iris, their mum, died not only did she leave her three daughters, Rose, Daisy (Dee), and Fleur equal shares in her substantial Will, she also left a condition, which if it wasn't fulfilled would mean no one received any money. I love good feel books that get me emotionally involved with the story and this story just pushed all the right buttons for me. It is told by each of the sisters so I knew what was happening in all of their personal lives even if they oblivious to each others. Every other month the women had to meet to complete tasks, or as you could say a bucket list complied by their mother. The tasks were described to them by video recordings Iris and two of her friends made before her death. Like she says it was inevitable that it would happen one day, and I thought what a lovely idea, especially not having a mother myself now. How precious would that be. This is a journey of discovery for the three sisters, a second chance to make amends because you never know when death will come, there is no age restriction. Well what I can say is Iris had a wicked sense of humour. I loved the tasks she set for her girls. The question is can they change their ways and not only get the money from the Will but also make amends with each other. When you finish the story do please continue to read to find out what Cathy Hopkins Ten Steps to Happiness would be. It is a lovely little piece to read.
I'm afraid this is one of those books that really didn't work for me. I did finish it, but confess to skim-reading a huge part of it.
Three sisters have grown apart. Their beloved mother dies, and before any of them can claim their legacy she decrees from beyond the grave that they must take part in 6 weekends to bring them together. Because she is so upset that they've grown apart. But rather than do anything about it, she's waiting until she's dead! See, that's my big problem with this book - I simply didn't get the premise.
Warning, contains spoilers!!!
The main narrator is Dee, who is in dire need of her legacy or else she'll lose her house to the big bad brothers who have inherited it from their recently deceased mother. For the first quarter of the book Dee frets and fusses about her home, there's lots of interest in it, the loss is imminent and then - miracle! She discovers she has protected rights. And even more of a miracle, it takes just one letter for the brothers to retreat, take the house off the market and do nothing more - even though, apparently, one of them is every bit in need of the funds from his legacy as she is from hers. Needless to say we don't get to meet this desperate baddie brother, and Dee is set up with the good guy - I'm sorry to say that this seemed horribly obvious to me from the start.
As did the other plot line, in with charming Daniel, the sort of Angel Gabriel arranged by the dead mother, has an affair with needy Dee and another with her glamorous, lonely sister, managing to keep the unbelievably gullible two in the dark. And he becomes the father confessor to sister number three, who is dying of cancer - sorry, but another very obvious plot, it seemed to me.
The sisters don't make much progress. Then Rose announces she's dying and the other two find out about Daniel and Rose knocks Daniel out and then there's a sort of death bed reunion. And in between all that, all sorts of tasks set up by the dead mother where epiphanies loomed but never quite happened.
The book is narrated by Dee with occasional slots handed over to the other two sisters. For me, this made the narrative very pedestrian, and at the periods of intervention, very contrived. Judging by the number of positive reviews, I'm in a very small minority here. I noticed a few compared it to PS I love You, another book that really didn't work for me. I guess I was just the wrong audience for this one.
I had looked forward to reading this book and giving a review for NetGalley. It didn't grab me from the start and took forever to make me hang in and read to the end. 3 sisters not getting on and a dead mother who wished they did. Nothing new there really. She had made videos leaving them tasks to do together after her death, failure to complete them would forfeit their inheritance. That's ok in books but annoyed me no end. I need to believe and didn't.
I am not close to my sister and we have a mother aged 100, we will never agree on many things and I can't imagine doing any of the shared projects in the book.In fact it would drive us further apart. It was too crazy to me and considering they don't get along or spend time together it all fell into place to easily. Money! works everytime.
I was about to give up then Rose is given terrible news and grimly and sadly that at least kept my attention and there were some twists I didn't expect. The weekend at the cat sanctuary though was utterly stupid.
I didn't enjoy it and reading it became like a challenge. There was
Obviously others disagreed on the merits of this novel, but I didn't get very far before I realised that I really didn't care whether these three women renewed their relationships or not, clearly it was time to give the book away and move on to something else.
