I hate rating memoirs, but here goes: 2.5 stars. Like Lisa Lisson, I married my high school sweetheart, so the story of her ill husband rattled me, but having that in common is not reason enough for me to give her and the publishing team a pass on this book.
Pros:
1. Accessible level of writing (although with perhaps more than it's fair share of cliches like "hitting it out of the park").
2. A little bit of interesting content about the world of working women, including wage inequity and the relative absenteeism of women from the upper tiers of corporate Canada. Did you know that only 3% of CEOs in Canada are women? She also touches briefly on some of the things that are now being highlighted by the #metoo movement.
3. Moving personal story.
Cons:
1. This is a book with an identity complex. It never really could decide what it wanted to be. So Lisson and her ghostwriter and editor/s seem to have settled on a mishmash of family tragedy/life carries on tale and career success story. The result is that neither angle is fully realized. It might have worked better as two separate publications: a long article on her husband's sudden illness and eventual death and a short, better organized book on career building and success. As it stands, Resilience is short book with a long article weaving awkwardly through it.
2. The book opens with 30-something Mr. Lisson's heart attack, which renders him unconscious at the family home. From there, the question of "What will happen to Pat?" is left unaswered until very near the end, sort of dangled like a carrot through the story of Lisa Lisson's career path - her job search, cover letter writing, worth ethic lessons and such groundbreaking advice as "believe in youself." Shall I say it is perhaps in bad taste to use one's dying husband as a strategy for keeping readers turning pages while you discuss shooting television commercials, board meetings and career goals? This made me very icky-uncomfortable as a reader.
3. The title implies that this book will take a bit of a deep dive into the concept of resilience. It doesn't really. With all the extant literature and studies about the topic of resilience, surely just a whisper of some of it should have made it into a book called "Resilience." Not a whiff, not a stat appears.
Things to take away from this book despite the awful structure:
1. Dr. Jane, who provided care for Pat Lisson, said, “When you suffer a loss you can't let it define you."
2. Lisson believes that "diversity is the future" and the double standard will become a thing of the past (business-wise) (p. 126). Well, that's good news!
Disclosure: I won a free copy of this book in a giveaway.