4 out of 5 stars Ok so advance warning it’s another weepy book.. I loved this from the ethos of family and siblings which will always make it a go to read. This really teaches you the importance of siblings especially. This starts with three siblings; Dee, fleur and rose who find out their mum has died but to get you the money in her will they have to complete her kicking the bucket list. The girls had a big falling out years ago and are no longer in touch but have a lot of anger bubbling for all of them. Getting close is the last thing any of them want but they have to.. They all have different issues in their lives but their mum and her friends have plans that each teach different lessons. To me the lessons they learn are ones so many of us need to do which is something I loved. My only niggle is it took a while to get into and I felt too much of the book was told by one of the sisters and we could have had more by the others. It’s such a great story and one I will definitely recommend.
I've just finished this book and I was completely charmed by it, it's a simple story about a mothers love, trying to reconnect her daughters love for one another from beyond the grave, Rose, Dee and Fleur have lost their way somewhere as they've grown up and the sisters are no longer close as they once were, so when their mother has passed away they find that to inherit their mothers estate they have to complete their mothers kicking the bucket list, a list of challenges to help them reconnect and find each other again, it is very reminiscent of PS I love you, in the fact that it will make you laugh, it will make you cry, it will make you think, but most of all it will make you realise that life is short, you never know when your time is up so enjoy the simple things, grab the opportunities as they come your way and most of all cherish the people you love. All in all a great read.
Thank you NetGalley for a heart-warming read. Sisters Rose, Fleur and Daisy are brought together when their mum dies. Having fallen out over how to care for their mum in her last months, the atmosphere between the sisters is tense. They are shocked to discover they will only gain their inheritance when they have spent a year completing their mother’s own version of a bucket list. Yes, it’s quite predictable but there’s something comforting about the story. It certainly encourages you to consider relationships in all their forms and to think about what is important in life. There’s some funny moments and, when I’d finished, it did make me want to reach out to those who aren’t so close any more for one reason or another.
אייריס פרקר הקשישה הולכת לעולמה, אולם בניגוד למצופה היא לא מורישה מיידית לשלוש בנותיה האהובות והמסוכסכות ליז, די ופלר את חלקן בירושה, אלא מתנה זאת בכך שימלאו את רשימת המשאלות שלה. רק אם כולן יקיימו אותה במשך שנה, שבה ייפגשו במשך סוף שבוע שלם פעם בחודשיים, הן תקבלנה את חלקן. אם אחת מהן תסרב לעשות משימה אחת, הן תאבדנה את הזכות לירושה.
משום מה ההסדר חולה השליטה הזה (שכולל הוראות מדויקות, למשל הוראה לעשות שטיפת מעיים (חוקן?!), ואפילו הודעות סמס מתוזמנות) עובר בספר כדרישת שלום מתוקה של אם אוהבת.
האם מצליחה לקרב בין בנותיה באמצעות המשימות שהיא נותנת להן והזמן שהן מבלות ביחד בסופי השבוע.
החלק הנחמד היה ההומור, קטעים משעשעים שחלקם היה אכן מצחיק וחלקם רק גרם לי לגלגל עיניים...
I enjoyed this story, whilst it was a little predictable in places.. it also made me quite emotional. A tale of 3 sisters uniting to carry out their mother's last request, 'The Kicking The Bucket List'. Mainly told by Dee, I would of liked to have heard more from Fleur and Rose. Overall it was a nice, easy read and would recommend it to friends.
3.5 stars: the “Kicking the Bucket List” was such a lovely idea and really enjoyed the concept. Nice, easy read which makes you think about losing loved ones and what is really important.
I did find the secrets frustrating, particularly that they didn’t come to light until the end of the book. Didn’t think this was realistic.
Also didn’t understand what had happened to make the sisters stop speaking altogether - there was no big event or massive wrongdoing yet the book started like they hated each other? Would understand growing apart but seemed extreme.
Fun, lighthearted & full of little reminders to cherish life when we can and to really appreciate and connect with those we love whilst we have our health.